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17th Feb '18 2:57:50 AM Veanne
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* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring for the other regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' is self-sacrifice. It is also a decision, not emotion, although emotions can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape'' and are a natural way of attaining it. On its part, ''agape'' infuses the other loves, making them true and keeping LoveMakesYouEvil at bay - without ''agape'', the other ('earthly') loves are prone to turning into selfish possesiveness.
''Agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It's difficult to explain the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that one might [[EvenEvilCanBeLoved love a vile monster]] even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." ''Agape'' builds the soul, fosters emotional health and self-confidence.

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* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring for the other regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' ''Agape'' is self-sacrifice. It a decision to put the other person's good before your own,[[note]]Not pleasure - good. Letting your kid stuff himself with sweets is also a decision, not love, telling him "no, you can't have all this candy right now, because it'll make you sick" - is. If you really have the kid's best interests in mind.[[/note]] not emotion, although emotions can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape'' and are a natural way of attaining it. On its part, ''agape'' infuses the other loves, making them true and keeping LoveMakesYouEvil at bay - without ''agape'', the other ('earthly') loves are prone to turning into selfish possesiveness. \n''Agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It's difficult to explain the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that one might [[EvenEvilCanBeLoved love a vile monster]] even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as As Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." "
''Agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It may be difficult to explain the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that one might [[EvenEvilCanBeLoved love a vile monster]] even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down.
''Agape'' builds the soul, fosters emotional health and self-confidence.
17th Feb '18 1:20:32 AM Veanne
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** This said, during the tenure of Creator/StevenMoffat we see several examples of [[LoveMakesYouEvil what happens]] when an earthly love is not infused with ''agape''; specifically characters perfectly willing to make the world burn if they can't save their loved one. [[spoiler: The Doctor finds himself both in position of the loved one and [[WoobieDestroyerOfWorlds lover]], as well as having to stop people from doing that.]]
17th Feb '18 1:13:08 AM Veanne
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* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' is self-sacrifice. It is also a decision, not fueled by pure emotions (theoretically). However, emotions such as the other three loves can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape''. Note that true ''agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It builds the soul, and, like the other types, fosters emotional health and self-confidence. It's difficult to express the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that someone might love a vile monster even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." Also, unlike the other ("earthly") loves, agape is immune to LoveMakesYouEvil (and similar tropes).

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* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring for the other regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' is self-sacrifice. It is also a decision, not fueled by pure emotion, although emotions (theoretically). However, emotions such as the other three loves can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape''. Note that true ''agape'' and are a natural way of attaining it. On its part, ''agape'' infuses the other loves, making them true and keeping LoveMakesYouEvil at bay - without ''agape'', the other ('earthly') loves are prone to turning into selfish possesiveness.
''Agape''
is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It builds the soul, and, like the other types, fosters emotional health and self-confidence. have. It's difficult to express explain the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that someone one might [[EvenEvilCanBeLoved love a vile monster monster]] even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." Also, unlike ''Agape'' builds the other ("earthly") loves, agape is immune to LoveMakesYouEvil (and similar tropes).
soul, fosters emotional health and self-confidence.
13th Feb '18 7:19:20 AM Veanne
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* ''[[LoveInterest Eros]]'' (Romance) -- This is love in the sense of "being in love". (This is distinct from sexuality - platonic CourtlyLove is also eros.) According to Lewis, sexuality is called "Venus". It can be part of "Eros," but on its own, it is not one of the loves, just desire (not to be confused with {{Lust}}, which is this desire expressed in a sinful way). Eros does not have to be reciprocated - if it's one-sided, but true, expect IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy, otherwise LoveMakesYouEvil might ensue. It is also '''not''' inherently tragic, in fact, if it's reciprocated, the couple tends to be happy in most dire circumstances, as long as they're together.

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* ''[[LoveInterest Eros]]'' (Romance) -- This is love in the sense of "being in love". (This is distinct from sexuality - platonic CourtlyLove is also eros.) According to Lewis, Lewis calls sexuality is called "Venus". It "Venus", and while it can be part of "Eros," but concurr with eros, on its own, it is own it's not one of the loves, a love, just desire (not to be confused with {{Lust}}, which is this desire expressed in a sinful way). Eros does not have to be reciprocated - if it's one-sided, but true, expect IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy, otherwise LoveMakesYouEvil might ensue. It is also '''not''' inherently tragic, in tragic. In fact, if it's reciprocated, the couple tends to be happy in most dire circumstances, as long as they're together.
13th Feb '18 7:16:49 AM Veanne
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* ''[[LikeBrotherAndSister Storge]]'' (Affection/Family) -- This is fondness through familiarity, especially among family members or people who have [[TrueCompanions otherwise found themselves together]] by chance.
* ''[[TrueCompanions Philia]]'' (Friendship) -- Friendship is a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. This includes what Lewis calls companionship; that is gregariousness of the kind which is found in a GoodGuyBar or LocalHangout; as well as friendship proper which is between HeterosexualLifePartners, PlatonicLifePartners and the like but often starts as companionship. What results from CommonalityConnection - some especially lighthearted {{Worthy Opponent}}s might have this as well.
* ''[[LoveInterest Eros]]'' (Romance) -- This is love in the sense of "being in love". (This is distinct from sexuality.) This kind of love longs for emotional connection with the other person. According to Lewis, sexuality is called "Venus". It can be part of "Eros," but on its own, it is not one of the loves, just desire (not to be confused with {{Lust}}, which is this desire expressed in a sinful way).
* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' love is self-sacrifice. It is also a decision, not fueled by pure emotions (theoretically). However, emotions such as the other three loves can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape''. Note that true ''agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It builds the soul, and, like the other types, fosters emotional health and self-confidence. It's difficult to express the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that someone might love a vile monster even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." Also, unlike the other ("earthly") loves, agape is immune to LoveMakesYouEvil (and similar tropes).

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* ''[[LikeBrotherAndSister Storge]]'' (Affection/Family) -- This is fondness through familiarity, especially among family members or people who have [[TrueCompanions otherwise found themselves together]] by chance. \n It's usually, but not always, reciprocated.
* ''[[TrueCompanions Philia]]'' (Friendship) -- Friendship is a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. This includes what Lewis calls companionship; that is gregariousness of the kind which is found in a GoodGuyBar or LocalHangout; as well as friendship proper which is between HeterosexualLifePartners, PlatonicLifePartners and the like but often starts as companionship. What results from CommonalityConnection - some especially lighthearted {{Worthy Opponent}}s might have this as well.
well. Note - there is no such thing as one-sided philia. If you admire that other person, but they don't know you exist, it's either unrequited eros or fangirling (fanboying).
* ''[[LoveInterest Eros]]'' (Romance) -- This is love in the sense of "being in love". (This is distinct from sexuality.sexuality - platonic CourtlyLove is also eros.) This kind of love longs for emotional connection with the other person. According to Lewis, sexuality is called "Venus". It can be part of "Eros," but on its own, it is not one of the loves, just desire (not to be confused with {{Lust}}, which is this desire expressed in a sinful way).
way). Eros does not have to be reciprocated - if it's one-sided, but true, expect IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy, otherwise LoveMakesYouEvil might ensue. It is also '''not''' inherently tragic, in fact, if it's reciprocated, the couple tends to be happy in most dire circumstances, as long as they're together.
* ''[[AllLovingHero Agape]]'' (Unconditional Love) -- This is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance. The essence of ''agape'' love is self-sacrifice. It is also a decision, not fueled by pure emotions (theoretically). However, emotions such as the other three loves can provide a "booster rocket" into ''agape''. Note that true ''agape'' is never self-destructive; it is not the willingness to sacrifice oneself that, say, someone with a GuiltComplex would have. It builds the soul, and, like the other types, fosters emotional health and self-confidence. It's difficult to express the differences between a MartyrWithoutACause and someone who's accepted ''agape'' love into their heart, but they exist; one key distinction is that someone might love a vile monster even while actively opposing him/her, even to the point of a MercyKill, like a mother might love a son that passed the MoralEventHorizon a long, long time ago and needs to be put down. ''Agape'' love need not always be spiritual, but it is often based in spirituality - as Creator/PhilipKDick put it "Love is (...) like a father saving his children from a burning house, getting them out and denying himself. When you love you cease to live for yourself; you live for another person." Also, unlike the other ("earthly") loves, agape is immune to LoveMakesYouEvil (and similar tropes).



* RomanticComedy is a whole genre that explores eros - remember, Cupid's arrows fly blind!



-->''Nobody wants to be the last one there''
-->''And everyone wants to know that someone cares''
-->''Someone to love with my life in their hands''
-->''There's gotta be somebody for me like that!''

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-->''Nobody wants to be the last one there''
-->''And
there''\\
''And
everyone wants to know that someone cares''
-->''Someone
cares''\\
''Someone
to love with my life in their hands''
-->''There's
hands''\\
''There's
gotta be somebody for me like that!''


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* While ''Film/LoveActually'' does explore all the cute (and some of the [[YourCheatingHeart less cute]]) faces of eros, there's also quite a lot of storge in there:
** Daniel being supportive of Sam, especially the scene where they watch ''Film/Titanic1997'' together.
** Billy and Joe, as evidenced in this dialogue:
--->'''Billy''': I realized that Christmas is... is the time to be with the people you love.\\
'''Joe''': Right.\\
'''Billy''': And I realized that, as dire chance and... and... and fateful cockup would have it, here I am, mid-50s, and without knowing it I've gone and spent most of my adult life with a... with a chubby employee. And... and much as it grieves me to say it, it... it might be that the people I love is, in fact... you.
** Mark's putting his storge for Peter above his infatuation with Juliet.
** Sniff-inducing as it is, Sarah's devotion to her ill brother.
4th Jan '18 4:33:28 AM Cryoclaste
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* RickAstley's ''Never Gonna Give You Up'' shamelessly panders to this wish.

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* RickAstley's Music/RickAstley's ''Never Gonna Give You Up'' shamelessly panders to this wish.



* {{Queen}}'s ''Somebody to Love''

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* {{Queen}}'s Music/{{Queen}}'s ''Somebody to Love''
11th Dec '17 8:35:29 PM DustSnitch
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* In ''Mana/OnePiece'', the only bond seconded by ThePowerOfFriendship is familial love, showcased earlier on in the case of [[HappilyAdopted Nami's]] family. This goes into play more powerfully around the Whitebeard crew, who even refer to each other as family with one [[BadassGrandpa badass]] [[AFatherToHisMen father]]. [[spoiler: Tragically, this is what ultimately leads to Ace's arrest and death.]]

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* In ''Mana/OnePiece'', the only bond seconded by ThePowerOfFriendship is familial love, showcased earlier on in the case of [[HappilyAdopted Nami's]] family. This goes into play more powerfully around the Whitebeard crew, who even refer to each other as family with one [[BadassGrandpa badass]] badass [[AFatherToHisMen father]]. [[spoiler: Tragically, this is what ultimately leads to Ace's arrest and death.]]
3rd Dec '17 6:31:47 AM Veanne
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* ''[[TrueCompanions Philia]]'' (Friendship) -- Friendship is a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. This includes what Lewis calls companionship; that is gregariousness of the kind which is found in a GoodGuyBar or LocalHangout; as well as friendship proper which is between HeterosexualLifePartners, PlatonicLifePartners and the like but often starts as companionship. Some especially lighthearted {{Worthy Opponent}}s might have this as well.

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* ''[[TrueCompanions Philia]]'' (Friendship) -- Friendship is a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or activity. This includes what Lewis calls companionship; that is gregariousness of the kind which is found in a GoodGuyBar or LocalHangout; as well as friendship proper which is between HeterosexualLifePartners, PlatonicLifePartners and the like but often starts as companionship. Some What results from CommonalityConnection - some especially lighthearted {{Worthy Opponent}}s might have this as well.



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* ''[[http://www.sadiemagazine.com/issue-no-11/arts-letters/comic/i-think-i-am-in-friend-love-with-you I Think I am in Friend-Love With You]]'' [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin revolves around this]]; the narrator repeatedly affirms their platonic love for the subject in a manner very similar to a love poem. Unfortunately, [[spoiler: said love appears to be unrequited]].
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12th Nov '17 7:09:01 PM Willbyr
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* The Doctor and just about any companion in ''Series/{{Doctor Who}}'' have storge with an admixture of phileo (in varying amounts). This can lead to misunderstandings, especially in the reboot, where a companion expects eros (See Amy in ''[[Recap/DoctorWhoS31E5FleshAndStone Flesh and Stone]]''). However, eros has been established on a few occasions, although the series is usually subtle about it (to date this has applied to Rose, River (whom the Doctor actually marries at one point), Clara and the occasional one-off character). Agape is also common: the Doctor has, one time or another, displayed elements of all four, sometimes simultaneously.

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* The Doctor and just about any companion in ''Series/{{Doctor Who}}'' ''Series/DoctorWho'' have storge with an admixture of phileo (in varying amounts). This can lead to misunderstandings, especially in the reboot, where a companion expects eros (See Amy in ''[[Recap/DoctorWhoS31E5FleshAndStone Flesh and Stone]]''). However, eros has been established on a few occasions, although the series is usually subtle about it (to date this has applied to Rose, River (whom the Doctor actually marries at one point), Clara and the occasional one-off character). Agape is also common: the Doctor has, one time or another, displayed elements of all four, sometimes simultaneously.



* Next to philia, ptorge is probably the second-most prominent love in ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic''. Applejack's Storge is the most prevalent, as she has a deep bond with her siblings and Granny Smith. Twilight Sparkle also has a deep Storge bond with her brother Shining Armor and her eventual sister-in-law Cadance. Pinkie Pie also has Storge for her family, and Rarity also has it for her sister Sweetie Belle. Even Rainbow Dash develops a Storge-like bond with her fan Scootaloo, even though they aren't blood-related.

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* Next to philia, ptorge storge is probably the second-most prominent love in ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic''. Applejack's Storge is the most prevalent, as she has a deep bond with her siblings and Granny Smith. Twilight Sparkle also has a deep Storge bond with her brother Shining Armor and her eventual sister-in-law Cadance. Pinkie Pie also has Storge for her family, and Rarity also has it for her sister Sweetie Belle. Even Rainbow Dash develops a Storge-like bond with her fan Scootaloo, even though they aren't blood-related.
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