History DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale / Music

13th Feb '17 2:33:43 PM SilverShadow2722
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* Averted by [[Music/Aviators Aviators']] song "I Could Believe You (feat. [[Music/WoodenToaster Glaze]])". The song is sung from a man's perspective, as he is haunted by the ghost of his abusive girlfriend. The subject is portrayed seriously and unironically.

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* Averted by [[Music/Aviators [[Music/{{Aviators}} Aviators']] song "I Could Believe You (feat. [[Music/WoodenToaster Glaze]])". The song is sung from a man's perspective, as he is haunted by the ghost of his abusive girlfriend. The subject is portrayed seriously and unironically.
13th Feb '17 2:33:10 PM SilverShadow2722
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* Averted by [[Music/Aviators Aviators']] song "I Could Believe You (feat. {{Glaze}}". The song is sung from a man's perspective, as he is haunted by the ghost of his abusive girlfriend. The subject is portrayed seriously and unironically.

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* Averted by [[Music/Aviators Aviators']] song "I Could Believe You (feat. {{Glaze}}".[[Music/WoodenToaster Glaze]])". The song is sung from a man's perspective, as he is haunted by the ghost of his abusive girlfriend. The subject is portrayed seriously and unironically.
13th Feb '17 2:32:21 PM SilverShadow2722
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* Averted by [[Music/Aviators Aviators']] song "I Could Believe You (feat. {{Glaze}}". The song is sung from a man's perspective, as he is haunted by the ghost of his abusive girlfriend. The subject is portrayed seriously and unironically.
12th Jan '17 4:13:49 PM VanHohenheimOfXerxes
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* The video to Music/LilyAllen's "Smile" features her paying a group of thugs to beat up her ex and ransack his apartment. They even scratch all the records he uses at his job as a DJ, and they stuff his clothes in the toilet in anticipation of the LaxativePrank that Lily plays on him. Throughout the video, Lily pretends to comfort him, then laughs at his suffering when he turns away. If the genders were flipped, this video would be far less likely to be played for anything but horror.

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* The video to Music/LilyAllen's "Smile" features her paying a group of thugs to beat up her ex and ransack his apartment. They even scratch all the records he uses at his job as a DJ, and they stuff his clothes in the toilet in anticipation of the LaxativePrank that Lily plays on him. Throughout the video, Lily pretends to comfort him, then laughs at his suffering when he turns away. If the genders were flipped, this video Lily's sociopathy would be far less likely to be played for anything but horror.portrayed {{comedic|Sociopathy}}ally.
12th Jan '17 4:10:15 PM VanHohenheimOfXerxes
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** Another Taylor Swift exemple: "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-ORhEE9VVg&ab_channel=TaylorSwiftVEVO Blank Space]]" features a woman throwing a vase at her boyfriend, destroying his clothes, his car, dropping his cellphone in the water. She also destroys his portrait violently with scissors, even assaulting him physically at some point. After all the abuse, the man leaves and is replaced by another one, implying it's going to start all over again. Let's also note that the song includes the lyrics "Boys only want love if it's torture". While the video is AdamWesting for Taylor's image as a woman who keeps scaring off her men, if the genders were reversed, there would have been an uproar after the song came out.
* Read the lyrics to ''Please Don't Leave Me'' by {{Music/Pink}}. Now, imagine the reaction if that song were sung by a man. And her latest, ''True Love'' where she sings about wanting to put her hands around a guy's neck at the same time she allegedly wants to hug him. Somehow, this song is seen as empowering, even though [[MisaimedFandom it's pretty clearly not supposed to represent an entirely healthy relationship]]. [[note]]In fact, she and her husband have been in marriage counseling, and nearly got divorced.[[/note]] If a guy were singing those lyrics...yeah. Most male covers keep the lyrics as-is but Halfway To Hollywood genderflipped half of the lyrics. Thus we get like "Sometimes I hate every stupid word you say/Sometimes you wanna slap me in my whole face" and "At the same time, I wanna hug you/You wanna wrap your hands around my neck/I'm an asshole but I love you". It comes off as a DomesticAbuse victim self-victim blaming themselves.

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** Another Taylor Swift exemple: "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-ORhEE9VVg&ab_channel=TaylorSwiftVEVO Blank Space]]" features a woman throwing a vase at her boyfriend, destroying his clothes, his car, dropping his cellphone in the water. She also destroys his portrait violently with scissors, even assaulting him physically at some point. After all the abuse, the man leaves and is replaced by another one, implying it's going to start all over again. Let's also note that the song includes the lyrics "Boys only want love if it's torture". torture." While the video is AdamWesting for Taylor's image as a woman who keeps scaring off her men, if the genders were reversed, there would have been an uproar after the song came out.
* Read the lyrics to ''Please "Please Don't Leave Me'' Me" by {{Music/Pink}}. Now, imagine the reaction if that song were sung by a man. And her latest, ''True Love'' "True Love" where she sings about wanting to put her hands around a guy's neck at the same time she allegedly wants to hug him. Somehow, this song is seen as empowering, even though [[MisaimedFandom it's pretty clearly not supposed to represent an entirely healthy relationship]]. [[note]]In fact, she and her husband have been in marriage counseling, and nearly got divorced.[[/note]] If a guy were singing those lyrics...yeah. Most male covers keep the lyrics as-is but Halfway To Hollywood genderflipped half of the lyrics. Thus we get like "Sometimes I hate every stupid word you say/Sometimes you wanna slap me in my whole face" and "At the same time, I wanna hug you/You wanna wrap your hands around my neck/I'm an asshole but I love you". It comes off as a DomesticAbuse victim self-victim blaming themselves.




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* The video to Music/LilyAllen's "Smile" features her paying a group of thugs to beat up her ex and ransack his apartment. They even scratch all the records he uses at his job as a DJ, and they stuff his clothes in the toilet in anticipation of the LaxativePrank that Lily plays on him. Throughout the video, Lily pretends to comfort him, then laughs at his suffering when he turns away. If the genders were flipped, this video would be far less likely to be played for anything but horror.
3rd Nov '16 7:14:18 AM Morgenthaler
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* The Music/{{Rihanna}} song "Man Down" off her Loud Album - about a woman killing a man with a gun - was met with a backlash from the male audience. At the same time, the female audience defended the song and celebrated it. This was especially the case, because of the attack music star ChrisBrown, inflicted on her in real life still being on woman's minds. The song was a huge hit. In the music video the woman kills the man after he rapes her. It's hard to imagine a man killing his female rapist being as highly regarded.

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* The Music/{{Rihanna}} song "Man Down" off her Loud Album - about a woman killing a man with a gun - was met with a backlash from the male audience. At the same time, the female audience defended the song and celebrated it. This was especially the case, because of the attack music star ChrisBrown, Music/ChrisBrown, inflicted on her in real life still being on woman's minds. The song was a huge hit. In the music video the woman kills the man after he rapes her. It's hard to imagine a man killing his female rapist being as highly regarded.
22nd Oct '16 8:18:20 AM comicwriter
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* [[http://www.popmatters.com/column/139375-fit-to-be-tied-countrys-angry-women/ An article here]] notes the popularity of "revenge songs" in county music, where after a bad breakup or catching the boyfriend cheating, the singer kidnaps, [[BoundAndGagged ties and gags]], or even flat-out ''murders'' the guy, with the actions often PlayedForLaughs. Chances are if a male singer made a video where he tied up and gagged an ex-girlfriend or attempted to kill her, he would be justifiably condemned by the public.

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* [[http://www.popmatters.com/column/139375-fit-to-be-tied-countrys-angry-women/ An article here]] notes the popularity of "revenge songs" in county country music, where after a bad breakup or catching the boyfriend cheating, the singer kidnaps, [[BoundAndGagged ties and gags]], or even flat-out ''murders'' the guy, with the actions often PlayedForLaughs. Chances are if a male singer made a video where he tied up and gagged an ex-girlfriend or attempted to kill her, he would be justifiably condemned by the public.
23rd Aug '16 7:39:09 PM mrincodi
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* In the [[https://vimeo.com/161304462 controversial video]] for 'Fuiste Mía', the singer (Gerardo Ortiz) finds out his girlfriend (wife?) is cheating on him with another guy. He promptly shoots the guy in the forehead. Then, he puts the girl inside the trunk of a car and puts the car on fire. Ortiz was called to declare to the police because of his "violence toward women" in the video. No one complained about him shooting the guy. Even Ortiz himself only apologized to women.

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* In the [[https://vimeo.com/161304462 controversial video]] for 'Fuiste Mía', the singer (Gerardo Ortiz) finds out his girlfriend (wife?) is cheating on him with another guy. He promptly shoots the guy in the forehead. Then, he puts the girl inside the trunk of a car and puts the car on fire. Ortiz was called to declare to the police strongly criticized and even sued because of his "violence toward women" in the video. video, to the point he had to pull out the video from the social networks. No one complained about him shooting the guy. guy in the song. Even Ortiz himself only apologized to regarding the attack toward women.
23rd Aug '16 7:36:47 PM mrincodi
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** That, and the fact that if it had been a woman who had killed her lover with fire, no one had said a thing.
23rd Aug '16 7:34:18 PM mrincodi
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* In the [[https://vimeo.com/161304462 controversial video]] for 'Fuiste Mía', the singer (Gerardo Ortiz) finds out his girlfriend (wife?) is cheating on him with another guy. He promptly shoots the guy in the forehead. Then, he puts the girl inside the trunk of a car and puts the car on fire. Ortiz was called to declare to the police because of his "violence toward women" in the video. No one complained about him shooting the guy. Even Ortiz himself only apologized to women.
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