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* ''FanFic/MarinetteDupainChengsSpitePlaylist'' plays with this: Marinette ''expects'' Adrien to pull this card after she transfers out of their school, since he'd told her to just ignore Lila's lying. Instead, he apologizes to her, having realized that his advice wasn't the support she'd needed.
** Later on, she frets about this again after deciding to [[spoiler:team up with Chloe to take Lila down]], believing that Adrien will be upset that she's not sticking to the high road. What she doesn't realize -- but quickly learns -- is that [[spoiler:Adrien is ''already'' working with Chloe, and was afraid she'd be upset with ''him'' for it]].

* In ''Manga/MyHeroAcademia'': Aizawa gives his whole class one of these after [[spoiler: five students decided to disregard pretty much all rules and regulations to conduct an unsanctioned rescue operation, and nearly the entire rest of the class knew about it and didn't report it]]. He tells them that their actions meant that it will be a ''long'' time before they can earn his trust again.

* Subverted in ''Magazine/{{MAD}}'', during the parody of Series/SeventhHeaven. Cleric Crammed-in says he's very disappointed in his son, Simple, when the boy's caught shoplifting, but retracts that when it's revealed that Simple was shoplifting "The Best of Eight is Enough," since his show can steal material from that.

* In one issue of JLA Comicbook/{{Batman}} reacted this way when he found out Comicbook/PlasticMan had a son Luke whom he never met face to face. Batman claims that he had always thought Plastic Man would have been a decent dad and chews him out for not being there for his son. This leaves an impression on Plas -- in a later storyline after a particularly traumatizing experience he decides to stop being Plastic Man (to the point of ''forgetting he ever was Plastic Man'') so he can be a dad for Luke.
* In ''ComicBook/TheAvengers'' ''Rage of Ultron'', Hank Pym confronts his omnicidal robot son Ultron near the end. Ultron asks if Hank is going to stop claiming he loves Ultron as a son unconditionally and own his hatred. Hank denies hating Ultron and says he's disappointed in him because he wants to hurt people.

* Unohana does this, in chapter 35 of ''Fanfic/UninvitedGuests'', when she uses her TeamMom status to guilt trip Soi Fon into surrendering her hold on Soul Society.
-->With immeasurable sadness in her eyes, she said, "I just want you to know... I'm not angry, Soi Fon. I'm disappointed."\\
Soi Fon recoiled as if physically struck. "Wh-what... what was..." She muttered. What had just happened? Unohana had done nothing of note; she'd spoken a few words. They weren't even kido. And yet Soi Fon felt as though a spear of ice had been driven deep into her soul, a deep, crushing chill that permeated her entire being.\\
"I've done so much for you. I work tirelessly, day in and day out, to keep you and your little friends healthy and happy." Unohana said, still sadly. "I do this because I care, Soi, I really do. And to see you respond by treating me like this... it hurts."\\
Soi Fon fell to her knees. "S... stop it..." She muttered. "What are you... what are you doing to... to me..."\\
"Look me in the eyes when I talk to you, young lady." Unohana said firmly. "I want you to understand just how much your selfishness has hurt the people who care about you."\\
"Oh... oh God..." Soi Fon said weakly, tears in her eyes. What was going on? What was this woman doing to her? She hadn't been so much as scratched, but she felt so weak and terrible and... guilty.
* In ''Fanfic/BoysUndSenshado'', Miho expresses the sentiment to Mako when a mistake by Mako as driver [[spoiler:results in Miho almost getting run over by their Panzer IV]].

* Twilight expresses her extreme disappointment over TD and Celestia's animalistic behavior in ''[[FanFic/TheNonBronyverse TD the Alicorn Princess]]'', which hits both quite hard. Celestia is also shown to be disappointed in herself.

* ''Fanfic/AmbienceAFleetSymphony'': In chapter 105, [[spoiler:Murasame]] saying this to [[spoiler:Suzukaze]] is the cherry on top of the preceding EtTuBrute, the straw that breaks the camel's back and causes the latter to abandon the fleet.

* [[http://archiveofourown.org/works/1249882 "Up And Apart,"]] a PatchworkFic written for the ''Franchise/{{Tron}}'' universe has Jet Bradley hanging a lampshade on this trope.
-->He has the mental image of his father staring at him over his spectacles, and the words ''“Jethro Eugene Bradley, I'm very disappointed...”'' When it comes to his dad, “disappointed” covers a lot of things other people use four-letter bombs to express.
* [[ItMakesSenseInContext After twelve years of inhabiting his son's body]] in ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/5571816/26/Win-Some-Lose-Some The Fire Quenched]]'', Kakashi notes that Minato doesn't seem so much angry with the village as deeply disappointed for how they treated "Naruto".
* After Yuugao almost kills Suzume for poisoning Naruto in ''Fanfic/{{Eroninja}}'', Naruto tells her he's disappointed in her, which Suzume notes nearly drives the Anbu captain to tears.
* In ''Fanfic/{{Continuance}}'', Souji Seta convinces his father, Yuuma to let him visit [[VideoGame/{{Persona 4}} Inaba]] for Golden Week, under the pretext of gathering business information. Yuuma, upon seeing Souji's portfolio, says this is "far beneath what (he) expect(s) of" his son. Souji, unfazed, snarkily replies that Yuuma's been saying that ever since Souji was thirteen.
* In ''FanFic/CardcaptorRad'', with Optimus being something of a TeamDad, both Hot Shot and Rad can attest they find when he's disappointed in them to be worse than if he got angry.
* ''Fanfic/PrincessOfTheBlacks'': Lily ''attempts'' this with Jen, saying she's "better than this" when the latter admits that "if [she] can only stay afloat by pushing someone else under, then that's just the way it goes." Unfortunately for her, not only does Jen not care, Lily called her [[DoNotCallMePaul Jen]][[BerserkButton ny]].
* At one point in Cleolinda's ''Fanfic/TheSecretLifeOfDolls'' series, Cleo disciplines Edward simply by telling him she's disappointed in him.
* In ''FanFic/LadyBugOut'', [[MisplacedKindergartenTeacher Ms. Bustier]] attempts to talk Marinette into deleting the titular blog behind Ladybug's back (unaware that she ''is'' Ladybug). When Marinette refuses and calls her out on her bully-coddling, Bustier attempts to shame her by saying this. It promptly blows up in her face as most of her class proceeds to back Marinette up, [[WhatTheHellHero calling her out]] for her underhanded tactics.
* ''FanFic/MarinetteDupainChengsSpitePlaylist'' plays with this: Marinette ''expects'' Adrien to pull this card after she transfers out of their school, since he'd told her to just ignore Lila's lying. Instead, he apologizes to her, having realized that his advice wasn't the support she'd needed.
** Later on, she frets about this again after deciding to [[spoiler:team up with Chloe to take Lila down]], believing that Adrien will be upset that she's not sticking to the high road. What she doesn't realize -- but quickly learns -- is that [[spoiler:Adrien is ''already'' working with Chloe, and was afraid she'd be upset with ''him'' for it]].
* ''FanFic/TheOneToMakeItStay'':
** After Alya accidentally ditches her babysitting duties, her older sister Nora is utterly ''furious'' with her. By contrast, her mother is much quieter and calmer, explaining why she's disappointed not just by this incident, but by how [[SkewedPriorities skewed Alya's priorities]] have become in general. While Alya has been incredibly stubborn up to this point, rejecting the idea that [[NeverMyFault she could be responsible for any of her problems]], this marks a turning point, as she finds herself more frustrated by how she ''can't'' blame them for being upset.
** Eventually, Alya admits to Ladybug that her fear of this was a major motivation behind how she was acting. In essence, she didn't want to admit her actions were wrong, or that [[spoiler:Lila wasn't who she believed her to be]], because acknowledging that would mean facing the idea that she'd disappointed everyone who trusted her. The irony of how this has only made matters worse [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone isn't lost on her]].
* ''FanFic/SinsOfThePast'':
** When Lila successfully makes it look like [[WoundedGazelleGambit Marinette assaulted her]], several of their classmates tell their former friend they're disappointed that she's sunk so low. One comments that "I thought you were supposed to be our 'Everyday Ladybug'?"
** Adrien follows this up with an even ''nastier'' example. Marinette confides in him about how Lila threatened her, only for him to [[HolierThanThou lecture her]] about how disappointed he is that she's still trying to expose the liar, claiming that she's no better than a bully herself.
** Both of Kamela's parents are deeply ashamed after learning about how she had an altercation with Amicia.
* ''Fanfic/FateBlackDawn'': The key turning point in Morgan le Faye's relationship with Shirou is how he takes her to task for being [[AbusiveParents a terrible mother]] to her homunculus Mordred. "She deserves a decent mother. And you deserve to be a great one." While Morgan has had people hating her and her ambitions her entire life, she's never had anyone disappointed in her because they expected her to do better.
* ''FanFic/OfPatienceAndPettiness'':
** Ladybug uses this on both Lila and Alya at the same time after the former is akumatized into Volpina again, chastising her for falsely claiming that they were friends and chiding the reporter for providing an easy platform for her lies by posting them on the Ladyblog.
** Adrien ''attempts'' to guilt-trip Marinette and the rest of his classmates by expressing how deeply disappointed he is that she [[LiarRevealed exposed Lila's deception]] to everyone. This completely blows up in his face, as none of the others knew that he ''already knew'' about her true nature, and don't appreciate his high-handed moralizing.
* ''FanFic/InfinityTrainBlossomingTrail'': Miss April is deeply disappointed when she catches her student Sara snidely declaring that Chloe doesn't ''deserve'' to have anyone looking for her, and that she hopes she ''never'' comes back. This extends to the rest of the class for making Chloe so miserable in the first place, contributing to her disappearance.

* ''WesternAnimation/BrotherBear'': After Kenai kills the bear ([[spoiler:AKA Koda's mother]]) out of anger for supposedly causing Sitka's death, the spirits his people worship turn him into a bear as a punishment. During the transformation scene, Sitka's spirit appears to Kenai and gives him a sorrowful look, not happy at all that his youngest brother had needlessly killed the bear.

-->It's funny how [[Series/MisterRogersNeighborhood Mr. Rogers's]] words end up carrying through to your adulthood. I was once had a co-worker who was being a total jerk to everyone. When he turned on me, I let him have it! I said, "You are not acting like the person [[Series/MisterRogersNeighborhood Mr. Rogers]] knew you could be." [[JerkassRealization He stood there flat-footed in shock]]. .... "Damn, that was harsh man." About 30 minutes later he personally apologized to each person, one by one.

-->It's funny how Mr. Rogers's words end up carrying through to your adulthood. I was once had a co-worker who was being a total jerk to everyone. When he turned on me, I let him have it! I said, "You are not acting like the person [[Series/MisterRogersNeighborhood Mr. Rogers]] knew you could be." [[JerkassRealization He stood there flat-footed in shock]]. .... "Damn, that was harsh man." About 30 minutes later he personally apologized to each person, one by one.

One character fails at something. Instead of being angry, another character is morose. They don't yell at the first character or ask them "WhatWereYouThinking" or anything dramatic like that. Instead, they calmly, sadly and often regretfully tell the other person that they've let them down. Someway, somehow, they've set the second character's hopes for them high and then failed to deliver. May be worded as "I'm disappointed in you," or "You disappoint me," or at a stretch "I expected better/more." However it's worded, the issue isn't one of outrage or indignation -- merely that the speaker has been let down by the other and they feel like a fool for believing there would be any other outcome.

* Garibaldi and Sheridan in the ''Series/BabylonFive'' episode "[[Recap/BabylonFiveS05E19WheelOfFire Wheel of Fire]]":

* ''WesternAnimation/BrotherBear'': After Kenai kills the bear [[spoiler:AKA Koda's mother]]) out of anger for supposedly causing Sitka's death, the spirits his people worship turn him into a bear as a punishment. During the transformation scene, Sitka's spirit appears to Kenai and gives him a sorrowful look, not happy at all that his youngest brother had needlessly killed the bear.

* Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse: Quiet expression of disappointment by those Loki cares about has more effect on him than any amount of angry shouting ever would. In ''Film/{{Thor}}'', when Odin condemns his actions with a LittleNo, he lets go of Odin's spear Gungnir and his former life, apparently committing suicide by [[DisneyVillainDeath letting himself fall to his death]], but [[BungledSuicide survives]] and then is JumpingOffTheSlipperySlope in''Film/{{The Avengers|2012}}''. In ''Film/ThorRagnarok'', when Thor calmly admits that he once though the world of Loki but has given up on him because Loki refuses to change, Loki [[spoiler:makes a HeelFaceTurn]].

* In ''Series/{{Sherlock}}'', Moriarty reacts with a mixture a disappointment and anger when Sherlock reveals he [[IdiotBall bought into his BS]] about a computer program that could break into any computer in the world.

* Garibaldi and Sheridan in the ''Series/BabylonFive'' episode "Wheel of Fire":

** Discussed and subverted in the episode "All the Way":

** And averted by Giles in "Innocence", after Buffy's decision to sleep with Angel releases the evil Angelus, who Buffy (at that point in time) is unable to bring herself to kill.

** On that note, in "[[Recap/StarWarsRebelsS3E15ThroughImperialEyes Through Imperial Eyes]]", at the end, Colonel Wullf Yularen is extremely disappointed that [[spoiler:Kallus, who was one of his best students]], has become a ReverseMole.

* In ''VideoGame/{{Obsidian}}'', at the end of the first dream world, [[PlayerCharacter Lilah Kerlins]] finally breaks every rule in the Bureau Realm to reach their boss. When she does, the Bureau Chief morosely shrugs and says, "Lilah...too bad. I am very disappointed in you," before checking a memo over what you just did. Then he slides into a VillanousBreakdown before finally showing you information about your partner Max.

* After Yuugao almost kills Suzume for poisoning Naruto in ''[[http://ficwad.com/story/267660 Eroninja]]'', Naruto tells her he's disappointed in her, which Suzume notes nearly drives the Anbu captain to tears.

* ''Series/StarTrekVoyager'': Captain Janeway can fall into this trope if one of the crew screws up badly enough. The downside to being TeamMom is that when your crew lets you down, it hits ''hard''.

* ''WesternAnimation/{{The Lion King|1967}}:''

* ''Disney/TheLionKing:''

* ''Disney/BrotherBear'': After Kenai kills the bear [[spoiler:AKA Koda's mother]]) out of anger for supposedly causing Sitka's death, the spirits his people worship turn him into a bear as a punishment. During the transformation scene, Sitka's spirit appears to Kenai and gives him a sorrowful look, not happy at all that his youngest brother had needlessly killed the bear.

* In ''Disney/{{Frozen}}'' TieInNovel ''Literature/AFrozenHeart'', Prince Hans' father tells him that he should be more like his brothers and warns him "Don't disappoint me - again."