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46576 TomoeMichieru6th Oct 2012 08:41:33 PM from Huntsville AL
Samurai Troper
There aren't any buses here. Both of us live in the arse-end of Georgia, with no public transportation to speak of.
You can't take the bus to a halfway point?
46578 TParadox6th Oct 2012 08:48:05 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
You can't take the bus when there is none.
46579 Grimview6th Oct 2012 08:51:59 PM from British Columbia
Do you have the cash to spare to buy a bike? 25 mile bike ride isn't that bad. It's a long bike ride, but you could do it Friday evening and spend the weekend over or something. Hell, it's doable as a day trip, too, but if you want to maximise time, there's ways.
"Lock up your girlfriends, lock up your wives, Grim's on the loose so run for your lives." - Pyrite
46580 TomoeMichieru6th Oct 2012 08:53:29 PM from Huntsville AL
Samurai Troper
Currently all my money is going toward food and utilities; no disposable income to speak of. I've been applying to jobs right, left and centre, and looking for more freelance writing clients.
Well, aren't we a bunch of sour grapes.

Bikes, as Grim said.

Your girlfriend's probably looking for another job as we speak. Also, look for odd jobs on craigslist.

If that fails along with your job search, long distance isn't that bad for a few months.

By the way, why would getting your license back cost $1000?
46582 Grimview6th Oct 2012 08:59:23 PM from British Columbia
Lera: I'm gonna guess outstanding tickets.

Also; 25 miles is a walkable distance. It's just a very long one. I think around 10 hours. If you have somewhere in the middle you two could meet, it's feasible to both do a five hour walk, if you're that desperate to see each other in meat-space.
"Lock up your girlfriends, lock up your wives, Grim's on the loose so run for your lives." - Pyrite
46583 TomoeMichieru6th Oct 2012 09:05:22 PM from Huntsville AL
Samurai Troper
Long story short: Back in 2006, I had a pizza delivery job that I thought my insurance would handle, but didn't because I wasn't "technically" employed. I got in an accident - my car was uber-damaged, and I put a dent in the other vehicle's chassis below the door frame. Insurance deemed that I had to pay for all damages out of pocket, which wound up to be $6,000. Because I couldn't keep payments on that up due to lack of a job, they yoinked my driver's license until I pay 1,000 more upfront. I'd already paid about that amount before I lost my income.

And yes, if I have to I'm prepared to walk up that way to see her. It's just that I know how shit the job market is these days.
46584 Grimview6th Oct 2012 09:08:10 PM from British Columbia
... Once again, American insurance companies come off as being the most evil organisations on the planet...
"Lock up your girlfriends, lock up your wives, Grim's on the loose so run for your lives." - Pyrite
How long have you been together?

edited 6th Oct '12 9:09:05 PM by Leradny

46586 TParadox6th Oct 2012 09:10:03 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
How were you not technically employed? You should have found a lawyer that only charges if you win.
If you were being paid under the table, then there's really nothing you can do about it. But if you were legally employed and turned in an application and everything, then yeah, you should do something about it.
46588 TParadox6th Oct 2012 09:12:51 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
How does a pizza delivery job get paid under the table? Was it really pizza?
46589 TomoeMichieru6th Oct 2012 09:14:36 PM from Huntsville AL
Samurai Troper
The pizza delivery place had decided to take me on a "trial basis". They hadn't put me on the books officially, and my accident occurred during that trial period. This same company has also filed motions to seize my (nonexistent) assets. In retrospect, I should have had a camera with me that day and been a little better prepared. I'm not convinced that the person didn't go to their doctor or something and try to claim false injury or something to get that amount - no way could the little damage I caused have been worth $6,000.

Le: We've been together since July. Not very long, I know, but it's been a good relationship and I don't want circumstance to keep us apart like this.
There's dozens of scenarios.

Someone is employed. They quit for some reason, but for a reason like school or something instead of being bad or hard to work with. They remain on good enough terms that their employer lets them sub in for official people and pays them for a couple of hours, without official rehiring.

The employer is pretty loose about applying to begin with and just lets anyone in on the honor system.

Or a trial period.

Anyway, don't let it get you down, Tomoe. You still have Internet, it won't kill you to be long distance for a few months until you get back on your feet.

edited 6th Oct '12 9:18:59 PM by Leradny

46591 Kino7th Oct 2012 11:18:55 AM , Relationship Status: Californicating
25 miles isn't that bad; depending on how high-speed you are. On average, you can move 12mi in 3hrs or so, and that's with a 45lb pack. Its difficult, but you could definitely do it.
46592 EldritchBlueRose7th Oct 2012 01:35:21 PM from A Really Red Room
The Puzzler
Tomoe if you decide to walk to your girlfriend's house I recommend that you take some trail mix and some water.* I know from my experience in Boy Scouts that you need to keep your energy up and stay hydrated, especially for such a long hike. Expect to be to exhausted to do much once you get there, considering a good chunk of your day would be spent walking. Also eat a good breakfast and pack a lunch.

I don't have any other advice to give as I have never been in a romantic relationship myself.

Edit: Oh wait, I thought of something. Can any of your friends drop you off and pick you up later? That could be more feasible than walking, and you'd still be able to see her.

edited 7th Oct '12 1:36:32 PM by EldritchBlueRose

Has ADD, plays World of Tanks, thinks up crazy ideas like children making spaceships for Hitler. Occasionally writes them down.
46593 Kino7th Oct 2012 04:38:08 PM , Relationship Status: Californicating
Hydrate before, during, and after. Bring food, extra socks, and footpowder. Make sure you know your route, your ETA, and be sure to leave all that info with somebody in case something happens.
46594 TParadox7th Oct 2012 07:19:02 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
It is slowly becoming apparent to me that I have an amicable ex. This is something of a welcome learning experience, but it would have been nice if we'd had the part that comes before "ex"...

Went to a ren fair today that I was made aware of through her being part of it. Even though I didn't see her, which is probably for the best.
46595 LoniJay7th Oct 2012 07:27:05 PM from Australia , Relationship Status: Pining for the fjords
How can she be an amicable ex girlfriend if she was never a girlfriend?

Doesn't that make her just, you know, a friend?
Be not afraid...
46596 deathpigeon7th Oct 2012 07:29:51 PM , Relationship Status: One True Dodecahedron
I have an amicable ex, an ex who I never talk to anymore, an ex who I still really like and still really likes me, but with whom there are barriers between a relationship, and a slightly crazy ex.
46597 TParadox7th Oct 2012 07:31:40 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
We came close to being a couple and blew it. And now it won't happen, because we've both moved on. So we have a History, which makes going forward practically like being exes.

A few weeks ago, she entered a relationship with a guy she met from where she is in life now, six years later, and within a few days she posted on Facebook a poem that appears to describe moving on from what didn't happen between us.
46598 Grimview7th Oct 2012 09:02:24 PM from British Columbia
[up] ... If nothing happened, but something came close to happening, that's not "like having an ex." That's just a friend that nothing happened with.

Trust me. There's a difference between the two situations.
"Lock up your girlfriends, lock up your wives, Grim's on the loose so run for your lives." - Pyrite
46599 TParadox7th Oct 2012 09:15:25 PM , Relationship Status: Sinking with my ship
I'm not going to try defending against that. You've got general experience, I know our History and the slight tension it causes. Reality is probably somewhere between the two.

edited 7th Oct '12 9:21:14 PM by TParadox

46600 MrAHR8th Oct 2012 01:10:18 PM from ಠ_ಠ , Relationship Status: A cockroach, nothing can kill it.
Ahr river
I am awkwardly facebook stalking my middle school crush. He got tall. And not as fat. And beardy.

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