Created By: MsCC93 on July 31, 2012 Last Edited By: MsCC93 on August 2, 2012

Double Standard Abuse: Male on Female

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A very common trope, (in Real Life and Fiction) is the Abuse Is Okay When It Is Female on Male double standard. That's because men are usually known as being stronger than girls and that any man isn't a "man" if he allows himself to be beaten up by a woman.

However, as rare as this sounds, this inversion really does exist. It's not just as common. This may exist when a female is either a Butt-Monkey in fiction.

This trope does not describe situations when a woman hits a man first and expects the man not to do anything back, or when the violence is justified.

Related to All Abusers Are Male and Domestic Abuse.

Spear Counterpart of Abuse Is Okay When It Is Female on Male

Oh and please do not being any personal opinions here. The last thing we need is natter complaining about the double standards that males and females face in real life.

Compare/Contrast Would Hit a Girl
Community Feedback Replies: 13
  • July 31, 2012
    This is common sometimes in Real Life when a female deals with a male bully, a jerk jock or a bullying older brother and the adults do nothing to stop it. This may also happen when a woman is in an abusive relationship and people may say that she is at fault because she was foolish enough to go out with a guy who has a kick for abusing women. Plus, it may also happens with verbally, physically, and/or sexually abusive fathers and the mother doing nothing to stop it (again, Adults Are Useless), or other people laughing at her for it.
  • July 31, 2012
    Family guy OWNS this trope. It is played straight with Peter, Chris, Stewie, or any other guy towards Meg.
    • Subverted with Brenda Quagmire, Quagmire's little sister, who was repeatedly abused by her bastard boyfriend Jeff. Although the other characters were trying to convince her that what he wasn't doing was okay. The whole episode did appear to be making fun of the victim rather than the abuser.
    • Plus, when Quagmire tries to report the abuse to Joe, Joe mentioned that he is not allowed to step in until it is too late.
  • July 31, 2012
    In Christopher Durang's play The Nature and Purpose of the Universe, Eleanor, the main character, is abused by her husband and sons. The play is a modern adaptation of the book of Job in The Bible, with Eleanor being perpetually tested by how absurdly horrible her life is. Durang, in notes, says that it's important in the staging to keep the abuse of a slapstick nature, or the play gets nasty.
  • July 31, 2012
    In the movie "Precious," Precious is abused by her father and her mother, Mary does nothing to help her, since she is also abusive towards Precious, and mainly because she is jealous that her father would rather sleep with Precious than her.
  • July 31, 2012
    In the book series "Junie B Jones," Jim is almost never punished for his bullying towards Junie B. And when she does have outbursts against Jim, Mrs. punishes Junie herself, but she did nothing when Jim bothered Junie B.
  • July 31, 2012
    • In Weird Science, when Wyatt's older brother Chet returns home from a hunting trip, he threatens Deb and Hilly with a shotgun, forcing the barrel onto one of the girls noses, and later hitting both of them on the head with it; it's played for laughs.
  • July 31, 2012
    After reading the Female on Male trope page, it seems like it is meant for examples that are portrayed as okay by the creators (cute, funny, etc...) I can see Family Guy and Weird Science counting but Precious cleary doesn't. I haven't read Junie B Jones but that doesn't sounds like it would be an example either. Also, does Family Guy only show abuse against Meg as being funny or is abuse against men played for laughs too?
  • July 31, 2012
    Well some of what you said may be true, but there's Hey Arnold. Although the bullying that Helga did to Arnold was portrayed as not okay and unfunny, Mr. Simmons did nothing to Helga when she humiliated him by throwing feathers and glue on him, but when Arnold retaliated, Mr. Simmons puts Arnold in detention and never punished Helga, despite seeing her bullying Arnold. I do think this trope and the Spear Counterpart does apply if it is played for laughs or is shown to be very serious in fiction and real life and nobody does anything to help the victim.

    Plus on Family Guy, there are episodes of Peter abusing Meg by physically assaulting her and there was one episode of him sexually abusing her, and it was played for laughs since she's the Butt Monkey.
  • August 1, 2012
    The Joker and Harley Quinn's entire relationship, in Batman The Animated Series and the comics influenced by it.
  • August 1, 2012
    Examples really shouldn't count if its an isolated case. If a woman is a butt monkey, for example because its not saying "Okay hit women" just "okay hit Susan". Similarly, if the relationship isn't thought of as healthy by other people or is between villains/jackasses with little to no redeeming qualities it probably shouldn't count either.
  • August 1, 2012
    ^^ The Joker is treated like a Complete Monster, how is that a double-standard?
  • August 1, 2012
    I don't see how this is a trope. These are examples of men abusing women, for humor, but where's the double standard? Would any of these works balk at humorously portraying men abusing men?
  • August 2, 2012
    This isn't that surprising when you think about Values Dissonance.