Romance

Haldo, you sure posting that out in the open, where the other troper can see it, is a good idea?

Said other troper has already discussed it out in the open, so I don't see why not.

Why not discuss it together and weight out the pros and cons

We already have.

Heh, sounds like a pretty sucky dillemma to be in. I'd honestly advise that you don't, since from my (incredibly narrow minded and lacking info) mind set, it seems like you'd be getting into a relationship for the sake of getting into a relationship.

Yeah, pretty much. She's a good kid and all, but...

Plus, she doesn't want a long-distance relationship, either. She just likes me a lot. So, I don't know what to do to not hurt her.

I agree.

Um... Tell her you're not interested in her right now?

edited 5th Oct '12 2:33:44 PM by DiurnalBrocolli

You'd be hurting her more in the long run if you entered a relationship the both of you didn't want in the first place.

I thought you'd found a lot you liked in her, too. Not to the extent she had in you, but... I guess it might be enough if you were already geographically close?

I know. I decided a while ago that I don't want another long-distance relationship, and this incident has done nothing to shake that. She knows that, too. I'm just wondering about how to proceed without causing her pain.

If we were geograpically close, I'd probably take her out somewhere. I'm not, like, so in to her that I'd drop everything for her immediately if she went to my school, but I'm pretty sure it'd give it a shot.

edited 5th Oct '12 2:37:02 PM by Haldo

If neither of you want an LDR, don't get into one. It will only end in tears if you force something neither of you wants. Not to say you can't try it out if you're both closer to each other, but if not... Not a good idea.

Gotta be nice and honest. It's gonna hurt a bit, but just do it and get it over with.

like a band-aid or whatever

Neither of you want an LDR, but you seem to have enough between you that if things could work out so it wasn't long-distance it could work, and possibly there's enough interest to guide events toward being close by. But I guess that's mostly on her side.

,Alrighty. Thanks for the advice

What AHR said. You need to accept that there's going to be pain from this, but try your best not to make it awkward between the two of you and it should be fine.

I've solved my LDR dilemma recently: wait it out. Because I know she and I will be friends for a while, so when we can both afford to devote time together, then I'll close the distance between Virginia and Colorado, between hearts and homes, and then, bam;
happy ending.

LDR's are pretty much out of the question for me...

I personally doubt I could manage one. I'm still weirded out by the ones on this site to be perfectly honest.

Actually, thinking about it, the relationship I desire isn't technically a LDR, because I'm only going to initiate it once we can take the "distance" out of the equation.

And yeah, same thing, definitely weirded out about at least 99% of the relationships on this site.

But cute, what if you meet somebody before that day comes?

Weirded out? How so? Most seem fairly generic to me. No worse than your typical high school or college relationship. Not something I'd support too much, but nothing I'd object to.

I probably could manage a LDR, but I'm perfectly fine with not having a relationship at all right now.

Please. My relationship is perfectly sane!

edited 5th Oct '12 2:48:23 PM by Noirceur