Asexuals and Aromantics Unite!

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Anyone here ever faked a crush? Just askin'

A few times, or at least lied about having one.

I have. It was hilarious.

edited 9th Jan '17 4:40:23 PM by SalFishFin

I don't know if that's badass or if that's sad.

Well to be honest I never had a true crush, mainly because I don't like people in general.

I don't see the point in faking a crush. Why would you do it?

Basically this. Seems rather odd to fake a crush.

Sounds like it would rather create more issues than it could possibly solve.

I can only imagine doing that for pranking someone.

Well, due to the prevalence of the trope Hormone-Addled Teenager, people have begun to think that if a 13-15-year-old never had a crush, there was something wrong with them. To avoid that image, aros fake having crushes.

Basically. Like I said, it's because people were genuinely concerned about me, and I was young enough that the conflation of sex and romance was a thing in my mind.

Oh. I never did that. I would always just go "So?" Or something if someone pointed out it was weird. They usually got the point.

Again, I have to agree with this.

During 10-12th grade (is that High School?) there were a few girls who tried to make me say I was interested in someone. Even if I did not call myself asexual at the time (mainly due to not knowing it was a thing, hehe) they still never managed. But then again, ever since that time and still to this day, people tend to assume I have a thing for every girl I have a prolonged conversation with.

I never had a fake crush. that's why I stopped assuming I was aromantic. asexual through, possibly.

Basically blend in easier, wouldn't believe me when I said I didn't have one.

I actually do get crushes now and then, so I wouldn't need to pretend.

We're all wired differently, I suppose.

When I was a kid I used to assume I had a crush....but I'm fairly sure all I actually wanted was to be good friends with the person I was "crushing" on.

That stopped once I got older, though. By the time I was a teen I responded to any questions about my love life with a simple "I'm not into that."

At first, I didn't really care/notice that I'd never had a crush. My friends didn't talk about crushes at all, and I'd only been asked if I liked any boy once before (I misunderstood the question and thought she was talking about liking a guy as a friend, so I said yes, and then when she became really excited and asked who, I realized that she meant liking a guy like that, not as a friend. Whoops.), so I figured maybe it would happen later? But, when I was 16 or 17, (sometime near the end of high school), I started getting concerned. I had assumed that I wasn't getting crushes because the guys in my school weren't attractive or something, but it wasn't like people weren't dating at my school, so clearly some of the guys had to be somewhat attractive. I didn't really fake crushes as much as force myself to get crushes on guys that I figured were probably aesthetically attractive. It didn't work, obviously. Now, if anyone asks, I just tell them that I've never had a crush on anyone. The person asking usually calls me weird, and we move on from that topic.

I use to have crushes but now I'm just simply wanting friends besides becoming a extrovert after 5 years of introversion from multiple health problems is rather rough.

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Not sure if I ever posted here while I was questioning. Or if anybody here remembers me from back when I used to post more often. But yup. I've decided. I'm asexual. Not sure if I'm aromantic as well? Still figuring that out. But oddly enough picking the label 'asexual' up and applying it to myself, instead of prodding it mournfully from time to time like I have been for the past 5 years or so, is kind of great.

I think I did kind of convince myself I had a crush on a guy in high school. He was nice, and sufficiently unobtainable that I never had to press the issue.

Yay! I'm glad you figured that out. ^_^ Also, I know that feeling of faking a crush. I didn't do it that much, though, but still, it's confusing.

I think I might have one of the more specific forms of asexuality.

Like, I'm physically attracted to women, but I don't have much of a drive to do the actual sex thing.

There's probably a word for that.

Low sex drive asexuality yeah probably. I know for romantic it's called I think Cupio when you have romantic attraction right up until a relationship happens/your asked out, I don't know the equivalent term for ace spec is.

Hi Loni, I do remember you I don't know if you remember me. Yeah I can understand actually going with it being a relief

edited 23rd Jan '17 9:22:04 AM by phantom1