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You Never Did That For Me
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A Stock Phrase used to compare the difference between the way the speaker and a third character are treated. This is often used to imply that the speaker is not valued as much by the subject in question, and can become a source of angst in the relationship.

This can be shown in a number of different situations, including:

  • Someone complaining their (ex) significant other is willing to go farther for a current or former lover than they would for the speaker.
  • A child lamenting that their parent treats a sibling more favorably.
  • A friend feels that they are the odd-man-out amongst their group.

When this phrase is used in the context of an ongoing romantic relationship, this could indicate the moment in which the speaker realizes that their feelings are not fully reciprocated, and lead to a Make Up or Break Up dilemma. If it is instead used by an ex-lover, it can serve to show the audience that the current pairing is True Love after all.

Note that while this is often shown in a dramatic sense, it's also commonly Played for Laughs as one friend uses this phrase on another in a joking way (usually with an "I'm joking" added in.)

This Stock Phrase commonly leads to the stock response "You never asked."


  • Dead Air: Used Lucy when she overhears her ex, Logan, promise to pick up his current wife's brother from the airport.
    Lucy: "You never picked up my brother from the airport!"
    Logan: "But, you never asked me to!"
    Lucy: "... that's because I knew you'd say no."
  • The Matrix. Trinity has just brought Neo his dinner and Cypher decides to tease her about her obvious attraction to him.
    Cypher: "I don't remember you ever bringing me dinner."
  • Played for Laughs in Airplane!!: When her husband has a second cup of coffee, the wife (listed in the credits as "Mrs. Hammen") says, "That's funny, Jim never has a second cup of coffee at home." (Later, when he's sick and hurling into the barf bag, she says, "Jim never vomits at home...)

  • Played with early in the Belgariad, before Garion gets his big reveal. Garion and Ce'Nedra are talking about the girl Garion probably would have married had things gone another way, and Garion says it's for the best because she's not someone you can ask to sleep on the ground. Ce'Nedra points out that the group had never hesitated to ask her to sleep on the ground.

Live Action TV
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer: While Xander and Cordelia's relationship was still a secret to the rest of the scoobies, Cordelia protested as Xander declared that he was off to help Buffy out of yet another sticky situation.
    Cordelia: "There you go, off to save the great Buffy again... I bet you'd never do that for me..."
  • Played for Laughs in an episode of Star Trek: Voyager where Janeway, upon learning that her best friend Tuvok used to make coffee for then-Captain Sulu, jokingly complains that he never made her any coffee.
  • In the episode of Monk where Sharona and Natalie meet, Natalie finds out that Monk paid Sharona a lot more than he paid her. Thus she complains that Monk never paid her that much.

Myth & Religion
  • The Bible: Happens at the end of the parable of The Prodigal Son, where the brother who didn't leave home and waste all his money wonders why he doesn't get a fatted calf, etc., etc.
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