Female-to-Male Marriage Proposals

Do any tropers know of any such proposals? How did they turn out?

• For males, how would you feel upon receiving a proposal?
• For females, how would you feel about proposing? Would you still want an engagemnt ring?

♭What.

.*raises eyebrow* What? Is there truly still anything expected which way round it's supposedto go?

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My Ma proposed to my Dad first...in 1983. (He said no the first time. Then he did the proposal a bit later and Ma said yes.)

@Octo: Well, I've seen exactly one proposal of this type in media (Schoolhouse Rock, "Mr. Morton"), and was just somewhat curious about real-life examples

♭What.

I don't know of any, though assuming I would actually want to marry the person asking I don't know that I would mind being asked, though ideally I wouldn't be so lacking in initiative that I wouldn't ask myself. Either way, we'd be getting married, so I question whether it matters or not in the grand scheme of things.

I am now known as Flyboy.

I've never really heard of it even happening in real life in my local area. Go figure.

This happens?

There's no reason it couldn't, but I don't know of any real life examples, which is why I made this thread.

♭What.

Hm. Come to think of it there is one example among my friends of a long lasting couple where I think (but don't really know) the woman waited for the man to make the proposal... but I think such attitudes are rather rare here. I remember that marriage show in the 90s, what was it's name, the one with Linda de Mol, anyway, part of it was always showing how one partner surprised the other with the marriage proposal, and it was, IIRC, pretty much evened out which side made the proposal...

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I've heard of them and they don't surprise me. Someone's gotta make the move.

LOL, had to take the credit, huh?

Share it so that people can get into this conversation, 'cause we're not the only ones who think like this.

I suppose that depends somewhat on how one defines 'proposal'. Traditionally, it is the male who is supposed to go on his knees and present a ring to the female, while at the same time it is stereotypically the female that initiates the topic of marriage in the relationship. (plenty of examples in fiction of that, I'm sure)

^^ Nope. The first time he wasn't ready or prepared for such things.

I was just being tongue in cheek. I trust members of your family have had a good laugh at the irony of it, when described as you did?

Share it so that people can get into this conversation, 'cause we're not the only ones who think like this.

Eh, that's hardly a necessity. I think any time either side "pops the question" (so just "Will you marry me?") does count as a proposal.

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I'd be fine with a woman asking me to marry her. So long as I got a nice diamond ring. I could be like a rapper, rockin' some sweet bling.

As long as it was a real proposal and not a damned nagging session, I don't see why a man wouldn't at least appreciate the gesture even if he had to say no.

I've never proposed to a man, but I've been proposed to. Needless to say I'm happily unmarried.

I wouldn't propose to a man simply because I have no desire to enter into a legal marriage.

"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - Aszur

You mean this isn't a thing?

Banned entirely for telling FE that he was being rude and not contributing to the discussion. I shall watch down from the goon heavens.

For females, how would you feel about proposing?

Would you still want an engagemnt ring?
Actually no, since I never wear jewelry I have no desire for an engagement ring. I'll take a hammer, though, preferably one used in smithing, because hammers are cool and promote fertility when placed in the lap.

edited 7th Dec '11 8:38:40 PM by annebeeche

Banned entirely for telling FE that he was being rude and not contributing to the discussion. I shall watch down from the goon heavens.

I can see myself proposing to a guy, but it wouldn't be anything more bold or romantic than saying "Yo, can we [like] get married?" during a video game break.

And better than thy stroke; why swellest thou then?

I think guys should get engagement gifts too. Maybe not a ring, unless he wants one, but like season tickets or something of a emotional and monetary equalization.

I rather save money, skip the ring, (and the ceremony too) and have a more enjoyable honeymoon and house to come back to.

"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - Aszur

Jewelry serves the same purpose as dragons: it is fun to draw.

edited 7th Dec '11 8:40:18 PM by annebeeche

Banned entirely for telling FE that he was being rude and not contributing to the discussion. I shall watch down from the goon heavens.

It was figurative. A man kneeling whilst presenting a ring, is the imagery that is typically associated with a marriage proposal.

edited 7th Dec '11 8:46:09 PM by GreatLich

I don't really think there is a difference. There are cultural differences but non that doesn't matter to me. So I would be fine with it.

"If there is a hole then it's a man's job to thrust into it" - Ryoma from New Getter Robo

An engagement hammer? Now this is a fun idea!

Engagement rings are not particularly common over here, I think. I have no real beef with them, but I wish that diamonds were not so fetishized. They are, well, boring — there are much better gems around!

As for females proposing to males, yeah, I do not see the problem — that's what my parents did.

But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.

I prefer the shared marriage discussion approach, so that it's not a sharp divide of "getting married" and "not getting married yet". Then again, if there's some female to male proposal going on, I expect gifts before accepting!