Created By: roflcopteriii on May 6, 2011 Last Edited By: roflcopteriii on May 8, 2011

Kinky Crying

When a character starts tearing up during sex

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Seen It a Million Times in anime and hentai, Needs More Examples, maybe Needs a Better Title?

Alice and Bob have finally, per plot drama, gotten past their differences, worked through their romantic tension, and now are ready and raring to go at it. Cue roses, candles and... tears?

Yup. Sex can, obviously, create a lot of conflicting, intense emotions. If the sex is just that good, one easy representation of it is to have the character tear up a little, much more frequently the "receiving" partner in question. Or, conversely, if it's Their First Time, the crying might be an easier and less squicktastic way of showing the discomfort, or might reflect how well endowed Bob is. However, the crying is almost always going to be only a suggestive welling up of tears in their eyes, not Ocular Gushers, since that's just not hot.

More frequently protrayed in anime and manga, where crying can to be less obvious to be noticeable, as opposed to live action porn. Typically, it's also accompanied by the characters getting hot and bothered since, um, you know. Obviously, a Porn Trope.

In Western works, crying during sex almost always lacks the titillation factor. This is usually very humiliating to the person who cries, which is either Played for Drama or Played for Laughs. If a character does cry, it might be a hint at unresolved issues or some other dark past.


Examples:

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  • Futari Ecchi
  • Moonlight Lady: practically every sex scene has some hint of this, and is both played for drama, during Yura's rape scene and for the kink value.
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  • In the first season of Desperate Housewives, Bree says that Rex does this, during a session where the other girls are saying bad things about themselves, and Bree can't bring herself to publicly admit one of her problems.
  • In the Angels of Mercy series of medical dramas by CJ Lyons, there is the RN, Nora, who cries immediately after hooking up with her primary love interest for the first time. But in this case it was because she hadn't gotten over being raped before she met that primary love interest
  • In the first season of Dexter, Deb cries after having sex with Rudy because she is so overwhelmed by how important the relationship is to her.
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  • Future!Stewie in Family Guy does this when he loses his virginity, and the crying lasted longer than the sex.
  • Bob (the Bob Newhart series where he's a comic book artist): Bob's partner Harlan hires his girlfriend as a colorist, and she's awful - she doesn't color well, and she has a very relaxed attitude towards work because she's the boss's girlfriend. Bob tries to get Harlan to fire her, but she ends up quitting, announcing to the staff that Harlan cries after sex.
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Community Feedback Replies: 14
  • May 6, 2011
    ElaineRose
    • In the Angels of Mercy series of medical dramas by CJ Lyons, there is the RN, Nora, who cries immediately after hooking up with her primary love interest for the first time. But in this case it was because she hadn't gotten over being raped before she met that primary love interest
  • May 6, 2011
    ginsengaddict
  • May 7, 2011
    LordLaharlsVassal
    I would say crying during such an particular act is more substantial and meaningful than simply People Sit On Chairs.
  • May 7, 2011
    DragonQuestZ
    ^ I mean, when has a show ever mentioned something like that, and it was just treated as nothing?

    This is usually very humiliating to the person who cries, which is either Played For Drama or Played For Laughs.

    Drama:
    • In the first season of Desperate Housewives, Bree says that Rex does this, during a session where the other girls are saying bad things about themselves, and Bree can't bring herself to publicly admit one of her problems.

    Laughs:
    • Futures Stewie in Family Guy does this when he looses his virginity, and the crying lasted longer than the sex.
  • May 7, 2011
    ginsengaddict
    Nah, I still say chairs. I've never seen a character cry during sex when it wasn't rape. The closest I can think of is the scene in Tietam Brown where Andy and Terri are alone and about to have sex, but she starts crying and has second thoughts, and then they don't.

    Also, there are far more common ways of showing how well-endowed Bob is. Like a bulge in pants shot.

    Perhaps if it were a broader description and a broader title, maybe Sex Is Emotional, then definitely. Right now, it's just Too Specific.

    EDIT: Ok, how come TietamBrown doesn't have a page?
  • May 7, 2011
    whereismytea
    I sometimes wonder if there is some actual stipulation that the uke must cry during sex in Boys Love manga because it is so common.
  • May 7, 2011
    DragonQuestZ
    "I've never seen a character cry during sex when it wasn't rape."

    Your personal experience doesn't make the limits of the trope into that.

    If anything, the rest of your comment just shows the description needs work.
  • May 7, 2011
    LordLaharlsVassal
    I don't rememeber what it was, but I think I once saw a movie where a man and woman was about to or doing it then the guy started to cry because it had been so long since the last he had been close to someone.
  • May 7, 2011
    Duckay
    There's a scene in How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days where one of the characters tells her girlfriends about how during sex with this guy who just dumped her, she started crying and "got really emotional".
  • May 7, 2011
    amazinglyenough
    I'd go for a different title, since most of the time the crying isn't portrayed as kinky, unless we're talking about certain kinds of porn, I guess. I heard that there was actually a survey done that concluded that men generally become less aroused when faced with a crying woman, although I'm not sure how such data was achieved.

    • In the first season of Dexter, Deb cries after having sex with Rudy because she is so overwhelmed by how important the relationship is to her.
  • May 8, 2011
    randomsurfer
    Bob (the Bob Newhart series where he's a comic book artist): Bob's partner Harlan hires his girlfriend as a colorist, and she's awful - she doesn't color well, and she has a very relaxed attitude towards work because she's the boss's girlfriend. Bob tries to get Harlan to fire her, but she ends up quitting, announcing to the staff that Harlan cries after sex.
  • May 8, 2011
    roflcopteriii
    Amazingly, suggest a title, then.
  • May 8, 2011
    ginsengaddict
  • May 8, 2011
    Duckay
    Also, in the romance scene with Thane in Mass Effect 2, he starts crying shortly before sex. Does that count/is that the same thing?

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