Created By: JackButler on January 15, 2010
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Understanding Boyfriend

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"Geeze, where do you freaks find these understanding guys, and where do I get one?!"
-- Shelly, Wapsi Square

So you are a freak of nature, a witch, a Super Hero, a Chosen One. You are loaded with supernatural powers, and between going to work or school you have some world saving duties to attend to, that need to be kept secret. And on top of that, you also need to balance it out with a love life!

But you can't tell your boyfriend about it! He'd freak out, and leave you, or worse. But then, you can't keep it a secret for ever. At some point, one of your supernatural incidents will inevitably happen exactly when you where having a romantic dinner. Or Maybe your relationship has simply reached the next level, and you just have to be honest with him.

So what now? how will he reacts? He will.... Be perfectly O.K. and understanding with it!

That's right, as a reward for your sacrifices, the Powers That Be will make sure that you end up with the few good guys in the world. So no worries!

Examples

Community Feedback Replies: 12
  • July 18, 2009
    Earnest

    • In Ultimate Spiderman, Kong is this to Kitty Pride, even going so far as to yell "You're welcome!" at All Of The Other Reindeer for not thanking her when she saves their lives.
    • Most any continuity with Mary Jane dating Spiderman has her in this capacity, albeit with the usual "do you have to do this?" conversations every so often.
  • July 18, 2009
    roothorick
    Why "boyfriend"? I've seen the guy-with-superpowers plus understanding-girl more often than the other way around.
  • July 18, 2009
    Shellsh0cker
    Well, best solution would probably be "Understanding Significant Other." See also Open Minded Parent; basically the same thing, but a parent rather than a boy/girlfriend.
  • July 18, 2009
    SevenMass
    Because the understanding girlfriend isn't nearly as remarkable. Double Standard , I know, but still.
  • July 18, 2009
    Koveras
    @Seven Mass: Well, unless your specialty is something really uncool. ^^ For instance, Mark in Weregeek is a geek and is terrified by the idea that his girlfriend Jess may find out and leave him. But when that time comes, she just doesn't give a damn as long as he stays the way he has always been.
  • July 19, 2009
    SevenMass
    @Koveras Yeah, I suppose that is correct.

    I can't put my finger on it, but Batman being find out by his girlfriend just isn't the same thing as what this trope is about. Even though Batman's girlfriend could very well decide it is better to leave him after finding out. It still isn't the same.
  • July 19, 2009
    Micah
  • July 19, 2009
    Frodo Goofball CoTV
    I sort of see the Double Standard too and thought about it. Maybe it's just All Girls Want Bad Boys vs. No Guy Wants An Amazon. For the guy who is a super and needs a girlfriend, his powers are often a plus for her. As a super, he can have anyone he wants, but emotionally he also needs a girl who:
    • loves him for both his dorky secret identity AND his over the top superhero persona.
    • Is willing to put up with him keeping secrets from her.
    • Will take his secret to the grave.
    Examples:
    • Spider Man: Mary Jane, especially in the film version.
    • Lois Lane in some versions of Superman

    In some cases, willing to put up with him having other, less loyal girlfriends on the side is also a requirement....

    For women, finding a guy who truely doesn't have a problem with dating someone with superpowers when he's a muggle is the bigger issue, because, well, No Guy Wants An Amazon. Examples:

    Sometimes the only solution is to ship super with super:
  • July 19, 2009
    Rainbow
    In Tokyo Mew Mew, Ichigo worries for a long time about what Masaya Aoyama (her boyfriend) would think if he ever found out she was a Mew Mew, but when he does find out, he's okay with it. However, that may be because he also has his own powers.
  • July 19, 2009
    Unknown Troper
    Ghost whisperer - Jim the understanding husband
  • January 14, 2010
    JackButler
    Both subverted and played straight in Bewitched. The original Darrin was less than understanding. The Other Darrin, on the other hand, tried his hardest to be. It was more the fault of Endora and the rest of Samantha's family that The Other Darrin didn't get along with witches.
  • January 14, 2010
    ChevalierMalfait
    • Harvey in the Sabrina The Teenage Witch TV series. In the original comics, however, Harvey remains unaware that Sabrina and her family are witches.
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