->''"...I'm here to win."''
-->'''--At least one contestant per season on every RealityShow Competition ever.'''

Along with reminding people that [[ThisIsACompetition they're in a competition]], contestants on competitive {{reality show}}s also like to remind their fellow contestants that they did not come on the show to make friends (or further their acting career, but that's a different issue entirely). Well, that makes sense. When you're trying to win a large sum of money or the love of a D-list celebrity, it's not exactly a good idea to be all buddy-buddy with your competition—unless you plan on backstabbing them later—instead of focusing on your own performance.

An NPR segment (9/12/2009) on this trope shows that studios do [[ManipulativeEditing feed this line]] sometimes. The segment also shows that the person/people who actually use the line ''never win''—not surprisingly, as it tends to signpost them as [[{{Jerkass}} arrogant douchebags]] who, unless they can really win the audience over, will be at risk of being voted off before long. Especially in a social game show, fellow contestants have to ''like'' you, or at least respect you as a WorthyOpponent if you want to actually get further. There is also an implication that the contestant thinks they can win the contest all by themselves... [[LonersAreFreaks and you know what people think of those kinds of folks.]] It's ultimately a redundant and self-destructive attitude since ''everyone'' on the show is there to win; there's nothing to gain in being a {{jerkass}} about it. It goes without saying that these characters are prone to {{Cat Fight}}s.

This trope may be an applied form of the {{GIFT}}—as has been written by Reality TV columnists, many people who enter games with this attitude do not actually act like this in real life. They decide that the end justifies the means, and don't care at all about what others think about them. As described below, this attitude is ''not'' exclusive to reality game shows; it's just the origin of the trope. In video games, StopHavingFunGuys and {{Scrub}}s can embody this trope.

Be very careful adding RealLife examples.

See ThisIsACompetition. Related to SeriousBusiness. Contrast IJustWantToHaveFriends.


[[folder:Reality Shows]]
* [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w536Alnon24 This video]] features a montage of clips of contestants from various reality shows of uttering this line. [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0bOw1lqxBc Here's another.]]
* Hutch played this archetype on ''Series/TheJoeSchmoShow''. The theme sequence gave a two-to-three-word description of each character; Hutch was described as "The Asshole". In the third season, ''The Full Bounty'', Randy was this.
* Referenced on an episode of ''Series/AceOfCakes''. The decorators were designing shoe-shaped cakes that were going to be auctioned off in a charity drive, sparking some friendly rivalry over whose shoe-cake would earn the most. One designer went on a firmly-tongue-in-cheek spiel about how "I'm Not Here To Make Friends, ThisIsACompetition and I'm Here To Win, and I ''will'' throw you Under The Bus..." Leading to another designer asking if they actually ''talked'' like that on RealityTV.
* ''Series/TheApprentice'': Omarosa.
* ''Series/AmericasNextTopModel'' has one contestant every year that says this. They never win... ever. Cycle six's Jade is particularly infamous for it, thanks to her furious exclamation of "This is not America's Next Top Best Friend!"
* Sometimes, a player who gets rather far averts this - there are some people who come onto reality shows just for the experience and winning is an added bonus if they manage to do so, At the same time though, there are people who know if they take this attitude to the game, there's quite a good chance they'll wind up in second or third leaving behind a trail of angry jurors.
* Daryl from ''Wrestling/WWEToughEnough'' was quite vocal about not being there to make friends. Apparently, he didn't make friends with the trainers, either; he was the first contestant to be cut from the show. He was called out by Wrestling/AlSnow for complaining under his breath when the contestants are asked to do something. When Al tells him that he doesn't take that crap from his ten-year-old son and he sure as hell won't take it from him, you knew his days were numbered.
* ''Series/HellsKitchen'' deserves a special mention here. Usually, you will get a chef or two with this attitude, and in fact [[{{Jerkass}} Elise]] of Season Nine said this trope title word for word. However, this is a case of WrongGenreSavvy, as you need to work well with the people on your team to succeed, and host Gordon Ramsay is a huge advocate of ThePowerOfFriendship. In Season Nine, the blue team were all friendly and usually made good services, while the red team was fractured by in-fighting, did more arguing than cooking, and often lost. In other reality shows, saying this phrase makes you a {{Jerkass}}; in ''HK'', it's a ViolationOfCommonSense.
* Hugh on ''Series/IceRoadTruckers'' "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to make money."
* On Season 3 of ''Series/BeautyAndTheGeek'', Cecile was stupid, disrespectful, and all-around hated by the rest of the contestants. She happened to make it to the final episode because she won competitions a lot and was partnered with Nate, the nicest and most popular contestant. In the last episode (in which all the former contestants were to vote for the pair they wanted to win), Nate ''actually went around asking people not to vote for his team, because he didn't think Cecile deserved to win anything, despite the fact that he would lose too.'' Nearly all of them agreed and went with the other team.
* Lee on the U.S. version of ''Series/MasterChef''. "It's fantastic that Sharone is going into a pressure test. We're not going for popularity contest, and I'm not here to make friends." Averted in a big way in ''Masterchef Junior''. [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IMV1PbH8fZc Season 2 spells it out.]]
* On ''Series/TheAmazingRace'':
** In ''2'' Wil said it when his ex-wife and partner (Tara) started flirting with another team. Though this is one of the few occasions where making friends actually lost them the race, as Tara ended up dragging another team into Final 3, and then losing a footrace to said team for the million dollars.
** Jonathan in Season 6 reminds his partner Victoria that "This is a race! This isn't about compassion!" when they finish 2nd in one leg because of Victoria going back to pick up Jonathan's bag and slowing herself down for the final footrace to the mat.
** On ''The Amazing Race 17'', Rachel states in an interview "This is not Amazing Friend." She then turns to her partner and says "We're amazing friends."
** In the premiere of ''The Amazing Race 20'', yet another Rachel (of ''Series/BigBrother'' infamy) gives this line in her opening interview. The same Rachel proceeded to do what she did in ''Big Brother''...that is [[{{Wangst}} cry like a baby]], insult everyone's gameplay, express desire to quit ''nearly every single leg of the race'' because it's "Too hard", yell at Brendon for antagonizing her (The latter of which isn't as unjustifiable given Brendon's personality!), then wonder why [[WhatAnIdiot everybody else can't stand her]]. However, watching her on The Amazing Race 24 (not three years after) wherein she acts much ''much'' different - to the level where one wonders if she secretly hasn't been replaced with her sister - who did ''not'' pull this trope.
** A third Rachel invoked it later in Season 20, and somehow this one managed to win.
** Shelley and Nici of Season 25 aren't there to make friends. They're there to win.
* The UrExample of this has to be Richard Hatch, the MagnificentBastard from the original ''Series/{{Survivor}}'', who said the trope word for word. Interestingly, he managed to bring this attitude all the way to a win.
** And amusingly enough, averting this in the more recent seasons can actually reward you with the million. Basically, it's the "Lesser evil" card - and you can see that it helped people like Tom, Natalie ([[OneSteveLimit Samoa]]), and Fabio. Use this to your advantage if you're in the finals with people who play this trope straight - It may be a strategic and physical game, but it's also a social game. Being strategic and dominating means nothing if you're an ArrogantKungFuGuy or EntitledBastard who ''everybody'' hates.
** It should also be noted that Richard, in spite of his famous line, did form a genuine friendship with Rudy that he was very careful ''not'' to break at the Final Immunity Challenge and that the series' other "negative" winners (Brian and Todd) did something similar or at least pretended to be friends with others. They might not have made friends with ''everyone'', but they made sure to forge bonds with just enough people to get winning votes from them in the end. [[EntitledBastard Russell]] unfortunately didn't get this memo.
* Early in Season 7 of ''Series/TheNextFoodNetworkStar'', Penny Davidi uttered this word for word. A few episodes later, she attempted a WoundedGazelleGambit by crying to the judges that she couldn't perform well because all the other contestants were just so mean and refusing to be friends with her. If her status as TheScrappy hadn't already been sealed, it certainly was at that point.
* Subverted on the second season of ''Series/TopChefJustDesserts''. One person pointed out that even though they hadn't come her to make friends, it just sort of happens anyway.
* The sixth series of the UK version of ''Series/TheApprentice'' had a rare instance of one contestant (Stella English) saying this line - and going on to win the job.
* Aaron, a contestant on the UK Big Brother quoted this trope word for word. He certainly didn't make many friends (receiving the most nominations in the series outside of Marcus and Freddie/Halfwit), but went on to win the series. He did make a close friend in Mark, and found a romantic partner in Faye.
* Neda in ''Big Brother Canada 2'' says she is clearly not there to make friends and is there to play the game, even saying she will criticize peoples' fashion choices - meanwhile on the feeds, she's actually ''much'' nicer than that. Kenny gave viewers the impression that he would be the inversion, but he regularly badmouths everyone not in his alliance.
* Lampshaded by Erica in her cast video for "The Glass House". she says, "I'm here to make friends - I know, weird for a Reality Show, right?" It certainly served her well - she finished in second place overall.
* Even on ''Series/StorageWars'', a show that's about buying storage lockers and doesn't eliminate anyone, Dave Hester said "I'm here to buy storage lockers, not to make friends" in the episode 'Tanks For The Memories'. The trope still held, though, as the other buyers went out of their way to prevent him from buying a locker that episode.
* In an episode of ''[[Series/DragonsDen Shark Tank]]'' (U.S. version of ''Dragon's Den''), one of the ''Sharks'', Kevin, actually says this when trying to get one of the businessmen to accept his pitch. "I'm not trying to make friends, Drew, I'm trying to make money. I think we should get in tune with that."
* Used verbatim by Abby in the first episode of ''WebVideo/StripSearch''. Amy's author biography on the show's website also claims that the "word on the street" is that she's not there to make friends either. The phrase is used rather often, by a variety of people, but always ironically, because they in fact ''are'' there to make friends.
* While several contestants on ''Series/RuPaulsDragRace'' have had this attitude, Season 4's Lashauwn Beyond was immortalized with the line, "I don't have to be your friend! This is not [=RuPaul's=] ''best friend'' race!" The irony is that while Lashauwn was a total SassyBlackWoman with the other contestants, she would instantly turn into a ShrinkingViolet in front of [=RuPaul=], and was the second queen eliminated despite her impressive design skills. The use of this trope on ''Drag Race'' is an extreme case of RealityShowGenreBlindness. Contestants often become friends on this show and go on to work together afterwards, and these collaborative efforts are always well-received by fans. And since sisterhood and community are important themes on ''Drag Race'', queens with an "In it to win it" attitude are received poorly by the other contestants as well as viewers, meaning such a queen is only shooting herself in the foot.
* Comes up with incredible frequency in ''Series/{{Chopped}}'', with at least one such chef with this attitude in about one-third of the episodes (but, curiously, never more than one at a time). Averted as far as the path this sort of contestant usually takes, as the cocky, competitive-minded chef is more often than not the winner.

[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* ''Manga/{{Holyland}}'': This was Masaki's attitude back when he was a first year in the boxing club.
* ''Manga/MyHeroAcademia'': Spoken word for word by [[BrokenAce Todoroki Shouto]] after he challenges Midoriya during the Sports Festival.
-->'''Kirishima:''' What's with the belligerence all of a sudden? Don't spring this on him just before--!
-->'''Todoroki:''' I'm not here to play nice and make friends. But whatever.

* Violet Beauregarde in the 2005 version of ''Film/CharlieAndTheChocolateFactory''. She doesn't actually say the line, but she still has this attitude about winning the secret prize.

* Those businesspeople that aren't with the looters in ''Literature/AtlasShrugged'' repeatedly state some form of that they don't care about the public good-- they're running a business.
* Occasionally used by Captain Rumford, the protagonist in the military thriller ''Literature/{{Victoria}}''. The main example is the very blunt and direct way he handles the Cascadian government in exile. He's their ally, sure, but he doesn't ''like'' them, and doesn't care if they know it.
-->"Lady, cut the crap. Nobody in this room gives a rat's ass how you or anybody else feels. We're here to make a military decision, and you've already made it more than clear that you have nothing to contribute. So let's get on with business."

[[folder:Live Action TV (Non-Reality)]]
* In a ''Series/ThirtyRock'' episode, Liz tried to get someone else to take a fall for her while a [[StylisticSuck trashy reality show]] played in the background. At one point, both she and a contestant on the show said "I didn't come here to make friends! I came here to be number one!" in unison.
* At the start of Season 4 on ''Series/{{House}}'', while House was using reality show formats to recruit his new team, Amber ([[InSeriesNickname Cut-throat Bitch]]) immediately fell into this role.
* Spoken in the 1984 dramatisation of the cricket [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodyline Bodyline]] controversy by [[EvilBrit Douglas Jardine]].
* The premiere of the third season of ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'' introduces two new characters - Subcommander T'Rul from the Romulan Empire and Michael Eddington of Starfleet Security. When Commander Sisko tries to make introductions to his senior staff, T'Rul cuts him off by stating that she already knows everyone's names and then states specifically "I'm not here to make friends." Eddington then turns around and says that he is there to make friends and introduces himself. [[spoiler: Since he turned out to be TheMole for [[LaResistance the Maquis resistance movement]], making friends was actually part of his mission.]]

* "Insincerely Yours" by Music/LilyAllen is all about this.

[[folder: Newspaper Comics]]
* When Brice is introduced to ''ComicStrip/{{Retail}}'' as the new assistant manager, he immediately criticises the other employees for not following the rules, then says he's not there to make friends. Marla comments he's doing a great job of it. Later, when Stuart says Brice is concerned Marla doesn't like him, she replies "Interesting. He told me on his first day that he wasn't here to make friends. So which is it?"

* Discussed on ''Radio/ThisAmericanLife''. Listen [[http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/389/frenemies here.]]

[[folder:Video Games]]
* Take a game online. ''Any'' game. You haven't seen as many people say "I'm not here to make friends" as you would have on say, a reality game show, but this is more or less the mentality of everyone online. They're not there to make friends - they're there to win.
* Any "Pro" or "hardcore" gaming environment. Seriously. They are ''not'' there to just have fun and make friends, they're there to compete for trophies. Let's just say, there's a reason that people who don't give a shit about trophies, statistics, ratios, etc are the ones who have the most fun.
* PvP games tend to suffer from this a lot. Most people online have the thought process of, "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here to kill other players."
* Even in [[PlayerVersusEnvironment PvE]] areas... "I'm not here to make friends, I'm here for loot."
* And in {{Sandbox}} areas... "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to build." But this is often averted; since some Sandbox games like ''VideoGame/SecondLife'' happen to be all about the social aspect. Especially since if you're not there to make friends, good luck finding anyone to let you build on ''their'' land, server, area, whatever.
* Inverted in ''VideoGame/Left4Dead'', a game which is all ''about'' making FireForgedFriends. Four strangers are thrown into a ZombieApocalypse, where they must cooperate or die. In case one of them turns out to be a griefer, there's a fairly-effective ban function on hand. Oh, and, the PlayerCharacters don't know each other either.
* In ''VideoGame/AssassinsCreedRevelations'', Dilara says that she's at Cappadocia to rescue her men, not make friends when Ezio asks why she's so uncooperative.
* In ''VideoGame/MassEffect2'', Miranda Lawson says this to Shepard in one of their first conversations. She's only focused on the mission and doesn't trust Shepard to stay within Cerberus' goals. She becomes quite surprised later when she realizes that she did become genuine friends with Shepard. It even manages to eventually outdo her loyalty to Cerberus.

[[folder:Web Comics]]
* Webcomic/BasicInstructions [[http://basicinstructions.net/basic-instructions/2013/1/20/how-to-handle-being-thrown-under-the-bus.html points out]] this is a really bad way to endear yourself to the viewers and the people you'll be working with.
* ''Webcomic/{{Chainsawsuit}}'' shows the [[http://chainsawsuit.com/2010/06/25/i-did-come-here-to-make-friends/ wrong reality show]] to say this on.
* Mars from ''Webcomic/{{Nebula}}'' believes in this, saying that it doesn't matter whether or not the planets are friends with each other as long as they can do their jobs, and demands that Earth leave him alone.

[[folder:Web Videos]]
* Andre the Black Nerd references this trope in the ''CastlePanic'' episode of ''WebVideo/{{Tabletop}}'', stating that since the game is a cooperative game between four players, [[InvertedTrope he wasn't there to win, he was there to make friends.]]

[[folder:Web Original]]
* ''Roleplay/SurvivalOfTheFittest'': ''[=TV1=]'''s Sidney Rice has this mentality, and while she never actually says it, it comes up in her thought process at one point. Ironically, she ends up teaming up with Green Team despite being Yellow. ''[=TV2=]'' takes it a step further by having this phrase literally be a [[http://s1.zetaboards.com/SOTF_Mini/topic/5408657/1/ thread title]].

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* Heather of ''WesternAnimation/TotalDramaIsland'' provides the second page quote.
--> '''Heather''': We're not here to make friends! We're here to become celebrities.
** Notably a few other contestants, like Leshawna and Duncan, at some point express this thought too. The thing is, they ''do'' make friends, even though they still keep their eyes on their goal. Heather is the DesignatedVillain because this is ''all'' she cares about.
** [[spoiler:She even won Total Drama World Tour (technically) when she actually had to rely on friends!]]
** Alejandro in ''World Tour'' and Scott in ''Revenge of the Island'' are just as bad as Heather, if not worse.
** Lightning and Jo also show traces of this. When Zoey's BerserkButton is pressed one too many times, she goes into this, but gets snapped back to reality. Cameron likewise is a good aversion of this, he's there ''specifically'' to make friends.
* While not a RealityShow or a parody thereof, this concept is presented as an obstacle in the [[Recap/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagicS1E1MareInTheMoon first episode]] of ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic''. Twilight Sparkle was sent to Ponyville to oversee festival preparations and to make friends. However, she makes it clear quickly that her priorities are overseeing the festival and researching the prophecy of doom she found; friendship just isn't a priority for her. [[ExactlyWhatItSaysOnTheTin Too bad no one told her the title of the show]]. [[CharacterDevelopment She learns her lesson eventually]].
** Ironically, Twilight even says that "the fate of Equestria does not rest on me making friends." Well, guess what? The MadGod Nightmare Moon can only be defeated with the Elements of Harmony...which are ''[[ThePowerOfFriendship powered by friendship]]''.
** Throughout most of her life until she moved to Ponyville, Twilight Sparkle didn't care about meeting any other ponies, spent most of her time with her nose stuck in a book, and only played with her "big brother best friend forever" Shining Armor and her foalsitter Cadance.
* Its sister show ''WesternAnimation/LittlestPetShop2012'' has had its fair share too: Episodes about reality television comes up a lot, with the accompanying personalities. In particular, the episode "[[Recap/LittlestPetShop2012S1E21TerriersAndTiaras Terriers & Tiaras]]" is a {{deconstruction}} of this trope: The ShowWithinAShow is ''dominated'' by the StageMom who exhibits this attitude. Blythe enters the competition as the idealistic, friendly sort, but the "I'm Not Here to Make Friends" competitive type rubs onto Blythe due to her constantly being surrounded by them, and by the third act, Blythe's original mindset has completely disappeared.
* PlayedForLaughs in the ''WesternAnimation/GravityFalls'' episode "Carpet Diem": In the ShowWithinAShow "Baby Fights", one of the babies' cooing is captioned as "I didn't come here to make friends."

[[folder:Real Life]]
* Jaison in ''Series/{{Survivor}}'' mentioned that people like this happen in real life, there's that one person in every workspace who pretty much thinks, "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here to get the job done". He also proceeds to mention that this person is pretty much disliked or only tolerated, whereas the people like Natalie who were there to make friends are the ones who're invited to get-togethers and parties. While he certainly is right in that these people certainly exist in every workspace, there are also aversions who fit into both categories; people who aren't necessarily there to make friends, but they do want to get the job done because they feel if they can at least identify with their coworkers, they can get the job better. Or people who make friends simply because they work better with people they're on good terms with.
* Competitive gaming of any kinds. Such as little league - there's almost always that person who thinks, "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here to play ball."
** {{TCG}}s. "I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to play cards." And in the case of competitive gambling (eg TabletopGame/{{poker}}), it's "I'm not here to make friends - I'm here for money." Normally, Slot tournaments avert this, because a lot of the time they're just there to advertise the casino in question and the people who're there are pretty much there to have fun anyways.
** One person has joked that you can notice the people who're there to make friends are the ones who're actually having fun. The people who're there to win? They're the ones who aren't on familiar terms with everyone else and often vanishes off to their home/hotel room/whatever or go off and do whatever.
** The issue is also more complicated than it might appear on the surface: These people who are very serious in gaming competitions usually DO have friends. It's just that these friends were made outside of competitions, and they're not interested in adding any more people to their social circles.
* As mentioned, SeriousBusiness is practically a sister trope to this. Make something SeriousBusiness, and then you get these people crawling out of the woodwork left and right.
* People on art sites: I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to show off my art.
* Before a trial, a judge might remind you that when this is over, half the room will hate his guts, so he has no cause to act friendly.