History Main / AManISAlwaysEager

* ''Literature/{{Twilight}}'' inverts this--Edward has myriad reasons why he doesn't want to sleep with Bella, and Bella is [[HormoneAddledTeenager not about to listen]].

* Blake Thorburn, the protagonist of ''Literature/{{Pact}}'', is an aversion of this trope. As a single twenty-year-old man with several gay and bisexual friends, his sexuality is called into question, and he admits that though he is straight he isn't "''practicing'' straight" and doesn't consider his sexuality to be an important part of his identity. He also turns down an offer from his best friend to be FriendsWithBenefits [[TriangRelations with another girl]], referencing his hangups regarding physical intimacy.

* {{Subverted|Trope}} in ''Anime/FullMetalPanicFumoffu''. When Tessa comes over to Jindai High as a ForeignExchangeStudent and has to [[InnocentCohabitation live under Sousuke's roof for two weeks]], Mardukas immediately assumes Sousuke will try to bang her and thus gives him [[BoyfriendBlockingDad an elaborate description of how he will murder him]] should the boy try. This naturally terrifies Sousuke--not because he's even remotely tempted (Kalinin later points out the absurdity of thinking ''[[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality Sousuke]]'' would try anything), but because he's been subject to enough [[AttemptedRape unwanted sexual advances]] to seriously worry that she might not take no for an answer and knows Mardukas wouldn't believe him for a second.

** To cap it off, the very fact that [[CelibateHero Kyril Sutherland]] '''exists''' is a mockery of this trope. While he does [[IAmAMonster see himself]] as a [[AntiHero broken man]], it's because he's a ShellShockedVeteran and [[spoiler:a [[EldritchAbomination great one]]]], ''not'' because of his unwillingness to have sex. All in all, he simply doesn't want sex. Full stop.

* In the ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' episode "Amazon Women In The Mood", Fry, Kif, and Zapp are to be executed. The method: "[[DeathBySex Death... by ''snu-snu''!]] The reactions include "I never thought I would die like this...but I always really hoped!" and "The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised." Kif, the long-suffering OnlySaneMan, is the only one to react with undiluted horror, which [[MistakenForGay gets him called gay]] - by [[{{Jerkass}} Zapp]].

* PlayedWith in ''Fanfic/TheNightUnfurls''.

** Hugh may be the one who plays this straight, though to [[{{Downplayed}} a lesser degree]]. [[spoiler:Hugh shows more eagerness than Sanakan during their lovemaking in Chapter 18 of the original, but this is expressed as a sign of devotion, and he is far from a horny person.]]

* One of the skits in ''Extreme Movie'' revolves around this.

* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDXD'' is an interesting [[SubvertedTrope subversion]]. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful woman and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and ThePeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler:Revealed to be a deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]
* {{Subverted|Trope}} by Firo Prochainezzo of ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}!''. Is he solidly, passionately in love with a woman? [[FoolForLove Yep]]. Is he ecstatic when, after fifty years, he can finally tie the knot with her? Yep! Is he eager to jump in bed with her the first chance he gets? [[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality Uh...]] [[ChastityCouple can they just hold hands instead?]]
* Nyarko from ''LightNovel/NyarukoCrawlingWithLove'' desperately wants this trope to happen and keeps trying to [[InvokedTrope invoke]] it by surprising her LoveInterest Mahiro in the bath or bed, hoping that he'll get into it and it'll turn into full-blown lovemaking. However, since Mahiro is a ChasteHero (and mildly put off by her being a ManicPixieDreamGirl ''and'' [[Franchise/CthulhuMythos Nyarlathotep the Crawling Chaos]]), it always just ends up with Nyarko suffering {{Slapstick}} violence.

* ''LightNovel/SoICantPlayH'': For Ryosuke, [[{{Zigzagged}} it depends]] on the scene and ''the girl''.
** In episode 7, two of Lisara's maids start to have sex with him [[IntimateHealing to heal his wounds.]] But he was unresponsive, due to extreme emotional trauma from [[spoiler: nearly being killed]]. They persist, 'til he finally forces the maids off of him.
** If the girl is Lisara, that changes everything. From the moment he hooks up with her, he tries in earnest to get her in bed. Except she's a.) {{tsundere}} and b.) still a virgin. And she [[StatusQuoIsGod has no intentions of changing either one]] anytime soon.

* {{Subverted|Trope}} in ''Anime/FullMetalPanicFumoffu''. When Tessa comes over to Jindai High as a ForeignExchangeStudent and has to [[InnocentCohabitation live under Sousuke's roof for two weeks]], Mardukas immediately assumes Sousuke will try to bang her and thus gives him [[OverProtectiveDad an elaborate description of how he will murder him]] should the boy try. This naturally terrifies Sousuke--not because he's even remotely tempted (Kalinin later points out the absurdity of thinking ''[[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality Sousuke]]'' would try anything), but because he's been subject to enough [[AttemptedRape unwanted sexual advances]] to seriously worry that she might not take no for an answer and knows Mardukas wouldn't believe him for a second.

** One could argue that this trope is not so much{{Subverted|Trope}} as PlayedWith--Willow comes onto him first about their first kiss and sex, but each time she seems to be doing it less because she really wants to and more because of another issue (first to make Xander jealous, later to "apologize" to Oz for cheating on him). While Oz turns her down both times, when they ''actually'' [[MustNotDieAVirgin have sex]], he initiates it.

* The kissing variant is also used in ''Series/{{iCarly}}'' between [[spoiler:[[FoeRomanceSubtext Sam and Freddie]]]]. Yhis is also somewhat of an inversion:
--->'''Carly:''' You've really never kissed anyone? \\

-->'''Donna:''' All I'm saying is we have to wait for the right time.\\

* In the ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' episode "Amazon Women In The Mood", Fry, Kif, and Zapp are to be executed. The method: "[[DeathBySex Death... by ''snu-snu''!]] The reactions include "I never thought I would die like this...but I always really hoped!" and "The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised." Kif, the long-suffering OnlySaneMan, is the only one to react with undiluted horror, which [[MistakenForGay gets him called gay]] - by [[JerkAss Zapp]].

--> '''Lion-O''': [[ThisIsGonnaSuck I'm so dead]]...[[MoodWhiplash but at least I have a girlfriend]]!

** Then played straight at his attempts with [[spoiler:courting [[DoubleAgent Pumyra]]]], although initial they prove to be...rather awkward.

** This trope is the underlying assumption for supporting Vault's ambition of [[NoWomansLand a Sex Empire]]. The "logic" is something like this: any man want sex, so any man would support a regime where all women being [[SexSlave sex slaves]] by law, since they can have their [[VillainousCrush crushes]], [[HaremSeeker obtain as many partners as possible]], and fulfill their sexual desires. Amongst the Black Dogs, Shamuhaza seems to be the exception, as he is more interested in furthering his [[PlayingWithSyringes experiments and research]] than sex.
*** More exceptions are shown in the remastered version, which introduces several Black Dog members who eventually [[DefectorFromDecadence defect]] after Vault's revelation to betray the [[TheAlliance Seven Shields]].
** Otherwise, the narrative gives no indication as to whether the male characters, major or minor, are sexually driven. Tellingly, the males in the Eostian military, which has [[GenderIsNoObject no gender restrictions]], are '''not''' portrayed as eager to have sex with the females in a given chance. Furthermore, there is no indication whether the world of ''The Night Unfurls'' places a high value on a woman's virginity either.
*** Hugh may be the one who plays this straight, though to [[{{Downplayed}} a lesser degree]]. [[spoiler:Hugh shows more eagerness than Sanakan during their lovemaking in Chapter 18 of the original, but this is expressed as a sign of devotion, and he is far from a horny person.]]

* In ''Literature/DragonBones'', some men are this trope (Beckram, according to his brother Erdrick, has sex with everything that moves, which is a bit exaggerated, but not much), while some are not. When the protagonists travel with an attractive, but somewhat older woman (in her thirties, Ward, the oldest brother, is nineteen), she effortlessly seduces the two middle-aged men in the group, wins the affections of Ward's younger brother Tosten, and tries to seduce Ward. He's the only one who rejects her, and he's only able to do so because it wouldn't be wise to have sex while on guard duty at night. He later tells her that if not for the guard duty, he might have slept with her, but that it would have been wrong, as he doesn't really like casual sex. (There is also Oreg, who is also not so eager, but he's a bit of an exception, as he's Really700YearsOld, immortal, a magically bound slave, and suffers from PTSD. It's implied that he was sexually abused in the past. It would stretch suspense of disbelief if ''he'' was eager to have casual sex.) [[spoiler:{{Subverted|Trope}} in that it is later revealed that the seductress uses her magical powers to make men want sex with her - she suspects that Ward is too stubborn, so it doesn't work on him. It probably doesn't work on Oreg because he's a powerful mage and not quite human. Of course the two other men perhaps wouldn't have turned her down without magic, either, but it's never really explained.]]
* ''Literature/{{Twilight}}'' inverts this - Edward has myriad reasons why he doesn't want to sleep with Bella, and Bella is [[HormoneAddledTeenager not about to listen]].

* {{Inverted|Trope}} in ''Series/{{Chef}}''. It's usually Janice who wants sex, but Gareth will be too tired from cooking all day.

-->'''Bob:''' Are you sure about this...I mean, are you sure you're ready?
-->'''Alice:''' ...I'm sure...

--> '''Pep Streebeck''': Are you crazy? Silvia Wiss wanted you!
--> '''Friday''': Now let me tell you something, Streebeck. There are two things that clearly differentiate the human species from animals. One, we use cutlery. Two, we're capable of controlling our sexual urges. Now, you might be an exception, but don't drag me down into your private Hell.

* In ''Theatre/JasperInDeadland'', Gretchen assumes Jasper must be gay if he only wants to be Agnes's friend, and Agnes also seems confused that he didn't seem interested in sex.

* ''Series/ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia'': In "[[Recap/ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphiaS10E02TheGangGroupDates The Gang Group Dates]]", Dee and Dennis become obsessed with a dating website that allows users to give their dates "[[SexinessScore star ratings]]". Dee (who's in a [[DoesNotLikeMen man-hating mood]]), decides to use the website to find and sleep with several men and gives them all a rating of "1", but this ends up backfiring since she discovers most men couldn't care less since [[AManIsAlwaysEager they're just happy for the sex and come back for more despite Dee's poor ratings]].

* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is an interesting [[SubvertedTrope subversion]]. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful woman and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and ThePeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler:Revealed to be a deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]

* {{Subverted|Trope}} in an episode of [[TransAtlanticEquivalent the American version]] of ''{{Series/Skins}}''. One night, [[TeacherStudentRomance Tina, the high school teacher who's been secretly dating one of her underage students]], goes on an impromptu date with a neighbor who lives in the same apartment complex as her. They go to a local burger joint and as they talk and make a connection, Tina aggressively starts kissing him. He gently pushes her off and asks what she's doing and she opens her glove compartment to shows him boxes of condoms to show him she's prepared, and when [[IsThisAJoke he asks if she's being serious]], she asks him if he's gay because he doesn't want to have sex with her, and he replies that he's not gay, he just doesn't want to have sex in an empty parking lot after one conversation. The neighbor exits Tina's car and goes home, leaving her alone to question the decisions she's made up to this moment in her life.

* Issei from ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is an interesting subversion. On the one hand, he constantly and loudly proclaims his eagerness to make out with any beautiful woman and has a well-deserved reputation as a pervert and ThePeepingTom. On the other hand, any time things actually look like they might go somewhere he either [[ObliviousToLove fails to notice girl tries to seduce him]], or someone interrupts them. [[spoiler:Revealed to be a deconstruction, since being murdered by his girlfriend on their first date made him afraid of getting too intimate with girls.]]
* Also subverted by Firo Prochainezzo of ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}!''. Is he solidly, passionately in love with a woman? [[FoolForLove Yep]]. Is he ecstatic when, after fifty years, he can finally tie the knot with her? Yep! Is he eager to jump in bed with her the first chance he gets? [[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality Uh...]] [[ChastityCouple can they just hold hands instead?]]

* Subverted with Tsubasa in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar''. Most of the time it's Kashiwagi that makes advances on him and he's been apprehensive about being intimate in more public places like the school festival or a park. The times when he does try to forward their relationship has been mostly chaste like asking the student council why he made her mad or trying to hold her hand. [[spoiler: Considering his [[ItRunsInTheFamily family]] [[TeenPregnancy history]], he might be consciously trying to defy this trope.]]
* Subverted in ''Anime/FullMetalPanicFumoffu''. When Tessa comes over to Jindai High as a ForeignExchangeStudent and has to [[InnocentCohabitation live under Sousuke's roof for two weeks]], Mardukas immediately assumes Sousuke will try to bang her and thus gives him [[OverProtectiveDad an elaborate description of how he will murder him]] should the boy try. This naturally terrifies Sousuke--not because he's even remotely tempted (Kalinin later points out the absurdity of thinking ''[[ParalyzingFearOfSexuality Sousuke]]'' would try anything), but because he's been subject to enough [[AttemptedRape unwanted sexual advances]] to seriously worry that she might not take no for an answer and knows Mardukas wouldn't believe him for a second.

* Subverted in ''ComicBook/StarWarsMarvel1977'' and some other Franchise/StarWarsLegends comics featuring a young Luke Skywalker. Luke is popular with women to the point of being a ChickMagnet, but never initiates a kiss and in fact seems shocked whenever one is [[ForcefulKiss forced on him]]. The first time he encounters several Zeltrons who all want to sleep with him he's highly dismayed and only wants to get away; later in the series he's more comfortable around them but deftly deflects all offers and prefers to be by himself. When a fellow Rebel that he's friends with propositions him for some casual sex, he turns her down despite being in a spat with Leia.
* Subverted in ''[[ComicBook/Robin1993 Robin]]'' and ''Comicbook/RedRobin'' by Tim Drake. Despite having about five girlfriends over the course of the comics and being propositioned for sex thrice he always responds with LetsWaitAWhile being one of the very few {{Celibate Hero}}s in the DCU.

** Ends up being subverted in one of the four cases, as one of them ends up falling for his conquest and tells her he's willing to wait until she's ready. [[spoiler:They end up doing it anyway.]]

* Inverted in ''Film/MissMarch''. The main character, Eugene, wants to wait to have sex. His girlfriend, on the other hand, isn't so sure about waiting.
* Subverted in ''Film/PrettyInPink'', when Andie accuses Blane of this trope, he points out that he hasn't even tried to kiss her yet.

* Parodied, subverted ''and'' inverted in ''Film/AnotherGayMovie'', the guys are gay, but they're all eager to have sex, while still being nervous about it. Plus, they all proclaim themselves to be the dominant "tops" of their relationship, including the submissive "bottom". The one who is most eager about having sex is actually [[spoiler:a lesbian who "converts" several of her straight female classmates]].
* Inverted in ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin''. Nearly all of the potential sexual partners Andy passes up (including his girlfriend) are more eager than he is.
* Averted in ''Film/TheGraduate''. Ben is quite shy and scandalized by the idea, and has to be talked into it. The woman in question was the wife of his father's business partner...

* In ''Literature/DragonBones'', some men are this trope (Beckram, according to his brother Erdrick, has sex with everything that moves, which is a bit exaggerated, but not much), while some are not. When the protagonists travel with an attractive, but somewhat older woman (in her thirties, Ward, the oldest brother, is nineteen), she effortlessly seduces the two middle-aged men in the group, wins the affections of Ward's younger brother Tosten, and tries to seduce Ward. He's the only one who rejects her, and he's only able to do so because it wouldn't be wise to have sex while on guard duty at night. He later tells her that if not for the guard duty, he might have slept with her, but that it would have been wrong, as he doesn't really like casual sex. (There is also Oreg, who is also not so eager, but he's a bit of an exception, as he's Really700YearsOld, immortal, a magically bound slave, and suffers from PTSD. It's implied that he was sexually abused in the past. It would stretch suspense of disbelief if ''he'' was eager to have casual sex.) [[spoiler:Subverted in that it is later revealed that the seductress uses her magical powers to make men want sex with her - she suspects that Ward is too stubborn, so it doesn't work on him. It probably doesn't work on Oreg because he's a powerful mage and not quite human. Of course the two other men perhaps wouldn't have turned her down without magic, either, but it's never really explained.]]

* Discussed and averted in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'' book ''Literature/ProvenGuilty''; Harry and Murph have one of several conversations about why they've never gotten together, and while Murph offers a FriendsWithBenefits situation, she's unwilling to commit to anything more serious. Harry, despite stating that he's pretty sure it's a legal requirement for a man to say yes to sex whenever it's on offer, acknowledges that he couldn't keep the deeper and more serious emotions out of it, so they reluctantly decide that they should stay JustFriends.

* ''Series/AlexRider'': Subverted when one of the pupils at Point Blanc makes a very possessive move on Alex, who finds her creepy and makes it clear he's not interested. When she tries to taunt him with this trope, he shuts her down HARD, resulting in her getting angry and telling him he "should have enjoyed it while you had the chance" before storming off. Also averted by James, with whom Alex shares a "What a crazy bitch!" look.
-->'''Sasha:''' What's the matter? Don't you like kissing?
-->'''Alex:''' I do, I just don't like kissing YOU!

* ''Series/GameOfThrones'':
** Averted when Jon tells Sam of how he couldn't go through with losing his virginity because of anxiety about fathering another bastard like himself, though it's somewhat {{zigzagged}} when Sam immediately turns this into a jab at Jon's intelligence.
** Played straight when Tommen can't get enough on his wedding night, to the amusement of Margaery and her handmaids.
* In an episode of ''Series/TheWire'', when Dukie comes home and sees/overhears Michael with a girl, the snippet of dialogue we hear is Michael asking the girl who's with him, "Are you sure you want to do this? I don't want to hurt you." This bit of dialog is fairly justified in Michael's case since his only experience with sex at the time was [[RapeAsBackStory being the victim of childhood molestation]].

* In ''Series/DegrassiTheNextGeneration'', Peter doesn't pressure Darcy into having sex, but he clearly thinks he is ready and is very eager to have sex with her.
** Also used with Declan and Holly J.
** Along with Alli and Johnny.
** Subverted in Season 1, when Jimmy is just as nervous about having sex with Ashley as she is. He just is better at hiding it.
** Subverted again with Post-Friendship Club Spinner, who pushes Darcy away when she reluctantly wants sex with him, knowing that it was wrong. He manages to stay true to the Christian thing until he stops dating Darcy in Season 6.

* Inverted with ''Series/MarriedWithChildren'', where Peg Bundy always wants sex and Al Bundy is absolutely sickened by the very thought (though he's only sickened by the thought of sex with Peg, not sex in general).
* In the ''Series/That70sShow'' episode "The Pill":

** Inverted later in "Mother's Little Helper", where Kitty leaves ''The Joy Of Sex'' for Red to find in order to encourage him to have sex with her.

* The kissing variant is used in ''Series/LizzieMcguire''.
* The kissing variant is also used in ''Series/{{iCarly}}'' between [[spoiler:[[FoeRomanceSubtext Sam and Freddie]]]].
** this is also somewhat of an inversion:
--->'''Carly:''' you've really never kissed anyone? \\
'''Sam:'''...Yeah. \\
'''Carly:''' But you seem so...willing.

* All of the guys in the short-lived show ''Series/{{Life as we know It}}'' are like this, but especially the main character. In one of the episodes, he manipulates his girlfriend into agreeing to have sex with him.
* Finn, from ''Series/{{Glee}}'' is like this, but he's tame compared to Puck, who wears this trope like a badge of honor.
** Probably some form of subversion/inversion, as after the sex he is ashamed and regretful as "it didn't mean anything". He reacts like the girl in the second example of "where you will see this" in the trope description.
** Inverted with Kurt, who explicitly defines himself as a romantic who is uncomfortable with both the physical act and the emotional implications of sex and who knew that he ''really'' wasn't ready to have sex. He put his fingers in his ears and started singing when his Dad sat down to have TheTalk with him.
* The ''Series/MysteryScienceTheater3000'' episode ''Film/TheLeechWoman'' had Crow turn the male protagonist of the film's second half into this, especially funny when the titular Leech Woman (as her young hot self) says his name and Crow replies "YES! I LOVE YOU! WHIPPED CREAM!"
* This exchange occurs between Hanna and [[TheMole Caleb]] in ''Series/PrettyLittleLiars'' (in the tv show):
--> Caleb: Are you sure?
--> Hanna: I'm sure.
** Funnily enough, in the introduction of a guy she is a LoveInterest for, it's a celibacy club meeting. GenderFlip though, because it's Hanna's boyfriend at the time who is the one who actually wants to be celibate, and Hanna spends quite a while trying to get him to have sex with her.
* That Oz doesn't want to engage is a very, very bad sign of potential infidelity in ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''. Xander more or less lampshades this trope by saying Willow might have encountered Oz in one of the "seven annual minutes he's legitimately too preoccupied". On the other hand, when Willow first started propositioning him, Oz was the one who turned her down, saying he wasn't sure they were ready yet. In the above instance, Willow's worry wasn't just the lack of interest in her but the obvious interest he had in another girl.
** Oz is usually the one putting the brakes on things. This fact seems to stem mostly from the way that he's very conscious of a. the fact that he's older and more experienced than Willow and b. that Willow's motives in situations like this aren't always terribly healthy ones. His reaction to Willow's proposed makeouts in "Innocence" is just gorgeous:
--> "Sometimes when I'm sitting in class... You know, I'm not thinking about class, 'cause that would never happen. I think about kissing you. And it's like everything stops. It's like, it's like freeze frame. Willow kissage. Oh, I'm not gonna kiss you." (...) "Well, to the casual observer, it would appear that you're trying to make your friend Xander jealous or even the score or something. And that's on the empty side. See, in my fantasy when I'm kissing you, you're kissing me. It's okay. I can wait."
** One could argue that this trope is not so much {{Subverted}} as PlayedWith--Willow comes onto him first about their first kiss and sex, but each time she seems to be doing it less because she really wants to and more because of another issue (first to make Xander jealous, later to "apologize" to Oz for cheating on him). While Oz turns her down both times, when they ''actually'' [[MustNotDieAVirgin have sex]], he initiates it.
* Inverted with painful hilarity in ''Series/{{Flight of the Conchords}}''. Bret meets a pretty girl, who pressures and bullies him into having sex before he's ready, lies about shipping out to Afghanistan the next day, avoids and ignores him afterwards, brags about him to her friends, and leaves him with a reputation as a man-ho. On the other hand, played straight in the fact that Jermaine thinks that this is a wonderful setup and can't understand why Bret is so upset about it.
* In one episode of ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' Leonard feels the sting of this particular double standard when [[spoiler:Penny demands sex off him after he ruins her ability to date morons (and Leonard gladly obliges), when he attempts to do the same to both Penny and ex-partner Leslie both reject him out of hand.]]
-->[[spoiler:'''Leonard:''' [[LampshadeHanging I'm starting to think there's a double standard here.]] ]]
* In ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}'''s episode "The Movie", Elaine says "Men can sit through the most pointless boring movie if there's even the slightest possibility that a woman will take her top off."
** Another episode had George become extremely intelligent after going without sex for a while due to his current girlfriend's illness. Jerry explains that this is because roughly 99% of his brain is normally obsessed with sex, and now that getting sex is not a possibility for George, it is free to function properly for the first time ever. Elaine then tries this with her current boyfriend, who is struggling to pass his licensing exam to become a doctor. It works, but it also has the side effect of making Elaine extremely stupid. Jerry explains that this is because men are always eager to have sex, therefore women can get sex so easily that they take it for granted.
--> '''Jerry:''' To a woman, sex is like the garbage man. You just take for granted the fact that any time you put some trash out on the street, a guy in a jumpsuit's gonna come along and pick it up. But now, it's like a garbage strike. The bags are piling up in your head! The sidewalk is blocked! Nothing's getting through! ...You're stupid!
* ''Series/{{Castle}}'' loves playing with this trope. In one episode the guest star honestly questions whether Castle is gay or in a secret relationship because when she propositioned him he refused (which she said she had never heard a guy say in that context), in another one Esposito and Ryan quip that Castle wouldn't be able to resist a girl's advances on the grounds that "he's a man and he has a pulse", and another episode had most of the male cast absolutely dumbfounded that a woman apparently slipped a man a date-rape drug, with the men quipping "Who roofies a guy? All a girl has to do is ask" multiple times. [[spoiler:Later revealed that the murderer attempted to invoke this trope, but the man in question subverts it by refusing to cheat on his fiancé with his ex.]]
* ''Series/OrangeIsTheNewBlack'' does this in the episode "40 Oz. of Furlough", when Piper briefly gets to leave Litchfield Penitentiary to attend her grandmother's funeral. Having just spent the last several months separated from her fiancé Larry, of course the first item on her to-do list is a night of passionate sex with him. She goes about it by coercing him into an empty bathroom in her house and violently making out with him, bluntly ordering him to "Shut up" when he starts to protest that he doesn't want to. Subverted, in that she ''does'' ultimately back off when she realizes that they've grown too far apart to jump right back into sex, [[DoubleStandard but it would still probably raise some eyebrows if the genders were reversed.]]
* Inverted in ''Series/{{Chef}}''. It's usually Janice who wants sex, but Gareth will be too tired from cooking all day.
* Subverted on ''Series/DanceAcademy'', when Sammy and Abigail are planning TheirFirstTime. Abigail initially doesn't believe they're ready, but then changes her mind, whereas Sammy claims he's "genetically coded to think I'm ready." However once they make it to the bedroom, Sammy decides not to go through with it because it "doesn't feel right", and Abigail appears upset. Arguably it becomes less of a subversion later on as it turns out to be {{foreshadowing}} for [[spoiler:Sammy's ComingOutStory]], but given [[spoiler:Sammy is seemingly bi, not gay]], it still probably counts.
* Averted with most of the non-villainous male characters in ''Series/WynonnaEarp'', probably due partly to the show's explicit non-{{straw feminis|t}}m and also for reasons of FemaleGaze. In contrast, the female characters (especially the titular heroine) are almost always happy and eager to have sex with their lovers, and very quick to proceed to kissing with people they barely know, so long as the guy (or gal) is attractive and not a douchebag.

--->'''Wynonna:''' "I would never have kissed him if I didn't think that you were dead."
--->'''Doc:''' "Come now, Wynonna, we never lied to each other. You are free to kiss whoever you like."
--->'''Wynonna:''' *moves in for a kiss*
--->'''Doc:''' *pulls away* "As long as they want you to."
* Subverted in an episode of [[TransAtlanticEquivalent the American version]] of ''{{Series/Skins}}''. One night, [[TeacherStudentRomance Tina, the high school teacher who's been secretly dating one of her underage students]], goes on an impromptu date with a neighbor who lives in the same apartment complex as her. They go to a local burger joint and as they talk and make a connection, Tina aggressively starts kissing him. He gently pushes her off and asks what she's doing and she opens her glove compartment to shows him boxes of condoms to show him she's prepared, and when [[IsThisAJoke he asks if she's being serious]], she asks him if he's gay because he doesn't want to have sex with her, and he replies that he's not gay, he just doesn't want to have sex in an empty parking lot after one conversation. The neighbor exits Tina's car and goes home, leaving her alone to question the decisions she's made up to this moment in her life.

* Averted in "I Wonder What the King is Doing Tonight" from Camelot.

** A notable subversion in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'' with Alistair. Despite appearing to be a seductive, charming gentleman and snarky ladies' man, when your character manages to make him fall for you, unlike other members of your group, he will not "put out" on the drop of a hat because he doesn't feel ready to lose his virginity yet and needs you to respect that he needs time.
*** Further subverted in that when he eventually is ready and decides to go for it, he is noticeably nervous.
--->'''The Warden:''' Are you sweating?
--->'''Alistair:''' No! I-I mean, yes! I mean... I'm a little nervous, sure. Not that this is anything bad or frightening or... well... YES.
** Subverted in ''VideoGame/DragonAgeII'' by Fenris and straight up averted Sebastian. Fenris HatesBeingTouched due to the [[AcheyScars lyrium tattoos]] all over his body and his experiences as a former slave, so it takes a lot before he'll open up enough to become willing for intimacy with Hawke. Sebastian's religious devotion means that he's taken a vow of chastity and encourages a romanced Hawke to do the same.

* Subverted in ''Literature/ChronoHustle'' when Jack refuses to have sex with Aphrodite.

* Subverted and {{defied|Trope}} in ''Webcomic/{{Flipside}}'' by ChasteHero Crest, who begins the comic inelegantly trying to score with his crush, but ends up turning down every woman who propositions him, including said crush.

* Inverted in ''WebComic/GirlsWithSlingshots'' where Hazel is the one who is really, really horny and she has to put up with her boyfriend gradually becoming more and more comfortable with the idea of having sex with her.

** Subverted later [[spoiler:with [[TheMole Pumyra]]]], when she starts flirting with him he just looks confused and vaguely disturbed, probably because he's been burned in the past and [[spoiler:because she tried ''killing him'' just a few hours earlier]].

-->--'''A stand-up comedian''' in ''Film/Joker2019''

* Subverted in ''[[Comicbook/RobinSeries Robin]]'' and ''Comicbook/RedRobin'' by Tim Drake. Despite having about five girlfriends over the course of the comics and being propositioned for sex thrice he always responds with LetsWaitAWhile being one of the very few {{Celibate Hero}}s in the DCU.

* In ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/10766768/1/Consequences-Of-Manipulation Consequences of Manipulation]]'' Ginny complains because she can't talk Harry into doing what she wants.
-->'''Mrs. Weasley:''' I need you to be honest with me Ginny. You are an adult now, are you and Harry having sex?\\
'''Ginny:''' Um, we have, a few times.\\
'''Mrs. Weasley:''' Then that is your answer and [[LysistrataGambit a very useful tool women have to use on men]]. It's well known that men cannot go without sex, not once they have it and especially not young men.

* In ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/9201264/1/Faith Faith]]'' Ron laughs when he hears about men who were raped by female Death Eaters because "if a guy reacts, he wants to have sex".

--> She kept looking at her watch (Doesn't matter had sex)
--> But I cried the whole time (Doesn't matter had sex)
--> I think she might have been a racist (Doesn't matter had sex)
--> She put a bag on my head (still counts)

Almost as unfortunately, some [[http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm studies]] suggest there is an impressive amount of TruthInTelevision here: recent research using DNA analysis discovered that today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. ...For many men, there would be few chances to reproduce, so they had to be ready for every opportunity. If a man said “not today, I have a headache,” he might miss his only chance.

This is a form of DoubleStandard related to AllMenArePerverts and AllWomenArePrudes. Being a bit nervous about the whole thing is perfectly normal, and fiction will show this with both male and female characters. Usually, however, a male character will almost always be worried about how long it'll last, rather than the act itself. The flip-side of this particular trope is that, since every man is hopelessly enslaved by his overpowering libido, every woman is utterly {{asexual|ity}}. It is ''outrageous'' for any woman to enjoy, or even ''want'' sex. If a female character ''does'' enjoy sex, she will inevitably be TheLadette, i.e. a woman with the personality of a man. Liking sex is just one of her "manly" traits.

If a male character is shown ''not'' jumping at the chance to have sex with a woman, he will be either gay or MistakenForGay (the latter scenario can be TruthInTelevision). This is also common in DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale; the idea that men can't be raped by women because men are always willing to have sex, with any woman, at any time. This is also one of the reasons for the stigma against {{Asexuality}}, especially in men; since all men supposedly enjoy sex, not being interested in it "clearly" means there's something wrong with them.

** This means that Andy’s aversion of the trope makes him look downright freakish; his girlfriend Ruby, who starts out cynically assuming the worst of men but works round to the idea that she’d quite like to try sex, finds him confusing and frustrating. It turns out that he’s borderline {{asexual|ity}}, making him exaggerate his natural obliviousness, but fortunately they’re able to talk things through to a satisfactory conclusion.