Created By: TheHandle on September 11, 2012 Last Edited By: Arivne on January 16, 2016

My Best Friend's Love Interest

When your best friend and your lover get together, either by adultery or by the lover dumping you first.

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It's very hard when your best friend and your lover get together. They're both precious to you, and you may well lose both of them at the same time, both from the trust-shattering betrayal and out of sheer jealousy. And friends and lovers can be hard to replace. May overlap with You Cheating Heart, but not necessarily: it's perfectly possible for your lover to leave you before consummating their romance with your friend.

Needs a Better Description: mine is workable but kinda weak, and Needs More Examples, because it's been a long while since I've watched the sort of work where this comes up. Also Needs a Better Title, since this one sounds like a line.


Examples

Western Animation
  • In Adventure Time, Finn The Human and Jake The Dog are super duper best friends, but Finn becomes friends with Jake's girlfriend, and Jake is afraid that something like this trope is going on, which rustles him badly.

Community Feedback Replies: 35
  • September 11, 2012
    MrRuano
    This becomes the basis of the Love Triangle of School Days. Kotonoha and Sekai were both somewhat friends before they went out with Makoto, and it was Sekai who took Makoto's first kiss instead of Kotonoha ,his girlfriend at that point.
  • September 11, 2012
    KingZeal
    Common in Netorare Genre stories.
  • September 11, 2012
    surgoshan
  • September 11, 2012
    Koveras
    Should have a less bulky title that doesn't sound like dialogue. Best Friend Love Triangle, perhaps?

    • In Syberia, Kate eventually learns that her boyfriend and her best friend have long have had feelings for each other, which they finally consummate during her long absence.
  • September 11, 2012
    SKJAM
    Seem to recall there's a parody of country western songs..."My best friend ran off with my wife. Man, I miss him."
  • September 11, 2012
    TheHandle
    ^LOL

    ^^That title seems to imply a stable situation, and that all parties are best friends with each other.
  • September 12, 2012
    Koveras
    ^ Not necessarily, there is no duration requirement for a love triangle. If your best friend has feelings for the same person as you, it's a love triangle, regardless how long it goes unresolved.
  • September 12, 2012
    foxley
    Happens to Aqualad in the Young Justice episode "Downtime" when he returns to Atlantis and finds that his best friend Garth and Tula, the girl he liked are now an item.
  • September 12, 2012
    Goldfritha
    The inverted sitatuion, where the main character is the best friend, it's often his Big Secret when charged with murder.
  • September 12, 2012
    LeighSabio
    How about the title My Best Friends Girl?
  • September 12, 2012
    Tuckerscreator
    • This forms the main conflict in Season 4 of Daria.
  • September 12, 2012
    JoeG
    The song My Best Friend's Girl by The Cars is all about this.
  • September 13, 2012
    TheHandle
    ^^^I like that title.
  • September 13, 2012
    randomsurfer
    • This happened on Friends, where Joey's Girl Of The Week and Chandler find they have a lot in common, and kiss. Joey is quite upset with Chandler for a few episodes, but eventually gets over it (espeically after Chandler spends Thanskgiving inside a packing crate as penance).
    • Notable(?) aversion: The song "Jessie's Girl" by Rick Springfield. Rick is despondent because he's in love with his best friend's girlfriend, but doesn't do anything.
    • In the backstory to Journeyman Dan's wife had been his brother's girlfriend; after Dan's fiancee died in a plane crash she comforted him, and they eventually got married.
  • September 19, 2012
    TheHandle
    Any more examples?
  • December 7, 2015
    henke37
  • December 7, 2015
    DAN004
    Uh, title and laconic don't go together. Title doesn't imply that the best friend's LI previously belongs to "me".
  • December 7, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    Best Friend And Love Interest Hookup? or Best Friend And Lover Hookup I also thought about Best Friend And Love Interest Betrayal, but that doesn't necessarily imply a relationship, just that they both betrayed you.

    • An Older Than Print example, this classically happened to King Arthur, when his best knight Lancelot hooked up with his wife Guinevere, although Arthur and Lancelot's closeness as friends varies Depending On The Writer. But either way, things don't turn out well...
  • December 7, 2015
    eroock
  • December 7, 2015
    randomsurfer
    ^^^I'm guessing the current name is a Snow Clone of the following song title, genericized to offer other gender options:
    • In "My Best Friend's Girl" by The Cars the singer laments over his best friend's girlfriend, who used to be his own girlfriend.
  • December 7, 2015
    Arivne
    • Examples section
      • Added a line separating the Description and Examples section.
      • Added media section titles.
      • Namespaced and italicized work names.
  • December 7, 2015
    DAN004
  • December 7, 2015
    StrixObscuro
    Comic Books
    • In Daniel Clowes' comic "Gynecology", protagonist Epps used to date Sabine. After Sabine dumped him, she deciding to rub salt in the wound by systematically dating all of his friends. Epps kinda has that effect on people.
  • December 7, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    ^^They don't have to be exes, and they don't have to be dating.
  • December 8, 2015
    undefined
    Somebody has suggested Best Friend Love Triangle. I choose it because it's broad.
  • December 9, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    ^It's so broad though that it could be an entirely different trope. It just describes any kind of triangle where a character's best friend is involved somehow.

    This trope: You<—>Lover<—>Best Friend

    What Best Friend Love Triangle can also describe: You—>Best Friend—>Someone Else, You—>Someone Else—>Best Friend, Best Friend—>You—>Someone Else, You—>Best Friend<—>Someone Else, You—>Someone Else<—>Best Friend, and any variation thereof etc.

  • December 9, 2015
    DAN004
    ^ Why the heck not? ;)
  • December 9, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    ^ Because none of those are betrayal, which is what this trope is about. Stop trying to broaden tropes to the point they either don't mean anything or mean something else entirely.
  • December 9, 2015
    DAN004
    Ain't Missing Supertrope Syndrome telling you to make one first?
  • December 9, 2015
    StarSword
    TV:
    • Castle has a memorable incident where the Body Of The Week's friend and business partner alibis out on account of he was in bed with the victim's wife at the time.
  • December 9, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    ^^No, Missing Supertrope Syndrome is about cleaning up examples on tropes where examples get shoe-horned into it because a broader trope is missing by making the supertrope. If anything the Supertrope is made second.
  • December 9, 2015
    DAN004
    ^ I mean, it'd be good if we avoid that syndrome, by making the supertrope first.
  • December 10, 2015
    NoirGrimoir
    I don't even know that "Love Triangle with your Best Friend" deserves it's own trope. And even if it does, we don't need to turn this into it, make it separately yourself if you're so concerned.
  • January 16, 2016
    Dravencour
    • Cowboy Bebop has this situation with Spike and Vicious, who were best friends until Spike and Julia, Vicious's girlfriend, fell in love. No, it does not end well.
  • January 16, 2016
    DAN004
    Pretty sure this is a variant of one of the Triang Relations variants where a girl is in love with 2 guys.
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