Transgender Tropers, Aggregate!

Hi! Same thing here, just PM if ya have any questions.

So yeah, since my last post here I realized I'm androgyne. I don't really consider myself "trans", though, it still feels like that'd be appropriative.

I'm starting to worry about my identity again.... It's mainly an OCD issue, really, but I thought this would be a better place to post it.

-hugs tightly- I'm here if you wanna talk, hon. I'm a really good listener. c:

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

OK. Basically, I'm pretty sure and certain about my gender identity, but my OCD makes me worry sometimes stuff like "what if I'm faking it" "what if you don't mean it" stuff like that, and it makes thoughts come into my head which are completely contrary to what I actually think, and it scares me sometimes.

tl;dr version: I know I'm a transgirl (not old enough to be a woman lol) but my OCD makes me worry that It'll be false, when it isn't false.

-hugs tightly- I understand the feeling totally. I wish I more to tell you, but all I know is this. You know you. And your OCD doesn't. Believe me, you're gonna get through this just fine. c:

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

Thanks. You're really nice. Can we be friends?

Of course we can! ^_^ I love new friends~ Especially new t-girls~ ^_^

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

edited 8th Aug '14 8:39:04 AM by ElectricNova

-hugs tightly- I wish I knew what to say...

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

Bumping this thread, it deserves to live.

Anyway, i'm beginning the deed poll process to officially change my name this weekend.

Happy, but then, 2 years till i get the GRC.

How is everyone here doing?

edited 9th Sep '14 1:34:06 AM by ElectricNova

that's great Nova! I'm doing fabulous myself, finally presenting as female on campus~

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

Awesome!

Hopefully at some point ill get the courage to do that...

I just want to be able to go back to going to my therapist.

"If I am to be met with disrespect, then I must first love myself with a fierceness no fool can take away." - Vraska, Gorgon assassin

Good luck. I have a counselor and a psychiatrist, but neither know about my gender identity yet. And i wont be able to see my counselor for a couple weeks.

....I still have a lot of female clothes to buy for myself too. Gonna see if i can do one big shopping trip at some point.

I'm not trans, but I wanna say congrats to you, Nova. I'm happy for you. (I tend to lurk in this area...)

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Thanks Daft!

Anyway, on a random note, until i found my true gender, i didn't realise how widespread transphobia was....

Geez it's everywhere. Will have to fight it off with my fabulousness.....

Oh goodness, its everywhere. I already didn't like sitcoms, but after coming out I refuse to watch Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Two And A Half Men, and many, many, more.

(posted this in Insecurities, but I felt like posting it here too.)

I'm really rather pissed off at my family right now. The aminosity is building up in me. They (not sure about dad, havent talked to him) refuse to acknowledge me as a woman, saying "oh you have to do X to be really a woman" "or you're not a woman yet until you've transitioned completely" My dad hasn't said anything like that, so there's hope. At least my friends acknowledge my true self....

But seriously, my mum claims to be so supportive, but really she;s trying to play the victim saying "oh look how hard it is for me to see you as the other gender" when she;s the one denying my gender all the time.

Considering how mothers sometimes have a hard time to even see the real age of their children, that's not too surprising. Seriously though, I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully time will get her used to it.

Have they given a reason why they perceive it as such? Why would a complete transition be required? What would it change in their minds?

I... to be honest, dont know why.

I undrstand seeing me as a daughter may take time, but seeing/reffering me as my actual gender shouldn't be so hard.

All my friends adjusted in a day or two.

I don't wanna play the bigotry card, but i think it's just unaware transphobia.

She just doesn't get that identifying as a woman=being a woman

edited 15th Sep '14 3:21:12 AM by ElectricNova

It's not the bigot card if it is true. A lot of bigotry is not conscious. "I'm not a racist but..." and similar things come from the fact that people often don't see their own bigotry.

Speculation on my part but as I said with the age thing; your mother knows you longer than your friends. And some parents will always see the inner five-year-old of their offspring. The problem here is that that five-year-old is also viewed as male.

Or maybe she's simply denying it because she subconsciously doesn't want it to be true. Have you confronted her about it? Or would that do more harm than good?

In my experience, its easier to remember to refer to someone with female pronouns if you actually start referring to them with those pronouns. (Example: my best friend only started using feminine pronouns for me a few months ago, and got it down within a week.)

Just a few more weeks my hair will be long enough to get a proper girl style.

Excited, but i still need more fem clothes but am in no position to buy any

I really wish my hair would grow out faster >_<