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12th Aug '17 3:14:28 AM jaydude1992
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* While engaging in bondage in ''[[http://archiveofourown.org/works/7466109/chapters/23880495 Slippery When Wet]]'' (NSFW fic), Max breaks character twice to remind Chloe to let her know if things get too much, and makes sure she remembers their safe word before they begin proper.
22nd May '17 4:40:51 PM Eievie
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->''"You know kids, I wish every mother and father in this theater would go home tonight and make a speech to their teenagers and say kids, be free, no guilt, be whatever you are, do whatever you want to do, just so long as you don't hurt anybody."''

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->''"You know kids, I wish every mother and father in this theater would go home tonight and make a speech to their teenagers and say kids, say, 'Kids, be free, no guilt, be whatever you are, do whatever you want to do, just so long as you don't hurt anybody.' "''
5th May '17 5:07:50 PM Gamermaster
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* ''Manga/{{Evangelion 303}}'': In chapter 17 twenty-years-old Shinji and Asuka explore their relationship's sexual dynamics further. Asuka wants to try bondage games. When Shinji asks if she is REALLY, ABSOLUTELY sure that she wants getting tied and spanked by him she retorts she is and he better does so now. Later, when he says he is surprised at her being a sub, she explains THAT is the point of fantasy. During the chapter Shinji reflects Asuka had probably fantasized about it for a long time but before him she had never met someone she trusted enough to try it, and she wanted to be sure she could share her secret fantasies with him before their wedding.

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* ''Manga/{{Evangelion 303}}'': In chapter 17 twenty-years-old Shinji and Asuka explore their relationship's sexual dynamics further. Asuka wants to try bondage games. When Shinji asks if she is REALLY, ABSOLUTELY sure that she wants getting tied and spanked by him she retorts she is and he better does so now. Later, when he says he is surprised at her being a sub, she explains THAT is the point of fantasy. During the chapter Shinji reflects Asuka had probably fantasized about it for a long time but before him she had never met someone she trusted enough to try it, and she wanted to be sure she could share her secret fantasies with him before their wedding.[[spoiler:their wedding]].
23rd Mar '17 9:05:48 AM Kazmahu
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* The short independent VisualNovel ''Cute Demon Crashers!'' is all about this. HornyDevils have worked out that it's a lot easier to get fed if they approach people while they're awake and play nice, so they've taken to helping humans safely explore their sexuality. All of the games H-scenes have a button for the PlayerCharacter to say stop at any point, which ends the sex and has their parter immediately start calming them down.
15th Feb '17 3:35:50 PM TheSinful
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* In ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/11669575/34/For-Love-of-Magic For Love of Magic]]'', Harry enters a BDSM relationship with Professor Vector and notes that he's rather proud of himself for having a good enough feel for her limits that she's never used their safe words. When he gives her to his other lovers for the night, he makes a point of everyone knowing the safe words (yellow for "ease up" and red for "stop") and reminds Vector that she can stop it at any time.
21st Jan '17 9:15:09 PM Carnildo
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* In theory completely averted in the law of the UK, in which no consent can ever be legally given for anything that goes so far as to leave a mark or bruise, and charges can be made by the police regardless of the consent levels of the participants. However, this law is rarely used against heterosexual sadomasochists (or heterosexual vanilla sex that also leave marks). [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner Homosexuals, on the other hand...]]
** Of course, given that gay marriage is now legal in Britain as of June 2013, it is unlikely that something like Operation Spanner would happen again anytime soon.
** In the UK it was the House of Lords case of R. v. Brown. This was followed in Ontario by its Court of Appeal in R. v. Welch. In the latter case the court stated that S&M is "inherently degrading and dehumanizing" and does not allow someone to consent to harm as they would in an activity with "a generally approved social purpose" such as a contact sport like hockey.
*** Just to demonstrate the unfairness in R v Brown, a UK case - R v Wilson - involving a heterosexual couple showed that there were some circumstances when consent could be a defence for assault in the case of S&M. The man was convicted for assault when he branded his initials on his wife's buttocks on her request, although he was later cleared at the court of appeal - apparently, as the branding was meant to be a personal adornment "like a tattoo", her consent was seen as good enough to have his conviction quashed. You have to wonder whether they would have come to that conclusion if the participants were gay.
** The same is true in Massachusetts, and there have been prosecutions of consensual [=BDSM=] couples who don't choose their doctors or cover their bruises carefully enough.
* Some real-life [=BDSM=] practitioners distinguish between SSC play and RACK play (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). The latter is defined as forms of play that can '''never''' be completely safe (a good example of this is fireplay, which always carries risks).
** Another perspective holds that nothing is completely safe (and [=BDSM=] certainly isn't), and "sane" is subjective and hard to delineate.

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* In theory completely averted in the law of the UK, in which no consent can ever be legally given for anything that goes so far as to leave a mark or bruise, and charges can be made by the police regardless of the consent levels of the participants. However, this law is rarely used against heterosexual sadomasochists (or heterosexual vanilla sex that also leave marks). [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner Homosexuals, on the other hand...]]
** Of course, given that gay marriage is now legal in Britain as of June 2013, it is unlikely that something like Operation Spanner would happen again anytime soon.
** In the UK it was the House of Lords case of R. v. Brown. This was followed in Ontario by its Court of Appeal in R. v. Welch. In the latter case the court stated that S&M is "inherently degrading and dehumanizing" and does not allow someone to consent to harm as they would in an activity with "a generally approved social purpose" such as a contact sport like hockey.
*** Just to demonstrate the unfairness in R v Brown, a UK case - R v Wilson - involving a heterosexual couple showed that there were some circumstances when consent could be a defence for assault in the case of S&M. The man was convicted for assault when he branded his initials on his wife's buttocks on her request, although he was later cleared at the court of appeal - apparently, as the branding was meant to be a personal adornment "like a tattoo", her consent was seen as good enough to have his conviction quashed. You have to wonder whether they would have come to that conclusion if the participants were gay.
** The same is true in Massachusetts, and there have been prosecutions of consensual [=BDSM=] couples who don't choose their doctors or cover their bruises carefully enough.
participants.
* Some real-life [=BDSM=] practitioners distinguish between SSC play and RACK play (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). The latter is defined as forms of play that can '''never''' be completely safe (a good example of this is fireplay, which always carries risks).
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risks). Another perspective holds that nothing is completely safe (and [=BDSM=] certainly isn't), and "sane" is subjective and hard to delineate.
27th Dec '16 12:58:26 PM WillKeaton
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* This is the core philosophy of Mistress Matisse's and Creator/DanSavage's sex columns for The Seattle Stranger. Savage has specifically said in articles that the only things he considers completely unacceptable are rape, pedophilia, [[BestialityIsDepraved bestiality]], [[ILoveTheDead necrophilia]] and [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coprophilia coprophilia]]. He also tends to caution against cheating except in very extreme cases (for example, an abusive partner), though he is an advocate for ''consensual'' non-monogamy.

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* This is the core philosophy of Mistress Matisse's and Creator/DanSavage's sex columns for The Seattle Stranger. Savage has specifically said in articles that the only things he considers completely unacceptable are rape, pedophilia, [[BestialityIsDepraved bestiality]], [[ILoveTheDead necrophilia]] and [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coprophilia coprophilia]]. coprophilia.]] He also tends to caution against cheating except in very extreme cases (for example, an abusive partner), though he is an advocate for ''consensual'' non-monogamy.
13th May '16 7:01:16 PM eroock
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-->--"My Conviction", ''Theatre/{{Hair}}''

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-->--"My -->-- "My Conviction", ''Theatre/{{Hair}}''
12th May '16 1:02:21 PM KimiFW
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This trope is about discussing and defining the limits of proper behavior, [[Administrivia/InternalSubtrope or]] simply waving a ConsentFlag. People simply ''doing'' [=BDSM=] in a SSC way is not this trope: It is either CasualKink or BrainsAndBondage, while people doing [=BDSM=] in an anti-SSC way falls under BondageIsBad unless this trope comes into play in some form; for example, the victim or another character pointing out that it's not the proper way to do [=BDSM=].

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This trope is about discussing and defining the limits of proper behavior, [[Administrivia/InternalSubtrope or]] simply waving a ConsentFlag.Consent Flag. People simply ''doing'' [=BDSM=] in a SSC way is not this trope: It is either CasualKink or BrainsAndBondage, while people doing [=BDSM=] in an anti-SSC way falls under BondageIsBad unless this trope comes into play in some form; for example, the victim or another character pointing out that it's not the proper way to do [=BDSM=].
12th Mar '16 8:43:19 PM FuzzyBoots
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* Discussed in the bondage club in ''Film/Bound2015'', specifically to point out that Ryan doesn't follow the rules and is instead a cruel abuser who uses BDSM as an excuse.
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