History Main / YoureNotMyFather

* Ana is ''Literature/TheGlimpse'' after he rescues her from [[spoiler: an Asylum]].

* The end of the ''WesternAnimation/XMen: TAS'' episode "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAWbrzxNQ5M Beauty and the Beast]]", involving Graydon Creed, is a rare example of an adult invoking this. Wolverine attempts to break up the [[FantasticRacism anti-mutant grassroots terrorist group]] "The Friends of Humanity" by broadcasting a hologrammatic profile of the infamous mutant terrorist Sabertooth, which informs the thugs that the mutant's real name is "Graydon Creed ''Senior''". Horrified to learn they've been following the son of a mutant, they promptly abandon him whilst Graydon has a VillainousBreakdown, grabbing a nearby pistol and firing repeatedly at the Sabertooth hologram whilst screaming that Sabertooth isn't his father.

* Subverted on ''Series/WhosTheBoss'' when Angela and Samantha get into an argument and Angela orders Samantha to go to her room. Samantha immediately shoots back that Angela isn't her mother. Tony intervenes, pointing out that he's her ''father'', and he orders her to listen to Angela.

* In ''Naruto:Asunder'', Naruto directs this at both parents when they try (and fail) to explain sealing the Kyuubi in him and wanting to be a family again (unlike in canon, they're still alive). [[spoiler: By the end of the story, however, not only did Naruto manage to make up with Minato and Kushina, but he also called them "mom" and "dad" just before the final battle against Madara.]]

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* From the Allstate Insurance ''Mayhem'' series in 2010, Mayhem (Creator/DeanWinters) plays a teenage son [[https://youtu.be/z1LEzmJtFGo?t=10 who is listening to a]] [[UsefulNotes/NationalFootballLeague football]] game on a headset while using a riding lawn mower. He runs over a stone bed, sending projectiles through the windows of his house and his father's (stepfather's?) car. Though given he was only paid US$5 for the job, even by 2010 standards that's absurdly low.
-->'''Mayhem:''' Sorry, [[CallingParentsByTheirName Robert]]. Five dollars doesn't buy my undivided attention.
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* In ''Fanfic/RemnantInferisDOOM'', this is taken UpToEleven with Weiss. After seeing and hearing all the horrors that her father unwittingly had a hand in, she denounces her entire family and gives up on wanting to better the Schnee name.

* In ''Literature/BlackLegion'', [[spoiler:Abaddon]] takes it UpToEleven by ''killing'' [[spoiler:the clone of his gene-father]] while saying with DissonantSerenity:

*** And finally inverted in the last chapter with [[spoiler:Gendo. During his confrontation with Rei, he admits to her that he doesn't believe he is deserving of being considered a father to Shinji with how he been treating him]].

* Inverted in ''Webcomic/{{Unlinked}}''. Amelia cares deeply about Hazel's wellbeing and enjoys having her in her life despite her general distaste for children. However, she dislikes thinking of the girl as her daughter (partly because [[spoiler:Hazel's more of a HalfHumanHybrid clone she made by accident]]). In the one instance Hazel outright calls her "mom", Amelia ignores [[CallingTheOldWomanOut the rest of the rant]] it was attached to just to ask her to never call her that.

* In the ''WebAnimation/HelluvaBoss'' episode "[[Recap/HelluvaBossS1E3SpringBreak Spring Break]]", Loona, tired of Blitzo [[OverprotectiveDad constantly interfering with her attempts to talk to Vortex]], [[CallingTheOldManOut eventually calls him out on it]], declaring that even though he adopted her, he's not her real dad.

--> Father. That's a hell of a thing for you to call yourself, whoever the hell you may be. You abandoned us 27 years ago, and promoted me to shoulder a mantle of lead and drudgery, and left my mother's soul so corroded by grief her shadow left stains on the wallpaper. But my father wasn't like that. He climbed mountains and killed beasts and saved lives, and he tucked me and my brothers into bed every night... and then one day... he vanished. And I haven't seen him since.

--> YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER! YOU HEAR ME! YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER!

--> Father. That's a hell of a thing for you to call yourself, after you abandoned us, and left me to shoulder a mantle of lead and drudgery, and my mother's soul so corroded by grief her shadow left stains on the wallpaper. But my father wasn't like that. He climbed mountains and killed beasts and saved lives, and he tucked me and my brothers into bed every night... and then one day... he vanished. And I haven't seen him since.

* In ''Film/IndependenceDay'', right after Russell is arrested for throwing leaflets from his plane, Miguel takes the RV, with the intent of taking his sibling Alicia and Troy and leaving Russell behind in jail. Just then Miguel is surprised to see Russell walking towards him, who goes on to explain that with the impending AlienInvasion, the police had bigger things to worry about. In a deleted scene included in the Extended Edition, Miguel calls him out for being a drunk and tells him that he's not their father, "just a man that married or mother," though Russell reminds him that Troy is his. As the movie progresses, Miguel sees how much Russell actually loves his children, and even feels proud when Major Mitchel tells Miguel "your father was a brave man," after Russell [[spoiler: rams [[HeroicSacrifice his fighter plane into the Invaders' ship's primary weapon, causing it to backfire and destroy the ship.]]]]

* ''Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse:'' Happens ''a lot'' to Loki. Other characters follow suit:

'''Ozai:''' [[DeadpanSnarker That’s just beautiful]]. Maybe he can pass down to you the ways of [[ASpotOfTea tea]] and [[HeroicBSOD failure]].

* Inverted in the "Living Doll" episode of ''Series/TheTwilightZone''.

* ''Manga/{{Bleach}}'': Uryuu is so angry with his father Ryuuken's [[RefusalOfTheCall rejection]] of the family Quincy lineage that he verbally refuses to call him "Father", using Ryuuken's first name instead. Flashbacks reveal a past argument over it that culminated in Uryuu demanding to know why and being horrified when Ryuuken claims there's no money in the lifestyle. It's implied to be the moment when Uryuu lost all respect for his father, as it seems to be the last time Uryuu ever called him "Father" out loud. [[HeroicNeutral Ryuuken]] was actually lying to [[MysteriousPast hide the truth]] but Uryuu hasn't yet realised.

** Erza Scarlet finds out her biological mother Irene Belserion is a despicable woman who gave birth to her just so she could take over her body and escape her own horribly cursed body, dumped her in a random village when she failed, and is now actively trying to kill her out of spite. Because of this, Erza understandably has no trouble telling her that her guild is her true family, not that said mother actually cares since they're enemies regardless. [[spoiler:When her mother can't bring herself to kill Erza and takes her own life, however, Erza pays her respects by calling her "Mother" for the first and only time]]. By the time of ''100 Years Quest'', [[spoiler:Erza cares enough about Irene to dedicate a new weapon and technique after her]].

** Ace uses this phrase on Garp in a flashback, in response to him opposing his plan to become a pirate. Unlike some who invoke it on a non-biological father figure, he doesn't think much of his biological father, Gol D. Roger.

** In the Wano arc, [[spoiler:Yamato already resents his continual abuse by his father, Kaido, but the last straw that makes him disown him as a father right in his face is finding out that Kaido is willing to kill him with his booby-trapped handcuffs.]]

* At the start of ''Series/{{Arrow}}'', Thea Queen is glad her big brother survived the yacht sinking that killed their father but resents how Oliver is trying to curb her HardDrinkingPartyGirl lifestyle, at one point snapping at him: "You're not my father! And you're [[AloofBigBrother barely my brother]]."

* ''Series/TheFlash2014'': In the second episode of Season 1, Barry and Joe have an argument about Barry's heroics on either continuing or stopping it. Joe arguments that Barry is jumping headfirst into playing hero risking his life, and Barry counters that the police isn't equipped to fight metahumans, leading to this exchange:

** Erza Scarlet finds out her biological mother Irene Belserion is a despicable woman who gave birth to her just so she could take over her body and escape her own horribly cursed body, dumped her in a random village when she failed, and is now actively trying to kill her out of spite. Because of this, Erza understandably has no trouble telling her that her guild is her true family, not that said mother actually cares since they're enemies regardless. [[spoiler:When her mother can't bring hrself to kill Erza and takes her own life, however, Erza pays her respects by calling her "Mother" for the first and only time]]. By the time of ''100 Years Quest'', [[spoiler:Erza cares enough about Irene to dedicate a new weapon and technique after her]].

** Ace uses this phrase on Garp in a flashback, in response to him opposing his plan to become a pirate. Unlike some who invoke it on a non-biological father-figure, he doesn't think much of his biological father, Gol D. Roger.

** In ''ComicBook/RedDaughterOfKrypton'' Kara says this line after her team's leader tells she shouldn't drink booze because she's just a kid.

** ''Fanfic/TheChildOfLove'': After the events of the story Shinji calls his father out on everything he did to himself, Asuka and their daughter and tells him as far as he is concerned, he is a stranger. Several years later he still refuses to refer to Gendo as his father.
** ''Fanfic/DoingItRightThisTime'': After returning to the past Rei refuses to regard Gendo as father, parental substitute, guardian or whatever.

** ''Fanfic/OnceMoreWithFeeling'': Variant. After meeting his grandfather for first time, Shinji tells these words when he finally and intellectually accepts that his so-called blood relatives were never there for him.

* In ''The Siege of Starling City'', the sequel to ''Fanfic/VigilantesDawn'', Tommy Merlyn and Sara Lance basically do this on behalf of Thea Queen when they find a video recording where Malcolm Merlyn reveals that he was Thea's biological father after an affair with her mother Moira. Despite the DNA test results confirming the biological link, Tommy and Sara each agree that Robert Queen was Thea’s true father in every way that matters, and telling her about her relationship to Malcolm will accomplish nothing.

* ''Fanfic/HerMax'': Ruby is raising her little brother Max alone due to their parents deaths, but she's worried that Max will resent her as he gets older. She has a nightmare of an older Max yelling at her that she's not his mother.

* ''Fanfic/RWBYScars'': Yang tells her biological mother Raven this. She had spent years looking for her, but was disappointed by how cruel and distant Raven was. Yang's deceased step-mother Summer was a better mother than Raven. Yang doesn't want Raven anywhere near her family and threatens to [[{{Matricide}} kill her]] if she does get too close.
* This is what the ''Cinderella'' oneshot ''[[https://archiveofourown.org/works/3784876 Royal Relations]]'' revolves around. Cinderella disowns her abusive step-mother but gives her step-sisters the option to be in her life, as long as they're no longer under their mother's control.

* It's not present in the final version of the film, but this [[WhatCouldHaveBeen originally]] happened in ''WesternAnimation/{{Frozen|2013}}''. There is a voice clip in [[EarlyDraftTieIn certain Elsa toys]] that wasn't used in the film. WordOfGod is that it's from the scene where Anna asks for her sisters blessing.

* In the ''Film/AustinPowers'' movies, Dr. Evil's relationship with his son Scott continually degenerated. Scott was resentful of him for being neglectful, initially, and tried to reconcile later. By the end of the third movie, [[spoiler: where Dr. Evil makes a HeelFaceTurn, Scott truly ''hates'' his father (along with everyone else he's related to), and has taken over his criminal empire.]]
* Said by Kristy in the ''Literature/TheBabySittersClub'' movie, when her stepfather berates her for coming home late -- from a secret visit with her biological DisappearedDad, but he didn't know that. Made all the more heart-breaking by the fact that there are several points in the books where Watson plainly calls Kristy his daughter, even giving her an antique family heirloom in the ''Little Sister'' {{Spinoff}}, and her biological dad stood her up in the end, anyway. A little jarring though; this is never resolved in the movie (with Kristy apologizing to Watson for what she said), outside of her narration explaining to the audience she felt bad.

* In ''Film/IndependenceDay'', right after Russell is arrested for throwing leaflets from his plane, Miguel takes the RV, with the intent of taking his sibling Alicia and Troy and leaving Russell behind in jail. Just then Miguel is surprised to see Russell walking towards him, who goes on to explain that with the impending AlienInvasion, the police had bigger things to worry about. In a deleted scene included in the Extended Edition, Miguel calls him out for being a drunk, and tells him that he's not their father, "just a man that married or mother," though Russell reminds him that Troy is his. As the movie progresses, Miguel sees how much Russell actually loves his children, and even feels proud when Major Mitchel tells Miguel "your father was a brave man," after Russell [[spoiler: rams [[HeroicSacrifice his fighter plane into the Invaders' ship's primary weapon, causing it to backfire and destroy the ship.]]]]

*** An indirect version -- since only one of the characters is aware of the relation -- takes place when [[spoiler:Loki shoots Laufey with Gungnir]] while making it clear who he considers to be his true parent:

* ''Film/TheRiseOfSkywalker'': [[spoiler:Rey is really a member of the Palpatine family, and the granddaughter of the now undead Sith Emperor. While he tries to goad her to the Dark Side, she rejects both him and her family name, preferring to think of herself as a Skywalker.]]

* In the climax of the Indonesian folklore ''Literature/MalinKundang'', the titular character, after becoming rich through hard work, came across his old and poor mother. Out of shame with his new peers, he rejected his mother and said that such poor woman couldn't be the mother of his new rich self. Said mother, out of grief, then [[{{Curse}} cursed him]] to [[TakenForGranite turn into stone]] as the retaliation.

* In ''Literature/AmberBrown is On the Move'', the title character shouts this after her new stepfather, Max, gets on her case about not packing the stuff in her room for their upcoming move to their new house. She's upset at herself, as she normally likes Max reasonably well, and it causes her to realize that she needs some help from her friends.

* In the Creator/MaeveBinchy novel ''Evening Class'', a character has just learned that her oldest sister is in fact her mother. Several days later, her "father" (actually grandfather) asks her to run an errand for him. When she refuses, still upset at the revelation and deception, he sternly tells her "no child of mine is going to speak to me like that". She responds by coldly declaring, "I'm NOT a child of yours.", thus revealing that she knows the secret. After a {{Beat}} in which this sinks in, he tells her essentially HAS been a father to her these past 16 years and even if not, he's still her grandfather and deserving of respect.

* In the [[Literature/SweetValleyHigh Sweet Valley]] Saga book ''The Wakefields Of Sweet Valley'', Ted Wakefield gets fed up with his Aunt Sarah's suggestions on what to do with his life (college, etc) and finally snaps at her "You're not my mother!". He later apologizes, seeing as how she HAS been a mother to him all his life, as his parents (her brother and sister-in-law) were killed in a train crash when he was a baby. However, as the reader knows, Sarah IS his mother -- the entire story was a fabrication to prevent him or anyone else knowing that he was illegitimate.

* A particularly powerful example appears in the ''Series/AllInTheFamily'' episode "Edith's Fiftieth Birthday." The first part of the episode sees Edith [[RapeAsDrama nearly being raped]] by a stranger; the second half details her resulting depression, shame, and PTSD. Her daughter Gloria, who was herself a victim of attempted rape earlier in the series, does her best to help Edith recover, but becomes increasingly frustrated by her mother's inability to confront or even talk about what happened. Things reach a boiling point when the rapist attacks another woman, and Edith refuses to identify him as the man in her own case, which would put him away for good. Gloria is shocked that her mother, normally a pinnacle of selflessness, is allowing this; her furious reaction causes Edith to slap her, then break down and finally realize that she needs to face her fears head on.

* ''Series/{{Angel}}'': Angel's son Connor, raised by Angel's sworn enemy in a hell dimension, gets off at least one of these Eastwood style. He later identifies [[TheSoulless Angelus]] as his real father (who he wants to kill). In a later episode, his mother Darla's ghost appears to him and tries to stop him from murdering an innocent, but he rejects her, too.
* At the start of ''Series/{{Arrow}}'', Thea Queen is glad her big brother survived the yacht sinking that killed their father, but resents how Oliver is trying to curb her HardDrinkingPartyGirl lifestyle, at one point snapping at him: "You're not my father! And you're [[AloofBigBrother barely my brother]]."

* There's an episode of ''Series/CSIMiami'' in which Horatio meets a teenage boy. Horatio keeps calling him 'son', until the boy snaps back at him 'YoureNotMyFather'... little does he know that Horatio had earlier run a paternity test...

* ''Series/TheFlash2014'': In the second episode of Season 1, Barry and Joe have an argument about Barry's heroics on either continuing or stopping it. Joe arguments that Barry is jumping head first into playing hero risking his life, and Barry counters that the police isn't equipped to fight metahumans, leading to this exchange:

* ''Series/TheGoodDoctor'': Shaun says this verbatim to Dr. Glassman during an argument in the Season One winter finale, when he gets fed up with Dr. Glassman making decisions for him.

** [[spoiler:It happened in a bigger way with Sylar. Angela went "Sylar, you're my son -- oh no sorry false alarm." It was kind of pathetic.]]

* A really bizarre example occurs in the UK science fiction comedy ''Series/{{Hyperdrive}}''. Technical Officer Jeffers is reminiscing about being raised by a computer simulation of his father, created when his father knew he was dying. Then, when Jeffers was fifteen, they got into an argument, and Jeffers said "You're not my real dad! You're just a piece of code!" and deleted the program. He tried to restore it the next day, but couldn't.

** A later episode features an inversion; Erin goes out of the way to make her boss Michael like her boyfriend Gabe, and Michael asks why she cares so much, since he's not her father. After a stunned silence, he realizes that Erin, who has no family, sees him as a father figure.

** Season 7 has a {{flashback}} of Bobby talking on the phone to John, who tells he is not Dean's father after Bobby decides to take him to the park instead of to practice shooting (Dean was just a kid at the time).
* ''Series/SwitchedAtBirth'' has Daphne, who was still in grieving of Angelo's death, in Season 3 say this to Regina.

* In ''Theatre/{{Hamilton}}'', Washington repeatedly calls Hamilton 'son' while admonishing him for the duel with Lee and trying to explain why he's not giving him an independent command. Each time, Hamilton interrupts "I'm not your son" until finally he roars "''CALL ME 'SON' ONE MORE TIME--!''". Even harsher with the historical fact that not only did Hamilton not have a father, but Washington never had any children. It is heavily implied that during the rest of the play Hamilton started to see Washington [[ParentalSubstitute as his father]] — the last time we see Washington alive is during the "the Reynolds Papers" number where Washington get the paper thrust into his face, and he answer with a silent look of disgust at Hamilton who until now stoicly stood still while people threw letters at him finally turned away his head in shame. And just before getting shot he glimpsed "the other Side" and he saw his dead Son, his dead Mother and Washington waiting on the Other Side-Washington taking the place of his actual father that he never knew.

* In ''VideoGame/WorldOfWarcraft'', during the Waycrest Manor dungeon, Lucille Waycrest gets angry when her mother, Lady Waycrest, calls her "daughter," angrily telling Lady Waycrest not to call her that and calling her a "witch" (quite literally, since Lady Waycrest resorted to dark magic to extend her husband's life).

* Said by [[UsefulNotes/{{Jesus}} Jeshua]] in ''Webcomic/{{Shortpacked}}'', to Galasso, the nutjob who brought him back to life to be an attention grabbing gimick for his toystore. Given who the real dad ''is'', its significantly more of a threat than usual.

** The skit "Jedi Master George W./Jedi In Chief" more or less parodies this trope during a parody of the IAmYourFather scene in ''Franchise/StarWars'', with George Bush as Vader and his daugther Jenna replacing Luke:

** Another skit involved an aging Stretch Armstrong no longer able to stretch. He has surgery to restore his stretchiness, but is told to wait until his stitches heal. He doesn't listen, and he dies. His wife remarries ComicBook/PlasticMan, prompting her son to exclaim that he's not his real dad.

* In ''WesternAnimation/SymBionicTitan'', Lance says this line to the King of Galaluna, who isn't a ParentalSubstitute, but was a friend of Lance's father. Immediately after saying that, Lance accepted that his father's dead, after the whole episode with optimism that he might still be alive since [[NeverFoundTheBody there was no body]].