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* The premiere of the third season of ''StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' introduces two new characters - Subcommnder T'Rul from the Romulan Empire and Michael Eddington of Starfleet Security. When Commander Sisko tries to make introductions to his senior staff, T'Rul cuts him off by stating that she already knows everyone's names and then states specifically "I'm not here to make friends." Eddington then turns around and says that he is there to make friends and introduces himself, an irony as [[spoiler:he turned out to be a spy for the Maquis resistance movement.]]

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* ''{{Chainsawsuit}}'' shows the [[http://chainsawsuit.com/2010/06/25/i-did-come-here-to-make-friends/ wrong reality show]] to say this on.
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* Jaison in ''{{Survivor}}'' mentioned that people like this happen in real life, there's that one person in every workspace who pretty much thinks, "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here to get the job done". It's pretty much safe to say that he was actually right; but there are plenty of people who actually avert this because they believe people who at least ''identify'' with each other can be more comfortable working together on a certain project.

*** Lightning and Jo also show traces of this too.

* The UrExample of this has to be Richard Hatch, the MagnificentBastard from the original Survivor, who said the trope word for word. Interestingly, he managed to bring this attitude all the way to a win.
** And amusingly enough, averting this in the more recent seasons can actually reward you with the million. Basically, it's the "Lesser evil" card - and you can see that it helped people like Tom, Natalie ([[OneSteveLimit Samoa]]), and Fabio. Use this to your advantage if you're in the finals with people who play this trope straight - It may be a strategic and physical game, but it's also a social game. Being strategic and dominating means nothing if you're an ArrogantKungFuGuy or EntitledBastard who ''everybody'' hates.

It can be argued that this trope is an applied form of the {{GIFT}} - as it has been written by Reality TV columnists, many people who enter games with this attitude do not actually act like this in real life. They decide that the end justifies the means, and don't care at all about what others think about them, sometimes. As described below, this atitude is ''not'' exclusive to Reality game shows; it's just the origin of the trope. In video games, StopHavingFunGuys and {{Scrub}}s can often take this trope.

* Aaron, a contestant on the UK Big Brother quoted this trope word for word. He certainly didn't make many friends (receiving the most nominations in the series), but went on to win the series!

* ''Series/HellsKitchen'' deserves a special mention here. Of course once a season you'll get someone who displays this attitude (usually coupled with ItsAllAboutMe)...the problem is, in a show about cooking, you '''need''' to work with your fellow chefs in order to get food out in a timely fashion. There have even been instances where Chef Ramsay responded to two contestants feuding by saying "I don't care if you're friends, I just want the customers to have a good meal!" In other reality shows, saying this phrase makes you a {{Jerkass}}; in ''HK'', it's a ViolationOfCommonSense.

* Even in PvE areas... "I'm not here to make friends, I'm here for loot."

* At the start of Season 4 on ''{{House}}'', while House was using reality show formats to recruit his new team, Amber immediately fell into this role.

** Especially since if you're not there to make friends, good luck finding anyone to let you build on ''their'' land, server, area, whatever.

* In a ''[[{{ptitleolsdue4jfzga}} 30 Rock]]'' episode, Liz tried to get someone else to take a fall for her while a [[StylisticSuck trashy reality show]] played in the background. At one point, both she and a contestant on the show said "I didn't come here to make friends! I came here to be number one!" in unison.

See ThisIsACompetition.

** And amusingly enough, averting this in the more recent seasons can actually reward you with the million. Basically, it's the "Lesser evil" card - and you can see that it helped people like Tom, Natalie (Samoa), and Fabio. Use this to your advantage if you're in the finals with people who play this trope straight - It may be a strategic and physical game, but it's also a social game. Being strategic and dominating means nothing if you're an ArrogantKungFuGuy or EntitledBastard who ''everybody'' hates.

** PvP games - "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to kill players."
* Any "Pro" or "hardcore" gaming environment. Seriously. They are ''not'' there to just have fun and make friends, they're there to compete for trophies. Let's just say, there's a reason that people who're just there to have fun and don't care about trophies or statistics are the ones having the most fun.

** Cycle six's Jade is particularly infamous for it, thanks to her furious exclaimation of "This is not America's Next Top Best Friend!"

* Even in PvE areas... "I'm not here to make friends, I'm here for loot".
* And in Sandbox areas... "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to build." But this is often averted; since some Sandbox games like ''SecondLife'' happen to be all about the social aspect.

* While not a RealityShow or a parody thereof, this concept is presented as an obstacle in the first episode of ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic''. Twilight Sparkle was sent to Ponyville to oversee festival preparations and to make friends. However, Twilight makes it clear quickly that her priorities are overseeing the festival and researching the prophesy of doom she found; Friendship just isn't a priority for her. [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin Too bad no one had told her the title of the show]]. [[CharacterDevelopment She learns her lesson eventually]].

... An NPR segment (9/12/2009) on this trope shows that studios do feed this line sometimes. The segment also shows that the person/people who actually uses the line ''never wins'' --perhaps not surprisingly, as it tends to signpost them quite clearly as an arrogant douche bag who, unless they can really win the audience over, is likely to be at risk of being voted off before long. There is also an implication that the contestant thinks they can win the contest all by themselves...[[LonersAreFreaks and you know what people think of those kinds of folks.]] Everyone ultimately might be there to win, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea to actually broadcast it.

* Sometimes, a player who gets rather far averts this because they may actually ''be'' there to make friends, or rather, try to play the game and get people respecting them. Or they simply keep their mouths shut during all the shouting matches so they don't wind up a target. (Sharon could have actually ''won'' ''{{Big Brother}}'' 9 if she and Ryan were in the finals, not only did she have three alliance members in the jury, but Natalie would have flipped in a heartbeat because Ryan betrayed her, and just about ''anyone'' would have won against ''Sheila''.)

** And amusingly enough, averting this in the more recent seasons can actually reward you with the million. Basically, it's the "Lesser evil" card - and you can see that it helped people like Tom, Natalie (Samoa), and Fabio. Use this to your advantage if you're in the finals with people who play this trope straight.

* Take a game online. ''Any'' game. You haven't seen as many people say "I'm not here to make friends" as you would have on say, a reality game show, but this is more or less the mentality of everyone online. They're not there to make friends - they're there to win. Suffice to say, [[{{GIFT}} it]] [[UnstoppableRage really]] [[InternetToughGuy really]] ''[[StopHavingFunGuys REALLY]]'' [[SmallNameBigEgo shows]].

* ''Series/HellsKitchen'' does this every season, mostly with the people who either dodged getting eliminated or are tired of the drama their other team members are doing. In season six, Joseph took the trope to a new level when his team won a challenge, but then acted like a complete douche bag during their reward, saying he's not here to get pampered or spoiled and that he's here just to win. Gordan Ramsay's WTF face clearly expressed how he felt. As you can guess, he got eliminated...''on the same day his team had won.'' However, he got booted due to his [[{{Jerkass}} complete disrespect towards Ramsay when he was being stubborn in saying who his team voted to be put up, and then threatened to kick Ramsay's ass.]]

* Subverted on the second season of ''TopChef: Just Desserts''. One person pointed out that even though they hadn't come her to make friends, it just sort of happens anyway.

-->--'''[[TheLibby Heather]]''', WesternAnimation/TotalDramaIsland

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... An NPR segment (9/12/2009) on this trope shows that studios do feed this line sometimes. The segment also shows that the person/people who actually uses the line ''never wins'' --perhaps not surprisingly, as it tends to signpost them quite clearly as an arrogant douchebag who, unless they can really win the audience over, is likely to be at risk of being voted off before long. There is also an implication that the contestant thinks they can win the contest all by themselves...[[LonersAreFreaks and you know what people think of those kinds of folks.]] Everyone ultimately might be there to win, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea to actually broadcast it.

* This troper recently tried out for a reality show and had to hold in his laughter during the interview when one of the casting directors said, "Obviously we're not looking for people who are here to make friends."
** ThisTroper has noticed that people who try to get along with the other contestants tend to do better. On ''Survivor'', if most of the jury likes you, then you've done your job well. You managed to get rid of everyone who was a threat/who was annoying and they ''still'' respect you!
*** Which is part of why some people like Brett, Lydia, Darrah, and Jan are often seen as threats despite sometimes being rather nobodies in the game...Heck, Jan practically just sat around camp all season and somehow made it to the final three, obviously Brian ''knew'' that he would have a better chance with the more dislikable Clay sitting next to him than Jan! And that's just an {{egregious}} example!
* In a ''[[{{ptitleolsdue4jfzga}} 30 Rock]]'' episode, Liz tried to get someone else to take a fall for her while a [[StylisticSuck trashy reality show]] played in the background. At one point, both she and a contestant on the show said "I didn't come here to make friends! I came here to be number one!" in unison.

* Series/TheApprentice: Omarosa.
* AmericasNextTopModel has one contestant every year that says this. They never win... ever.
* Heather is pretty much the animated spoof of this trope in ''TotalDramaIsland.''
** Notably a few other contestants---like Leshawna and Duncan---at some point express this thought too. The thing is, they ''do'' make friends, even though they still keep their eyes on their goal. Heather is the DesignatedVillain because this is ''all'' she cares about.
* Sometimes, a player who gets rather far averts this because they may actually ''be'' there to make friends, or rather, try to play the game and get people respecting them. Or they simply keep their mouths shut during all the shouting matches so they don't wind up a target. (Sharon could have actually ''won'' Big Brother 9 if she and Ryan were in the finals, not only did she have three alliance members in the jury, but Natalie would have flipped in a heartbeat because Ryan betrayed her, and just about ''anyone'' would have won against ''Sheila''.)

* ''HellsKitchen'' does this every season, mostly with the people who either dodged getting eliminated or are tired of the drama their other team members are doing. One chef took the trope to a new level when his team won a challenge, but then acted like a complete douchebag during their reward, saying he's not here to get pampered or spoiled and that he's here just to win. Gordan Ramsay's WTF face clearly expressed how he felt. As you can guess, he got eliminated...''on the same day his team had won.'' However, he got booted due to his [[{{Jerkass}} complete disrespect towards Ramsay when he was being stubborn in saying who his team voted to be put up, and then threatened to kick Ramsay's ass.]]
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*** Which is part of why some people like Brett, Lydia, Darrah, and Jan are often seen as threats despite sometimes being rather nobodies in the game...Heck, Jan practically just sat around camp all season and somehow made it to the final three, obviously Brian ''knew'' that he would have a better chance with the more dislikable Clay sitting next to him than Jan! And that's just a rather [[TVTropesDrinkingGame egregrious]] example!