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* Dave and Dirk Strider in ''WebComic/{{Homestuck}}'' both attempt to maintain their "cool stoic badass" personas by avoiding any open demonstrations of affection. When Dave finally gives in to his emotions and hugs Dirk, he apologizes repeatedly and calls it "fucked up" (Dirk agrees that it's fucked up, but hugs him back anyway). It's implied that both of their hangups around being perceived as sufficiently masculine are at least partly a form of overcompensation for [[StraightGay not being straight]].

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-->'''Manny''': "Guys don't talk to guys about guy problems. We just punch each other on the shoulders."
-->'''Ellie''': "That's stupid."
-->'''Manny''': "To a girl. To a guy, that's like six months of therapy."

* Mentioned in ''WesternAnimatio/IceAge3DawnOfTheDinosaurs''

-->'''Manny''': "Guys don't talk to guys about guy problems. We just punch each other in the shoulders."

-->'''Manny''': "To a girl. To a guy it's like three months of therapy."

In fiction, every guy usually follows the [[FictionalDocument Bro Code]]. One of the rules of the Bro Code is that guys do not hug each other. They also don't talk things out or get emotional, because that's what chicks do; either that, or it's gay. Sensitivity is never a priority for guys, no matter how they appear on the surface. Every guy is like this, evefn the most understanding guy will not want to seem sensitive, for fear of being called a pussy or "gay".

In fiction, every guy usually follows the [[FictionalDocument Bro Code]]. One of the rules of the Bro Code is that guys do not hug each other. They also don't talk things out or get emotional, because that's what chicks do; either that, or it's gay. Sensitivity is never a priority for guys, no matter how they appear on the surface. Every guy is like this, even the most understanding guy will not want to seem sensitive, for fear of being called a pussy or "gay".

* Dave and Dirk Strider in ''WebComic/{{Homestuck}}'' attempt to maintain their "cool stoic badass" personas by avoiding any open demonstrations of affection. When Dave finally gives in to his emotions and hugs Dirk, he apologizes repeatedly and calls it "fucked up" (Dirk agrees that it's fucked up, but hugs him back anyway). It's implied that both of their hangups around being perceived as sufficiently masculine are at least partly a form of overcompensation for [[StraightGay not being straight]].

* Achilles and Guardsman of the ''GlobalGuardiansPBEMUniverse'' love each other like brothers. They support each other and are there for each other when it's needed. But they do this all without ever actually demonstrating their feelings for each other in any way, shape or form that isn't "100% manly".

* Zigzagged in spades in ''{{Berserk}}''. The main male characters, Guts and Griffith, can be described as ambitious, ruthless, {{Jerk Ass}}es, [[MenAreUncultured uncultured]] in the case of Guts, and a monster in the case of Griffith ([[HeWhoFightsMonsters and almost with Guts]]), but one thing for sure is that they're '''not''' afraid to talk about their feelings in very [[WarriorPoet poetic manners]], especially to one another ([[HoYay making certain implications arise]]). In the case of Guts, he can switch from being [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/210 a gruff jerk]] to being [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/211 very tender]] [[http://www.mangakong.com/manga/Berserk/037.047/212 and caring]].

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** Hank is an extreme version of this, unwilling to show any more affection than a handshake to his own mother. It's implied that this is due to emotional abuse from his father. Ironically, his greatest fear is that his father will die without ever telling him that he loved him. [[spoiler:Which was exactly what happened, so Peggy (who dared Cotton to just die already with reverse psychology) made up some nice last words for him to have said about Hank while nobody else was around]]

* In ''TheOffice'' Jim [[spoiler: post marriage to Pam]] gets mocked by Dwight for openly showing affection.

*** And yet OneDirection can't keep their hands off each other... Probably invoking HoYay [[FanService for the girls]], though

* In a ''{{Garfield}}'' strip when Jon visits his family:

* In ''{{Pippin}}'' when the title character returns home from the university of Padua, he and his father almost hug, but wind up shaking hands. Pippin then attempts to talk to him about his feelings of emptiness and quest to find something meaningful, but his father fobs him off with cliches and 'well I've got to go.' By the way, his father is Charlemagne. Yes, ''that'' one.

* MyNameIsEarl: Earl and Randy, despite being unusually close to each other, are embarrassed by the thought of saying "I love you" to each other.
* TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir: Anytime Carlton wants to hug Will, or even spend time talking to one another. Carlton is all for it, while Will puts on his Manly Face and bears it.

* In ''{{Sinfest}}'',

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* In ''TheHotChick'', the eponymous hot chick's boyfriend describes his feelings for her to a friend, expecting a similar confession from the friend, who calls him [[YouFailLogicForever gay]].
** This happens again, with the same actor, in ''FiredUp'', except the one confessing his feelings calls his friend out on [[YouFailLogicForever failing logic forever]].

* The ''LordOfTheRings'' movies averted this - however, that can be chalked up to ValuesDissonance due to the when the original books were written.

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* ''Disney/TheEmperorsNewGroove'' has this at the very end. Kuzco and Pacha finally get the potion, embrace... and then separate, looking rather embarrassed because guys don't do this... see it [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjlVRWynkhM here]], at about 2:50.
* Averted in Disney/{{Aladdin}}, the (arguably) most important relationship in the film is between Aladdin and Genie, two male characters. They are often shown talking about their feelings and hug multiple times, all while averting the trappings of HoYay, and neither coming off as unmanly.

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* In ''ScoobyDooMysteryIncorporated'', a large portion of Freddy's ObliviousToLove status stems from his mistaken belief in this trope. [[CharacterDevelopment He gets over it,]] though his obliviousness continues to shine in other respects.

-->''*Homer places his arm on Bart's shoulder*"

''*Homer places his arm on Bart's shoulder*"

-->'''Homer's Brain''': ''You're leaving the arm there too long. You want to make it worse?''
''*Abruptly removes it*