Created By: Fanra on August 8, 2010 Last Edited By: Fanra on March 10, 2012

Offer Her Your Arm

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The Standard Male Grab Area.

A gentleman will always offer a lady his arm to escort her.

The lady always grabs the man's arm, never the other way around, since it is always up to her to decide if she wishes his company.

Many times, the arm is offered in a half sarcastic, half serious manner, as both understand it is rather archaic in modern times that a woman would be incapable of walking by herself.

An arm may be also be offered to a blind person to assist them. According to what I've read, you NEVER grab the blind person's arm, always let them grab yours, regardless of the sex of each of you. This is both respectful and logical, as grabbing or pulling someone blind can lead to accidents.

Boy Scouts are supposed to offer to help women across the street in this manner. Today it is mostly used in a joking manner (i.e. the Scout drags an unwilling old lady across the street).

If a man does this with both arms, it's A Lady on Each Arm. The Spear Counterpart to Standard Female Grab Area, although it doesn't make the male helpless (most of the time). A sure sign of Blue Blood (see the page image there). The Straw Feminist will sneer at the offer.


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  • August 8, 2010
    Unknown Troper
    Ron on Kim Possible: "This arm's gonna be at the dance. Who wants to be on it?" No one, apparently.
  • August 8, 2010
    Males will very occasionally do it to other males if they're pulling an Alphonse and Gaston routine. The Blues Brothers, for example, when they were at Mr. Fantastic's restaurant.
  • August 29, 2010
    • Undercover Brother. Smart Brother politely offers his arm to White She Devil before leading her to his laboratory.
  • February 24, 2011
  • February 27, 2011
    There's also a comic subversion whereby a woman grabs the arm of a man who hasn't offered it to her. It can be used to indicate a woman who is supposedly "too aggressive" sexually (at least in regards to this specific man, who may be uninterested), or who is being possessive. Should that be included in the trope description, or is that a separate trope?
  • February 27, 2011
    There's also a comic subversion whereby a woman grabs the arm of a man who hasn't offered it to her...Should that be included in the trope description, or is that a separate trope?

    I consider it the same trope.
  • October 11, 2011
    Anyone have any examples?
  • October 11, 2011
    ^^Not even a bit. The first is an offer by Bob, the second is a request by Alice.
  • October 11, 2011
    No relation to Im A Humanitarian.
  • October 12, 2011
    Fast Eddie's not going to like this title. You should probably change it to something like Offering Her The Arm or something similar.
  • March 4, 2012
    Bump. Also seconding Offering Her The Arm.
  • March 4, 2012
    Milly recommends this as a courting tip in Seven Brides For Seven Brothers.
  • March 6, 2012
    Late in the Malloreon, Garion and Poledra are walking across rough ground. Garion still thinks Poledra is dead at this point, so he's expecting her hand to go through his arm ... but a gentleman always helps a lady if walking conditions are poor, so he reaches out anyway.
  • March 6, 2012
    @TTurtle, Fanra: You know, I've seen this a lot where the man freezes after a woman grabs him by the arm, usually due to the sexual tension, pretty much making it a male Standard Female Grab Area, rather than just a man offering his arm.
  • March 6, 2012
    By the way, I started a YKTTW trope for the Alphonse And Gaston Routine since, amazingly, we were missing it. When it goes live, feel free to crosslink.
  • March 10, 2012
    Offer Lady An Arm?