Heteronormality

I must admit I've done it myself, any one else?

Was there a rest of this thought? Because otherwise, I'm missing the point.

Do you mean Heteronormativity? I, uh, happen to be in a monogamous heterosexual relationship, but my idea of "bad sex" isn't gender dependent. So I guess, no?

edited 16th Apr '11 8:09:00 AM by Ratix

Umm... being heterosexually is seen as default?

edited 16th Apr '11 8:19:27 AM by joeyjojo

Well since around (depending on what statistic you ask) 85-95% of all people are heterosexual it pretty much IS the default, even if we disregard all silly cultural taboos regarding homo- and bisexuality. It's just... numbers.

Oh, sorry, it seemed from my reading to be suggesting that heterosexual is "better", rather than just default. Yeah, I'd say it's default in the sense that it's easiest to fall into a stable, happy relationship. Us being social animals that stems from heterosexual relationships being more "useful" to society at large.

No don't worry I was relying to the post above you.

edited 16th Apr '11 8:20:40 AM by joeyjojo

Always!

Nope. Don't see why it would be, either.

Then again, to me, people are non-sexual until I recieve evidence otherwise, so...

Ah. Yes, I do tend to assume that someone is heterosexual until I gain evidence to the contrary, with one exception - if a guy tells me he's furry, my brain connects that to mean he's gay. Even though I know that's not always the case (or even a majority of the time).

Also, that he identifies as a fox or wolf?

"Well since around (depending on what statistic you ask) 85-95% of all people are heterosexual it pretty much IS the default, even if we disregard all silly cultural taboos regarding homo- and bisexuality. It's just... numbers."

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I tend to assume the person has no real preference until they show some kind of preference. That first sign is then what they are categorised as. Obviously it can be changed as they may be bisexual but only express one half in my company.

I've done it. It's logical to assume that someone is heterosexual because the majority of people are. It's just facts. Of course, if I find evidence suggesting otherwise...

edited 16th Apr '11 9:13:42 AM by Sevvy

An unproven theory. And even if it were true, 85%-95% of all population seems to develop towards heterosexuality - i.e., even with that theory 85%-95% of all population are heterosexual.

edited 16th Apr '11 9:14:23 AM by Octo

I wouldn't place too much stock on what Freud says, if I were you. Your choice, though.

I vaguely assume heterosexuality until I get evidence to the contrary. I won't be obvious about it, but that's what I'm thinking.

Now, is almost everyone a little bisexual? I don't know. I'm not at all bisexual (as far as I know) so I tend to fall into the assumption that most people are like me. It's probably wrong, though. Still, it has been pretty definitely proved that most people prefer the opposite gender.

edited 16th Apr '11 9:15:04 AM by Ultrayellow

I assume heterosexuality unless there is a factor to make me think otherwise present.

And considering it's the vast majority, and is also necessary to the reproduction of the species, I have no problem with that.

I favor the Kinsey Scale, myself. I identify as straight, but I'd be lying if I said I never once entertained the idea of myself in a homosexual relationship.

edited 16th Apr '11 9:22:53 AM by KitsuneInferno

I had considered a thread to discuss it, and where people see themselves on it, but I wasn't sure how that'd go over with the mods.

I stopped thinking heteronomatively when I stopped being heterosexual. Well, actually it took some time after that.

Well, I assume that people are straight unless I know they're not.

Roughly 5% of the population are exclusively gay. A few more are bisexual (it could be as high as 10%), after all, some people that identify as gay or straight are actually bi .

Counting gays and lesbians who are effectively bisexual, mostly straight bisexuals and an (unknown, probably high) number of bisexual people on the down-low, the number might reach 20%.

Still, odds are four of five people you meet are straight (unless you live on a typical 'gay neighborhood' in San Francisco or NYC, that is.) It makes sense to assume people are straight until you're told otherwise.

edited 16th Apr '11 10:38:51 AM by SavageHeathen

I guess I would say most people are not looking for a relationship, but rather someone to hang out with, hence I do not assume them as hetrosexuals, but rather as someone who has not been corrupted by the thought that they could start dating the same gender.
And by "corrupted" i mean "influenced by" :P

edited 16th Apr '11 10:39:32 AM by del_diablo

I've done the whole homonormaivity ting, but my mind has been changed based on certain stereotypes

Like the only furries I've met are gay. Because I suppose if you're going to be an outcast you may as well go all the way.

And has anyone else noticed that gay guys tend to have higher voices? I'm starting to think this is less of a silly campy artificially doing it thing and more of a: "Somewhere, biology wanted to make sure the homosexuals were capable of identifying one another".

Oddly enough, I think I used to think heteronormatively until I realized I wasn't straight. Seeing how complicated and subjective sexual orientation was even for myself made me view sexuality as a whole in a different light.

Other peoples' orientations have never really crossed my mind.