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->''I left a note in the hallway''
->''By the time you read it I'll be far away''
-->-- '''Music/{{Beyonce}}''', [[Music/Lemonade2016 "Sorry"]]

[[SelfDemonstratingArticle Dear John,]]

I find it hard to write this letter, but I have to tell you the truth.

We never would have expected this day to come. Ever since we were [[LongDistanceRelationship separated]] from [[StarcrossedLovers each other]], our letters were the only way we could stay in touch. We promised one-another that no matter what, despite our FeudingFamilies, despite you being called to the front, we will one day be together, either HappilyMarried or TogetherInDeath.

I write to tell you that everything that was between us is over. We're finished.

I cannot stand life in separation anymore. I simply can't love you anymore, and I have [[AbsenceMakesTheHeartGoYonder found someone else]]. Enclosed you will find [[ReturningTheWeddingRing the ring you gave me]].

Don't grieve -- you are neither the first nor the last to get such a letter. Traditions of sending soldiers such letters date back to UsefulNotes/WorldWarII or even UsefulNotes/WorldWarI, which would make it OlderThanTelevision.

Good bye, my former love. You will never see me again.

P.S.: See also Wiki/{{Wikipedia}}, they have an [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dear_John_letter article linked here]].



* [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CD6S8DZHpG4 This]] classic 1980's UsefulNotes/NewZealand ad for BASF cassette tapes features a soldier receiving a version of the country song "Dear John" sung by his fiance on a BASF tape, with some new lyrics turning it into a straight example, leading to the tagline:
-->''BASF: Even the bad times sound good"

[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* [[spoiler:Michel]] from Anime/MobileSuitGundamThe08thMSTeam received such letter from his girlfriend [[spoiler: B.B.]]
* ''Manga/KimiNoIruMachi's'' Yuzuki writes one to Haruto and puts it in a present she gave him, however it was several months (and several attempts to stay with her regardless) later that he actually found and read the letter.

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* ''[[ComicBook/MightyMorphinPowerRangersBoomStudios Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers: Pink]]'' ends with a flash-forward to Kimberly writing the infamous letter during ''Zeo''. It's all but stated that there ''isn't'' a new guy, but she thinks it's kinder than the truth: that she's ready to move on from being a Ranger, and knows Tommy isn't.
* ''Magazine/{{MAD}}'' magazine had a section where you could create your own "Dear John" letter in a Mad Libs sort of way with lists of various phrases you could use to fill in the blanks, to make the letter sound as ridiculous as you desire.

[[folder:Comic Strips]]
* ''ComicStrip/TheFarSide'' featured a cartoon of two male deer in a forest, one holding a letter: "My God! She left me a John Deer letter!"

[[folder:Fan Works]]
* In ''WebAnimation/BartTheGeneral'', "Omarn" gets one from Marge.
-->''Dear Homer, you [[{{Squick}} have a cold dick]]. I remember the last time I touched it.
* In ''Fanfic/TheApprenticeTheStudentAndTheCharlatan'', Clover writes one to Nova as a final goodbye.

[[folder:Films -- Live-Action]]
* In ''Film/{{Casablanca}},'' Rick and his lover, Ilsa, were supposed to meet at the train station to get out of Paris before the Nazis arrived; instead, she sent a letter explaining that she couldn't be with him, for unexplained reasons. Years later they meet in Casablanca and she explains that she had returned to her husband, Victor, whom she had believed dead before getting together with Rick.
* ''Film/StarshipTroopers''. While in MI boot camp, Johnny Rico gets a literal Dear John video from his girlfriend Carmen Ibanez, who's in training to join the Fleet (space navy). Which of course he is watching on a big-screen TV in the barracks, with his entire squad watching and making commentary... [[ThatsGottaHurt Until they realize what the message is about and make themselves scarce.]]
-->'''Ace:''' Funny how they always wanna be friends after they rip your guts out.
* What drove the villain insane in ''Film/TheProwler''.
* In ''Film/TheDarkKnight,'' the love interest writes Bruce Wayne a letter about how she is going to marry Harvey Dent and that she'll always be with him as a friend. However, after her death, Alfred burns it before Bruce can read it. It's a relatively minor but still tragic instance of PoorCommunicationKills: Bruce assumes she was going to leave Harvey for him. In ''Film/TheDarkKnightRises'', Alfred confessed to Bruce about the letter, which didn't make Bruce feel any better.
* In ''Film/DumbAndDumber,'' Harry got one of these from Fraida Felcher, mistakenly referring to it as a "John Deere" letter. It's obvious to everyone (even Harry himself) that she was cheating on him with Lloyd, though he feigned ignorance until the end of the movie.
* In ''Film/TheThinRedLine'' (1998), one of the protagonists (Private Bell) tells anyone around him how he really loves his wife (and so won't cheat on her with the local Ladies of Negotiable Virtue). In a (possibly unintentional) hilarious moment, about halfway through the film, he then receives a Dear John letter from his wife about how she's found a new love.
* Obviously, ''Dear John''.
* Micheal in ''Film/SiegeOfTheDead'' gets one of these just before the start of the movie and is hoping to patch things up. Things don't turn out quite as planned.
* ''Film/LegendsOfTheFall'': "Susanna, all we had is dead. As I am dead. Marry another."
* John in ''Film/GoodbyePorkPie'' finds one from Sue in his typewriter, which simply reads "Dear John".
* In ''Film/KillList'', Gal says that he woke up to find a "Dear John taped to me cock".
* ''Film/TheGoodbyeGirl'' opens with Paula coming home to the apartment she shares with Tony and finding out that, instead of them moving together to California as they'd planned, he is breaking up with her and has left to Europe to film a Creator/BernardoBertolucci movie. What he fails to mention is that he's sublet their apartment to a man she doesn't know, fellow actor Elliot, which kicks off the plot as Paula and Elliot wind up rooming together.
* ''Film/ACuriousConjunctionOfCoincidences'': Erich’s rough day starts with him receiving one of these from his fiancee. Apparently, she met a stronger, smarter and funnier man.
* ''Film/{{The Circle|1925}}'': Honestly, pinning your Dear John letter to the pajamas of your toddler child is a poor choice.
* ''[[Film/KonTiki2012 Kon-Tiki]]'': Thor Heyerdahl's arrival in Polynesia in triumph is accompanied by a Dear John letter from his wife, who says she's leaving because he is MarriedToTheJob.

* [[http://www.snopes.com/military/videobye.asp Here's]] an urban legend about them.

* In Creator/RobertAHeinlein's ''Literature/IfThisGoesOn'', John Lyle gets a literal Dear John letter. It's briefly depressing before he realizes that he can't remember her that well anyway.
* A literal example with [[spoiler:John Bell]] in ''The Thin Red Line''.
* Played with in the novel ''Literature/StarshipTroopers''. When at OCS Johnny claims he and Carmen were dating, but she sent him a "Dear John". This is technically true, since he and Carmen went on a few dates, nothing serious, and she always begins her (occasional) letters with "Dear John". Essentially, Johnny is playing up the trope to gain some street cred.
* This trope appeared in a story written by the Polish writer Jarosław Grzędowicz, where a Pole who went work to England was completely devastated when his girlfriend sent him such a letter. A few years later, it appeared in a novel written by his wife, Maja Kossakowska, but American marine in the book has found it quite amusing. Having to endure weeks of torture, having his legs broken, and getting a bullet in the lungs could have something to do with it.
* In one short story in the ''Literature/HonorHarrington'' universe [[{{Commissar}} Commissar Yuri Radamacher]] comments that he spends more time helping heartbroken naval personnel deal with "Dear John" or "Dear Jane" letters than he does actively trying to seek out disloyalty.
* In Creator/PoulAnderson's "The Corkscrew Of Space", Magarac had gotten one and no longer awaited a letter from his girl.
* A double-subversion in ''The Winds of War''. Rhoda writes this to Victor but after hearing of Pearl Harbor writes a second letter asking him to forget it. However later she goes through with it. Leaving Victor feeling free to remarry a woman he had developed feelings for but [[IGaveMyWord had just barely forced himself to turn down]].
* Vivienne's first boyfriend in ''Literature/TheSpyWhoLovedMe'' broke up with her with a letter that revealed that he was "semi-engaged" to someone else, essentially telling her that she was just a summer fling.

[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* In ''Series/{{Smallville}}'', [[spoiler:Whitney]] gets a video Dear John letter from [[spoiler:Lana]] so that [[spoiler: she can pursue Clark]].[[note]]A [[CharacterDevelopment now-understanding Whitney]] wrote back to her that he accepts her choice. Sadly, Whitney died before he can sent it, and a devastated Lana believes Whitney think she doesn't want him back.[[/note]] Ironically, [[spoiler: Lana later pulls a repeat performance of this on Clark at the end of Season 7]].
* English ''Series/DearJohn'' show and its TransAtlanticEquivalent with the same name, starring Judd Hirsch in the late 80s. The TitleSequence had the main character coming home and discovering from a letter that his wife has left him. The ExpositoryThemeTune was sung from her point of view.
* Abby got one from Carter on ''Series/{{ER}}'', after their relationship took a series of strange turns for the worse, climaxing in her bipolar brother falling into his grandmother's grave.
* Happens a '''bunch''' of times on ''[[Series/{{Mash}} M*A*S*H]]''.
** Radar's sweetheart dumps him (the message comes in the form of a ''45 RPM record''), so his friends try to set him up with someone else to help him get over it.
** Later, there's one from Frank's wife announcing she plans to divorce him (she'd heard about his affair with Margaret).
** When Klinger got one from his wife, it was the one time he tried to get hardship leave when he wasn't scamming.
** At least a few times a season, a GI of the week got a Dear John letter. An Italian is distraught upon receiving a "Dear Giovanni" letter.
*** And once it was {{Subverted}}: a blinded GI in post-op asked Father Mulcahy to read his mail to him and the first one, from his girlfriend, started "Dear John..." That was his name.
*** Subverted again when a pilot [[OnlyKnownByTheirNickname only known as Cowboy]] abducts Colonel Blake to extort a discharge to see his wife, whom he believes is unfaithful. Cowboy clears up the first two warning flags (the Reno return address and the literal "Dear John" first line) by saying that's where he lives and his real name, respectively. They go on, revealing that the letter is her affirmation of her love for him. Cowboy lands and everything is sorted out.
*** One of the instances in the series has a soldier patient getting a Dear John letter written in a callous tone with a demand for her old photo back. The staff decide to help the soldier by packaging various photos of women gathered from around the camp along with an insulting letter telling her he's forgotten what she even looks like and to pick out which one is hers. The soldier caps it off by suggesting they send the whole parcel "postage due".
* Gibbs from ''Series/{{NCIS}}'', when asked if he's ever gotten a love letter in Season Two, asks if a "Dear John" counts.
* Joel from Series/NorthernExposure gets one of these from his fiancee in the season 2 premiere.
* In ''Series/PowerRangersZeo'', [[spoiler: Tommy]] got such a letter from [[spoiler: Kimberly]], which successfully [[ShipSinking sunk]] their canon couple status to allow writers pair him with [[spoiler:Katherine]]. The amount of fanfics this spawned qualifies it for PR's most infamous FandomSpecificPlot.
* During the seventh season of ''Series/FamilyMatters'', Maxine receives a poorly-written and poorly-addressed "Dear John" letter from Waldo.
* Peyton does this to Mac on ''Series/{{CSI NY}}''-she didn't think they could work out the distance issues since she was working in New York but her home was in London, and likely figured Mac was still mourning his late wife. [[TheBusCameBack she did return]] for one episode later on and apologized, saying he deserved better than a note.
* The storyline the ''Series/{{Porridge}}'' episode "Heartbreak Hotel" is Godber getting a letter from his girlfriend Denise.
-->'''Fletcher''': A "Dear John" letter?\\
'''Godber''': [[LiteralMinded No, a "Dear Lenny" letter]].
* On a ''Saved By the Bell: The New Class'' episode, Screech receives one of these. The kids set him up with another girl to help get him over it.
* In the ''Series/StarTrekVoyager'' episode "Hunters," Janeway gets one from her (former) fiancée, telling her that he got married. {{Justified}}, though, as she and her crew had been declared dead after disappearing from the Alpha Quadrant and had only recently reestablished contact with Earth.
* In the ''Series/StarTrekEnterprise'' episode "Silent Enemy," Trip gets one from his girlfriend Natalie, allowing him to [[{{Lampshaded}} lampshade]] the difficulties of a LongDistanceRelationship. 100 light-years is as long-distance as it gets in that era.
* In Season 3 of ''Series/TheFlash2014'', Jesse and Wally become an item, although they end up in different worlds (literally), with Jesse first going to Earth-3 to protect that world's Central City in the absence of Jay Garrick and then returns to her native Earth-2, as that version of Central City is lacking a speedster champion. While being in separate universes would normally constitute a LongDistanceRelationship, being speedsters, they're able to pop back and forth between Earths at will. Then Harry arrives with a strange-looking device, which projects Jesse's holo-image and then sputters (crappy Atlantean plastic). Harry is forced to explain to Wally that the device is a "breakup cube", which is the Earth-2 version of this trope. The cube even dispenses tissues in the event of tears. Wally does end up going to Earth-2 to talk it out with Jesse. It's heavily implied that Wally becoming a speedster put a damper on their relationship, as Jesse was expecting him to move with her to Earth-2, but the Central City of Earth-1 needs a Flash, after Barry's disappearance.

%% Surprisingly, the famous country song "Dear John" is about a man receiving a letter from his wife begging him to come home. (The 1980's one, not the Music/TaylorSwift one.)
* The Music/TaylorSwift song "Dear John" is a subversion of this trope. Even though the narrator is ending the relationship, the song reveals that she was involved in an unhealthy relationship with an older man, who it's implied took advantage of her and broke her heart. Thus the song is a six minute long TheReasonYouSuckSpeech.
* Christian musician Keith Green had a slightly tongue-in-cheek song called "Dear John Letter (To the Devil)".
* A sarcastic reading of a Dear John letter by its recipient comprises the entire lyrics of "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cIQWt3oMids Your Woman]]" by White Town, a UK #1 single in 1997.
* The front cover of the final Music/LedZeppelin album, ''In Through the Out Door'', portrays several different perspectives of the same scene at a bar of a man burning a "Dear John" letter in an ashtray. The last song on that album, "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzGhK52itBY I'm Gonna Crawl]]", would seem to be written from this perspective.
* Probably the original "Dear John" song: "A Dear John Letter", first recorded in the 1950s by Ferlin Husky and Jean Shepard and later covered by Pat Boone. Creator/StanFreberg parodied it as "A Dear John and Marsha Letter".
* Larry Finnegan's 1962 hit "Dear One" centers around one of these.
* "Good" by Music/BetterThanEzra is about the singer finding one. We only hear one line from it: "It was [[TitleDrop good]] living with you."
* Music/DoctorSteel sent one to one of the heads of his fan club, the [[Website/ToySoldiersUnite Army of Toy Soldiers]], upon his reluctant retirement.
* "Postcard from Pasadena" by Gord Bamford. His girlfriend runs off with a tall dark stranger and breaks the news to him by sending a postcard that says, "Don't call, I'll call you."
* The narrator of Colin Raye's "Little Red Rodeo" discovers a Dear John letter written by his girlfriend, who is leaving because he can't commit. This prompts a RaceForYourLove, in which he goes to track her down, showing her photograph and asking people if they've seen his love with "Texas plates, candy apple red Rodeo."
* B.J. Thomas' "Billy and Sue" (1966) ends with Billy getting one of these from Sue while fighting in a war, and deliberately letting himself get shot and killed in response.
* "Letterbomb" by Music/GreenDay, within the context of their album Music/AmericanIdiot.
-->"Nobody likes you\\
Everyone left you\\
They're all out without you\\
Having fun"

* ''Theater/OnTheTown'': Ivy leaves Gabey a letter at a nightclub, claiming she has to attend a "high society affair". [[spoiler: In reality, she took a job as a hooch dancer on Coney Island to pay for her dance lessons, and her teacher threatened to write to her folks about what she's been doing if she didn't make her 11:30 shift.]]

[[folder:Video Games]]
* At the end of ''VideoGame/StarCraft: [[ExpansionPack Brood War]]'', [[spoiler:and Kerrigan's ascension, Admiral Gerard [=DuGalle=]]] sends a letter to [[spoiler:his wife]] in Earth about everything which happened in the game. [[spoiler:The cutscene ends with a GoryDiscretionShot. [[DrivenToSuicide Gerard has committed suicide]].]]
--> [[spoiler:"Dearest Helena, By now the news of our defeat has reached the Earth. The creatures we were sent here to tame are un-tamable, and the colonies we were sent to reclaim have proven to be stronger than we anticipated. Whatever you may hear about what has happened out here, know this; Alexei did not die gloriously in battle. I killed him. My pride killed him. And now my pride has consumed me as well. You will never see me again, Helena. Tell our children that I love them, and that their father died in defense of their future. Au revoir."]]
* In ''VisualNovel/KatawaShoujo'', main character Hisao receives one from his old sort-of girlfriend Iwanako part way through the story. The way he reacts to it is different in each route depending on how he's changed through his current relationship, though in all of them it causes a barrel full of mixed feelings and introspection on his part.
* ''VideoGame/WolfensteinTheOldBlood'' has an example, but rather than being given to an Allied soldier, it's given to a German soldier.
* In ''VideoGame/MassEffect3'' a human woman ponders to do this to her serving husband, leaving him for her Asari mistress. And then begins to get second thoughts when the Asari starts backpedaling at the thought of them being in a serious long-term relationship.[[note]] Of course "long term" for an Asari is [[MayFlyDecemberRomance totally different from "long term" for a human.]][[/note]]
* Jason Hudson from ''VideoGame/CallOfDutyBlackOps'' received one at some point before the game. Players that can figure out the password to his account on the terminal hidden in the main menu can read it themselves.
* Subverted in ''VideoGame/CallOfDutyWWII''. Daniels gets a letter from [[MyGirlBackHome his girlfriend Hazel, who's back in the States]], which Stiles comments is probably one of these. It turns out Hazel wrote informing Daniels that she's pregnant.

[[folder:Web Comics]]
* In Webcomic/GeneralProtectionFault, [[spoiler:Nick is abducted by Ki's EvilCounterpart from a parallel universe the night before he is to marry her, and his counterpart leaves behind a letter saying he can't marry her, but Ki refuses to believe it and eventually enters the dimension on a rescue mission]]. The letter is even called a DearJohnLetter
* In Webcomic/KevinAndKell, getting one of these causes one prey species to be DrivenToSuicide.
* Parodied in Webcomic/TerminalLance: [[http://terminallance.com/2012/07/10/terminal-lance-213-john-dear/ Abe gets one]] only a ''week'' into his deployment.
** That's when he ''got'' it. It was ''written'' only a few hours after he left.
* Seen in [[http://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=269#comic this]] ''Webcomic/SaturdayMorningBreakfastCereal'' strip as the motivation for contemplating whether to kill the kids or drive a Civic.
* In ''Webcomic/SplitScreen''. Jan assumes this is what Jeremy gave her when he snuck out on her. Stubborn pride caused her to not read the letter for a whole year, where she found out [[spoiler: it was a love confession and an explanation as to why he did what he did. ItMakesSenseInContext.]]
* In ''Webcomic/{{Housepets}}'' Sasha [[http://www.housepetscomic.com/2013/02/13/swapping-gift/ hand-delivered]] her "Dear John Letter" to Bino.

[[folder:Web Original]]
* Referenced in Website/TheOnion: [[http://www.theonion.com/articles/us-quietly-slips-out-of-afghanistan-in-dead-of-nig,20957/ U.S. Quietly Slips Out Of Afghanistan In Dead Of Night]]

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'':
** At a meeting of {{Caustic Critic}}s, the Farm Supplies Critic mentions his favorite recent quip in a review of a tractor:
--->"We see John Deere has a new line of roto-tillers. Surprise, surprise; they're green! I'd say it's about time someone sent John Deere a Dear John!"
** Homer receives a videotaped Dear John from Marge in TheMovie. For an extra punch to his (and the audience's) gut, she taped it over their wedding video, so immediately after she's done, it cuts to them dancing at their wedding. ''Ouch''.
* On ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill,'' Bill's wife Lenore left him without any notice, leading him to cling to the belief she would return for years. He eventually snaps in the episode "Pretty, Pretty Dresses" and (in his mind) tells Lenore off for abandoning him, saying that he was ''at least'' worth a Dear John letter.
* On ''WesternAnimation/TheLooneyTunesShow'', Lola learns the concept of a Dear John letter from a movie. Later, Bugs leaves a note to a mechanic named John on his broken microwave, reading "Dear John: This isn't working." Lola sees the note, assumes it's addressed to her (never mind that it doesn't say "Dear Lola", but [[CloudCuckoolander that's Lola for you]]) and leaves to a monastery to find inner peace. But before she leaves, she catches a cockroach trying to enter her apartment, so she leaves a note for all bugs to go away. Naturally, Bugs sees a note reading "Dear Bugs: I don't want to ever see you again" and assumes the worst.
* ''WesternAnimation/{{Popeye}}'':
** In an Al Brodax cartoon, Popeye's trained fleas fly the coop on a passing dog. They leave him a Dear John letter which ends with "Help!".
** The Fleischer shorts "I Never Changes My Altitude" and "Me Feelins is Hurt" have these too.
* In ''WesternAnimation/TheFlintstones'' movie "I Yabba-Dabba-Do!", Pebbles thought she was getting one of these from Bamm-Bamm, but it was really a love letter ending with him proposing.
* In the Season 2 ''WesternAnimation/DonkeyKongCountry'' Episode, "Hunka Hunka Burnin' Bluster", King K. Rool has a fake one written out to DK from Candy as an attempt to strip him of his motivation in protecting the Crystal Coconut. When received, Diddy even explains this trope to DK, who doesn't take it well, but Diddy manages to cheer him up almost instantly by proposing the idea of calling Candy out on it.