Created By: sagittarius on August 2, 2011

Doting Lover

A person (usually male) who incessantly dotes on and expresses devotion for their lover.

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A main character trait of the Doting Lover is his or her utter devotion to the object of their affections. They will continually gush about how amazing their sweetheart is to anyone who will listen, will go to ridiculous lengths to fulfill their dearest's most trivial of desires, will leap to attend to their love's every need, and will constantly pamper them, shower them with praise, and address them by the sweetest of pet names.

Just as the Doting Parents trope must be handled deftly to avoid becoming My Beloved Smother or Overprotective Dad, this trope must take care to not make the Doting Lover appear desperate, pathetic, or insecure, or make the object of the Doting Lover's affections appear unappreciative or unworthy, or this trope can very well slide into Love Martyr.

All Take and No Give is the dark side of this trope.

Examples from recent works are almost Always Male, due to Values Dissonance regarding women who are too devoted to their men rather than being strong and independent. However, older works absolutely adored assigning this trope to the heroines, particularly Purity Sues, even more often than male characters.

Compare Doting Parents.
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  • August 2, 2011
    Soap: Danny is like this with his wife Elaine, at first with an ulterior motive (to try to make her feel so smothered that she'll leave him - he can't leave her or her father will kill his entire family), and later for real.
  • August 3, 2011
    Sickeningly Sweethearts if they are both like this.
  • August 3, 2011
    Niles was this towards Daphne in Frasier. He was also this towards his first wife, Maris, though that didn't really turn out well.
  • August 3, 2011
    Hal (for Lois) in Malcolm In The Middle probably qualifies — he's so devoted he doesn't even notice other women.
  • August 19, 2011
    Marshall for Lilly in How I Met Your Mother. Lilly demonstrates this too on occasion, though not as overtly.
  • August 21, 2011
    Citizen Kane Charles Foster Kane bankrolling his lover's operatic singing career (lessons, show etc.) despite her lack of ability in classical works. It's supposed to be a comment on William Randolph Hearst and Marion Davies; Hearst kept trying to put her in prestige pictures as a serious actress despite her gift for light comedy.
    • This is also kind of a deconstruction of the trope, as Kane's incessant encouragement despite her dislike of singing made her feel so pressured she tried to commit suicide.
  • November 1, 2011
    Desdemona for Othello in Othello, which turns nasty when Iago tricks Othello into thinking Desdemona's cheating on him, and she fails to understand how he can possibly think she would ever cheat on him, and subsequently pretends she committed suicide after Othello chokes her to death in jealousy.
  • November 1, 2011

    As a general note, the "doggy" seme character type in Boys Love works is almost always this by default.
  • November 1, 2011
  • November 1, 2011
    Is this for a guy in a relationship, a guy who has a crush on a girl, or either?
  • November 1, 2011
    ^^^^What version of Othello is it where Desdemona "pretends she committed suicide?" In the original Othello does choke her to death (even though she gets better for a second several minutes later to point out her killer, but then she dies).

    Oh, wait. Do you mean Iago pretends she committed suicide? That doesn't happen either.
    • Desdemona wakes up randomly in defiance of the laws of strangulation and tells Emilia she committed suicide when Emilia's accusing Othello, then dies. She does NOT accuse Othello. Ever. She dies trying to protect him. Othello then says that she was lying and he killed her, which is the truth. Seriously, fact-checking is your friend. We've got the internet now.