Having someone come on to you (esp. someone of the same sex)

Why 4?

Given my character, to have anyone come close to me with any such interest is a gossip that would spread like wildfire.

Everyone would be in shock. The way that I have forgone relationships means that anything that looks even remotely romantic is a huge spectacle.

(I hope beyond hope that nobody picks up on my crush...)

TMG: your going to have to make your move soon before she throws you onto 'the gay or not just interested' pile.

edited 19th Mar '11 10:07:20 PM by joeyjojo

Yes...

In my defense, she has to be at least a little bit keen on my behavior towards her thus far.

Whaddya mean you like me?

Does being asked out via a phone call by a relative stranger count as being 'come on to'?

That was massively awkward. I said yes because I didn't know what else to do.

I once had a pretty long text message conversation with some girl who apparently got the number wrong and thought I was her boyfriend. Unfortunately, she found out I was not who she thought I was before I got any naked pix from her. :(

In general, I'd say I kind of enjoy messing with people I don't know who approach me, because honestly, what kind of person just asks a girl out without knowing a single thing about her, and who they just saw for the first time in their life ten seconds ago? But it's more awkward with people I know/am friends with.

wat

You meet a person who appears, or even proves to be awesome. Whether it's right then, or much later on, by trying to seduce you, that person inserts a wedge of awkwardness in a relationship you would have liked to maintain with them, perhaps completely pulling you apart. This can be especially frustrating when you are romantically (sexually, whatever) interested in that person, and you know that person means well, and, still, the way they have behaved leaves you no other option but to blacklist them (or at least temporarily reject them) while lamenting that they hadn't been smarter about it, because you actually wanted them. Though this last case never happened to me, it did happen to girls who liked me. Or so they said.

St Valentine, egregiously enough, is a big catalyst for this sort of bullshit.

edited 19th Mar '11 11:09:32 PM by Ardiente

I don't know what type of logic you operate under but that seems like something out of.......some crappy reality show. You need to put down the PUA books for a while EDIT: closest thing to that as an example I see is a guy being dickish to you etv etv and you're friends and he assumes "you can take it" but that is not aakwardness....

edited 19th Mar '11 11:20:52 PM by BalloonFleet

Justify your allegations.

edited and modified:

The thought process is so......alien and whatnot

A gay guy once came on to me. I am straight, and told him as such, and that we could just be friends.

He is now quite a useful individual for any number of my plans.

edited 19th Mar '11 11:25:16 PM by NickTheSwing

doesnt sound right :p

I don't understnad the quoteblocked bit.

That's not even a friend, that's an ally, or even a pawn. Does he know you think of him as such?

I suppose Ardiente is talking about some who is trying to push the boundaries of a relationship too quickly, when if they'd waited a while and let it develop naturally you wouldn't have said no?

Ayup.

That phrasing sounds different than "blacklisting or cancelling due to awkwardness"......

Does sexual harassment to humiliate count?

Huh, you've never witnessed it? It made me very stressed.

edited 20th Mar '11 12:10:19 AM by LoveHappiness

It means exactly the same thing.

I've never witnessed an instance of that. Seen flirting for the sake of being creepy/annoying, but never for the sake of humiliating. Even in fiction, it's been a long time since I've seen an instance of that.

edited 20th Mar '11 12:06:38 AM by Ardiente

I've never had anyone of either sex express unambiguous romantic/sexual interest in me. There have been occasions of ambiguous interest from members of the opposite sex, at which I was horrified. These were all before I started receiving treatment for my anxiety disorder, so I suspect that these days, my reaction would be less extreme, though still essentially negative. In the absence of much of my anxiety, annoyance would be a probable reaction. Though I have fantasies of turning women down, I'm probably still too inhibited to particularly enjoy doing it.

edited 20th Mar '11 9:32:15 AM by Tongpu

Most of the time I assume it's trolling by default, especially from dudes, thus I mock-flirt back. The only time I ever had a gal turn out to be serious, she was completely sloshed and had an Anything That Moves attitude. And I was selected to deliver her home. Awkward stuff.

Eh. Some of the other guys and girls in this thread don't know your personal circumstances as much as I do, but this last addition sort of makes a picture that was rather Joker-worrying into positively Violator-disturbing.

edited 20th Mar '11 10:03:48 AM by Ardiente

Firing off horrible innuendos at each other stopped being fun the moment she tried to eat my face, although my Squicked expression turned her mood sour enough to make bitter jabs the rest of the way.

edited 20th Mar '11 9:57:58 AM by InsanityAddict

Actually that was aimed at Tongpu, you fantastic ninja, you.

MY FACE! IT'S EATING MY FACE!

edited 20th Mar '11 10:06:09 AM by Ardiente