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->''"You know what? I respect women! I love women! I respect them so much that I completely stay away from them!"''
-->-- '''Andy''', ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin''

Alice is celibate and might even come across as if she was {{Asexual|ity}}. However, her sexuality is actually really strong, it's just that she can't express it because she is too burdened by shame, fear and/or guilt. Thus, she might be unable to take initiative herself, or to consent to things she actually does want. And even if she ''does'' manage to take initiative or give consent, it might still backfire horribly as the shame etc reasserts itself.

This is a subtrope of InternalizedCategorism: Alice really can't stand the thought of being one of ''those'' people--the [[AllMenArePerverts "perverts"]], the [[MoralGuardians "sinners"]], maybe even including anyone who actually ''likes'' sex instead of [[LieBackAndThinkOfEngland doing the proper thing]]. ''However'', the character does ''not'' necessarily think that SexIsEvil. Instead, she might simply [[GoodPeopleHaveGoodSex doubt her own ability to handle it]].

In RealLife, this condition is often believed to be [[MoralGuardians far more common among]] [[AllWomenArePrudes women]] [[ImAManICantHelpIt than among]] [[AllMenArePerverts men]]. When a man suffers from it, it's often partially built on a fear of [[AllAbusersAreMale being abusive]]. In fiction, however, men who are scared of being slutty or "perverted" are sometimes [[PlayedForLaughs considered funny]].

When a character with this condition breaks free from the paralysis, the problem might be [[HappilyEverAfter resolved by entering a simple stable relationship]]. However, [[DestructiveRomance this could turn sour]] if the character hasn't really dealt with the issues. Also, breaking free from the paralysis may also result in a counter-reaction, where the character turns overtly sexual. This can be [[EthicalSlut a good thing]] or [[SexIsEvilAndIAmHorny a bad thing]] depending on how the character handles it. In a balanced story, both paths are possible. And there might also be some zig-zagging as the character learns to cope with her sexuality. However, in an {{Anvilicious}} work, only one of the two paths are possible, since the author has [[BlackAndWhiteMorality already decided]] either that SexIsGood or that SexIsEvil.

Note that while this trope and SexIsEvilAndIAmHorny are sometimes ''caused'' by the same social and psychological mechanisms, they have two very different ways of handling it: Sex Is Evil And I Am Horny is about ''acting out'' in a way that is self-destructive and/or abusive, while Paralyzing Fear Of Sexuality is about avoiding expressing one's sexuality at all. In either case, the condition may be caused by [[RapeAsBackstory traumatic experiences]], [[MyGirlIsNotASlut restrictive upbringings]], or just extremely low sexual self-esteem (to the point where the person pre-emptively rejects themselves).

See also CelibateHero and WindmillPolitical. Compare HeteronormativeCrusader. Contrast DoesNotLikeMen and HeManWomanHater.

No individual RealLife examples please--structural examples are okay, however.



[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* [[{{Tsundere}} Yui]] [[ControlFreak Kotegawa]] from ''Manga/ToLoveRu'', she is a firm believer of AllMenArePerverts and SexIsEvil at first. As the story progresses, she underwent CharacterDevelopment and became closer to this trope.
* In ''Manga/{{Chobits}}'', Hideki is tormented by his fear of being a pervert and living with an InnocentFanserviceGirl who will suffer a personality death if he actually were to act on any sort of desire towards her. This is probably the most justified example here.
* ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'': Because of [[RapeAsBackstory being abused as a child]], Guts HatesBeingTouched by anyone except Casca, and to an extent [[HoYay Griffith as well]]. After being celibate for a long time he eventually develops SingleTargetSexuality for Casca, but he has a panic attack during TheirFirstTime as a result of his pent-up trauma. The good news is that they work through it together, and after that he even expresses interest in doing it with her 1000 times more. The bad news is that the Eclipse and Casca's mental condition afterwards create a different problem: He strongly desires to have sex with her again even though he knows she isn't able to give consent, and [[spoiler:a NearRapeExperience with her caused by his EnemyWithin]] makes him fearful that his urges will lead to him abusing her. From then on he tries not to ever see her unclothed and leaves most of her personal care to [[TheCaretaker Farnese]].
* In Fumi Yoshinaga's ''Gerard & Jacques'': Jacques is a virgin at heart, a wannabe CelibateHero, and deeply believes sexuality is, oh dear, such a sin. Unfortunately the UST between him and his, ahem, experienced master, keeps piling until Jacques succumbs to [[ADateWithRosiePalms a DIY solution]], and gets a huge moral hangover for it. The whole issue is played for light drama and fun, but in a darker work it could have fueled worlds of angst.
* While not touched upon in the anime, Firo of ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'' was [[spoiler: once kidnapped by a pervert [[DudeLooksLikeALady who mistook him for a young girl]] and nearly [[AttemptedRape sexually assaulted]] him]]. The experience has left him with a very bad attitude towards men who make unsolicited advances on women, and has made him scared of displaying any sort of sexual intimacy (even something as innocent as ''hand-holding'') for fear that it might be unwanted and troubling to the other party. It does, perhaps, help explain why he [[spoiler:engaged in innocent cohabitation with the same woman for ''fifty years'' before she [[WhatIsThisThingYouCallLove figured out human emotions enough to fall in love with him]], then stayed in a SexlessMarriage for another twenty and counting]].
* ''Manga/GirlsBravo'': Yukinari gets hives whenever he makes contact with other girls, mostly because he is intimidated and pushed around by them all his life.
%%* Miyuki from ''Anime/MiyukiChanInWonderland''
* In ''Manga/{{Zetman}}'', Kouga Amagi develops this from experiencing the "Jirou Incident" where a large number of innocent victims were [[spoiler:raped and murdered as part of an attempted plot to discredit his family]]. He starts going out with Mayu, a girl he rescued from that ordeal, but after two years together he hasn't even held her hand because of the PTSD-like symptoms he gets from anything associated with sex or intimacy.

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* ''ComicBook/BitchyBitch'' has this kind of baggage in her backstory, and it keeps dragging her down.
* In ''ComicBook/{{Watchmen}}'', Rorschach has this as a part of his pathology.
* If ''ComicBook/JohnnyTheHomicidalManiac'' isn't explicitly asexual, he's this. His outright disgust with human sexuality and aversion to being touched implies that he may very well ''have'' a sexuality but deeply represses it. Given that his arousal is one of the internal forces he lists as wanting to free himself from in his search for autonomy in Book 7 (along with hunger and tiredness), that's probably it.
* In ''ComicBook/{{Runaways}}'', Klara is horrified by sexuality, due to a combination of a strict religious upbringing and a lot of sexual abuse.

[[folder:Fan Works]]
* In the ''Manga/DeathNote'' CrackFic ''FanFic/ACharmedLife'' Light finds the very idea of sex to be disgusting and terrifying [[spoiler:until Ryuk helps him through it]].
* In the ''Film/{{Maleficent}}'' fanfic ''Fanfic/YourServantMistress'', Maleficent suffers from this. Understandably, as the incidence that makes her go dark in the film is changed into the thing [[RapeIsASpecialKindOfEvil that it was symbolic for in the first place]]. As this is an all-human story wherein she and Diaval are in a BDSM--relationship, this makes things very complicated.
* Han Solo for a while in the ''Franchise/StarWars'' fic ''[[https://m.fanfiction.net/s/2717781/1/My-All My All]]''. Entirely justified, as in the fic that preceded it, ''Important Information'', he was repeatedly raped during a horrific torture ordeal. Even after he finally lays his internal struggles with his ordeal and his captor--who somehow seemed to find a way to entire his body when Leia killed her and ended up wreaking havoc on his mind--to rest, it's still some time before he can finally stop seeing his tormentor, release the shame and pain he's held inside, and finally be able to make love to Leia again.
* Taken to utterly ridiculous levels in ''FanFic/HarryPotterBecomesACommunist'' when Snape, who is portrayed as TheFundamentalist, tries to capture Cho Chang. She successfully defeats him by throwing her naked boobs at him, which causes him to freak out and declare, "The female body is so fucking sinful! You keep those horrible things away from me or I'll go to hell!"

* The teenage girl in ''Film/FemalePerversions'', portrayed as a quite natural counter-reaction to her desperately oversexualized aunt's creepiness.
* The premise of ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin''. See page quote. It avoids many of the pitfalls of dealing with this trope by introducing a large and relatively well-developed supporting cast, all with their own hangups surrounding sex and/or relationships to work through.
* The title character in ''Film/{{Marnie}}''.
* Sally in ''Film/{{Intermission}}''
* Catherine Deneuve's character in Creator/RomanPolanski's ''Film/{{Repulsion}}'' takes this trope to frenzied extremes.

* ''Literature/VorkosiganSaga'': Mark Vorkosigan is tortured into this by his "guardian". Eventually, the legendary Betan therapy helps. Beautiful, lovable--not to mention brave and understanding--Kareen Koudelka helps even more.
* The female lead in Creator/PiersAnthony's ''Mode'' series was like this, due to past trauma. It took a JourneyToTheCenterOfTheMind to fix it.
* Aliena in ''Literature/ThePillarsOfTheEarth'' has rape flashbacks when she's with Jack, resulting in KissKissSlap and her running into the woods. Jack is understandably bewildered by all of this.
* Jaenelle in the ''Literature/BlackJewels'' trilogy has this problem after the absolutely horrific abuse she suffered as a child. Naturally, she and her love interest manage to work through it eventually.
* Callista in ''[[Literature/{{Darkover}} The Forbidden Tower]]'' has been so brainwashed into virginity that she freaks out if her husband so much as touches her. And when a [[PsychicPowers Keeper]] freaks out, people get ''hurt''.
* Creator/IsaacAsimov's ''Literature/TheNakedSun'' features Solaria, a world where people practically never have physical proximity to another, and almost all of them are scared of sex as a result. [[spoiler:This also turns out to be a plot point]].
* ''Literature/{{Carrie}}''[='=]s mother Margaret White turns out to have a pathological fear of sex, coming from equal parts religious fanaticism and [[spoiler:the fact that her husband raped her, resulting in Carrie's birth (the fact that she ended up enjoying the act just messes her up even worse, if that's possible)]]. This resulted in some seriously repressive parenting to EvilMatriarch levels, to the point where she didn't even tell Carrie about her body's natural processes as she got older, resulting in her first period in her senior year being traumatic in more ways than one.
* The protagonist in Creator/KurtVonnegut's "Welcome to the Monkey House" can be considered an instance of this--with {{rape|PortrayedAsRedemption}} as "cure". She is assured that her initial reluctance is "very typical" and she will Get Over It.
* ''Literature/SwordAtSunset'': KingArthur is so traumatised by the traditional SurpriseIncest with his sister that he develops some non-specified sexual dysfunction, whose scope he doesn't realize until his deeply awkward wedding night.
* Zsadist from the ''Literature/BlackDaggerBrotherhood'' series has this until ''Lover Awakened'', due to nearly every sexual experience he'd had up to that point being non-consensual on his part. Much of his development is focused on him getting over his many issues regarding this.
* ''Literature/ChroniclesOfTheKencyrath'': It's [[DownplayedTrope subtle]], but Torisen is a little afraid of his own attraction to Jame. Completely {{Justified|Trope}} by his past relationship with Kallystine. Kallystine was trying her hardest to seduce Torisen for political reasons. Torisen knew this perfectly well, and he hated and resented herů but it seems she ''did'' managed to seduce him for short periods of time despite this. It's implied she managed this by using {{Love Potion}}s. Kallystine was the only past relationship Torisen's had, and so in his his only real experience with his own attraction, it was the result of being drugged and manipulated by someone he hated. As a result, even when he experiences organic attraction to Jame, it partially makes him fear her more.
-->''His former consort had been adept at intoxicating the senses, but with an after-taste that had made him both loathe and mistrust his own passion.''
* Between the horror stories she's been told for years about her older sister and the fact that [[spoiler: the gang-rape really happened to HER]], Literature/MySweetAudrina has this big time.

[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* Laura Dickens from ''Series/TheSandbaggers''--according to the staff psychiatrist, it results from a combination of a prudish upbringing with a completely disastrous marriage that only lasted a week. [[spoiler:She's in the process of working through it so she and Neal can build a relationship when she's killed in the season 1 finale]].
* ''Series/VeronicaMars'':
** Mac describes herself as "frozen from the waist down" since a traumatic episode. She and her boyfriend had planned a special night to lose their virginity together. Just before the event, she takes a shower while he waits in bed for her. When she comes out of the shower, he is gone. [[spoiler:It turns out that he is a serial killer and rapist, and he left to kill Veronica because she had figured out he was the culprit]]. He takes her clothes, too, so she can't follow him, resulting in Veronica finding Mac crying and wrapped in a bedsheet.
** Mac's boyfriend [[spoiler:Beaver]] wouldn't do anything more than hold hands anyway, because of [[spoiler: his molestation as a child]]. However, she subsequently seems to get over this fairly easily, with little on-screen explanation.
* Dougal in ''Series/FatherTed'' is visibly uncomfortable around women except for Mrs Doyle or older nuns, and shows genuine fear when he believes a strange woman may have entered the house. It's implied that a fear of women was his primary motivation for entering the priesthood, as he's shown to be uninterested in the tenets of Catholicism, and effectively an atheist in his personal beliefs.
* Series/{{Dexter}} deliberately dates a woman with this issue because it suits him down to the ground--he wants [[TheBeard a relationship for passing as normal]] and grows to enjoy the emotional connection, but they are both effectively {{asexual}} at first and that's just the way he likes it. While Dexter does have a sex drive, he's afraid of himself (he's a serial killer, and sometimes get aroused by thoughts of murder and such) and he's also afraid that his girlfriend will see through his facade if they get intimate. He's also faintly repulsed by intimacy (in the novel, deeply repulsed, and also pretty much despises Rita, but they made the TV character much more relatable), and every previous sexual encounter has resulted in his ability to fake normality being totally blown out of the water, since he's emotionally abnormal and spends most of his life going through the motions. [[LateArrivalSpoiler This does not work very well for sex]]. She eventually starts to get over her trauma and get her sex drive back, and with some work they eventually manage to build a functioning sex life together because he does get inadvertently attached to her...and then his emotional life gets a shake-up courtesy of the Season One antagonist and his mind games. In the books it's implied the only reason he and Rita can have a sex life is because she's so damaged from her abusive ex-husband, she can't tell that he's not "doing it right".
* Series/{{Monk}}, due to his severe OCD. Also, he still regards himself as "married", although his wife was killed ten years before.
* Liz Lemon in the ''Series/ThirtyRock'' episode "Reaganing." Generally, Liz always had a disinterest in sex. After a few seasons, it was {{Flanderized}} into this trope.
** For context, in the episode it is revealed that [[spoiler: when Liz was young, she was riding her rollerskates around the house, when she needed to use the restroom. She tried to use the restroom with her skates still on, but lost her balance and her mother found her on the floor with her underwear down covered in a Music/TomJones poster. Assuming [[ADateWithRosiePalms the worst]], her mother tore down all the posters of the men she liked in her room, leading Liz to proclaim that "Sex makes the people go away!"]]
* ''Series/{{Glee}}'':
** Emma is afraid due to cleanliness SuperOCD and HatesBeingTouched.
** A less extreme example would be Kurt in the second season. As of ''Sexy'', the thought of sex makes him incredibly uncomfortable, preferring to focus purely on romance. Played with in that he didn't appear to have much of a problem with it during season one--but then, after [[WhamEpisode "Never Been Kissed"]]... It is also important to note that at his age, it is ''perfectly normal'' not to feel like you are ready for sex. Everyone develops at a different pace. (As of "The First Time" he's gotten over it.)
* Raj in ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' goes completely silent the moment an attractive girl is around or is talking directly to him. He is painfully shy around attractive women. He literally [[CannotTalkToWomen can't talk to women]]. He still manages to have sex with one early in season one, though, even before he realizes that he can talk to women if he's drunk.
* [[SoapOpera Soaps]] and other TV dramas like to churn this out whenever a character is raped:
** ''Series/GeneralHospital'''s Karen chalked this up to typical virginal nervousness until she remembered being molested by a boyfriend of her mother's.

* The Music/PetShopBoys song "It's A Sin" is about the way a domineering Catholic upbringing will instil this in you.

* ''Theatre/CyranoDeBergerac'': At Act I Scene V, Cyrano confesses to Le Bret that the only thing he fears in the world is that Roxane will laugh at him when he confesses his love for her. At Act V Scene VI, Cyrano confesses that he feared to be mocked by women, implying that he is a CelibateHero. This trope is justified [[FreudianExcuse because in his childhood]], [[TheGrotesque given his enormous nose]], [[MommyIssues Cyrano felt that his mom did not love him]]. The whole idea of being capable of being loved is strange to him.
-->'''Le Bret:''' Her heart, her fancy, are already caught!\\
Put it to th' touch!\\
'''Cyrano:''' That she may mock my face?\\
''That is the one thing on this earth I fear!''
* Anne in ''Theatre/ALittleNightMusic'', which is why she is still a virgin despite having been married 11 months.
* Presumably Moritz in ''Theatre/SpringAwakening''.
* Marsden in ''Theatre/StrangeInterlude''.

[[folder:Video Games]]
* Psycho Mantis in ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolid'', who wears bondage gear and has a disgusted fascination with sexuality, but finds the thought of sex traumatic due to having mind-read the [[FetishRetardant sexual fantasies of]] [[AMindIsATerribleThingToRead everyone he's come]] [[DirtyMindReading into contact with]].
* Laharl from ''VideoGame/{{Disgaea}}'' has a rather extreme aversion to sexy women and all talk of sexual things. In fact, one villain takes advantage of this by stocking his side with [[HornyDevils succubi]] and barely-dressed {{Cat Girl}}s, which actually [[GameplayAndStoryIntegration halves Laharl's stats]] for that level.

[[folder:Web Comics]]
* The entire premise of the {{Yaoi}} webcomic ''14 Nights'' seems to be to cure one of its main characters of this. The comic has gotten better about this lately, placing said character squarely in this trope. He genuinely desires a sexual relationship with his boyfriend, but his mind goes to [[FanDisservice very]] [[FetishRetardant ugly]] [[{{Squick}} places]] all too easily. Disassociating sex from {{Squick}} is his much-desired endgame.
* Hannelore in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'' is terrified of ''any'' physical contact with others, but particularly sexual contact, due to her severe OCD and germophobia. She definitely [[CovertPervert shows interest in the subject]], though.
* Ruby of ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' works through this problem. She has problems with sexuality, and is initially [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/turn_around prone to paralysis]]. However, after she's been exposed to a few sexual scenes, it becomes very clear that she finds {{guy on guy|IsHot}} ''very'' hot, and she moves from total paralysis to [[SelectiveObliviousness deep denial]], while [[http://www.stickydillybuns.com/strips-sdb/very_very_wrong finding more excuses to look]]. Eventually, when her boyfriend (she thinks) proposes sex, [[CharacterDevelopment she decides to go for it--nervously, but not unwillingly]].
* In the Webcomic/WalkyVerse:
** Joyce in ''Webcomic/ItsWalky'' starts out like this. She eventually relaxes somewhat, and after getting engaged and losing her virginity, realizes how silly her fear was. She thereafter has an emotionally healthy and (very!) active sex life with her fiancé, much to the delight [[IWantGrandkids of her mother]].
** A similar arc presents itself in ''Webcomic/DumbingOfAge'', where she's quite happy about being in a relationship with [[StraightGay Ethan]]--she's afraid of her lusts, and he has no interest in pushing her for sex.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Harbourmaster}}'', Governor Tal Monteblanc is deeply uncomfortable with sexuality and physical intimacy, to the point that [[http://www.waywardmartian.com/harbourmaster1/002-007.html he can't even offer a perfectly chaste comforting hug]].
* Tina Maxwell of ''Webcomic/NineteenNinetySomething'' is a MoralGuardian of the [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tipper_Gore#Politics_and_activism Tipper Gore]] stripe (turned UpToEleven), who believes any and all portrayals of intimacy are evil and must be stamped out. She tends to get a panicky, manic expression and quickly changes the subject whenever one of her kids asks her anything about sex (up to and including "Why are you freaking out about this?")

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* On ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}},'' one of the last episodes revolves around [[TheSnarkKnight Daria]] wondering if she should have sex with [[TallDarkAndSnarky Tom]]; she ultimately can't go through with it, finding the thought of [[HatesBeingTouched so much physical contact]] to be too overwhelming. Tom, for the record, is fine with this; Daria was the one who worried that not having sex made their relationship deficient.
** Interestingly, it's strongly {{Implied}} that [[LovableLibby Quinn]] has this too. She dates every attractive or popular boy possible, but is never seen physically affectionate with them, and in one episode claims she won't slow-dance until the fifth date. She was also extremely freaked out when she thought that Daria and Tom actually had slept together.

[[folder:Real Life]]
* This can be caused by disorders of varying severity, such as [[http://www.minddisorders.com/Py-Z/Sexual-aversion-disorder.html Sexual Aversion Disorder]] and [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid Schizoid Personality Disorder]]. It can also be a symptom of [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorder Histrionic Personality Disorder]]; though such people often ''act'' highly sexualized in their manners, interactions, dress sense etc., this is only because it gets them attention and masks their insecurities, and actual physical intimacy with another person might terrify them.
* Men who were brought up with the belief that SexIsEvil and a woman who had sex is DefiledForever, can take this to the logical conclusion that having sex with women is disrespectful in and of itself. See page quote. If it is deeply ingrained, being told that SexIsGood may not be enough to fix the problem.
* Can be a non-physical cause of [[TheLoinsSleepTonight erectile dysfunction]], and its DistaffCounterpart [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus vaginismus]].
* Gay and bi people who were brought up with the belief that same-gender attraction is wrong can end up like this due to [[InternalizedCategorism internalized homophobia]].