Created By: FallenLegend on January 18, 2011 Last Edited By: FallenLegend on January 22, 2011
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This is a new verion of I Just Want to Be Loved trope. Trope repair shop discussion can be found here:

http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/posts.php?discussion=rik05hd96antdobptlub8161

This trope has a new name as suggested by Fast Eddie. I Just Want to Be Loved will be a redirect.

Needs More Examples (for each kind of love).

Redirects I Just Want to Be Loved

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge,
and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
" The Bible 1 Corinthians 13:1-2

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends
Corinthians 13:7-8

Love is arguably the most important valor of all.Everyone needs to be love and be loved in return.This trope applies when a character main motivation is to love and/or be loved.

Due to the fact that "love" can apply in many situations an circumstances.For a better study of this trope.The concept of love will be divided in 4 different types as proposed by C. S. Lewis.

  1. Storge-(Affection-Family). Is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance.
  2. Phileo-(Friendship) Friendship.Is strong bond existing between people who share common interest or activity.
  3. Eros - (Romance)is love in the sense of 'being in love'.(This is distinct from sexuality).This kind of love longs for the emotional connection with the other person.Acording to C. S. Lewis sexuality is called "Venus", that can be part of "Eros", but on its own, it is not one of the loves, just lust.
  4. Agape - (Unconditional Love) Is the love that brings forth caring regardless of circumstance.The essence of agape love is self-sacrifice

Related to Storge and I Just Want to Have Friends


Examples

Storge

Manga And Anime
  • Fate Testarossa from Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha. She just want to be loved by her dearest mother who tortures her on regular basis because she hates how Fate (who is a clone) resembles her deceased daughter. She gets everything she wished, though: she gets a new family (the Harlaowns) and later becomes one Vivio's two mommies with Nanoha. People even call the three of them "the Takamachi family". Probably the Most Triumphant Example of this trope in Girls Love.
  • Miyako Miyamura's goal in ef - a fairy tale of the two. is this, ever since her parents' messy divorce that had them ignoring her completely.
  • All Shinji Ikari ever wanted was someone to love him.He wants to be loved by his father. And is constantly seeking for his approval.

Theatre
  • Chrysothemis in Richard Strauss's opera Elektra, who does not share her sister Elektra's thirst for revenge, and just wants to be a simple wife and mother -- and this wish is what sustains her in her dark, fearful time as a prisoner. (Note: this is not her characterisation in the original Sophocles play)

Comic Books
  • Irredeemable. This is the Plutonian's motivation for being a superhero after spending years in several foster homes with people who were afraid of him. Despite being a respected champion, he's so obsessed with the negative comments and constant demands people give him that it drives him over the edge.

Film


Phileo

Video Games
  • At the climax of TimeSplitters Future Perfect, Robot Buddy R-110 is fatally wounded by the Big Bad and in his last moments he laments, "I only wanted to be loved..." This runs contrary to his recent activities throughout the last act.

Live-Action Television


Eros

Manga and Anime
  • In Dragon Ball Z This is a big desire for krillin.Who ends up dating a very dumb girl called Maron.Fortunately he finds love in serie's reedemed villain android 18
Comic Books
  • In Dork Tower, Matt McLimore's ongoing desire to be involved with someone repeatedly pushes him back to his ex-girlfriend, Kayleigh... even while his dream girl, Gilly the Perky Goth, hovers nearby.

Live-Action Television
  • Phoebe of Charmed made it her personal mission to find love during the last few seasons. In the end, she got a Cupid. Yay?

Literature
  • In Twilight Bella Swan main wish is to be loved by Edward Cullen
  • Ayn Rand, in her novel Atlas Shrugged, deconstructs the trope as well as gender-flips it via the character of James Taggart. James wants to be loved, but not for anything he actually does. Rather, he wants to be loved for himself. Not for the benefits he might bring into the life of the person that loves him. Not for any of his virtues or good qualities. He says that he wants to be loved for himself. Ultimately, what he truly wants is to be loved for absolutely no reason at all, i.e. loved in spite of his own worthlessness.

Music

Video Games
  • The Dating Sim genre arguably exists because of this wish.

Western Animation


Agape

Manga and Anime
  • In Neon Genesis EvangelionKaworu Nagisa Sacrificed himself in order to ensure humanity and Shinji's survival. Despite the fact that he could have had easily [ destroyed all mankind in a third impact for hid kind to reign supreme. For his selfless love Shinji (who was in desperate need of this kind of love). He was heartbroken when he had to kill his friend

Religion

Community Feedback Replies: 11
  • January 18, 2011
    shimaspawn
    I went through and fixed the spelling and formatting. Be careful copying examples from the original trope. It's a huge mess.
  • January 18, 2011
    FallenLegend
    thanks!! :). Surely this is a lot of work :/
  • January 21, 2011
    Fanra
    Eros - (Romance)is love in the sense of 'being in love'.(This is distinct from sexuality).This kind of love longs for the emotional connection with the other person.

    How is this distinct from sexuality? Agape is Eros distinct from sexuality.

    Maybe because CS Lewis was a Christian in the early 20th Century he tried to somehow separate romance from sex, but that makes no sense. If you have love without sexuality, it is what he called Agape. Romance is sexuality. By definition.
  • January 21, 2011
    thegrenekni3t
    It might be valuable to have a page explaining The Four Loves, but I'm not sure we really need a list of every example of romantic love in media... Maybe just list works that talk about the distinction between these four categories?
  • January 21, 2011
    Fanra
    In Robert A Heinlein's Time Enough for Love, he divides love into Agape and Eros. He leaves off Storge and Phileo, considering they are not love, but just affection. Basically saying that if your Storge and Phileo is strong enough, then just have it be Agape.

    He also defines Eros as romantic sexual love.
  • January 21, 2011
    Sackett
    While a page describing the Four Loves would be useful, I don't think examples are needed.
  • January 21, 2011
    FallenLegend
    ^^^^ I think you have good points.However I left out sexuallity because it can be confused with pure sexual lust.I may be wrong tough.

    ^^^Well this is replacing I Just Want To Be Loved which had. examples You make a good point tough :D I will make a page about usefulnotes about it :).Thanks I will add it

    ^^Thanks I will add it

    ^Yeah I will make such page.Tough I am not sure about leaving examples out.Given that the trope this one is replacing had examples.However if you guys feel it doesn't need example I will get rid of them.

  • January 21, 2011
    PkMARIO
    Videl most definitely DIDN'T stalk Gohan to be with him, it was to find his Great Saiyaman identity. Also the hair cutting scene was a hilarious bit but it didn't happen as it is described here.
  • January 21, 2011
    FallenLegend
    ^ok I will remove it.
  • January 22, 2011
    EternalSeptember
    Maybe because CS Lewis was a Christian in the early 20th Century he tried to somehow separate romance from sex, but that makes no sense. If you have love without sexuality, it is what he called Agape. Romance is sexuality. By definition.

    That's not true. For example, look at the Two Girl Romantic Friendship trope, that is more than Phileo, but less that Agape, (that would be a messianic love for everyone) yet usually not sexualized.

    Lewis himself called sexuality "Venus", that can be part of "Eros", but on its own, it is not one of the loves, just lust.

    If you say that sexual and romantic feelings are the same thing, you inevitably say that this picture is sexual, and this picture is romantic.

    The wikipedia article on romance also cites psychologists who discuss romance as something different from sexuality.

  • January 22, 2011
    FallenLegend
    ^Totally agree.I will add that clarification thanks!!

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