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** ''Vegan,'' on the other hand, is stricter and generally means "no animal or animal-based products at all." As in, no dairy or eggs and no animal bones/fibers/skins.
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** ''Vegan,'' on the other hand, is stricter and generally means "no animal or animal-based products at all." As in, no dairy or eggs dairy, eggs, honey and no animal bones/fibers/skins.
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* ''RESPECT is a two-way street.'' If you want to be respected, respect others. Every society ever has a variation of this [[TheGoldenRule Golden Rule]]. In general; respect for someone means not invading their personal space (whatever they see that as), not forcing them into interactions or activities they are obviously not comfortable with or find distasteful/taboo/offensive (e.g. don't badger the vegan to eat meat and don't tell someone who says they are in an asexual relationship to "break it off because YouNeedToGetLaid!"), do not use the DirtySocialTricks on them, and treat them as responsible human adults.
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* ''RESPECT '''RESPECT is a two-way street.'' ''' If you want to be respected, respect others. Every society ever has a variation of this [[TheGoldenRule Golden Rule]]. In general; respect for someone means not invading their personal space (whatever they see that as), not forcing them into interactions or activities they are obviously not comfortable with or find distasteful/taboo/offensive (e.g. don't badger the vegan to eat meat and don't tell someone who says they are in an asexual relationship to "break it off because YouNeedToGetLaid!"), do not use the DirtySocialTricks on them, and treat them as responsible human adults.
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* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss, psychologist, religious leader, or of other relations unless you have that title and are serving in such a professional capacity (and even if you are, snap judgment or demands to change based on your own experience is rarely, if ever, a good idea). And above all else, you are not [[TheOmniscient omniscient]] or a [[MessianicArchetype messiah]]. What does this mean? It means you can express concern, but if your expression of concern is met with being asked to back off or butt out (or a nonverbal means of such) ''then do so.''
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, especially if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, especially if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
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* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss, employer, psychologist, religious leader, or of other relations unless you have that title and are serving in such a professional capacity (and even if you are, snap judgment or demands to change based on your own experience is rarely, if ever, a good idea). And above all else, you are not [[TheOmniscient omniscient]] or a [[MessianicArchetype messiah]]. What does this mean? It means you can express concern, but if your expression of concern is met with being asked to back off or butt out (or a nonverbal means of such) ''then do so.''
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best tobe polite, ''be polite'', not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough enough, the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, especially if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to
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%%Add your culture or subculture here. I'm adding Visual Kei subculture because it's one I have some personal experience with but we definitely need autism/asperger's, autism, hearing and sight impaired, most major national/ethnic cultures, and any others. If you have personal experience, PLEASE add what you know about your culture and/or subculture in alphabetical order. Section is foldered.
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* Visual Kei, having descended from Japanese culture and being a relatively small subculture where everyone tends to know everyone else, is a ''very'' private subculture on average. While there may be indidividuals who share TooMuchInformation (and others who share ''false'' TooMuchInformation just to be TheGadfly or a {{troll}}), it is very "small space," whether in Japan or in non-Japanese VK.
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* Visual Kei, having descended from Japanese culture and being a relatively small subculture where everyone tends to know everyone else, is a ''very'' private subculture on average. While there may be indidividuals individuals who share TooMuchInformation (and others who share ''false'' TooMuchInformation information [[TheGadfly just to be TheGadfly or a {{troll}}), for the]] [[{{troll}} heck of it]]), it is very "small space," whether in Japan or in non-Japanese VK.
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** Kankeisha: the supporters of an artist/band/act that are the closest to it, the most knowledgable, the "insiders." While they aren't necessarily best friends forever or blood or lovers (though some may be the latter) they are privy to the inner workings of the band/act/artist, to information that would not or should not reach the public, and to being seen as associates and friends.
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** Kankeisha: the supporters of an artist/band/act that are the closest to it, the most knowledgable, knowledgeable, the "insiders." While they aren't necessarily best friends forever or blood or lovers (though some may be the latter) they are privy to the inner workings of the band/act/artist, to information that would not or should not reach the public, and to being seen as associates and friends.
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** Acquaintances/other artists who are ''not'' kankeisha: artists/fans that performed together/attended together at a show/drank together in a bar/etc would fall into this category - they are not close, personal information or business information is not likely to be disclosed, small talk is the rule of the day, but there is no enmity or hatred or fear - people in this category often are upwardly mobile sooner or later into kankeisha or even close friends, or at the very least stick around at this point comfortably.
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** Acquaintances/other artists who are ''not'' kankeisha: artists/fans that performed together/attended together at a show/drank together in a bar/etc bar/etc. would fall into this category - they are not close, personal information or business information is not likely to be disclosed, small talk is the rule of the day, but there is no enmity or hatred or fear - people in this category often are upwardly mobile sooner or later into kankeisha or even close friends, or at the very least stick around at this point comfortably.
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* Most people into Visual Kei (whether Japanese side or non-Japanese variants) are ''very,'' almost ''overwhelmingly'' aware that "normal society" finds their appearance offputting at best. Assuming that someone ''doesn't know'' what normal people think of their looks/actions/etcetera and proceeding to "educate" them on how "abnormal" they are (or worse, assuming that their looks/actions are the result of mental illness) is incredibly offensive.
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* Most people into Visual Kei (whether Japanese side or non-Japanese variants) are ''very,'' almost ''overwhelmingly'' aware that "normal society" finds their appearance offputting off-putting at best. Assuming that someone ''doesn't know'' what normal people think of their looks/actions/etcetera and proceeding to "educate" them on how "abnormal" they are (or worse, assuming that their looks/actions are the result of mental illness) is incredibly offensive.
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A psychiatrist is a kind of psychologist
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* ''You are ''not'' someone's close friend unless you ''both'' consider yourselves such''. Compassion, encouragement, and engaging with others' interests are fine; but [[UnwantedAssistance know when to take a step back]].
* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss, psychiatrist/psychologist, priest/pastor/imam/rabbi/whatever unless you have that title and are serving in such a professional capacity (and even if you are, snap judgment or demands to change based on your own experience is rarely, if ever, a good idea). And above all else, you are not [[TheOmniscient omniscient]] or a [[MessianicArchetype messiah]]. What does this mean? It means you can express concern, but if your expression of concern is met with being asked to back off or butt out (or a nonverbal means of such) ''then do so.''
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss, psychiatrist/psychologist, priest/pastor/imam/rabbi/whatever unless you have that title and are serving in such a professional capacity (and even if you are, snap judgment or demands to change based on your own experience is rarely, if ever, a good idea). And above all else, you are not [[TheOmniscient omniscient]] or a [[MessianicArchetype messiah]]. What does this mean? It means you can express concern, but if your expression of concern is met with being asked to back off or butt out (or a nonverbal means of such) ''then do so.''
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
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* ''You are ''not'' someone's close friend unless you ''both'' consider yourselves each other such''. Compassion, encouragement, and engaging with others' interests are fine; important aspects of interpersonal friendships; but [[UnwantedAssistance know when to take a step back]].
* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss,psychiatrist/psychologist, priest/pastor/imam/rabbi/whatever psychologist, religious leader, or of other relations unless you have that title and are serving in such a professional capacity (and even if you are, snap judgment or demands to change based on your own experience is rarely, if ever, a good idea). And above all else, you are not [[TheOmniscient omniscient]] or a [[MessianicArchetype messiah]]. What does this mean? It means you can express concern, but if your expression of concern is met with being asked to back off or butt out (or a nonverbal means of such) ''then do so.''
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, especially if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
* ''You are not someone's caretaker'', doctor, lawyer, boss,
* ''Do not read cultural differences as personal rejection or disrespect.'' For example, for several cultures (specifically some Native American and East Asian cultures) and for people on the autism spectrum, direct eye contact and sometimes direct touching of someone who is a stranger is considered rude and offensive. So someone who is not looking you in the eye and not hugging you, even if you are from a culture where eye contact and hugs are almost mandatory, may be trying their best to be polite, not rude. As another example, some people who live in "small space" cultures (Japan is ''heavily'' notable for this, but similar versions exist in other settings -- ironically enough the US DeepSouth has something similar, despite having much more open space -- a gossip culture tends to create the "small space" even if physical space is larger) tend to keep to themselves and be concerned for both their and your privacy. This may seem disturbing or rude, especially if you're used to the idea that everyone who shares a space (from living together to working together) must become best friends forever or even FriendsWithBenefits and share even the most intimate, private details of their lives -- except it's not, it's an attempt to maintain privacy for everyone unless/until a friendship beyond proximity develops. There are ''many'' other things like this - but assuming good faith is a great workaround here, to assume the issue is "we're different" rather than "how dare this person do this to me?"
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[[folder: Vegetarians, vegans, and similar]]
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So, either on the Internet or in RealLife, you are likely to meet people of an entirely different background, privileges, current living situation, culture, race, religion, ability status, or whatever else may be, than yourself or than anything you've ever experienced before outside of media. How do you interact with someone whose appearance/actions/lived experience/whatever are so different than yours without creating awkward situations, drama, offense, and making them see you as a JerkAss at best while you wonder what you could have possibly done to upset that person so much? This page is a short guide to interacting with people with whom you are unfamiliar with in general. Specific categories may be added later for specific communities, but these are general, inclusive tips that everyone can use.
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So, either on the Internet or in RealLife, you are likely to meet people of an entirely different background, privileges, current living situation, culture, race, religion, ability status, or whatever else may be, than yourself or than anything you've ever experienced before outside of media. How do you interact with someone whose appearance/actions/lived experience/whatever are so different than yours without creating awkward situations, drama, offense, and making them see you as a JerkAss Jerk at best while you wonder what you could have possibly done to upset that person so much? This page is a short guide to interacting with people with whom you are unfamiliar with in general. Specific categories may be added later for specific communities, but these are general, inclusive tips that everyone can use.
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* And yes, this is all basic, there are loads more ways to not be a JerkAss, so don't stop here. There's lots of information on [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethics ethics]] and cross-cultural etiquette online, just a search away.
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* And yes, this is all basic, there are loads more ways to not be a JerkAss, Jerk, so don't stop here. There's lots of information on [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethics ethics]] and cross-cultural etiquette online, just a search away.
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* DO NOT ask for age, unless you are checking IDs for an age-restricted venue or for other legal reasons. ''Many'' people in Visual Kei do not wish to disclose age, at least publicly or to anyone who asks for any reason, for a variety of reasons: stage persona being an ancient, being older and wanting to seem congruent with a younger appearance, being younger and wanting to seem more experienced as an artist or fan among others. In fact, it is tradition in v-kei to not share age - demanding someone tell you their exact birthdate or birth year is ''incredibly'' offensive.
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* DO NOT ask for age, unless you are checking IDs [=IDs=] for an age-restricted venue or for other legal reasons. ''Many'' people in Visual Kei do not wish to disclose age, at least publicly or to anyone who asks for any reason, for a variety of reasons: stage persona being an ancient, being older and wanting to seem congruent with a younger appearance, being younger and wanting to seem more experienced as an artist or fan among others. In fact, it is tradition in v-kei to not share age - demanding someone tell you their exact birthdate or birth year is ''incredibly'' offensive.
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* ''You are ''not'' someone's close friend unless you ''both'' consider yourselves such''. Compassion, encouragement, and engaging with others' interests are fine; but [[StopHelpingMe know when to take a step back]].
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* ''You are ''not'' someone's close friend unless you ''both'' consider yourselves such''. Compassion, encouragement, and engaging with others' interests are fine; but [[StopHelpingMe [[UnwantedAssistance know when to take a step back]].
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* ''Do not try to someone to your lifestyle or belief system.'' As long as they're not harming anyone or forcibly interfering with the rights of others, they have just as much right to live their life the way they see fit as you do.
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* ''Do not try to convert someone to your lifestyle or belief system.'' As long as they're not harming anyone or forcibly interfering with the rights of others, they have just as much right to live their life the way they see fit as you do.
