History Main / AbuseIsOkayWhenItIsFemaleOnMale

* Both played straight AND averted in Naruto fanfics. Played straight in that many authors regularly have Tsunade blasting off Jiraiya with SuperStrength punches, normally sending him to the female onsen for more beatings as a source of comedy. Averted in that Sakura's treatment of Naruto is often treated as abuse and she's called out by other characters or treated cruelly by the author for it.

* Shouko from ''BakaToTestToShoukanjuu'' might be even worse than Louise, routinely tazing [[TheWoobie Yuuji]], [[EyeScream sticking her fingers in his eyes]] so he doesn't even look at other girls, and doing things like breaking his arm and calling it "holding hands" or breaking into his house because she felt like it (and then burning his porn), among others. What's more, the other characters actually believe they make a good couple and [[ShipperOnDeck try to pair them together]], and at the end, even Yuuji seems rather accepting of the idea. If Yuuji even did to Shouko 10% of the things she does to him, people would deride him as a CompleteMonster, but Shouko can keep doing this with no backlash whatsoever. Sure, it might be a comedy, but it's taken to a level you feel more pity for the guy than anything else, not to mention that Yuuji is far from accepting the idea of being with her. That entire episode dedicated to putting them together had him trying to run away from her. Every time he tried to flee from her and avoid Shoko resulted in his friends putting them together or framing him for stuff he didn't did only to make the situation worse. When the {{jerkass}} couple continued to make a fool of themselves, Yuuji was generally trying to get them to win the contest because his friends rigged it to the point where no matter what he did, they would get the right answer. It wasn't until the end of the episode where he changed his mind about Shoko because the {{jerkass}} couple continued to make fun of them both. Next episode, he's trying to run away from her. Final episode, his best friend sold him out to her and she forced him to sign a marriage contract. StockholmSyndrome anyone?

* TheProudFamily plays this trope horribly straight. Oscar is beaten up, sometimes twice an episode, and usually by his wife or mother. Most of the times it's because he flirts with other women, which is of course wrong, but if Trudy ever flirts with another man and Oscar says something about it, he is portrayed as over-reacting. One particulary [[{{Egregious}} egregious]] example from one episode: Trudy makes a joke about leaving Oscar for a Denzel Washington. Everyone laughs. Oscar makes a joke about leaving her for a Halle Berry. Trudy and Penny glare at him before Trudy drops his foot, which was bandaged after an earlier accident.

* TheProudFamily plays this trope horribly straight. Oscar is beaten up, sometimes twice an episode, and usually by his wife or mother. Most of the times it's because he flirts with other women, which is of course wrong, but if Trudy ever flirts with another man and Oscar says something about it, he is portrayed as over-reacting. One particulary [[{{Egregious}} egregious]] example from one episode: Trudy makes a joke about leaving Oscar for a handsome actor. Everyone laughs. Oscar makes a joke about leaving her for a beautiful actress. Trudy and Penny glare at him before Trudy drops his foot, which was bandaged after an earlier accident.

* In the animated adaptation of ''WaysideSchool'', Maurecia, an ActionGirl with a crush on OnlySaneMan (and ButtMonkey) Todd, hits her love interest with an unprovoked MegatonPunch every chance she gets. She never gets in trouble for this, even when a teacher has seen what happened -- although ''Todd'' sometimes does. The punches are implied to be something like a sign of Maurecia's affection, or her confusion about her own feelings, and in either case, totally harmless. Although Todd always rebuffs Maurecia's romantic advances (the ''only'' way in which [[UnfortunateImplications he "provokes" the abuse]]), he still considers her a friend, spends a lot of time around her, and never, ''ever'' complains to a teacher about getting PunchedAcrossTheRoom. And this is all in a series [[FamilyUnfriendlyAesop aimed at children]]...

* The [[WickedStepmother Jessica Schwartz]] case, in which a woman was able to abuse her underage stepson for three years (making him eat cockroaches, keeping him in a locked room) until finally strangling [[TearJerker him to death]]. Neighbors actually were aware of what was going on, and contacted authorities multiple times, but were violently ignored until it was too late, possibly in part from this trope.

* In the fourth episode of ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' Ted dates a girl who, it transpires, studies Krav Maga. Granted, he acts like a jerk towards her, but the public beating she doles out to him at the episode's end - during which no one in the crowded restaurant attempts to help or intervene - is hardly justified. To make matters worse, when he tells his friends, ''and even his children'', what happened, all any of them do is laugh because he 'got beat [sic] up by a girl'. Even worse, in the 21st episode of the fifth season Ted reveals that the crowd in the restaurant ''cheered her on''.
** Even worse, for anyone who knows a little about Krav Maga, an Israeli martial art. The premise behind it is that, in a real fight, no quarter is given to the enemy. You fight to inflict maximum pain and damage in order to accomplish your goal and ensure your safety. Everything is permitted, including eye-gouching and {{Groun Attack}}s.

* In ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' Francine frequently vents unstable violent tendancies on Stan, she once beat him mercilessly for forgetting their wedding anniversary, and once threatened to shoot him kneecaps off for another disception (which he only avoided by having her gun down his double by mistake). On both occasions they kiss and make up by the end. Granted however Stan ''is'' a JerkAss whose belitting treatment of Francine is also usually PlayedForLaughs (albeit in a verbal manner, the one time Stan was falsely implied to have beaten Francine, and at a much less brutal scale than the genuine occasions vise versa has happened, he was labelled a monster and jailed). There is also more than one episode where the couple have all out bloody fights with both sides giving and getting and at least one where he's implied to have been literally torturing her off camera.
** He also accidentally threw a javelin at her, although he was trying to hit a bear (ItMakesSenseInContext). Luckily, she's still fine... then she's shot by [[{{Crossover}} Cleveland]].

** Not everywhere, [[CompletelyMissingThePoint just in Japan]], a heavily patriarchal culture.

* In ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' Francine frequently vents unstable violent tendancies on Stan, she once beat him mercilessly for forgetting their wedding anniversary, and once threatened to shoot him kneecaps off for another disception (which he only avoided by having her gun down his double by mistake). On both occasions they kiss and make up by the end. Granted however Stan ''is'' a JerkAss whose belitting treatment of Francine is also usually PlayedForLaughs (albeit in a verbal manner, the one time Stan was falsely implied to have beaten Francine, and at a much less brutal scale than the genuine occasions vise versa has happened, he was labelled a monster and jailed). There is also more than one episode where the couple have all out bloody fights with both sides giving and getting and at least one where he's implied to have been literally torturing her off camera.

** The only reason the guy was a supervillain was because he used to like G-Girl before she got her superpowers, became hot, and started ignoring him. Once they start sleeping together, he has nothing to be angry about.

** Gryf's love interests Shun-Day and Shimy both abused him physically at some points, and it's always PlayedForLaught. While Shun-Day did this due to AccidentalPervert moments, Shimy's attitude was partially justified most of the time, especially when [[spoiler:it turned out he had cheated on her.]]

** Tenebris has moments hitting Razzia during Book 13 when [[CinglyJealousGirl he start displaying peeping moments when seeing Jadina in underwears]]. This is gradually deconstructed as the book goes however, with her becoming more and more aggressive as the story goes, in a less and less funny way (she ends up treathening him to cut his other arm off when he [[WhatTheHellHero call her out for trying to kill Kasino's assassins and taking pleasure to it]]). [[spoiler:It's eventually revealed to be justified, due to Abyss [[BrainwashedAndCrazy brainwashing her]] with his PupeteerParasite abilitie]].

** [[CoolBigSis Sheyla]]'s violence on her brother Razzia was slightly played for laught in a flashback, though it was justified; she had just rescued him from bullies, and was mad he didn't defend himself. [[spoiler:Ironically enough, he eventually learnt how to fight and became stronger than her, only to end up killing her by mistake.]]

* Raven's frequent smacking of Beast Boy, either physically or telekinetically, is almost always PlayedForLaughs in ''WesternAnimation/TeenTitans''.

** [[BunnyEarsLawyer Shinji]] of the Vizards always gets the crap beaten out of him by [[BrattyHalfPint Hiyori]] for no other reason than her being pissed off and it's always played for [[AmusingInjuries comedy]]. She showed the same behavior towards [[RetiredBadass Kisuke Urahara]] back when she served under the 12th division, and it's likewise PlayedForLaughs.

* ''{{MM}}'' has an out for this: the main character is ''canonically'' a masochist.

* Discussed in ''InBruges''. Ray mentions the phenomenon, and notes that he himself would not attack a woman in self-defense if she attacked him first, unless she was armed. [[ChekhovsLecture This later becomes relevant to the plot.]]

* [[http://domesticviolencestatistics.org/domestic-violence-statistics/ This website]] is entitled "Domestic Violence Statistics", and yet by reading the statistics mentioned on the home page one could be forgiven for thinking that domestic violence was something that only women suffer from - of the eleven examples given, eight refer solely to women as ''victims'' of domestic violence or men as perpetrators.
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* PlayedWith in ''TheHangover'': Stu Price is dating a nagging, controlling woman who cheated on him with a bartender and who beats him. "That was only twice!" defends Stu desperately to [[WhatMeasureIsANonBadass keep his Manliness]]. It's completely PlayedForLaughs in the beginning, but his friend Phil constantly reminds Stu of how horrible Melissa is and tells him to break up with her. Stu later wises up at the end of the movie, then [[CrowningMomentOfAwesome breaks up with her at the wedding]].