History Main / HeWillNotCrySoICryForHim

There is, therefore, no stronger action that dictates a person's love, sensitivity, and kindness than having him cry in his friends' place, to bear their pain for them so that they can have the courage to live on.

* Miki for Yuu in ''Manga/MarmaladeBoy'', when she learns that he's a StepfordSmiler who [[spoiler: believes he's an illegitimate son.]]
* In ''Anime/BlackRockShooter'', Mato, Yuu, ''and'' Saya all cry for Kohata when [[spoiler: her love letter is posted on a bulletin board for the entire school to see.]] Saya cries right in front of her, which is not a good thing, as it causes her to realize what a terrible thing has happened to her and [[spoiler: develop an otherself.]]
* A pair of knights in ''Manga/TheLuciferAndBiscuitHammer'' has a strange version; Hanako the Mantis Knight is stoic and strong, so when she got injured, the (unharmed) Mouse Knight Taiyou would cry in her place.

* In ''Manga/{{Monster}}'', Wolfgang Grimmer holds a traumatised little boy and starts crying over him, causing the boy to slowly come out from his {{BSOD}} and return Grimmer's hug. What makes this especially heartwarming is that until that point, Grimmer himself had been UnableToCry due to the horrific abuse he had suffered during childhood.

** To elaborate, the pocketwatch had the date the boys left their hometown and served as a reminder for their mission to restore what they lost. Winry in turn is crying because of what the boys have lost and the journey ahead. Subverted later on after Ed saves her from Scar and they promise that the next time she cries for him, it will be tears of joy. Said promise was completed when she happily wept as Ed and Al returned, having gained back what they lost and more.
* Rock, the only truly decent human being in the CrapsackWorld of ''Manga/BlackLagoon'', listens with sadness and horror rather than disgust at the coldly delivered TheReasonYouSuckSpeech by Gretel, a little girl so traumatized by rape and torture with her twin brother Hansel back in Romania that murder has become the sole source of joy for them. He holds her in a tight embrace and weeps, begging her to accept the possibility that there is hope, and still a possibility of a new and happy life for a little girl like her. This act of ''sincere'' kindness, so alien to Gretel, was enough to move even a mass murderer like her to blush like a ''real'' little girl for the briefest of moments... [[spoiler: and then one of the saddest moments of DoesNotKnowHowToSayThanks ever. Her version of thanks was to offer herself sexually to Rock, truly thinking that is the only way an adult will appreciate her in return.]]
* In ''Manga/FruitsBasket'', Mayu said she cried in place of Hatori. Hatori demurs, and Mayu demands her tears back with interest.
* ''Manga/InuYasha'': Jaken does this on Sesshomaru's behalf [[spoiler: when Rin dies]].
* After the ending credits in episode 3 of the second season of ''[[Anime/MobileSuitGundam00 Gundam 00]]'' we see a scene where Marina and Setsuna are talking, and he says all he knows in life is fighting, then she starts crying, and when Setsuna asks why she cries, she replies "because you can't".
* In ''Literature/{{Baccano}}'' Jacuzzi tells Nice that one of the reasons he [[ShrinkingViolet cries so much at the smallest things]] is so that his tears can make up for all the times ''she'' wants to cry but has to stay strong.
* In the first episode of ''Literature/BalladOfAShinigami'', Momo is in tears at the end, and is called a crybaby by her fuzzy sidekick. She replies, 'The dead cannot cry, so I cry for them.'
* In ''Manga/BlackButler'', episode 24, when Ciel [[spoiler: is about to die]], he comments that [[spoiler: Elizabeth]] will probably cry a lot. Sebastian adds that [[spoiler: Lizzie]] will cry for two, as she knows he never cries.

* During one point in ''Anime/TurnAGundam'', after Diana and Kihel have switched identities, "Diana" and her courtiers visit the gravesite of Kihel's father. Though she would very well like to grieve, the ruse -though initially only meant for fun- would be exposed and the relations between humans and the moonrace could break down, and so "Kihel" instead cries passionately in the stead of the original.
* In ''Anime/{{Scryed}}'', after [[spoiler:Kimishima]] dies, Kazuma shows a face of stoic acceptance, going on about how he's [[IronWoobie used to pain, loss, abandonment]] and all that stuff... but his MoralityPet, Kanami, who has demonstrated a psychic link with Kazuma's inner self, has other thoughts.
-->'''Kanami''': You're lying! You're sad too! Really sad! So I'll cry. I'll cry for you, too.
* Literally true for Princess Laura in ''Anime/SerendipityThePinkDragon''. Because she is a princess and not allowed to openly express her emotions, there is a race of creatures on the island that will do it for her. When she is sad, they wail and produce endless streams of tears; when she is happy, they bounce around joyfully.
* Akira Fudo, main character of ''Anime/DevilmanCrybaby''. He has a tendency to cry when he feels the sorrow of other people, devilmen or even animals, specially when they won't cry themselves.

* In ''Franchise/StarTrek'' fandom, there were several poems and stories about Spock that had either Christine Chapel or Dr. [=McCoy=] saying "I weep for you, you will not weep for yourself." In the narrative poem "Lament for the Unsung Dead" by Jane Peyton (written years before SlashFic), Spock wasn't able to save Kirk's life. He comes to Christine asking how do you go on when you've lost a friend. Life goes on, she says, you meet other people. There are no others, he says. And that's when she realizes that she has walled off her own emotions... ''I couldn't even cry for him.''
* In the ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'' fic ''[[http://www.fanfiction.net/s/6914974/1/Alone_On_the_Water Alone On the Water,]]'' the following is said in John's narration:

* In the ''Series/CriminalMinds'' fanfic ''To live again'' Annie (who's not a big weeper herself) cries for Gideon when she realizes just how broken he really is.
* In the ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}''/''TabletopGame/Warhammer40000'' CrossOver ''The Death Korps of RWBY'' Ruby does this for the [[OriginalCharacter protagonist]], a [[BadassNormal Imperial Guardsman]] of the [[DeathSeeker Death Korps of Krieg]] after he relates some personal tragedy to her. And for someone who is normally an emotionless husk, he's touched by it.

--> '''Auda:''' Do you love him?\\
'''Ali:''' *angrily, with tears running down his face* No, I fear him!\\

* In ''Film/GuardiansOfTheGalaxyVol2'', Mantis does this for Drax when she uses her Empath Touch to feel his pain over the murders of his wife and daughter.

* From ''Ink Exchange'', the second book in the Literature/WickedLovely series; "Then he was beside her, lifting her hands to his lips, crying tears she wasn't able to shed." The characters are, respectively, Niall and [[BrokenBird Leslie]].
* Happens in ''Literature/HouseOfChains'', the fourth volume of the ''Literature/MalazanBookOfTheFallen''. Trull Sengar cries when they are told that [[TheUndead Onrack the Broken's]] [[spoiler: former wife, aka the Goddess of the Apocalypse]] has died, because his [[InterspeciesFriendship friend]] is physically incapable of tears. Even if he were, it would be against his cultural norms, so Onrack is genuinely taken aback by the gesture.
* Played straight in ''Literature/TheGodfather''. In the opening chapter/scene, Bonasera, the undertaker, is pleading for Vito Corleone to avenge his brutalized daughter. When describing the state he found her in at the hospital, he says "She couldn't even weep for the pain. But I wept."
* In Creator/AletheaKontis's ''Literature/{{Enchanted}}'', Sunday runs to Rumbold, [[spoiler:saying goodbye to his dead mother]] and UnableToCry; she holds him and cries herself.
* In Literature/TheBible, Aaron's sons were struck dead by God because they offered strange fire. Moses told Aaron that he was to continue about his priestly duties rather than engaging in mourning rites, but that all of Israel would mourn them.
* Nezumi's case in ''Broken Gate'' is something of a variant in that, while she doesn't express emotions by the way of being an EmotionlessGirl, however, while she doesn't feel or express her emotions, it doesn't stop ''other'' things from feeling the emotions she would have otherwise felt, along with expressing them, i.e the "ills" from behind the gate making something of whimpers and pained wails as to mourn and the fact that her minions destroy just about everything in a rage. This is aptly alluded to in chapters 11 and 12, with them being titled "The Rage She Didn't Possess" and "The Sorrow Couldn't Feel nor Express".

Cause if He ever saw it it was through these eyes of mine\\

* Attempted in Theatre/{{Macbeth}}: Siward refuses to mourn his son's death in battle. Malcolm offers to mourn for him, but Siward refuses that too.

* A variant occurs in ''VideoGame/FireEmblemPathOfRadiance''. After [[spoiler:Ike's father Greil dies]], [[TheHero Ike]] tells [[WhiteMagicianGirl Rhys]] a story [[spoiler:Greil used to tell him]] about how the more tears are shed for someone, the more blessings they receive in the afterlife. Being TheStoic, Ike finds himself unable to cry, so he asks Rhys to cry in his place.
** In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTheBlazingBlade'', right before the final battle, Lyn cries in place of Hector for his [[spoiler:recently deceased older brother Uther]], in a ShoutOut to an earlier scene in which Hector tells her about [[spoiler:how he tried to cry when his and Uther's parents died, but he simply was unable to]].
** Another variant occurs in ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTheSacredStones'' if you take Eirika's path. When it becomes clear beyond any shadow of a doubt that [[spoiler:Lyon cannot be saved]], Ephraim tells Eirika that it's all right to cry, and to cry for him as well.

* ''VisualNovel/PhoenixWrightAceAttorneyDualDestinies'': Happens in the third case when Klavier explains how the murder victim, Constance Courte, was his former teacher and her philosophy left a deep impact on him. He stays composed throughout the case and [[StepfordSmiler even acts cheerful for the most part]], but Athena's super-sensitive hearing picks up on how he's really feeling, and it's sad enough that she starts crying instead.
* ''VideoGame/SuikodenV'': This is invoked by [[TheGadfly Miakis]], when Lymsleia refuses to cry [[spoiler:over her parents' deaths]] to deny the Godwins the satisfaction of [[BreakTheCutie breaking her.]] So Miakis holds her and cries in her stead.

* In ''Anime/{{Scryed}}'', after [[spoiler:Kimishima]] dies, Kazuma shows a face of stoic acceptance, going on about how he's [[TheWoobie used to pain, loss, abandonment]] and all that stuff... but his MoralityPet, Kanami, who has demonstrated a psychic link with Kazuma's inner self, has other thoughts.

* In Creator/JamesSwallow's ''TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} Literature/HorusHeresy'' novel ''The Flight of the Eisenstein'', Keeler cries over the [[BearerOfBadNews news they brought]] [[spoiler: Dorn; they have broken a brother's heart]].

* Something similar happened in ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration'' when Data's 'daughter' became capable of emotions he himself couldn't feel. Data, as an android, was incapable of actual emotion. In their final scene together before she died, Lal tells her father that she loves him and he expresses regret (such as he is capable of) that he cannot return the emotion. [[TearJerker She says that it's OK, she'll feel it enough for both of them.]]

* In ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'' Jacuzzi tells Nice that one of the reasons he [[ShrinkingViolet cries so much at the smallest things]] is so that his tears can make up for all the times ''she'' wants to cry but has to stay strong.
* In the first episode of ''LightNovel/BalladOfAShinigami'', Momo is in tears at the end, and is called a crybaby by her fuzzy sidekick. She replies, 'The dead cannot cry, so I cry for them.'

Sometimes, even if the sadness one feels is like the weight of the entire world on his shoulders, a malignant combination of cultural brainwash like MenDontCry and personal trauma [[{{Mangst}} has sealed a person to his or her feelings]], and [[UnableToCry the tears simply refuse to flow despite the soul-crushing grief he or she is bearing]].

There is, therefore, no stronger action that dictates a person's love, sensitivity and kindness than having him cry in his friends' place, to bear their pain for them so that they can have the courage to live on.

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* In certain cultures and eras, it was common (especially for rich people) to hire professional mourners for funerals, and these people were usually women. This is a surprisingly common phenomenon - we see it in Ancient Egypt, but also China and India, and even certain parts of medieval Europe. In China, this custom allegedly still lives; Chinese professional mourners, apart from crying, also do things like sing songs and recite eulogies.

* UpToEleven in chapter 191 of ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/10264509/191/Tales-of-Fairies Tales of Fairies]]'', where after Tartaros Juvia cries for Gray, Natsu, Gajeel, Wendy, Sting, ''and'' Rogue [[spoiler:after the loss of their parents]].

* In Film/GuardiansOfTheGalaxyVol2, Mantis does this for Drax when she uses her Empath Touch to feel his pain over the murders of his wife and daughter.

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-->'''Siward:''' Had I as many sons as I have hairs, I would not wish them to a fairer death: and so, his knell is knoll'd.
-->'''Malcolm:''' He's worth more sorrow, and that I'll spend for him.
-->'''Siward:''' He's worth no more. They say he parted well, and paid his score: and so, God be with him!

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* Most of the Mane Six in the ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'' episode "Tanks for the Memories" [[EverybodyCries join Rainbow Dash in crying]] over her pet tortoise Tank's impending [[LastSecondWordSwap dea— er, hibernation]]. When [[OnlySaneMan Twilight]] comments on how ridiculous the scene is getting, Pinkie Pie says she's mostly crying on Twilight's behalf; in a subversion, Pinkie doesn't cry for [[TheStoic Applejack]] because she respects that she "[[UnableToCry cries on the inside]]".

%%* UpToEleven in chapter 191, where after Tartaros Juvia cries for Gray, Natsu, Gajeel, Wendy, Sting, ''and'' Rogue %%Lacking in context. Which story is it from?

* Edward Elric, the burnt out hero of ''Manga/FullmetalAlchemist'', irritably asks his childhood friend Winry "What are you crying for?" after she admits to having opened his pocket watch. She replies "Because you won't, neither of you will! So now I'm crying for you both!"

* After the ending credits in episode 3 of the second season of ''[[Anime/MobileSuitGundam00 Gundam 00]]'' we see a scene where Marina and Setsuna are talking, and he says all he knows in life is fightng, then she starts crying, and when Setsuna asks why she cries, she replies "because you can't".

* In ''Manga/{{Spiral}}'', at his mother's funeral, a young [[TheStoic Eyes]] asked that his best friend Kanone do this for him from then on; Kanone promisesd. (Though he's never shown to do it on-screen, he's still largely emotional enough for the two of them.)

* There were several poems and stories about Spock that had either Christine Chapel or Dr. Mc_Coy saying "I weep for you, you will not weep for yourself." In the narrative poem "Lament for the Unsung Dead" by Jane Peyton (written years before SlashFic), Spock wasn't able to save Kirk's life. He comes to Christine asking how do you go on when you've lost a friend. Life goes on, she says, you meet other people. There are no others, he says. And that's when she realizes that she has walled off her own emotions... ''I couldn't even cry for him.''

* In the ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}''/''TabletopGame/Warhammer40000'' CrossOver ''The Death Korps of RWBY'' Ruby does this for the [[OriginalCharacter protagonist]], a [[BadassNormal Imperial Guardsman]] of the [[DeathSeeker Death Korps of Krieg]] after he relates some personal tragedy to her. And for someone who is normally an emotionless husk he's touched by it.

* UpToEleven in chapter 191, where after Tartaros Juvia cries for Gray, Natsu, Gajeel, Wendy, Sting, ''and'' Rogue

* In Creator/JamesSwallow's ''TabletopGame/{{Warhammer 40000}} Literature/HorusHeresy novel'' ''The Flight of the Eisenstein'', Keeler cries over the [[BearerOfBadNews news they brought]] [[spoiler: Dorn; they have broken a brother's heart]].

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* Eldar in ''TabletopGame/Warhammer40000'' have to be very careful about letting themselves feel emotion since excessive emotion can attract the attention of [[GodOfEvil Slaanesh]]. Some Eldar choose to to follow the Path of Grief becoming professional mourners who grieve for the fallen on behalf of other Eldar.

** In ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTheBlazingBlade'', right before the final battle Lyn cries in place of Hector for his [[spoiler:recently deceased older brother Uther]], in a ShoutOut to an earlier scene in which Hector tells her about [[spoiler:how he tried to cry when his and Uther's parents died, but he simply was unable to.]].
** Another variant occurs in ''VideoGame/FireEmblemTheSacredStones'' if you take Eirika's path. When it becomes clear beyond any shadow of doubt that [[spoiler:Lyon cannot be saved]], Ephraim tells Eirika that it's all right to cry, and to cry for him as well.

* ''VideoGame/SuikodenV'': This is invoked by [[TheGadfly Miakis]], when Lymslea refuses to cry [[spoiler:over her parents' deaths]] to deny the Godwins the satisfaction of [[BreakTheCutie breaking her.]] So Miakis holds her and cries in her stead.

* In certain cultures and eras, it was common (especially for rich people) to hire professional mourners for funerals, and these people were usually women. This is a surprisingly common phenomenon - we see it in Ancient Egypt, but also China and India, even certain parts medieval Europe. In China, this custom allegedly still lives; Chinese professional mourners, apart from crying, also do things like sing songs and recite eulogies.

* From ''Ink Exchange'', the second book in the Literature/WickedLovely series; "Then he was beide her, lifting her hands to his lips, crying tears she wasn't able to shed." The characters are, respectively, Niall and [[BrokenBird Leslie]].

* The TropeNamer comes from the film ''Film/ConanTheBarbarian1982''. Conan tenderly dresses the corpse of Valeria, the love of his life, as he prepares her funeral pyre for her journey to Valhalla. Yet for all his love, any tears that are left from his MenDontCry upbringing in childhood have been dried away by his twenty years of pitiless slavery. His best friend, Subotai, silently sheds TenderTears as the Wizard asks, "Why do you cry?" To which the warrior answers: ''"He is Conan, [[ProudWarriorRace Cimmerian]]. He will not cry, so I cry for him."''

* Most of the Mane Six in the ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic'' episode "Tanks for the Memories" [[EverybodyCries join Rainbow Dash in crying]] over her pet tortoise Tank's impending [[DoesThisRemindYouOfAnything dea— er, hibernation]]. When [[OnlySaneMan Twilight]] comments on how ridiculous the scene is getting, Pinkie Pie says she's mostly crying on Twilight's behalf; in a subversion, Pinkie doesn't cry for [[TheStoic Applejack]] because she respects that she "[[UnableToCry cries on the inside]]".

* The hero and the titular sea serpent of an old children's anime film called ''Serendipity'' visit an island with a custom like this trope: When their mermaid princess is especially sad, her court of fish cry for her so she won't have to.

* A pair of knights in ''Manga/TheLuciferAndBiscuitHammer'' has a strange version; Hanako the Cricket Knight is stoic and strong, so when she got injured, the (unharmed) Mouse Knight Taiyou would cry in her place.

* A pair of knights in ''Manga/TheLuciferAndBiscuitHammer'' has a strange version; the girl is stoic and strong, so when she got injured, the (unharmed) boy would cry in her place.

* In the ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}''/''TabletopGame/Warhammer40000'' CrossOver ''The Death Korps of RWBY'' Ruby does this for the [[OwnCharacter protagonist]], a [[BadassNormal Imperial Guardsman]] of the [[DeathSeeker Death Korps of Krieg]] after he relates some personal tragedy to her. And for someone who is normally an emotionless husk he's touched by it.

* Inverted in ''Literature/TheGodfather''. In the opening chapter/scene, Bonasera, the undertaker, is pleading for Vito Corleone to avenge his brutalized daughter. When describing the state he found her in at the hospital, he says "She couldn't even weep for the pain. But I wept."

* In ''Manga/{{Monster}}'', Wolfgang Grimmer holds a traumatised little boy and starts crying over him, causing the boy to slowly come out from his {{BSOD}} and return Grimmer's hug. What makes this especially HeartWarming is that until that point, Grimmer himself had been UnableToCry due to the horrific abuse he had suffered during childhood.

* Rock, the only truly decent human being in the CrapsackWorld of ''Manga/BlackLagoon'', listens with sadness and horror rather than disgust at the coldly delivered TheReasonYouSuckSpeech by Gretel, a little girl so traumatized by rape and torture with her twin brother Hansel back in Romania that murder has become the sole source of joy for them. He holds her in a tight embrace and weeps, begging her to accept the possibility that there is hope, and still a possibility of a new and happy life for a little girl like her. This act of ''sincere'' kindness, so alien to Gretel, was enough to move even a mass murderer like her to blush like a ''real'' little girl for the briefest of moments... [[spoiler: and then one of the [[TearJerker saddest]] moments of DoesNotKnowHowToSayThanks ever. Her version of thanks was to offer herself sexually to Rock, truly thinking that is the only way an adult will appreciate her in return.]]

->'''Akiro:''' Why do you cry?
->'''Subotai:''' He is Conan, Cimmerian. He will not cry, so I cry for him.

A hybrid of the MenDontCry and TenderTears tropes. Quite often caused by one character being filled with {{Mangst}}. More often than not, a TearJerker, a CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming or both for a franchise.

* In the ''WebAnimation/{{RWBY}}''/''TabletopGame/Warhammer40000'' CrossOver ''The Death Korps of RWBY'' Ruby does this for the [[OwnCharacter protagonist]], a [[BadassNormal Imperial Guardsman]] of the [[DeathSeeker Death Korps of Krieg]] after he relates some personal tragedy to her. [[CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming And for someone who is normally an emotionless husk he's touched by it.]]

--> '''Auda:''' Do you love him?
--> '''Ali:''' *angrily, with tears running down his face* No, I fear him!
--> '''Auda:''' Then why do you weep?
--> '''Ali:''' If I fear him, who love him, how must he fear himself who hates himself?