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->''"Given how long it's taken me to reconcile my nature, I can't figure I'd forgo it on your account, Marty."''
-->-- '''Rust''', ''Series/TrueDetective''

Often a character will have an aspect of himself of which he's ashamed (or that society insists he should be). It might have something to do with his heritage, such as being [[HeroicBastard illegitimately born]], {{half|HumanHybrid}}-[[OurDemonsAreDifferent demon]] or [[InTheBlood some other inheritance considered unfortunate by society]]. It might have something to do with [[AcceptableLifestyleTargets his lifestyle]]--he's gay, or geeky, or [[CollectorOfTheStrange he collects]] [[BreadEggsMilkSquick belly button lint]]. Maybe he was forced into an EmergencyTransformation which he can't undo, and he's [[StagesOfMonsterGrief been bemoaning]] "WhatHaveIBecome" Or maybe it's an obstacle he faces, like being handicapped, dyslexic or [[TheMcCoy incapable of thinking rationally]]. Could even be a matter [[LoveTropes of love]]. Whatever the issue is, expect the character at some point to receive an epiphany that leads to him embracing whatever makes him different.

Often leads to a SugarWiki/MomentOfAwesome, an InUniverseCatharsis, AnAesop, or all of the above. If in a musical, expect a whole song to be given over to this, and it may be a {{Dark|Reprise}} or TriumphantReprise of the IWantSong. May result in a character repairing [[HouseOfBrokenMirrors broken mirrors and defaced pictures of themselves]]. Due to its nature as a characterization trope that signals self-acceptance, confidence, and a certain degree of enlightenment, not to mention vanquishing inner demons, may be a rather spoilery trope. Where the character decides they're happy being a monster (although often DarkIsNotEvil) see FullyEmbracedFiend.

The TropeNamer is the eponymous song from ''Theatre/LaCageAuxFolles''. The song is by a professional drag queen who sings about how he is not ashamed of who he is, and it has become very popular in the gay rights movement.

Compare ItsWhatIDo and IAmNotHim. If someone else needs to learn this lesson, they may be advised, "BeYourself."

Not to be confused with IAmSpartacus or IAmWho. Or "I am ''Who'' I am", which is the best translation that scholars can find for YHWH, the name of the Judeo-Christian God (the context of that quote isn't really an example of this trope either way).


[[folder:Anime and Manga]]
* ''Manga/DragonBallZ'':
--> '''[[IdiotHero Goku]]''': "I am the Saiyan sent to Earth as a baby to defeat you [Freeza]. Despite my quiet exterior, [[BewareTheNiceOnes my calm heart has]] [[TranquilFury been awakened by rage]]. '''I am the [[SuperMode Super Saiyan]], Son Goku!'''"
* Renton in ''Anime/EurekaSeven'' says this a lot, especially as he tried to climb out of his father's shadow early in the series.
* ''LightNovel/KyoKaraMaoh'' is full of people with subtextual identity issues. The two surviving members of the HalfHumanHybrid Rutenburg division make a study in contrasts on this point:
** Yozak is the cheerful, improbably competent, muscled, crossdressing red-headed spy who seems incredibly at home in his own skin, though some of that ''might'' be coping mechanism. His mother died and he spent his childhood (i.e. about thirty years) starving because of the customary ostracizing of anyone with half-Mazoku children in Shimaron, and he harbors some resentment against Mazoku for their less virulent but still racist treatment of half-bloods. At any rate, he is very IAmWhatIAm by this point in his life.
** His best friend and captain Conrad, though, is "the perfect guy," probably the best swordsman in the world, of practically royal lineage on both sides but unable to hold any rank higher than 'sir', gives off the creepiest StepfordSmiler vibes sometimes, especially when explaining without rancor about some other shitty thing, and has apparently, his entire life, needed to have someone else to base that entire life around. When he was a kid, he had a BigBrotherInstinct around Wolfram. After Wolfram rejected him for being half human, he eventually attached himself to Julia. After Julia died, Shinou arranged for him to [[spoiler: transport her soul to Earth and make sure that the baby it became was born safely]]. And after that, his whole reason for being is Yuuri.
* Setsuna Sakurazaki from ''Manga/MahouSenseiNegima''. She's not particularly ashamed of the fact that she's [[HalfHumanHybrid half-tengu]] and therefore [[WingPull can sprout wings at will]], but she ''is'' ashamed of the fact that said wings are white rather than black (it's hinted she may be albino), which marked her as a instant outcast of her demon tribe. Never mind the fact that her TrueCompanions think [[FreakinessShame that the wings are awesome]] and that she looks like an angel.
* In ''Manga/MidnightSecretary'', Kyouhei at first considers his vampiric side the most important thing that defines him. However, later in-series when he gets called out by other vampires on how low he has fallen, he claims that it doesn't matter what he does; he is ''he'' and that he's a vampire no matter what. [[spoiler:He also claims that he doesn't want to be bound, but realizes that his own pride made it so.]]
* ''Anime/NeonGenesisEvangelion'':
-->'''Shinji:''' I hate myself...\\
'''Shinji, Asuka, and Misato:''' ...But maybe I can learn to love myself.\\
'''Shinji:''' Maybe it's okay for me to be here! That's right! I'm me, nothing more, nothing less! I'm me. I want to be me! I want to be here! And it's okay for me to be here!
** [[GainaxEnding "Congratulations!"]]
* ''Manga/OnePiece'':
** Usopp gets this a lot.
** Robin at Enies Lobby.
** Ace in the War at Marineford Arc finally comes to terms with his heritage as [[spoiler:the son of Gold Roger. Too bad he dies soon after.]]
* ''Anime/TengenToppaGurrenLagann'' combines this with HesBack, in the shape of a BadassBoast:
-->'''[[KidHero Simon]]:''' "Just who the hell do you think I am? I'm Simon. I'm not my bro. I am ME! ''Simon the Digger!''"
* As of [[spoiler: the defeat of the Impure King]] ''Manga/BlueExorcist'''s [[AntiAntiChrist Rin]] has accepted his HellFire and heritage as the [[{{Satan}} Son of Satan]]. Unfortunately, others aren't so ready to agree with him...
* Inori in ''Anime/GuiltyCrown'' accepts that as long as she can protect Shu, she doesn't care if [[spoiler:she was just created to be the host for Mana's soul]].
* [[spoiler:Kabuto]] of ''Manga/{{Naruto}}'' came to believe that his existence was a lie and so he reshaped himself into a different person to escape that lie. [[spoiler:Itachi]] trapped him in an EpiphanicPrison which Kabuto only escaped when he accepted his original life.
* William of ''LightNovel/LogHorizon'' and his fellow guild members all came [[DespairEventHorizon close to giving up on raiding]] because each death forced them to face all of their personal failings and weaknesses. After the [[TotalPartyKill worst death yet]] he began [[DespairSpeech a rant about his weaknesses]], but his acceptance of them and refusal to just give up turned it into a RousingSpeech for his entire guild.
* In the manga of ''Manga/SailorMoon'', the character arcs of the various Sailor Soldiers include this.
** Sadistically {{Deconstructed}} with Minako in [[Manga/CodenameSailorV her solo manga]], as finally accepting she is and always will be Sailor Venus comes with her, the Goddess of Love, realizing [[MarriedToTheJob she'll always put her mission above her love life]], and [[spoiler:killing her true love because he was with the Dark Kingdom and wouldn't stand down when she told him to.]]

* Too many characters to count among Marvel Comics [[ComicBook/XMen X-titles]] and mutant spin-offs. Whether hero or villain, whether their ability has inconvenient side or not, whether angsty over it or taking it in stride, before, during or after an about-face (or about-heel) and back, almost every one has an IAmWhatIAm moment at some time.
* When Bane reappeared at the Battle for Metropolis and killed the original Judomaster during ''ComicBook/InfiniteCrisis'', this originally seemed out of place, as he had last been seen with a clean slate after the events of "Veritas Liberat". In the collected edition, he is given this dialogue:
--> Bane: I finally know who I am. I am 'Bane'. I ''break'' people.


[[folder: Fan Works]]
* This is what [[KungFuWizard Kirei]] [[DesperatelyLookingForAPurposeInLife Kotomine]] in ''Fanfic/FateZeroSanity'' does when he comes to terms with his [[EvilFeelsGood desire to watch the suffering of others]]. He accepts this part of himself, though he still does his best to curb its influence. [[spoiler: It just took [[BackFromTheDead coming back from the dead]] and making a [[WhatYouAreInTheDark life-changing decision to get there]].]]


[[folder:Film - Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Balto}}'': Balto spends the first half of the movie angsting over his half-wolf heritage, but then buckles down and uses his ?wolf powers? to [[spoiler:save the sled team and get the medicine to town]].
* ''Disney/{{Dumbo}}'': Dumbo is teased for having abnormally big ears, which are what later enable him to fly. As his friend Timothy Mouse puts it, "The very things that kept you down are gonna carry you up and up and up!"
* This is perhaps the main moral behind ''WesternAnimation/TheNightmareBeforeChristmas''. Jack Skelington, the Pumpkin King, had become bored and dreary with scaring and longed for something more. After discovering Christmas and attempting to take a shot at it, only to fail miserably, he has a BSODSong which leads to up to this trope:
--> ''Well, what the heck! I went and did my best! And by god, I really tasted something swell! And for a moment, why, I even touched the sky! And at least I left some stories they can tell, I did! And for the first time since I don't remember when, I felt just like my old boney self again! And I, Jack, the Pumpkin King...That's right. I'' '''AM''' ''THE PUMPKIN KING! HA! HA! HA! HA!''
* ''WesternAnimation/KungFuPanda'':
--> '''Tai Lung:''' You cannot defeat me... You're just a big... fat... panda!
--> '''Po:''' I'm not a big fat panda. I'm [[SpellMyNameWithAThe THE big fat panda!]]
** And then in ''WesternAnimation/KungFuPanda2'':
--> '''Po:''' I am Po. [[ItMakesSenseInContext And I'm gonna need a hat.]]
** [[RuleofThree And then again in]] WesternAnimation/KungFuPanda3. Two in fact, with the first one, [[spoiler:where the village of pandas plus Ping and Tigress have theirs while channeling chi to Po, and Po has his after obtaining his GoldenSuperMode.]]
-->[[spoiler:'''Kai''']]: Who are you?
-->'''Po''': I've been asking the same question. Am I the son of a panda? The son of a goose? A student? A teacher? Turns out I'm all of them. '''''[[BadassBoast I AM THE DRAGON WARRIOR!]]''''' [[spoiler:[[MoodWhiplash Get it? See the giant dragon?]]]]
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Ratatouille}}'':
--> '''Django''': Where are you going?
--> '''Rémy''': Back to the restaurant! They'll fail without me!
--> '''Django''': Why do you care?
--> '''Rémy''': Because ''I'm a cook!''
* ''Disney/{{Frozen}}'': After spending her life trying to conceal her [[AnIcePerson ice powers]], Elsa finally comes to terms with herself and her powers, resulting in CrowningMusicOfAwesome:
--> '''Elsa''': Let it go, let it go/Can't hold it back anymore...
* All throughout ''WesternAnimation/TheSpongebobSquarepantsMovie'', [=SpongeBob=] is told that he is JustAKid. After his harrowing journey, he realizes that "no amount of mermaid magic, or managerial promotion, [[RuleOfThree or some other third thing]] can make me any more than what I really am inside - a kid," and that he is OK with it because he managed to do what nobody believed he could for this reason. And then he unleashes ThePowerOfRock.
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Popeye}}'': Popeye uses this phrase as a CatchPhrase, mangled by his usual pronunskiation: ''"I yam whats I yam, and dat's all wot I yam"''. Probably the TropeCodifier
* In ''WesternAnimation/CloudyWithAChanceOfMeatballs'', Sam reveals to Flint that she was teased for being a nerd as a child, so she changed her look and [[ObfuscatingStupidity hid her smarts behind a bubbly ditz personality]]. Flint not only gets her to reclaim her nerdiness, but to revert to her earlier [[NerdGlasses glasses]]-and-ponytail style.
-->'''Flint''': I mean, this is the real you, right? Smart, bespectacled...who wouldn't want to see that?
* A villainous example in ''Franchise/WallaceAndGromit: WesternAnimation/TheCurseOfTheWereRabbit'' where [[EgomaniacHunter Victor Quartermaine]] says this to Lady Tottington in regards to killing rabbits.
* ''Disney/WreckItRalph'' has the Bad-Anon Creed: "I am bad, and that's good. I will never be good, and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me." Repeated at the end, it becomes a combination Tearjerker and CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming when it's implied [[spoiler: he feels proud of being a hero in Vanellope's eyes, even if the rest of the world views him as a villain]].

[[folder:Film - Live Action]]
* ''Film/KingdomOfHeaven'': A dark example. Raynaud de Chatillon has been shown to be an amoral KnightTemplar (literally) throughout the movie before he's thrown in jail. He's eventually released, and the first thing he does is slaughter a Muslim caravan. Even he seems depressed by this, saying, "I am what I am. Someone has to be."
* One of Max's last actions in the movie ''Film/{{Bent}}'' is taking off his shirt and replacing it with a blood stained shirt with a pink triangle sewn onto it, to finally show pride in himself against the Nazis. [[spoiler: Then he kills himself.]]
* That's the main motive behind ''Film/ABetterTomorrow''. Initially, Mark is convinced that gangsters like him can't really change their ways and run an honest life, and at one point even scolds about it his former boss Ho, who is trying to do just that. But later on, Mark acknowledges the fact that only by taking their destinies straight in their hands, people can really call themselves free, and even [[spoiler:ends up being killed while lecturing Ho's brother (who is a cop and quite the InspectorJavert of the situation) on the goodness of Ho's efforts.]]
* ''Film/TheColorPurple'': "I might be ugly, black, and dumb, but I'm still here!"
* ''Film/PlanesTrainsAndAutomobiles'': Del Griffith delivers an incredibly touching rebuttal to Neil Page's tirade about him, which may be the perfect rebuttal to any TheReasonYouSuckSpeech:
-->'''Del:''' You wanna hurt me? Go right ahead if it makes you feel any better. I'm an easy target. Yeah, you're right, I talk too much. I also listen too much. I could be a cold-hearted cynic like you... but I don't like to hurt people's feelings. Well, you think what you want about me; I'm not changing. I like... I like me. My wife likes me. My customers like me. 'Cause I'm the real article. What you see is what you get.
** Note Del's very brief hesitation before saying "My wife likes me;" it's a beautifully subtle touch from actor John Candy as well as some rather tragic foreshadowing to the reveal that [[spoiler:[[TearJerker his wife actually passed away years ago]]]].
* Frederick in ''Film/YoungFrankenstein'', after confronting his creation, he tells him how wonderful he is and promises to show that to the entire world, embracing his heritage at last.
-->'''Inga:''' Dr. Fronk-on-steen! Are you all right?
-->'''Frederick:''' ''My name is FRANKENSTEIN!''
* Mystique. From ''Film/XMenFirstClass'', [[MeaningfulEcho "Mutant and proud".]]
* When the "Rig family" reach the lands of Vuvalini in ''Film/MadMaxFuryRoad'', Furiosa introduces herself with her whole tribal lineage. This is probably the first time in the last 20 years when she fully acknowledges her origins and starts reconnecting with her past.
* Averted in ''The Naked Spur'' (1953). BountyHunter Kemp drags the dead body of outlaw Vandergroat out of the river after his partner has been killed trying to drag it across the river. When Lina gives him a WhatTheHellHeroSpeech Kemp gives this trope, but eventually decides to put his past behind him and go on to another life with her.
* ''Film/CitizenKane'': Strangely, this trope is inverted in this movie when two characters come to terms to the fact that they canít be the men they once wanted to be, and then they have their InUniverseCatharsis.
** When he is forced to give up the control of his empire, Kane reflects that, in an inversion of ICouldaBeenAContender, all his advantages had stolen his chance as true greatness.
--->'''Kane:''' ''You know, Mr. Bernstein, [[ICouldaBeenAContender if I hadn't been very rich, I might have been a really great man]]''.\\
'''Thatcher:''' ''Don't you think you are?''\\
'''Kane:''' ''I think I did pretty well, under the circumstances.''\\
'''Thatcher:''' ''What would you like to have been?''\\
'''Kane:''' ''Everything you hate''.
** When 'Boss' Jim W. Gettys tries to BlackMail Kane, he admits that even when he is the archetype of the SleazyPolitician, [[EvenEvilHasStandards even he has more standards ]] than Kane.
--->'''Kane:''' In case you don't know, Emily - this - this gentleman - (Kane puts a world of scorn into the Word) is - \\
''' 'Boss' Jim W. Gettys:''' ''I'm not a gentleman, Mrs. Kane, and your husband is just trying to be funny calling me one. I don't even know what a gentleman is.'' (Tensely, with all the hatred and venom in the world) ''You see, my idea of a gentleman, Mrs. Kane - well, if [[IntrepidReporter I owned a newspaper and if I didn't like the way somebody else was doing things - some politician, say - I'd fight them with everything I had]]. Only I wouldn't show him in a convict suit, with stripes Ė [[DontTellMama so his children could see the picture in the paper. Or his mother]]''. (He has to control himself from hurling himself at Kane) ''It's pretty clear - I'm not a gentleman''.


* ''Literature/JaneEyre'': Jane decides that, if she has to live without friends and without love to keep her self-respect, she will do so. That is her nature, not to compromise, and she will be true to it: "the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself."
* This phrase and variants of it are repeated throughout the first book of the ''Literature/SwordOfTruth'' series, usually after one character or another laments that they wish they were someone else, who didn't have to worry about their magic or saving the world..
* ''Literature/{{Discworld}}'':
** In ''Discworld/TheWeeFreeMen'', Tiffany Aching overcomes the Fairy Queen with the very selfishness the Queen taunted her for when she realizes she's willing to fight for the things that are hers. Then she lays claim to the entire land.
** In ''Discworld/TheAmazingMauriceAndHisEducatedRodents'', Spider berates Dangerous Beans for having the gall to dream of living in the manner of humans, reminding him that he is a rat. Dangerous Beans considers this, and acknowledges that, yes, he ''is'' a rat ... but he ''also'' declares that he is not ''vermin''.
* ''Literature/ForgottenRealms'':
** Drizzt, once he stops apologizing for [[MySpeciesDothProtestTooMuch being a drow.]]
** Galaeron Nihmedu. First, he suffers from prejudices as a sorcerer, then he's cut off the Weave (one of worst fates for an elf) and others see him almost as {{undead}}. But once he regains control over himself, he does what's right for him and neither reacts to cold reception nor {{wangst}}s himself out.
* This is a dominant theme of ''Literature/TheSpeedOfDark'' by Creator/ElizabethMoon, which is told from the viewpoint of an autistic character. That said, given the choice in the end of whether to undergo surgery that will cure them, not all of them will end up choosing alike.
%% * Some of the characters from ''Literature/TheMortalInstruments''; the obvious one being Alec being gay. Also maybe Jace and Clary with their father.
* ''Literature/TheBible'': In The Book of Exodus, {{God}} famously responds to Moses asking Him for His name with something we can't quite translate into English - it's often rendered as "I AM WHAT I AM" or "I WILL BE WHAT I WILL BE". In doing so [[BadassBoast his God proclaims that He is beyond mere names]] and references the Hebrews' (sacred) placeholder-name for their technically-nameless God, YHWH (lit. "that which was, is, and will be"). Another translation of the line (quoted in ''Film/{{Dogma}}'') is "I AM HE WHO IS CALLED 'I AM'."
** This can also be interpreted as God saying that as He's the only one, he doesn't need a specific name. If there was only one tree in the entire universe, we'd just call it "the tree", not a fig tree or a birch tree or anything of the sort. [[note]]This is pretty much the reason why in English His name is generally just considered to be "God" and any other deity is termed "a god." The capitalization is important. Most of the other names there are for Him are either descriptors, poetic or both. This is a rather inconvenient bit of shorthand cultural baggage basically built into English for those people who aren't Christian. If you refer to "God" without a qualifier, most people will jump to a vaguely Christian conclusion.[[/note]]
* From [[Literature/TheBible the same Source]] is an arguable contender for the TropeNamer. Paul, while addressing the Church of Corinth, explains the simple origins of faith and the ideas around which the Gospel is shaped. He describes the humble salvation of the twelve disciples and then his own, giving us this piece:
--> ''[[HeelFaceTurn Then last of all He was seen by me also]], [[EnsembleDarkHorse as by one born out of due time]].''\\
''[[HeelRealization For I am the least of the apostles, who am not worthy to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God]]. [[BeYourself But by the grace of God]] [[TropeCodifier I am what I am]], and His grace toward me was not in vain; [[ItsWhatIDo but I laboured more abundantly than they all]], [[ThinkNothingOfIt yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me]].''\\
''[[Literature/TheBible I Corinthians 15:8-10]]'' ''NKJV''
* In one fantasy short story, God tells the modern world (by having every single broadcast radio and TV signal at the same time announce it) to justify humanity's continued existence within a short deadline. After the U.S. government puts in every known fact into a computer, the computer gives them the name of someone to talk to. When they talk to him, he thinks for a few minutes and replies with the (slightly adjusted) Bible quote above. "We are what we are".
* The following exchange from ''Literature/NightWatch'' between the Light Other Anton and the the Dark One Zavulon:
---> '''Anton:''' "Zavulon, you are the spawn of darkness."
---> '''Zavulon:''' "Indeed, I am. But only that darkness that was inside me."
* In V. Gor's ''Demon'' series of novels, a human brain copes with the dogfighting in space all right, the problem is the body housing said brain. A few planets start searching for volunteers to undergo augmentation.
** The eponymous Demons are said volunteers for whom the BioAugmentation worked properly, including a few who were successfully treated for the various PsychoSerum side effects.
** The Devils are former rejects from the Demon project. The project was considered a mixed blessing at best as a significant number of volunteers became {{SuperSoldier}}s without the desired piloting skills. They became the dedicated ground force for the war to free the far more valuable pilots from planetside action.
** The Ares project claimed to replace human pilots with a superior AI. [[spoiler: Since no known AI can handle space combat, the unscrupulous scientists simply took both volunteers and rejects from society and [[BrainInAJar encased their brains on life support in the ships]].]] \\
\ Demons and Devils are fertile, but only among themselves, effectively becoming new humanoid species. All three groups, Demons, Devils, and Ares fighters, slowly come to realize and accept that their aren't human anymore. Avoiding both ProHumanTranshuman and TranshumanTreachery, they pledge their loyalty to the Demons' native planets only.
* Lucifer, from ''Literature/TheTragedyOfMan'': "I cannot give anything other than my being." - that is, a scathing criticism of creation, to {{God}}. It didn't end well.
* In ''Literature/{{Worm}}'', [[VillainProtagonist Taylor]], after [[spoiler:failing to prevent the end of the world]], admits to herself that she is a hypocrite, selfish, and occasionally short-sighted in spite of her attempts to be better, coming to terms with these parts of herself.
-->''Iím just a little bit of a monster.''

[[folder: Live-Action TV ]]
* In an episode of ''Series/RedDwarf'', Kryten the android becomes human. At first he's thrilled, because mechanoids tend to view humans as awesome. As he starts belittling his origins and insulting his spare heads, he starts to realize that he can't change what he is inside; an android who can't tell the difference between Popeye and Descartes. Also, it provides this funny moment:
-->'''Human Kryten''' (Hands Lister a Poloroid photograph of his penis): Is that normal?
-->'''Lister:''' What, taking pictures of it and showing it to your mates? No, it's ''not''."
* Spike in ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''. "I may be love's bitch, but at least ''I'm'' man enough to admit it."
* Parodied in ''Series/TheCatherineTateShow''. Jamie, fed up with his grandmother constantly criticising and swearing at people, says in despair "Why are you like this?" She responds by launching into a rendition of "I Am What I Am" from ''La Cage aux Folles''.
* Spock throughout ''Series/{{Star Trek|The Original Series}}''. He even addresses it word-for-word in "This Side of Paradise":
-->'''Spock''': I am what I am, [[GirlOfTheWeek Leila]], and if there are self-made purgatories, then we all have to live in them. Mine can be no worse than someone else's.
* One episode of ''Series/PushingDaisies'' has Ned say that he's not sorry or ashamed about [[{{Necromancy}} what he does]], because "it's what brought everyone I love into my life".
* Kurt from ''Series/{{Glee}}'': He decides he's not afraid to be who he is, and tells his father that he's proud to be who he is, and that he won't hide in the closet.
* ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'': Three words, "I'm. The. Todd"
* In episode seven of ''Series/GameOfThrones'', the MagnificentBastard Petyr Baelish describes to a couple of his "[[PaidHarem employees]]" the epiphany he had in regards to this trope after getting defeated in a duel, saying, "I learned that I'll never win, not that way. That's their game. Their rules. I'm not going to fight them. I'm going to fuck them. That is what I know. That's what I am." Rather than try to be a warrior, he vows to be TheChessmaster.
* In the season 3 premiere of ''Series/BreakingBad'', Jesse, [[spoiler:blaming himself for the death of Jane and the airplane crash that her distracted father accidentally caused]], tells Walter, "It's all about accepting who you really are. I accept who I am. I'm the bad guy."
* ''Series/VeronicaMars'': Invoked word for word in response to people sometimes calling her out on her role in upheaving people's lives (she's a private investigator - and naturally nosey).
* ''Series/MotherAndSon'' has a variant, in the context of Arthur being MistakenForGay:
-->'''Arthur''': It's just what people are! Some people are and some people aren't. But it doesn't matter whether they are or they aren't because they are what they are.
-->'''Maggie''': ...What?
-->'''Arthur''': I am what I am, and as it happens I'm not. But even if I was, I'd be what I'd be. But I'd still be what I am.


* ''Music/{{Eminem}}'': "I am whatever you say I am! If I wasn't, then why would I SAY I am?! In the paper, the news EVERYDAY I am! I don't know, that's just the way I am."
* The song "What I Am" by Edie Brickell and the New Bohemians ("What I am, is what I am, is what you are or what"); referenced in the Music/ArethaFranklin song "A Rose is Still a Rose"
* "I'm Real" by Music/JenniferLopez (both the original, and the remix with Ja Rule).
* Music/TheBonzoDogBand had "What Do You Do".
--> ''I do what I do'',
--> ''I am what I am'',
--> ''We are what we are''
-->''We do what we can''!
* Meredith Brooks' song "Bitch" is all about this trope; the chorus proudly proclaims "I'm a bitch, I'm a lover," followed by several other contradictory attributes (Child/mother, sinner/saint) and announces "I do not feel ashamed!".
* Mercy Me's "No More, No Less."
* This is said by the narrator in the Music/AliceCooper song Fantasy Man
* Music/LadyGaga's single "Born This Way" (2011) from her second studio album of the same name.
-->''Don't hide yourself in regret \\
Just love yourself and you're set \\
I'm on the right track, baby \\
I was born this way''
* The ImagineDragons song "It's Time", about embracing who you really are and how it's impossible to do so, even when minor changes in your life are made.
-->''"It's time to begin,\\
Isn't it, I get a little bit bigger, but then,\\
I'll admit, I'm just the same as I was,\\
Now don't you understand?\\
That I'm never changing who I am."''
* "I'm Mee, I'm Now, An That's Orl" by Music/Slade :
-->''Everybody's tellin' us that we're insane, \\
Anything goes wrong, we always get the blame. \\
We know what they're thinkin' when they ladies' winkin', \\
Sure must count for somethin' if they know our name! \\
'Cause I'm me, I'm now, and that's all! \\
Yeah I'm me, I'm now, and that's all!''
* "Let Me Be," written by P. F. Sloan, a 1960's hit from The Turtles.
-->''Let me be, let me be\\
To think like I want to\\
Let me be, let me be\\
That's all I ask of you\\
I am what I am\\
And that's all I ever can be''
* Music/PearlJam's "I Am Mine", where the singer is reassuring himself to find some peace of mind (it's the first song Eddie Vedder wrote after nine fans accidentally died during a festival concert).
-->The North is to South what the clock is to time\\
There's east and there's west and there's everywhere life\\
I know I was born and I know that I'll die\\
The in between is mine\\
I am mine
* Music/SamanthaFish's "Wild Heart" is about a woman who is in love with a man, but needs him to stop trying to change her.
-->How many times do you have to see if you can tame\\
The one you can't tie down\\
The one who needs you now\\
Oh baby, why can't I get you out of my wild heart?

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* ''Radio/APrairieHomeCompanion'': Lake Wobegon's town motto, according to Garrison Keillor, is the plural form of this: "Sumus quod sumus, we are what we are"



* Creator/WilliamShakespeare's works:
** Don John, the villain of ''Theatre/MuchAdoAboutNothing'' makes an introductory speech in which he tells his henchmen that he's being a {{Jerkass}} because he is, in fact, a {{Jerkass}} and has decided not to fight what he is.
** Richard III: "Since I cannot prove a lover, I am determined to prove a villain".
** When Iago of Shakespeare's ''Theatre/{{Othello}}'' says "I am not what I am" in a soliloquy, he means a couple of things. Firstly he's [[CardCarryingVillain telling us he's a manipulative bastard, and possibly a psychopath]] rather than the honest and reliable man the other characters think he is. Secondly, this statement also roughly equates to him saying that he is soulless and therefore daemonic. Iago is fine with this and he's quite happy admitting his true colours to himself and to us as the audience.
** The statement was actually code for the Shakespearean audience that Iago was saying he was the ''Devil'', since God's words were "I am what I am."
* ''Theatre/LaCageAuxFolles'': In the Act I finale, Albin, a professional drag queen, has learned his longtime partner and their adoptive son want him out of the way to avoid offending the son's conservative future in-laws. He sings the eponymous song in defiance, declaring that ''he'', at least, is not ashamed of who he is.
** The musical featured the TropeNamer, later covered by Music/GloriaGaynor:
--->''I am what I am and what I am needs no excuses...''
* Elphaba, in ''Theatre/{{Wicked}}'', sings 'Defying Gravity' as a realization of her own nature and her own standing in the world: she will never gain the love she's dreamed of and still be able to respect herself. She's hated being a witch, and she's tried not to be a witch, but it's her nature, and for the first time she really embraces it.
* Monsieur Madeleine, in ''Theatre/LesMiserables'', comes to accept who he was before and trusts in divine providence to come to the bar and say, "Who am I? I'm Jean Valjean!"
* In ''Theatre/{{Oliver}}'':
** Fagin seems to always come back to the IAmWhatIAm decision.
** Nancy is fully aware of the fact that Bill is a [[{{Jerkass}} complete bastard]], but she can't help [[AllGirlsWantBadBoys loving him]], complete with song. [[spoiler:And then, to top off the love fest, he kills her.]]
* ''Theatre/WestSideStory'': "I love him, I'm his, and everything he is I am too - I have a love, and it's all that I need, right or wrong - and he needs me too."
* ''Funny Girl:'' In a vein combining 'I Have a Love' with 'Defying Gravity' above, 'Don't Rain On My Parade' is Fanny Brice telling the rest of the Ziegfield follies, and Ziegfield himself, to go jump in a lake, because she knows what she wants and she's not going to let him get away.
* ''Theatre/ManOfLaMancha'':
** "I, Don Quixote" says it right in the title: "I am I, Don Quixote! the Lord of La Mancha..."
** His "fair lady Dulcinea" spits out the darkest possible version of an IAmWhatIAm song, saying that she is what she is: an unloved, unremembered whore who comes from a dog-eat-dog world and that's ''only'' way she can be, and all she deserves.
* ''Theatre/ShrekTheMusical'': Near the end of the show, during the titular character's TenMinuteRetirement, the various fairy tale characters exiled from the kingdom band together via the song "Freak Flag", wherein they embrace what makes them different from "normal" people, and decide to fight back against [[BigBad Farquaad]] themselves.
* ''Theatre/TheOddCouple'':
-->'''Oscar''': You mean you're not going to make any effort to change? This is the person you're going to be--until the day you die?\\
'''Felix''': We are what we are.
* In the 2013 stage adaptation of ''Theatre/CharlieAndTheChocolateFactory'', Willy Wonka has the song "Simply Second Nature", in which he explains that his strange confectionery creations are born of a desire to [[DoingItForTheArt create beautiful things]]; he cannot help but follow his muse, he happens to use sweets as his artistic medium, and he doesn't care if others find him strange for it.

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* ''KingdomHearts Chain of Memories'': Riku spends most of his side the work trying to fight his darkness. When he finally decides to use it to save himself, he's actually called out on it by one of the antagonists - and responds with a reworded version of this trope:
--> '''Zexion''': Heh... After all your protests you're still just another darkling.
--> '''Riku''': I know who I am.
* Every party member in ''VideoGame/{{Persona 4}}'' does this to obtain their Persona.
* ''VideoGame/MadWorld'': "I don't save people, I kill them."
* In the canon route of ''VideoGame/BlazeUnion'', Garlot has it dropped on him quite abruptly that [[IAmWho he's not who he thinks he is]]--as much as his mother tried to hide it from him, he's actually a pureblooded descendant of the demon Brongaa, and his real name is Gulcasa. As this comes in the middle of a brutal TraumaCongaLine, it would probably be forgivable for the poor kid to break down from the identity crisis... but he just accepts the truth calmly and then sets about trying to find a way to use his newfound power to protect people. At the very end of the game, he puts the spirit of this trope into words, but by then it really comes off as more of a TearJerker than anything else, as several people who meant a lot to him have utterly rejected him because of this.
* ''Franchise/SonicTheHedgehog series'':
** In ''VideoGame/SonicAdventure2'', Sonic gives one in response to Shadow's inquiry of what special kind of creature Sonic must be to have been able to conduct Chaos Control (especially notable as he did it with a '''fake''' Emerald, something Shadow views as impossible) and escape certain death from that explosion. Sonic's answer is the defining moment of his character: "What you see is what you get: just a guy that loves adventure. I'm Sonic the Hedgehog!"
** In ''VideoGame/ShadowTheHedgehog'', at the end of several story routes and especially the final, canon route Shadow states, "This is who I am!" when he is finally at peace with his (perceived) identity and has put the past behind him once and for all. Shadow comes to terms with the idea that he is a weapon designed by Gerald Robotnik, but he has decided that he can be so much more than just a weapon: with his powers, he will find a way to bring the people of the Earth happiness, just as Maria had hoped.
* ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolid'' series: One of the constant struggles for Solid Snake's character is that he has BloodKnight tendencies. Snake's father Big Boss and his brother Liquid remind him that inside of him there is a warrior spirit that loves to fight and that he should embrace it, and revel in the joys of battle. After a long internal struggle Snake does eventually come to terms with his love for violence and embraces his fighting nature, but tries his best to separate himself from the examples of his family by using his combat talents for good causes. As an outward sign of his internal struggle Snake gives non-lethal combat a chance in ''VideoGame/MetalGearSolid2SonsOfLiberty'', but eventually falls back into using lethal weaponry on the battlefield. Despite his attempts to do good Snake eventually despairs in the knowledge that he can't escape his violent nature and admits that he is a bad person at heart with an irredeemable killer nature. Snake actively protests the idealistic images people have of him being a hero simply because he stopped a few terrorist incidents, stating "I am no hero, never was. I am just an old killer."
* In the end of his optional introspection storyline in ''VideoGame/AssassinsCreedRevelations'', Desmond arrives to the realization: "My name is Desmond Miles. I am an Assassin. I ''am'' an Assassin." Notably, he has denied being an Assassin multiple times since game one.
* Terra in ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVI'' is at first terrified of the fact that [[spoiler:she's half human, half esper (basically a magical creature from another world).]] However, she comes to accept the fact that she is what she is, and uses it to try to [[spoiler:make peace with the espers, although Kefka ultimately ruins that.]]
* J, the leader of the Reaper Squad in ArmoredCore, is what is known as a "Cultivator": an artificially grown soldier cloned from the best pilots with no purpose other than to fight and [[MindUploading who has had their consciousness digitized]] and uploaded into an [[MiniMecha AC]]. With the massive war between the Three Great Powers finally ending, J realizes that his purpose is coming to end as well. He confronts the player in a final battle, admitting that "there is no place for me but the battlefield. To live as I please... and die a senseless death."


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* ''Webcomic/{{Erfworld}}'': [[http://www.erfworld.com/book-2-archive/?px=%2F2009-11-04.jpg Defiantly stated]] by Prince Ossomer, but he's not speaking about a flaw (as he sees it) -- he is stating his [[TheFettered principled opposition]] to Ansom and his anti-Royal rhetoric.
* The plot of ''Webcomic/{{Misfile}}'' is this trope meeting both GenderBender and ResetButton (for Ash and Emily respectively).
* ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'': In his StartOfDarkness, Xykon doesn't seem in any way ashamed of his powers, but his eventual affirmation of his own style and defiance of those who thought he should have been a self-loathing Atoner is a glorious MomentOfAwesome.

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* Mean-spiritedly subverted in WebVideo/DemoReel. After four episodes and God knows how many years of self-loathing, Donnie [=DuPre=] accepts himself as both Donnie and Jimmy Boyd, a film-maker who ''will'' make good movies and someone who can remember his tragic past but not obsess over it anymore. Turns out he's neither, he's WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic, and his whole existence is a punishment.

[[folder: Western Animation ]]

* {{ComicStrip/Popeye}}: "I yam what I yam, and dats all what I yam."
* ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'': "My name is Zuko, son of Ursa and Firelord Ozai, Prince of the Fire Nation and heir to the throne.". This doubles as a BadassBoast, although while it intimidates his opponent, the people he was protecting from them ''really'' don't like who he is and run him out of town.
** Zuko also comes to embrace the fact that his uncle Iroh, who most of the Fire Nation view as a lazy failure, has rubbed off on him.
---> '''Fire Lord Ozai''': [Ozai laughs] Your uncle has gotten to you, hasn't he?
---> '''Zuko''': Yes. He has.
* In the first episode of ''WesternAnimation/{{Gargoyles}}'', Goliath responds to humans' dislike of his race with "We are what we are".
* ''WesternAnimation/KimPossible'''s Ron Stoppable: "I am what I is."
* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeagueUnlimited'' episode "The Doomsday Sanction" features a villainous example. When Doomsday says that he'll kill Superman, he asks why. The creature replies "It's what I am. I don't care why."
* ''WesternAnimation/BatmanTheAnimatedSeries'' had a rather dark and depressing example in the episode "Sideshow". Killer Croc escapes from a prison transport and ends up stumbling across a small community of circus performers living in the woods. They see him as one of their own, and even defend him from Batman when he tracks him down. Croc seems to enjoy the acceptance and peace the group offers, but is unable to deny who he really is, and ends up trying to steal the performers savings. When the sealboy, who Croc had bonded with, tearfully asks him why just as Croc is lifted away by helicopter back to jail, he can only solemny reply with this.
--> '''Croc''': You said it yourself, kid. "Out here, you can be yourself". I guess thats what I was doing. Being myself.