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11th Oct '16 12:39:25 AM DrOO7
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* Scarlett in ''Literature/GoneWithTheWind'' decides that she doesn't want any more children, and tells Rhett that their marriage should become this. [[spoiler: It does… mostly.]] Melanie has a delivery go ''very'' badly, and is warned not to have more children; consequently, she and her husband sleep apart. [[spoiler:We discover--[[DeathByChildbirth tragically]]--that Melanie and Ashley weren't entirely sexless either]].

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* Scarlett in ''Literature/GoneWithTheWind'' decides that she doesn't want any more children, children (she also, bizarrely, wants to somehow stay faithful to ''Ashley'', the man she's loved for years even though he's married to Melanie), and tells Rhett that their marriage should become this. [[spoiler: It does… mostly.]] Melanie has a delivery go ''very'' badly, and is warned not to have more children; consequently, she and her husband sleep apart. [[spoiler:We discover--[[DeathByChildbirth tragically]]--that Melanie and Ashley weren't entirely sexless either]].


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* In ''Literature/PetalsOnTheWind'', Paul reveals to Cathy that his wife Julia cut him off after they had their son, having always hated sex thanks to "a cousin who'd done something to her when she was four".


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* In ''Series/DrQuinnMedicineWoman'', Myra indicates to Horace that she's willing to settle for this, "Lots of marriages are just . . .friendship marriages.", if he can't get over his anxiety about making love to her (he's a virgin, she's a former ''prostitute''). He's so touched by her devotion that they end up finally consummating the marriage after all.
10th Oct '16 12:00:52 PM Abracadabrantes
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* Aragon alludes to this with the Duke of Richelieu in ''La Semaine Sainte''. Probably TruthInTelevision, as the Duke and his wife barely lived together even when they were not at opposite ends of Europe, and both were famously disinterested in sex.
22nd Sep '16 9:45:17 PM nombretomado
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* [[spoiler:Jacky]] and Higgins in ''[[BloodyJack The Wake Of The Lorelei Lee]]''--which is to be expected, since Higgins is [[AmbiguouslyGay gay]] and [[spoiler:Jacky is [[CatchPhrase promised to another]].]]

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* [[spoiler:Jacky]] and Higgins in ''[[BloodyJack ''[[Literature/BloodyJack The Wake Of The Lorelei Lee]]''--which is to be expected, since Higgins is [[AmbiguouslyGay gay]] and [[spoiler:Jacky is [[CatchPhrase promised to another]].]]
28th Aug '16 1:04:18 AM JackG
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* At the start of ''Film/BadBoys'', one of our protagonists is griping about this.
-->"Please man, I'm not getting my sex at home. Don't deny me this [burger]."
-->"What are you talking about? You sleep with a beautiful woman every night!"
-->"That's what being married means. You sleep together, but you can't get none."
30th Jun '16 9:53:22 AM Pichu-kun
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* Series/{{Monk}} is a highly germophobic man, and it was implied that he didn't have sex with his wife, though they loved each other.
** Note that later in the series he regrets never having children with her.
** Also later in the series, when Monk is reunited with an old crush, he tells her that he was married and that they "went all the way." So it's probably a safe bet that they did it at least once.

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* Series/{{Monk}} is a highly germophobic man, and it was implied that he didn't have sex with his wife, though they loved each other.
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other. Note that later in the series he regrets never having children with her.
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her. Also later in the series, when Monk is reunited with an old crush, he tells her that he was married and that they "went all the way." So it's probably a safe bet that they did it at least once.


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* This is implied with the protagonist and Alisa in ''VideoGame/HarvestMoonTheTaleOfTwoTowns'' if they get married in. Alisa has dedicated herself to the [[CrystalDragonJesus Harvest Goddess]] but can marry you. The two of you can't have children though.
19th May '16 6:17:35 AM hullflyer
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* One of the {{Spenser}} books subverts this. Quirk mentions to Spenser that after their kids moved out, he and his wife now sleep in separate rooms. Subverted in that though people who know about it think the marriage is in trouble, it's strictly for comfort reasons, and the marriage is actually stronger, as they now sleep together when they ''want'' to, rather than because they have to. This was actually TruthInTelevision for author Robert B. Parker, who lived on a different floor of his home with his wife, and was quoted as saying "I never want to sleep with my wife again, but I hope to continue making love to her for the rest of my life."
18th May '16 2:47:28 PM LongTallShorty64
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* Since Eric only married June for her money in the film ''Film/{{Fallen Angel|1945}}'', they don't spend their wedding night together.
14th May '16 11:25:03 PM nombretomado
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* Heavily implied between Salvatore Romano and his wife in ''MadMen''. In fact it appears that the two of them barely even speak.

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* Heavily implied between Salvatore Romano and his wife in ''MadMen''.''Series/MadMen''. In fact it appears that the two of them barely even speak.
5th May '16 2:43:28 PM TheOneWhoTropes
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* In ''VisualNovel/UminekoNoNakuKoroNi'', Krauss and Natsuhi apparently do not share a bed and sleep in separate bedrooms.

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* In ''VisualNovel/UminekoNoNakuKoroNi'', ''VisualNovel/UminekoWhenTheyCry'', Krauss and Natsuhi apparently do not share a bed and sleep in separate bedrooms.
22nd Apr '16 5:15:14 PM Eievie
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Usually appears in fiction (and [[TruthInTelevision real life]]) in the form of furiously whispered rumors. "I hear AliceAndBob don't even sleep in the same bed anymore." Mostly used to indicate a marriage that has hit the rocks for whatever reason - sometimes a particularly bad betrayal of a spouse, sometimes serial small betrayals, sometimes simply a marriage where [[DeadSparks the love has died over the years]].

There are a few times where this trope can be in play for other reasons. Sometimes there are uncomfortable sleep issues involved (snoring, etc.) and one side will be [[ExiledToTheCouch banished from the bed]]. The trope will also occur with either a CitizenshipMarriage or someone who has SettledForGay, although in those cases this may be the default state of the marriage. In neither case does this trope suggest the romantic problems that it will under the more stereotypical circumstances. In one case because the romance is fine - it's just the sleeping patterns that are bad, and in the other because there wasn't supposed to be any romance to begin with. Another possibility is that one or both of the couple are having medical or other problems that interfere with having a sex life. In even rarer cases, the married couple may be [[{{Asexuality}} asexuals]] who don't find the sexless nature of their marriage an issue in the first place.

Note that characters who are implied to have sex and simply aren't shown sleeping in the same bed for [[MoralGuardians propriety reasons]] are covered under SleepingSingle, although nowadays, the default assumption tends to be that a couple that doesn't sleep in the same bed falls under this trope, unless sex between the two is explicitly mentioned on camera. '''However, for this wiki's purposes, the reverse holds - unless it's explicitly mentioned that it's a Sexless Marriage, it goes under SleepingSingle. If it's subverted, then there still needs to be an explicit mention somewhere in the work itself that the couple is thought to be in a Sexless Marriage.'''

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Usually appears in fiction (and [[TruthInTelevision real life]]) in the form of furiously whispered rumors. "I hear AliceAndBob don't even sleep in the same bed anymore." Mostly used to indicate a marriage that has hit the rocks for whatever reason - sometimes reason--sometimes a particularly bad betrayal of a spouse, sometimes serial small betrayals, sometimes simply a marriage where [[DeadSparks the love has died over the years]].

There are a few times where this trope can be in play for other reasons. Sometimes there are uncomfortable sleep issues involved (snoring, etc.) and one side will be [[ExiledToTheCouch banished from the bed]]. The trope will also occur with either a CitizenshipMarriage or someone who has SettledForGay, although in those cases this may be the default state of the marriage. In neither case does this trope suggest the romantic problems that it will under the more stereotypical circumstances. In one case because the romance is fine - it's fine--it's just the sleeping patterns that are bad, and in the other because there wasn't supposed to be any romance to begin with. Another possibility is that one or both of the couple are having medical or other problems that interfere with having a sex life. In even rarer cases, the married couple may be [[{{Asexuality}} asexuals]] who don't find the sexless nature of their marriage an issue in the first place.

Note that characters who are implied to have sex and simply aren't shown sleeping in the same bed for [[MoralGuardians propriety reasons]] are covered under SleepingSingle, although nowadays, the default assumption tends to be that a couple that doesn't sleep in the same bed falls under this trope, unless sex between the two is explicitly mentioned on camera. '''However, for this wiki's purposes, the reverse holds - unless holds--unless it's explicitly mentioned that it's a Sexless Marriage, it goes under SleepingSingle. If it's subverted, then there still needs to be an explicit mention somewhere in the work itself that the couple is thought to be in a Sexless Marriage.'''



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** A tragic case for Lady Ramia, whose husband refused to have anything to do with her due to [[KissingCousins their relationship]]. As a result, all three of their sons are adopted. [[spoiler:And Seileiz, the eldest, is TheUnfavorite for being the king's bastard son - seeing living evidence that her husband was perfectly willing to sleep with OTHER woman has pissed Ramia off for decades.]]

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** A tragic case for Lady Ramia, whose husband refused to have anything to do with her due to [[KissingCousins their relationship]]. As a result, all three of their sons are adopted. [[spoiler:And Seileiz, the eldest, is TheUnfavorite for being the king's bastard son - seeing son--seeing living evidence that her husband was perfectly willing to sleep with OTHER ''other'' woman has pissed Ramia off for decades.]]



* In ''LightNovel/FateZero'', the marriage Saber (aka [[KingArthur Arturia Pendragon]]) had with Guinevere was devoid of sex due to the fact that [[SweetPollyOliver Saber had to conceal her gender in order to be King]]. It was because of this that Guinevere [[YourCheatingHeart started looking for love in other places]] - Lancelot, for example. Saber was actually alright with Guinevere's affair [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy because she wanted her to be happy]], but was forced to act when it became public to preserve her image and authority. In the end, all three suffered as a result.

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* In ''LightNovel/FateZero'', the marriage Saber (aka [[KingArthur Arturia Pendragon]]) had with Guinevere was devoid of sex due to the fact that [[SweetPollyOliver Saber had to conceal her gender in order to be King]]. It was because of this that Guinevere [[YourCheatingHeart started looking for love in other places]] - Lancelot, places]]--Lancelot, for example. Saber was actually alright with Guinevere's affair [[IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy because she wanted her to be happy]], but was forced to act when it became public to preserve her image and authority. In the end, all three suffered as a result.






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* Implied to be the case in Laura's ArrangedMarriage in ''Literature/TheWomanInWhite'' -- her GoldDigger of a husband assures his friend there's no chance of his wife limiting his access to her money by producing heirs.
* Scarlett in ''Literature/GoneWithTheWind'' decides that she doesn't want any more children, and tells Rhett that their marriage should become this. [[spoiler: It does...mostly.]] Melanie has a delivery go ''very'' badly, and is warned not to have more children; consequently, she and her husband sleep apart. [[spoiler: We discover -- [[DeathByChildbirth tragically]] -- that Melanie and Ashley weren't entirely sexless either]].

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* Implied to be the case in Laura's ArrangedMarriage in ''Literature/TheWomanInWhite'' -- her ''Literature/TheWomanInWhite''--her GoldDigger of a husband assures his friend there's no chance of his wife limiting his access to her money by producing heirs.
* Scarlett in ''Literature/GoneWithTheWind'' decides that she doesn't want any more children, and tells Rhett that their marriage should become this. [[spoiler: It does...does… mostly.]] Melanie has a delivery go ''very'' badly, and is warned not to have more children; consequently, she and her husband sleep apart. [[spoiler: We discover -- [[DeathByChildbirth tragically]] -- that [[spoiler:We discover--[[DeathByChildbirth tragically]]--that Melanie and Ashley weren't entirely sexless either]].



* [[spoiler:Jacky]] and Higgins in ''[[BloodyJack The Wake Of The Lorelei Lee]]'' - which is to be expected, since Higgins is [[AmbiguouslyGay gay]] and [[spoiler:Jacky is [[CatchPhrase promised to another]].]]
* ''Literature/InDeath'' series: ''Imitation In Death'' reveals that [[spoiler: Pamela and Niles]] have this sort of marriage. They pretty much hate each other's guts. Here's the kicker...[[spoiler: Pamela is an IceQueen with a total LackOfEmpathy who knows that her husband is the psychopath and a SerialKiller, as well as knowing that he rapes the nanny, using his wife's frigidness as an excuse. Pamela does not care, because at least it doesn't affect her own little world. To add to the heinousness of the situation, they have a kid, and while the kid hasn't been harmed, Pamela didn't even think about kid's safety and well-being once]]!

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* [[spoiler:Jacky]] and Higgins in ''[[BloodyJack The Wake Of The Lorelei Lee]]'' - which Lee]]''--which is to be expected, since Higgins is [[AmbiguouslyGay gay]] and [[spoiler:Jacky is [[CatchPhrase promised to another]].]]
* ''Literature/InDeath'' series: ''Imitation In Death'' reveals that [[spoiler: Pamela and Niles]] have this sort of marriage. They pretty much hate each other's guts. Here's the kicker...[[spoiler: Pamela kicker… [[spoiler:Pamela is an IceQueen with a total LackOfEmpathy who knows that her husband is the psychopath and a SerialKiller, as well as knowing that he rapes the nanny, using his wife's frigidness as an excuse. Pamela does not care, because at least it doesn't affect her own little world. To add to the heinousness of the situation, they have a kid, and while the kid hasn't been harmed, Pamela didn't even think about kid's safety and well-being once]]!



* This is the premise of Julia Valerian’s relationship with her third husband in ''[[Literature/TheMarkOfTheLion A Voice in the Wind]]''—he is [[IncompatibleOrientation gay]] and has a live-in [[AllGaysArePedophiles catamite]], and she is using the marriage as a cover to carry on an affair with a gladiator. It is superficially beneficial to them both ([[spoiler:although it backfires on Julia; her lover isn’t exactly thrilled to hear that she’s gotten married]]), but they hardly interact with one another at all.

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* This is the premise of Julia Valerian’s Valerian's relationship with her third husband in ''[[Literature/TheMarkOfTheLion A Voice in the Wind]]''—he Wind]]''--he is [[IncompatibleOrientation gay]] and has a live-in [[AllGaysArePedophiles catamite]], and she is using the marriage as a cover to carry on an affair with a gladiator. It is superficially beneficial to them both ([[spoiler:although it backfires on Julia; her lover isn’t isn't exactly thrilled to hear that she’s she's gotten married]]), but they hardly interact with one another at all.



* A number of the political marriages in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'' due to one of the parties being too young to consummate the marriage. Notable examples include Tyrek Lannister and Lady Ermasinde ([[{{Squick}} due to the fact that the latter is less than a year old]]) and [[spoiler: Tommen and Margaery]]. [[spoiler: Tyrion and Sansa]] qualify for a different reason: she's unwilling and he won't exercise the MaritalRapeLicense to force the issue.

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* A number of the political marriages in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'' due to one of the parties being too young to consummate the marriage. Notable examples include Tyrek Lannister and Lady Ermasinde ([[{{Squick}} due to the fact that the latter is less than a year old]]) and [[spoiler: Tommen and Margaery]]. [[spoiler: Tyrion [[spoiler:Tyrion and Sansa]] qualify for a different reason: she's unwilling and he won't exercise the MaritalRapeLicense to force the issue.issue. (Also like the others, age is a semi-reason.)



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* Ned and Chuck's relationship in ''Series/PushingDaisies''. [[CantHaveSexEver For special reasons...]]

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* Ned and Chuck's relationship in ''Series/PushingDaisies''. [[CantHaveSexEver For special reasons...]]reasons…]]



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--> '''Hawke''': Aww, would you feel better if I slept with him? Because I ''totally'' would. Right here.
--> '''Carver''': [[BrainBleach Sister please!]]
--> '''Sebastian''': Yes love... [[ThinkUnsexyThoughts rein it in.]]

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--> '''Hawke''': -->'''Hawke''': Aww, would you feel better if I slept with him? Because I ''totally'' would. Right here.
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here.\\
'''Carver''': [[BrainBleach Sister please!]]
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please!]]\\
'''Sebastian''': Yes love... love… [[ThinkUnsexyThoughts rein it in.]]
in]].









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-->'''Stewie:''' No, no, it's... it's nothing, just had Play-Doh spaghetti last night (pauses) (under breath, looking away) and that's ''all'' we had last night.
-->'''Olivia:''' What does that mean?
-->'''Stewie:''' Oh, I don't know, Olivia, uh... maybe that we are in a sexless marriage, we have yet to have sex...
-->'''Olivia:''' Do you even know what sex ''is?''
-->'''Stewie:''' That's not the point! Don't change the...[[AnatomicallyImpossibleSex it's a]] [[IsItSomethingYouEat kind of cake]]?

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-->'''Stewie:''' No, no, it's... it's… it's nothing, just had Play-Doh spaghetti last night (pauses) (under breath, looking away) and that's ''all'' we had last night.
-->'''Olivia:'''
night.\\
'''Olivia:'''
What does that mean?
-->'''Stewie:'''
mean?\\
'''Stewie:'''
Oh, I don't know, Olivia, uh... uh… maybe that we are in a sexless marriage, we have yet to have sex...
-->'''Olivia:'''
sex…\\
'''Olivia:'''
Do you even know what sex ''is?''
-->'''Stewie:'''
''is?''\\
'''Stewie:'''
That's not the point! Don't change the...the… [[AnatomicallyImpossibleSex it's a]] [[IsItSomethingYouEat kind of cake]]?



-->'''Butters''': A ring that says you'll be together but not have sex...isn't that a wedding ring?"

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-->'''Butters''': A ring that says you'll be together but not have sex...sex… isn't that a wedding ring?"



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