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* {{Averted|Trope}} in ''WesternAnimation/IceAge2TheMeltdown''. Manny fumbles on the whole "save the species" conversation with Ellie. When their conflicts put their lives in danger, Manny refuses to apologize, insisting that Ellie overreacted - and she admits he's right.

* ''WesternAnimation/HighGuardianSpice'': When Snapdragon tries to confide with Sage about her friendship with Rosemary, Sage bluntly tells him that he would never understand because girls have a deeper connection with each other than boys do.

** This also affects Bojack's relationship with Todd, as Todd grew to resent him for sleeping with his ChildhoodFriend Emily while he was still trying to sort out his [[RomanticAsexual (lack of a) sexuality]] but he places absolutely no blame on Emily, who initiated it. Bojack even [[LampshadeHanging lampshades]] her part in it [[PlayedForLaughs to a small child he mistook for Todd while he was high]]. Although to be fair to Todd, this was more of the last straw in an already long list of grievances against Bojack. He practically had no choice but to jump to conclusions when BoJack tried to apologize for something which was, ultimately, not his fault for once.

** This also affects Bojack's relationship with Todd, as Todd grew to resent him for sleeping with his ChildhoodFriend Emily while he was still trying to sort out his [[RomanticAsexual (lack of a) sexuality]] but he places absolutely no blame on Emily, who initiated it. Bojack even [[LampshadeHanging lampshades]] her part in it [[PlayedForLaughs to a small child he mistook for Todd while he was high]]. Although to be fair to Todd, this was more of the last straw in an already long list of grievances against Bojack.

** This also affects Bojack's relationship with Todd, as Todd grew to resent him for sleeping with his ChildhoodFriend Emily while he was still trying to sort out his [[RomanticAsexual (lack of a) sexuality]] but he places absolutely no blame on Emily, who initiated it. Bojack even [[LampshadeHanging lampshades]] her part in it [[PlayedForLaughs to a small child he mistook for Todd while he was high]].

* In the 24/7 mode of ''Smackdown vs Raw 2008'', you are given the opportunity to spend the night with a member of the female roster who is already in a relationship. Even if you choose not to, you are lambasted throughout this particular portion of the game as a homewrecker. The female in question, however, is not criticised at all for her actions and even takes the time to say that you deserve your punishment for saying no to her. [[note]]Though towards the end of the segment, she does apologise for all the trouble she put you through and state that it isn't what she wanted.[[/note]]

* Averted in ''Enough Said''. The movie is about a masseuse named Eva who starts dating a man named Albert (played by the late Creator/JamesGandolfini), who is coincidentally the ex-husband of her new client. Albert is a kind, gentle, and funny man who happens to have a lot of quirks, which doesn’t at all stop Eva from adoring him. Until, she starts hearing his ex talk about how much Albert repulsed her sexually, and how all of his seemingly harmless quirks drove her crazy. Eva continues to coax information out of her out of fear that things might go wrong between her and Albert. After a while, this starts to change Eva’s own perception of him, causing her to make fun of him during a get together with her friends, which they call her out on. While already hurt by this, when Albert finds out ''why'' she started treating him badly, he is heartbroken and breaks up with her. [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone Eva feels terrible about this]], as she really did like Albert for who he is. In the end, she is the one who makes up with him, and they re-start their relationship.

* Averted in Enough Said. The movie is about a masseuse named Eva who starts dating a man named Albert (played by the late Creator/JamesGandolfini), who is coincidentally the ex-husband of her new client. Albert is a kind, gentle, and funny man who happens to have a lot of quirks, which doesn’t at all stop Eva from adoring him. Until, she starts hearing his ex talk about how much Albert repulsed her sexually, and how all of his seemingly harmless quirks drove her crazy. Eva continues to coax information out of her out of fear that things might go wrong between her and Albert. After a while, this starts to change Eva’s own perception of him, causing her to make fun of him during a get together with her friends, which they call her out on. While already hurt by this, when Albert finds out why she started treating him badly, he is heartbroken and breaks up with her. [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone Eva feels terrible about this]], as she really did like Albert for who he is. In the end, she is the one who makes up with him, and they resume their relationship.

* ''Film/TheHangover'' is a subversion in this case with the character Stu and his eventual ex-girlfriend by movies end. Melissa is depicted as being that type of "[[StrawFeminist feminist]]" who mistakes equality for all genders as meaning supremacy for the feminine as she's been described as assaulting her boyfriend, cheating on him and then getting angry with him at the prospect of him watching strippers. 'Again' thankfully it's a subversion because at the end Stu grows a spine, calls her out on previously described b.s. and sends her packing.

* In ''WesternAnimation/Invincible2021'' Mark's relationship with his first LoveInterest Amber is heavily strained by [[TheMasqueradeWillKillYourDatingLife his secret identity]] and her complete inability [[NoSympathy to empathize with him]], but everyone in his life such as his CampGay best friend Todd and second LoveInterest Eve acts like he's the bad guy for keeping secrets when it was ''Eve's'' idea in the first place to not tell her. In fact, Mark tried more than once to tell her but she angrily refused to hear him out and when he finally manages to spit it out she says she knew all along and faults him for not doing it sooner, despite the fact it could potentially cost him everything and they only dated a couple of months.

* ''LightNovel/SeitokaiNoIchizon''

* In the one-shot Manga, ''Ookami Kareshi'' (literally Wolf Boyfriend), Riku is treated as being a scumbag for trying to get too physically intimate with his girlfriend when she's not comfortable about it, despite the fact that she never really communicated her discomfort to him, and immediately goes on the [[DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale offensive]] whenever he gets too close.

* PlayedForDrama in ''WesternAnimation/BojackHorseman''. When Bojack goes to New Mexico and spends time with [[TheOneThatGotAway Charlotte]] and her family, her 17-year-old[[note]]legal in NM [[HollywoodProvincialism and most other states aside from California]], [[JailBait which she makes a point of telling him]][[/note]] daughter Penny ends up falling for him. He does the right thing and rejects her advances, but after Charlotte rejects him he's too depressed to continue resisting and allows Penny to have her way with him, only for [[ParentsWalkInAtTheWorstTime Charlotte to catch them in the act]]. From that point on, Penny's treated as another one of Bojack's victims even though he quite literally did nothing to her (personally) and she was old enough to have responsibility in the matter.

-->--'''Kazuma Satou,''' ''LightNovel/KonoSuba''

* Discussed in ''Film/TheRedPill''. While the push for Women's Rights has given more options to women with what they want to do with their lives, many of these laws are often made at the expense of men. Laws such as the Duluth Model which was pushed by feminist activists declare that men can never be victims of domestic violence and are only capable of being a perpetrator, and even if the evidence says otherwise the man has no choice but to take a reeducation course where he has to "admit" that he is the abuser. Whenever Men's Rights Activists try to bring up this fact, it gets treated as a hateful attack on women.

* An unfortunate tendencies of the main romantic couples in several of Creator/LloydAlexander's books. The female love interest will spend a ''lot'' of time mocking, berating and downright verbally abusing the hapless male hero without caring a single ounce about his feelings, and it's just treated as quirky and charming. Should he ever retaliates or even accidentally hurts her feelings, all the other characters will take her side and inform him that he went much too far. The trope varies in how extreme it is from book to book, but it's probably at its most extreme in ''The Arkadians'' (which has a very clear WomenAreWiser theme) with main protagonist Lucian and main female character Joy-in-the-Dance. All through the book she treats him horribly: she ridicules, disregards, laughs at and verbally abuses him, even refusing to call him by his actual name (she nicknames him "Aiee-Ouch," because he said that when his wounds were being cleaned), and everyone else just chuckles and treats this as a clear sign that the two will get together. Which they do at the end of the book. And this is treated as a happy ending, which it would definitely ''not'' have been if the genders were reversed.

* An unfortunate tendencies of the main romantic couples in several of Creator/LloydAlexander's books. The female love interest will spend a ''lot'' of time mocking, berating and downright verbally abusing the hapless male hero without caring a single ounce about his feelings, and it's just treated as quirky and charming. Should he ever retaliates or even accidentally hurts her feelings, all the other characters will take her side and inform him that he went much too far. The trope varies in how extreme it is from book to book, but it's probably at its most extreme in ''The Arkadians'' (which has a very clear WomenAreWiser theme) with main protagonist Lucian and main female character Joy-in-the-Dance. All through the book she treats him horribly: she ridicules, disregards, laughs at and verbally abuses him, even refusing to call him by his actual name (she nicknames him "Aiee-Ouch," because he said that when his wounds were being cleaned), and everyone else just chuckles and treats this as a clear sign that the two will get together. Which they do at the end of the book. And this is treated as a happy ending, even if it's pretty clear that Lucian is headed straight for a life of domestic abuse.

** This also affects Bojack's relationship with Todd, as Todd grew to resent him for sleeping with his ChildhoodFriend Emily while he was still trying to sort out his [[RomanticAsexual (lack of a) sexuality]] but he places absolutely no blame on Emily, who initiated it.

** And then there's Diane, who was jealous of her ex-husband's new relationship and sabotaged it by seducing him while he was struggling to move on from her and under the impression they'd get back together. [[spoiler: Despite having ''actively'' taken advantage of someone's vulnerability, Diane looked down on Bojack for the Penny incident where he ''passively'' did something similar, and wrote in dialogue alluding to it in the show they were working on together to spite him. Diane [[KarmaHoudini is never called out on this hypocrisy by anyone]], and is still allowed to go on believing she's a good person unlike Bojack who [[TheAtoner is constantly crushed by the weight of his sins]].]]

* ComicBook/XMen
** ComicBook/{{Cyclops}} cheats on his wife ComicBook/JeanGrey with ComicBook/EmmaFrost ''in his mind'' (though that was actually Emma telepathically messing with his mind) and he's seen as a cruel cheat. But nobody mentions that earlier, Jean had lusted for and even made out with ComicBook/{{Wolverine}}, as well as previously lusting after ComicBook/{{Gambit}} and Fantomex. In fact, prior to finding out about the 'affair', she actually propositions Wolverine, only for him to turn her down out of loyalty to Cyclops (ironically, after years of trying to get her out of her pants with no respect for Cyke's feelings in the matter).
** Years earlier at the beginning of ComicBook/TheDarkPhoenixSaga, Jean is subjected to similar manipulation at the hands of Mastermind (Jason Wyngarde) and is seen as a completely innocent victim. Scott wasn't so lucky. Mastermind, in that case, was treated with the same scorn a rapist would get and Jean treats him to a FateWorseThanDeath for his manipulations. Here, Emma is not only forgiven by both Jean and Cyclops, but Jean actually encourages Scott to date her as she dies, using telepathy to basically MindRape him past the stages of grief. In the end, Jean is dead and as such immune to criticism, Emma is dating Cyclops, and Cyclops is left hated by a big portion of the fanbase and the X-Men in-universe, including his daughter.

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* A rare GenderFlip occurred in ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'': when CreatorsPet Anthony was emotionally unfaithful to his wife Therese, readers were supposed to be perfectly okay with it because the other woman was Elizabeth, [[ProtagonistCenteredMorality one of the Pattersons]]. This didn't work out so well... not simply because of the prevalence of this, but due to the ''massive'' MoralDissonance, and Anthony being a detestable CreatorsPet.
* Subverted in ''ComicStrip/{{Doonesbury}}'', when [[CloudCuckooLander JJ]] left [[TheEveryman Mike]] for scruffy bad boy Zeke, she was portrayed the entire time as a fool for doing so, for both her reasoning (she felt she had to "seize the moment" to achieve happiness) and for her taste (Zeke has never been portrayed as other than a [[TheSlacker dumb slacker]]). On the other hand, played pretty darn straight by Joanie, JJ's mother, who (back in the 1970s) breaks her husband's nose, abandons her kid and is lauded as a liberated woman.
* Averted with Andy and Roger in ''ComicStrip/FoxTrot'': while Andy is infinitely more competent than BumblingDad Roger, on the rare occasions when she is at fault, she gets called out on it. Played straight, however, with their son Peter and his girlfriend Denise. Half their story arcs revolve around [[PoorCommunicationKills some misunderstanding that could have been cleared up with a single sentence]], and Peter is ''always'' portrayed as having been at fault. What makes it especially jarring is that the situation is always crafted in a way that leads the reader to draw the same conclusions as Peter - up until he's made out to be a complete idiot for interpreting the situation the same way the audience did.
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* In the later time periods of ''TabletopGame/{{Pendragon}}'', the concept of courtly love arises, which considers this not just normal but desirable behaviour. A lady ''should'' make outrageous demands of her suitor and expect him to carry them out with no reward but the faintest expressions of favour, because how else is he going to prove how absolute his love for her is?

---->Guenever calls him a liar and accuses him of being false to her ''again'', just like before (with Elaine, of course); Lancelot is [[LoveMartyr too meek]] to mention that he was bewitched at the time and it was ''[[OnceDoneNeverForgotten 26 years ago]]''... And didn't he just prove he was ''the best knight in Christendom?''

* Discussed in, of all places, ''VideoGame/DragonBallFighterz'':

* In the 24/7 mode of Smackdown vs Raw 2008, you are given the opportunity to spend the night with a member of the female roster who is already in a relationship. Even if you choose not to, you are lambasted throughout this particular portion of the game as a homewrecker. The female in question, however, is not criticised at all for her actions and even takes the time to say that you deserve your punishment for saying no to her. [[note]]Though towards the end of the segment, she does apologise for all the trouble she put you through and state that it isn't what she wanted.[[/note]]

* In ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'', this is one of the main problems with Dora and Marten's relationship. She repeatedly accuses him of attempting infidelity, at one point giving him the third degree because he intentionally didn't mention that a girl had asked him out - despite that he immediately turned the girl down, and despite that Dora's workplace routinely has to deal with customers asking the staff out and she doesn't think that is mention-worthy. She also blows up on him for getting a haircut without consulting her on it, but when she gets one and he says he preferred her old look, she dismisses him. She also goes digging through his porn folder just to sate her curiosity when he explicitly asks her not to, yet expects him to respect her own boundaries. However, she ''has'' been called out on this behavior, repeatedly [[spoiler: and the last example is the catalyst for their relationship to breakdown; Marten, not unreasonably, flips his shit when he discovers her violating his privacy, and when they break up Dora is informed in no uncertain terms that she ruined a good thing [[GreenEyedMonster for stupid reasons]] and needs help]].