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* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her violence and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie his sweetheart Julie, but frequently gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter daughter, Louise, sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared the narration declares that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy'': In "[[Recap/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandyS4E14Wishbones Wishbones]]", Pud'n wishes for a pet bunny that will love him. But as the wish granter is a sentient skull functioning like a monkey's paw - meaning that BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor is in full effect - what Pud'n gets is a bunny that expresses its "love" first by hitting him, and then going to terrifying lengths trying to kill him. Just to drive the point home, the bunny says that "love hurts" and that it "loves him a lot"; it even provides the page quote.
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* ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy'': In "[[Recap/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandyS4E14Wishbones Wishbones]]", Pud'n wishes for a pet bunny that will love him. But as the wish granter is a sentient skull functioning like a monkey's paw - meaning paw--meaning that BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor is in full effect - what effect--what Pud'n gets is a bunny that expresses its "love" first by hitting him, and then going to terrifying lengths trying to kill him. Just to drive the point home, the bunny says that "love hurts" and that it "loves him a lot"; it even provides the page quote.
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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-->''When a bird loves a bird, he can flitter''
-->''When a puppy falls in love, he can yap''
-->''Every pigeon likes to coo when he says "I love you"''
-->''But a bear likes to say it with a slap''
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* ''WesternAnimation/FunAndFancyFree'': A major plot point in ''Bongo'' is that the titular character, [[CultureClash a bear raised in the circus]], is unaware that wild bears express love by slapping each other. Thus, when Lulubelle tries to declare her love for him with a smack, poor Bongo thinks she's turned on him and leaves brokenhearted, only realizing when he sees a party of bears slapping each other silly to a song.
-->''When a bird loves a bird, he can flitter''
-->''When a puppy falls in love, he can yap''
-->''Every pigeon likes to coo when he says "I love you"''
-->''But a bear likes to say it with a slap''
-->''When a bird loves a bird, he can flitter''
-->''When a puppy falls in love, he can yap''
-->''Every pigeon likes to coo when he says "I love you"''
-->''But a bear likes to say it with a slap''
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* ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'': Billy Bigelow is a poor barker who marries Julie, but struggles to show his affection in healthy ways. [[AmbiguousSituation While he is rumored to beat her, he states he only hit her once and feels terrible about it]]. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter when she's 15. When Louise rejects his help and his gift, not knowing he's her father and that helping her will send him to heaven, he slaps her. However, Louise later tells her mother that Billy's slap felt like a kiss, not a blow. She asks if that's possible, and Julie understands, realizing it was Billy. [[note]] This and ''Film/{{Liliom}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
-->'''Louise''': He hit me, mother, he hit me hard, but it didn't hurt? It felt like a kiss.
-->'''Louise''': He hit me, mother, he hit me hard, but it didn't hurt? It felt like a kiss.
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* ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'': Billy Bigelow is a poor barker who marries Julie, and Julie Jordan love each other passionately, but struggles to show his affection in healthy ways. [[AmbiguousSituation While he is rumored to beat her, he states he only hit her once and feels terrible about it]]. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming romance costs them both their jobs, and not long into their marriage, Billy has begun to hit his wife. Hoping to provide for their future child, he is sent to purgatory, ends up dying in a botched robbery, but is given a the chance to see visit his daughter when she's 15. Louise many years later on her graduation day. When Louise rejects his help and his gift, not knowing he's her father and that helping her will send him to heaven, father, he slaps her. However, Louise later tells her mother that Billy's slap felt like a kiss, not a blow. She asks if that's possible, and Julie understands, realizing it was Billy. [[note]] This and ''Film/{{Liliom}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
-->'''Louise''': He -->'''Julie''': It is possible dear, for someone to hit me, mother, he you, hit me you hard, but and it didn't hurt? It felt like a kiss.not hurt at all.
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Typically an extreme form of BelligerentSexualTension and LovingBully. If played seriously, this may quickly devolve into DomesticAbuse, while if PlayedForLaughs, it tends to end in over the top slapstick comedy. If played sexily, this character is often a FetishizedAbuser.
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Typically an extreme form of BelligerentSexualTension and LovingBully. If played seriously, this may quickly devolve into DomesticAbuse, while if PlayedForLaughs, it tends to end in over the top over-the-top slapstick comedy. If played sexily, this character is often a FetishizedAbuser.
FetishizedAbuser. Regardless -- especially if the character in question is female -- expect ''a lot'' of DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale.
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See also SexIsViolence, InLoveWithYourCarnage, DestructiveRomance, HemoErotic, LoveMakesYouCrazy, SlapSlapKiss, and LoveMakesYouEvil. Compare DestructoNookie and InterplayOfSexAndViolence. For cases where the harming was unintentional, see AndCallHimGeorge. See also ConsumingPassion where love, sex, and wanting to eat someone alive are treated interchangeably.
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See also SexIsViolence, InLoveWithYourCarnage, DestructiveRomance, HemoErotic, LoveMakesYouCrazy, SlapSlapKiss, and LoveMakesYouEvil. Compare DestructoNookie and InterplayOfSexAndViolence. For cases where the harming harm was unintentional, see AndCallHimGeorge. See also ConsumingPassion where love, sex, and wanting to eat someone alive are treated interchangeably.
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* ''Manga/The100GirlfriendsWhoReallyReallyReallyReallyReallyLoveYou'': Karane routinely expresses affection by attacking Rentarou in some way, ranging from jamming food into his face to outright slugging him. She mentions at one point that she once put him in a full body cast in a fit of embarrassment.
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* ''Manga/The100GirlfriendsWhoReallyReallyReallyReallyReallyLoveYou'': Karane routinely expresses affection by attacking Rentarou in some way, ranging from jamming food into his face to outright slugging him. She mentions at one point that she once put him in a full body full-body cast in a fit of embarrassment.
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* This is the main premise of ''Literature/BludgeoningAngelDokuroChan'', where the titular main character is sent to kill the male lead. She doesn't want to kill him, as she falls in love with him. Unfortunately for him, she can only express this love through beating him senseless and reviving him to do it all over again.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her violence, and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves to to fall InLoveWithTheMark every single time. She believes that she can only show her love by killing her targets and her "love" makes her the one most worthy of killing them. She only starts to change her ways after Taiyo evades her attempts at killing him and Mutsumi becomes her ClosetKey. Even then, she's still all too happy to "train" Taiyo with lethal methods.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her violence, and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves to to fall InLoveWithTheMark every single time. She believes that she can only show her love by killing her targets and her "love" makes her the one most worthy of killing them. She only starts to change her ways after Taiyo evades her attempts at killing him and Mutsumi becomes her ClosetKey. Even then, she's still all too happy to "train" Taiyo with lethal methods.
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* This is the main premise of ''Literature/BludgeoningAngelDokuroChan'', where the titular main character is sent to kill the male lead. She doesn't want to kill him, as she falls in love with him. Unfortunately for him, she can only express this love through by beating him senseless and reviving him to do it all over again.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for herviolence, violence and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves toto fall InLoveWithTheMark every single time. She believes that she can only show her love by killing her targets and her "love" makes her the one most worthy of killing them. She only starts to change her ways after Taiyo evades her attempts at killing him and Mutsumi becomes her ClosetKey. Even then, she's still all too happy to "train" Taiyo with lethal methods.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves to
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie, but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie, Julie but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* In the Literature/{{Discworld}}, courtship between Trolls takes this form. Trolls are a very physical race made out of animate stone; a Troll girl wants to know if her desired male is capable of hitting her so hard with a thrown rock [[note]]It must be an attractively patterned rock, ideally studded with nice veining or semi-precious stones[[/note]] that she is stunned, if not knocked out. In return, she punches him as hard as she can. Then romance continues in an appropriately physical manner.
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* In the Literature/{{Discworld}}, courtship between Trolls takes this form. Trolls are a very physical race made out of animate stone; a Troll girl wants to know if her desired male is capable of hitting her so hard with a thrown rock [[note]]It must be an attractively patterned rock, ideally studded with nice veining or semi-precious stones[[/note]] that she is stunned, if not knocked out. In return, she punches him as hard as she can. Then romance continues in an appropriately appropriate physical manner.
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--> "She was walkin' around with a loaded shotgun
--> Ready to fire me a hot one
--> It went bang, bang, bang, straight through my heart"
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--> It went bang, bang, bang, straight through my heart"
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--> "I want to hold you close, soft breath, beating heart
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* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl'': Lucy is very violent towards Mike, who she's actually in love with.
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* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl'': Lucy is very violent towards Mike, who whom she's actually in love with.with. [[spoiler:Eventually it became too much for Mike and [[TheReasonYouSuckSpeech he snapped at her]], resulting in Lucy later attempting suicide.]]
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* ''WebVideo/DreamSMP'': [[ChronicPetKiller Sapnap's]] idea of showing affection to Squeeks, Tubbo's pet fox, is to punch him (which he considers "petting"), and shoot at him with flame arrows.
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* ''WebVideo/DreamSMP'': [[ChronicPetKiller Sapnap's]] idea of showing affection to Squeeks, Tubbo's pet fox, is to punch him (which he considers "petting"), "petting") and shoot at him with flame arrows.
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--> '''Sam''': I'd hoped after getting a punching bag for the office, Max would stop hitting ''me'' all the time.
--> '''Max''': But that's how I show affection!
--> '''Sam''': Well, could you stop loving me so much before 6 AM?
--> '''Max''': No way, Sam! I could never stop loving you!
--> '''Max''': But that's how I show affection!
--> '''Sam''': Well, could you stop loving me so much before 6 AM?
--> '''Max''': No way, Sam! I could never stop loving you!
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-> ''"Sometimes love hurts, Pud'n. And I love you a '''lot'''."''
-->-- '''Evil Bunny''', ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy''
Some characters just really can't seem to express their attraction in a normal way. This character chooses to showcase their affection through acts of physical violence. [[AxCrazy Often brutally and bloodily.]] Frequently these characters are presented as CuteAndPsycho. Not exclusively romantic, though it usually is.
Typically an extreme form of BelligerentSexualTension and LovingBully. If played seriously, this may quickly devolve into DomesticAbuse, while if PlayedForLaughs, it tends to end in over the top slapstick comedy. If played sexily, this character is often a FetishizedAbuser.
This character may be a {{Yandere}} if they target their violence at others as well, out of jealousy or possessiveness. Frequently also a {{Tsundere}}, on the far end of the "Spicy" side of the spectrum. If caught between two of these characters, you've found yourself in a PsychoticLoveTriangle.
See also SexIsViolence, InLoveWithYourCarnage, DestructiveRomance, HemoErotic, LoveMakesYouCrazy, SlapSlapKiss, and LoveMakesYouEvil. Compare DestructoNookie and InterplayOfSexAndViolence. For cases where the harming was unintentional, see AndCallHimGeorge. See also ConsumingPassion where love, sex, and wanting to eat someone alive are treated interchangeably.
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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* ''Manga/The100GirlfriendsWhoReallyReallyReallyReallyReallyLoveYou'': Karane routinely expresses affection by attacking Rentarou in some way, ranging from jamming food into his face to outright slugging him. She mentions at one point that she once put him in a full body cast in a fit of embarrassment.
* ''Literature/{{Baccano}}'': Ladd's way of expressing love? "I'll kill you last".
* This is the main premise of ''Literature/BludgeoningAngelDokuroChan'', where the titular main character is sent to kill the male lead. She doesn't want to kill him, as she falls in love with him. Unfortunately for him, she can only express this love through beating him senseless and reviving him to do it all over again.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her violence, and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves to to fall InLoveWithTheMark every single time. She believes that she can only show her love by killing her targets and her "love" makes her the one most worthy of killing them. She only starts to change her ways after Taiyo evades her attempts at killing him and Mutsumi becomes her ClosetKey. Even then, she's still all too happy to "train" Taiyo with lethal methods.
* In ''Manga/MyHeroAcademia'', Himiko Toga is a DepravedBisexual who falls in love easily. She expresses her affection by wanting to ''become'' the targets of her affection, which involves her stabbing and drinking their blood to make use of her {{Shapeshifter}} Quirk.
* ''Manga/{{Nichijou}}'': Misato frequently attacks her love interest with actual weaponry, as well as anyone who suggests she might have feelings for him.
* In ''Manga/VenusPutsFurOnMe'', it's heavily {{implied|trope}} that Shirosaki Hana's sadistic behavior towards Nakajima is her trying to process a crush towards him.
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* ''Fanfic/ThePalaververse'': ''Wedding March'': Charity the pyrefalcon, from a DeathWorld, expresses gratitude as "I'll kill you last.":
--> And the form that gratitude took for Charity in that moment was this: for letting her out, she?d eviscerate the cage-opener last.
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[[folder:Films]]
* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie, but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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* In the Literature/{{Discworld}}, courtship between Trolls takes this form. Trolls are a very physical race made out of animate stone; a Troll girl wants to know if her desired male is capable of hitting her so hard with a thrown rock [[note]]It must be an attractively patterned rock, ideally studded with nice veining or semi-precious stones[[/note]] that she is stunned, if not knocked out. In return, she punches him as hard as she can. Then romance continues in an appropriately physical manner.
* PlayedForDrama in ''Literature/ReignOfTheSevenSpellblades''. Nanao Hibiya was raised in a [[FantasticFightingStyle sword style]] whose core tenet is "Enjoy not the sword of vengeance, but the sword of mutual love"--meaning to seek happiness in a DuelToTheDeath with one you admire and respect. She's internalized this ideal so much that when she falls in LoveAtFirstPunch with Oliver Horn after they spar in Sword Arts class, she admits she can't tell the difference between the man and his sword, and can't kick the desire to fight him without holding back again. [[spoiler:This comes to a head at the end of volume 9, where, provoked to irrational jealousy by the end of their championship match in the [[TournamentArc combat leagues]], she throws him against a tree for a ForcefulKiss. Oliver's InternalMonologue describes her looking at him as if "Yearning to carve her way into her beloved, or, barring that, at least pull him down and have her way with him."]]
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* ''Franchise/StarTrek'': Klingons are known to get rather violent in their courtship rituals. Post-coital trips to the Infirmary are not uncommon, and a broken clavicle on the wedding night is considered to be a blessing on the marriage.
-->'''Worf:''' ''[MightyRoar]'' That is how the Klingon lures a mate.
--> '''Wesley''': ''[{{Beat}}]'' Are you telling me to go yell at Salia?
--> '''Worf''': No. Men do not roar. Women roar. Then they hurl heavy objects... ''[smiles, lost in thought]'' and claw at you...
--> '''Wesley:''' What does the man do?
--> '''Worf:''' ''[Still smiling]'' He reads love poetry... ''[Regains his stoicism]'' He ducks a lot.
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* Music/CaroleKing and Gerry Goffin wrote the song "He Hit Me (And It Felt Like a Kiss)" from the point-of-view of a battered wife trying to explain why she stays with her abuser. The title is a quote from King and Goffin's babysitter, who said it while talking about her own abusive boyfriend.
* "Bang Bang" by K'naan.
--> "She was walkin' around with a loaded shotgun
--> Ready to fire me a hot one
--> It went bang, bang, bang, straight through my heart"
* "Tear You Apart" by She Wants Revenge is about a dangerous, almost violent physical attraction.
--> "I want to hold you close, soft breath, beating heart
--> As I whisper in your ear, I want to fucking tear you apart"
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* ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'': Billy Bigelow is a poor barker who marries Julie, but struggles to show his affection in healthy ways. [[AmbiguousSituation While he is rumored to beat her, he states he only hit her once and feels terrible about it]]. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter when she's 15. When Louise rejects his help and his gift, not knowing he's her father and that helping her will send him to heaven, he slaps her. However, Louise later tells her mother that Billy's slap felt like a kiss, not a blow. She asks if that's possible, and Julie understands, realizing it was Billy. [[note]] This and ''Film/{{Liliom}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
-->'''Louise''': He hit me, mother, he hit me hard, but it didn't hurt? It felt like a kiss.
* ''Theatre/LittleShopOfHorrors'': A cut song, "The Worse He Treats Me", would have discussed and parodied this trope, as Audrey discusses her relationship with her abusive boyfriend Orin, taking his beatings as a sign of love. The song was meant to show more of Audrey's self-loathing mindset than Orin's actual affection, but the writers realized the song was in poor taste regardless and cut it.
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* Exaggerated in ''VideoGame/{{Destiny}}'' and ''VideoGame/Destiny2'': among the [[OmnicidalManiac Hive]], love and violence are considered the same concept. Their gods, possessed of ResurrectiveImmortality, delighted in waging war and killing each other over and over again to affirm their bond as siblings. This is used to demonstrate both how twisted their worldview is and, tragically, [[EvenEvilHasLovedOnes how genuinely they loved each other]].
* ''[[VideoGame/{{Tekken}} Tekken Tag Tournament 2]]'': Sebastian says that Lili's obsession with tormenting Asuka is a "show of affection".
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl'': Lucy is very violent towards Mike, who she's actually in love with.
* ''Webcomic/EnnuiGo'': Calixta, while otherwise being a ShrinkingViolet, expresses affection via painful yet otherwise harmless acts of violence (mostly punches and wrestling moves). Her boyfriend Max tends to just treat this as a random quirk of hers, though to be fair, it's far from the weirdest thing in the comic.
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[[folder:Web Original]]
* ''WebVideo/DreamSMP'': [[ChronicPetKiller Sapnap's]] idea of showing affection to Squeeks, Tubbo's pet fox, is to punch him (which he considers "petting"), and shoot at him with flame arrows.
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[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/BobsBurgers'': It's a bit of a RunningGag of Louise to slap people she has a crush on. In "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS3E21Boyz4Now Boyz 4 Now]]", she gets a CelebrityCrush on Boo Boo and becomes determined to smack him. When she meets him again in "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS3E21Boyz4Now Bye-Bye Boo Boo]]", she gives him another slap, which instantly causes him to remember her. And as a possible CallBack to this, when she gets to kiss Rudy in "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS7E9BobActually Bob Actually]]", she slaps him too.
* ''WesternAnimation/FunAndFancyFree'': A major plot point in ''Bongo'' is that the titular character, [[CultureClash a bear raised in the circus]], is unaware that wild bears express love by slapping each other. Thus, when Lulubelle tries to declare her love for him with a smack, poor Bongo thinks she's turned on him and leaves brokenhearted, only realizing when he sees a party of bears slapping each other silly to a song.
-->''When a bird loves a bird, he can flitter''
-->''When a puppy falls in love, he can yap''
-->''Every pigeon likes to coo when he says "I love you"''
-->''But a bear likes to say it with a slap''
* ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy'': In "[[Recap/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandyS4E14Wishbones Wishbones]]", Pud'n wishes for a pet bunny that will love him. But as the wish granter is a sentient skull functioning like a monkey's paw - meaning that BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor is in full effect - what Pud'n gets is a bunny that expresses its "love" first by hitting him, and then going to terrifying lengths trying to kill him. Just to drive the point home, the bunny says that "love hurts" and that it "loves him a lot"; it even provides the page quote.
* ''WesternAnimation/TheLoudHouse'': Both Lynn and Ronnie Anne tend to express affection via punching.
* ''Franchise/SamAndMax'': Max uses violence to express [[HeroicComedicSociopath a lot of things]], and one of them is love, which is best exemplified by the conversation he has with Sam in [[Recap/SamAndMaxFreelancePoliceEpisode202MoaiBetterBlues "Moai Better Blues"]] about their office punching bag.
--> '''Sam''': I'd hoped after getting a punching bag for the office, Max would stop hitting ''me'' all the time.
--> '''Max''': But that's how I show affection!
--> '''Sam''': Well, could you stop loving me so much before 6 AM?
--> '''Max''': No way, Sam! I could never stop loving you!
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-> ''"Sometimes love hurts, Pud'n. And I love you a '''lot'''."''
-->-- '''Evil Bunny''', ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy''
Some characters just really can't seem to express their attraction in a normal way. This character chooses to showcase their affection through acts of physical violence. [[AxCrazy Often brutally and bloodily.]] Frequently these characters are presented as CuteAndPsycho. Not exclusively romantic, though it usually is.
Typically an extreme form of BelligerentSexualTension and LovingBully. If played seriously, this may quickly devolve into DomesticAbuse, while if PlayedForLaughs, it tends to end in over the top slapstick comedy. If played sexily, this character is often a FetishizedAbuser.
This character may be a {{Yandere}} if they target their violence at others as well, out of jealousy or possessiveness. Frequently also a {{Tsundere}}, on the far end of the "Spicy" side of the spectrum. If caught between two of these characters, you've found yourself in a PsychoticLoveTriangle.
See also SexIsViolence, InLoveWithYourCarnage, DestructiveRomance, HemoErotic, LoveMakesYouCrazy, SlapSlapKiss, and LoveMakesYouEvil. Compare DestructoNookie and InterplayOfSexAndViolence. For cases where the harming was unintentional, see AndCallHimGeorge. See also ConsumingPassion where love, sex, and wanting to eat someone alive are treated interchangeably.
Due to the subject matter, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease
'''Indexes:''' LoveTropes, ViolenceTropes
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[[folder:Anime & Manga]]
* ''Manga/The100GirlfriendsWhoReallyReallyReallyReallyReallyLoveYou'': Karane routinely expresses affection by attacking Rentarou in some way, ranging from jamming food into his face to outright slugging him. She mentions at one point that she once put him in a full body cast in a fit of embarrassment.
* ''Literature/{{Baccano}}'': Ladd's way of expressing love? "I'll kill you last".
* This is the main premise of ''Literature/BludgeoningAngelDokuroChan'', where the titular main character is sent to kill the male lead. She doesn't want to kill him, as she falls in love with him. Unfortunately for him, she can only express this love through beating him senseless and reviving him to do it all over again.
* ''Manga/LoveHina'': Naru Narusegawa is pretty much known for her violence, and struggles to come to terms with her feelings towards Keitaro as a result.
* In ''Manga/MissionYozakuraFamily'', Ayaka Kirisaki is a spy whose InsaneTrollLogic leaves to to fall InLoveWithTheMark every single time. She believes that she can only show her love by killing her targets and her "love" makes her the one most worthy of killing them. She only starts to change her ways after Taiyo evades her attempts at killing him and Mutsumi becomes her ClosetKey. Even then, she's still all too happy to "train" Taiyo with lethal methods.
* In ''Manga/MyHeroAcademia'', Himiko Toga is a DepravedBisexual who falls in love easily. She expresses her affection by wanting to ''become'' the targets of her affection, which involves her stabbing and drinking their blood to make use of her {{Shapeshifter}} Quirk.
* ''Manga/{{Nichijou}}'': Misato frequently attacks her love interest with actual weaponry, as well as anyone who suggests she might have feelings for him.
* In ''Manga/VenusPutsFurOnMe'', it's heavily {{implied|trope}} that Shirosaki Hana's sadistic behavior towards Nakajima is her trying to process a crush towards him.
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[[folder:Fan Works]]
* ''Fanfic/ThePalaververse'': ''Wedding March'': Charity the pyrefalcon, from a DeathWorld, expresses gratitude as "I'll kill you last.":
--> And the form that gratitude took for Charity in that moment was this: for letting her out, she?d eviscerate the cage-opener last.
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[[folder:Films]]
* ''Film/{{Liliom}}'': Liliom is a poor barker who marries Julie, but gets into violent arguments with her. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter sixteen years later. When Louise rejects his gift, not knowing he's her father, he slaps her, seeming to doom him to Hell. However, before he is sentenced, Louise is then seen telling her mother that Liliom's slap felt like a kiss. She asks if it is possible to receive a slap that does not hurt at all. Julie, knowing exactly who she's talking about, says yes, and it is declared that it was Liliom's love for his daughter that miraculously stopped the slap from hurting, redeeming him and sending him to heaven. [[note]] This and ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
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[[folder:Literature]]
* In the Literature/{{Discworld}}, courtship between Trolls takes this form. Trolls are a very physical race made out of animate stone; a Troll girl wants to know if her desired male is capable of hitting her so hard with a thrown rock [[note]]It must be an attractively patterned rock, ideally studded with nice veining or semi-precious stones[[/note]] that she is stunned, if not knocked out. In return, she punches him as hard as she can. Then romance continues in an appropriately physical manner.
* PlayedForDrama in ''Literature/ReignOfTheSevenSpellblades''. Nanao Hibiya was raised in a [[FantasticFightingStyle sword style]] whose core tenet is "Enjoy not the sword of vengeance, but the sword of mutual love"--meaning to seek happiness in a DuelToTheDeath with one you admire and respect. She's internalized this ideal so much that when she falls in LoveAtFirstPunch with Oliver Horn after they spar in Sword Arts class, she admits she can't tell the difference between the man and his sword, and can't kick the desire to fight him without holding back again. [[spoiler:This comes to a head at the end of volume 9, where, provoked to irrational jealousy by the end of their championship match in the [[TournamentArc combat leagues]], she throws him against a tree for a ForcefulKiss. Oliver's InternalMonologue describes her looking at him as if "Yearning to carve her way into her beloved, or, barring that, at least pull him down and have her way with him."]]
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[[folder:Live-Action TV]]
* ''Franchise/StarTrek'': Klingons are known to get rather violent in their courtship rituals. Post-coital trips to the Infirmary are not uncommon, and a broken clavicle on the wedding night is considered to be a blessing on the marriage.
-->'''Worf:''' ''[MightyRoar]'' That is how the Klingon lures a mate.
--> '''Wesley''': ''[{{Beat}}]'' Are you telling me to go yell at Salia?
--> '''Worf''': No. Men do not roar. Women roar. Then they hurl heavy objects... ''[smiles, lost in thought]'' and claw at you...
--> '''Wesley:''' What does the man do?
--> '''Worf:''' ''[Still smiling]'' He reads love poetry... ''[Regains his stoicism]'' He ducks a lot.
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[[folder:Music]]
* Music/CaroleKing and Gerry Goffin wrote the song "He Hit Me (And It Felt Like a Kiss)" from the point-of-view of a battered wife trying to explain why she stays with her abuser. The title is a quote from King and Goffin's babysitter, who said it while talking about her own abusive boyfriend.
* "Bang Bang" by K'naan.
--> "She was walkin' around with a loaded shotgun
--> Ready to fire me a hot one
--> It went bang, bang, bang, straight through my heart"
* "Tear You Apart" by She Wants Revenge is about a dangerous, almost violent physical attraction.
--> "I want to hold you close, soft breath, beating heart
--> As I whisper in your ear, I want to fucking tear you apart"
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[[folder:Theatre]]
* ''Theatre/{{Carousel}}'': Billy Bigelow is a poor barker who marries Julie, but struggles to show his affection in healthy ways. [[AmbiguousSituation While he is rumored to beat her, he states he only hit her once and feels terrible about it]]. When he dies trying to steal enough money to support their coming child, he is sent to purgatory, but given a chance to see his daughter when she's 15. When Louise rejects his help and his gift, not knowing he's her father and that helping her will send him to heaven, he slaps her. However, Louise later tells her mother that Billy's slap felt like a kiss, not a blow. She asks if that's possible, and Julie understands, realizing it was Billy. [[note]] This and ''Film/{{Liliom}}'' are based on the same Hungarian play, which has much more of a DownerEnding.[[/note]]
-->'''Louise''': He hit me, mother, he hit me hard, but it didn't hurt? It felt like a kiss.
* ''Theatre/LittleShopOfHorrors'': A cut song, "The Worse He Treats Me", would have discussed and parodied this trope, as Audrey discusses her relationship with her abusive boyfriend Orin, taking his beatings as a sign of love. The song was meant to show more of Audrey's self-loathing mindset than Orin's actual affection, but the writers realized the song was in poor taste regardless and cut it.
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[[folder:Video Games]]
* Exaggerated in ''VideoGame/{{Destiny}}'' and ''VideoGame/Destiny2'': among the [[OmnicidalManiac Hive]], love and violence are considered the same concept. Their gods, possessed of ResurrectiveImmortality, delighted in waging war and killing each other over and over again to affirm their bond as siblings. This is used to demonstrate both how twisted their worldview is and, tragically, [[EvenEvilHasLovedOnes how genuinely they loved each other]].
* ''[[VideoGame/{{Tekken}} Tekken Tag Tournament 2]]'': Sebastian says that Lili's obsession with tormenting Asuka is a "show of affection".
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[[folder:Webcomics]]
* ''Webcomic/BittersweetCandyBowl'': Lucy is very violent towards Mike, who she's actually in love with.
* ''Webcomic/EnnuiGo'': Calixta, while otherwise being a ShrinkingViolet, expresses affection via painful yet otherwise harmless acts of violence (mostly punches and wrestling moves). Her boyfriend Max tends to just treat this as a random quirk of hers, though to be fair, it's far from the weirdest thing in the comic.
[[/folder]]
[[folder:Web Original]]
* ''WebVideo/DreamSMP'': [[ChronicPetKiller Sapnap's]] idea of showing affection to Squeeks, Tubbo's pet fox, is to punch him (which he considers "petting"), and shoot at him with flame arrows.
[[/folder]]
[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/BobsBurgers'': It's a bit of a RunningGag of Louise to slap people she has a crush on. In "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS3E21Boyz4Now Boyz 4 Now]]", she gets a CelebrityCrush on Boo Boo and becomes determined to smack him. When she meets him again in "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS3E21Boyz4Now Bye-Bye Boo Boo]]", she gives him another slap, which instantly causes him to remember her. And as a possible CallBack to this, when she gets to kiss Rudy in "[[Recap/BobsBurgersS7E9BobActually Bob Actually]]", she slaps him too.
* ''WesternAnimation/FunAndFancyFree'': A major plot point in ''Bongo'' is that the titular character, [[CultureClash a bear raised in the circus]], is unaware that wild bears express love by slapping each other. Thus, when Lulubelle tries to declare her love for him with a smack, poor Bongo thinks she's turned on him and leaves brokenhearted, only realizing when he sees a party of bears slapping each other silly to a song.
-->''When a bird loves a bird, he can flitter''
-->''When a puppy falls in love, he can yap''
-->''Every pigeon likes to coo when he says "I love you"''
-->''But a bear likes to say it with a slap''
* ''WesternAnimation/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandy'': In "[[Recap/TheGrimAdventuresOfBillyAndMandyS4E14Wishbones Wishbones]]", Pud'n wishes for a pet bunny that will love him. But as the wish granter is a sentient skull functioning like a monkey's paw - meaning that BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor is in full effect - what Pud'n gets is a bunny that expresses its "love" first by hitting him, and then going to terrifying lengths trying to kill him. Just to drive the point home, the bunny says that "love hurts" and that it "loves him a lot"; it even provides the page quote.
* ''WesternAnimation/TheLoudHouse'': Both Lynn and Ronnie Anne tend to express affection via punching.
* ''Franchise/SamAndMax'': Max uses violence to express [[HeroicComedicSociopath a lot of things]], and one of them is love, which is best exemplified by the conversation he has with Sam in [[Recap/SamAndMaxFreelancePoliceEpisode202MoaiBetterBlues "Moai Better Blues"]] about their office punching bag.
--> '''Sam''': I'd hoped after getting a punching bag for the office, Max would stop hitting ''me'' all the time.
--> '''Max''': But that's how I show affection!
--> '''Sam''': Well, could you stop loving me so much before 6 AM?
--> '''Max''': No way, Sam! I could never stop loving you!
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