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24th Sep '16 12:22:48 AM Tron80
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* As reasons go, Jor-El's is pretty damn good: the planet was blowing up and the one rocket he had was just large enough to safely carry [[Franchise/{{Superman}} his son Kal]] to Earth. Further, in some continuities, Kryptonians are genetically dependent on their home planet such that they're unable to leave, and Jor-El had to create a "birthing matrix" (such that his son wasn't officially "born" until he came to Earth) to get around it.

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* Franchise/{{Superman}}: As reasons go, Jor-El's Jor-El and Lara's is pretty damn good: the planet was blowing up and the one rocket he they had was just large enough to safely carry [[Franchise/{{Superman}} his their son Kal]] Kal -Superman- to Earth. Further, in some continuities, Kryptonians are genetically dependent on their home planet such that they're unable to leave, and Jor-El had to create a "birthing matrix" (such that his son wasn't officially "born" until he came to Earth) to get around it.



* Sinestro left his family to spare them from being associated with an intergalactic criminal.
* Franchise/{{Batman}} does [[InvertedTrope the exact opposite]]: rather than abandoning his adopted sons, he tends to be just enough of a JerkAss that they go away themselves. In his mind, it's for their own good--the less attached they are to him, the less painful it will be when he dies, and Batman knows that all it takes is one lucky shot to finish him off. So it's more like Daddy Had a Good Reason To Be An Ass, [[FridgeBrilliance which makes perfect sense when you think about how he became Batman in the first place.]]
** Dick Grayson [[CallingTheOldManOut called him out on this]] in one issue of ''[[ComicBook/BatmanAndTheOutsiders The Outsiders]]'' after discovering that Bruce has been secretly funding the team through a subsidiary of Wayne Industries.

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* Franchise/GreenLantern: Sinestro left his family to spare them from being associated with an intergalactic criminal.
* Franchise/{{Batman}} Franchise/{{Batman}}:
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does [[InvertedTrope the exact opposite]]: rather than abandoning his adopted sons, he tends to be just enough of a JerkAss that they go away themselves. In his mind, it's for their own good--the less attached they are to him, the less painful it will be when he dies, and Batman knows that all it takes is one lucky shot to finish him off. So it's more like Daddy Had a Good Reason To Be An Ass, [[FridgeBrilliance which makes perfect sense when you think about how he became Batman in the first place.]]
** Dick Grayson alias Comicbook/{{Nightwing}} [[CallingTheOldManOut called him out on this]] in one issue of ''[[ComicBook/BatmanAndTheOutsiders The Outsiders]]'' after discovering that Bruce has been secretly funding the team through a subsidiary of Wayne Industries.


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* Played with in ''Fanfic/GhostsOfEvangelion''. Shinji and Asuka were terrified when she got pregnant because they didn't think they could be good parents… but they didn't want to abandon their child either. So they came to an agreement with Misato and Kaji -who lived next door-: they'd raise their daughter until she was a few years older and from that point on, Shinji and Asuka would take care of her.
12th Sep '16 2:41:06 PM margdean56
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* In Tolkien's ''UnfinishedTalesOfNúumenorAndMiddleEarth'', specifically in the "Aldarion and Erendis: The Mariner's Wife" tale, the titular character, prince Aldarion, leaves his native island for several years, many times. The last of these times, his wife (who thought he would have just settled down, by now) spent the years of his absence teaching their 4-to-7-year-old daughter Ancalimë to hate his father, and men in general. Turns out Aldarion was helping the elves and men of Middle Earth prepare against a new, vague, rising threat, which (despite not telling Aldarion) the elf king had correctly identified as Morgoth's former servant: Sauron. Whoops.

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* In Tolkien's ''UnfinishedTalesOfNúumenorAndMiddleEarth'', ''Unfinished Tales of Númenor and Middle-earth'', specifically in the "Aldarion and Erendis: The Mariner's Wife" tale, the titular character, prince Aldarion, leaves his native island for several years, many times. The last of these times, his wife (who thought he would have just settled down, by now) spent the years of his absence teaching their 4-to-7-year-old daughter Ancalimë to hate his father, and men in general. Turns out Aldarion was helping the elves and men of Middle Earth prepare against a new, vague, rising threat, which (despite not telling Aldarion) the elf king had correctly identified as Morgoth's former servant: Sauron. Whoops.
12th Sep '16 2:39:21 PM margdean56
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This trope straddles a thin line - it can come off as extremely contrived unless said excuse is very, very convincing. In order for it to work there must be an explanation as to why no one bothered to bring it up until just the last minute. See also GlorifiedSpermDonor for a form this can take when it's handled badly.

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This trope straddles a thin line - -- it can come off as extremely contrived unless said excuse is very, very convincing. In order for it to work there must be an explanation as to why no one bothered to bring it up until just the last minute. See also GlorifiedSpermDonor for a form this can take when it's handled badly.



** Cyclops' father assumes both of his children have fallen to their deaths, because their parachute was on fire. That is the last thing he sees before the aliens beam him off his plane. He does not learn Scott and Alex are still alive until they have both reached adulthood. So up to that point, he has a good reason not to be there for them. However, as soon as he finds out they are alive, he asks Jean Grey not to tell his children, because this would supposedly be for their own good. When Scott finds out anyway a few months later he is mightily pissed off.

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** Cyclops' father assumes both of his children have fallen fell to their deaths, because their parachute was on fire. That is the last thing he sees before the aliens beam him off his plane. He does not learn Scott and Alex are still alive until they have both reached adulthood. So up to that point, he has a good reason not to be there for them. However, as soon as he finds out they are alive, he asks Jean Grey not to tell his children, because this would supposedly be for their own good. When Scott finds out anyway a few months later he is mightily pissed off.



* In ''ComicBook/{{WITCH}}'', [[spoiler:Taranee]]'s birth parent were financially ruined when [[ItMakesSenseInContext a magical meteor destroyed their house in the process of saving her from evil magical plants]], so they gave her up for adoption as a toddler.

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* In ''ComicBook/{{WITCH}}'', [[spoiler:Taranee]]'s birth parent parents were financially ruined when [[ItMakesSenseInContext a magical meteor destroyed their house in the process of saving her from evil magical plants]], so they gave her up for adoption as a toddler.



* This is a big theme in literary treatments of the ''KingArthur'' myth, where the young Arthur is given away by his father Uther Pendragon to be raised either by Merlin or Sir Ector. The reason for this varies depending on which version of the Arthur myth is read -- often it is [[BecauseDestinySaysSo because prophetic Merlin tells Uther he has to do this]]. Part of it depends on when you think Arthur was conceived. In Geoffrey of Monmouth's version this happened before the parents married, with Uther magically assuming the shape of Igraine's first husband Gorlois; in this case Arthur would have appeared to the world to be Gorlois' son, calling his legitimacy as Uther's heir into question. Thomas Malory, on the other hand, was obsessed with legitimacy and therefore stresses that Arthur was only conceived after the death of Gorlois and the wedding of Uther Pendragon and Igraine, necessitating a different rationale to explain why Arthur's claim to the throne had to be established by pulling the Sword from teh Stone (and anvil).

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* This is a big theme in literary treatments of the ''KingArthur'' myth, where the young Arthur is given away by his father Uther Pendragon to be raised either by Merlin or Sir Ector. The reason for this varies depending on which version of the Arthur myth is read -- often it is [[BecauseDestinySaysSo because prophetic Merlin tells Uther he has to do this]]. Part of it depends on when you think Arthur was conceived. In Geoffrey of Monmouth's version this happened before the parents married, with Uther magically assuming the shape of Igraine's first husband Gorlois; in this case Arthur would have appeared to the world to be Gorlois' son, calling his legitimacy as Uther's heir into question. Thomas Malory, on the other hand, was obsessed with legitimacy and therefore stresses that Arthur was only conceived after the death of Gorlois and the wedding of Uther Pendragon and Igraine, necessitating a different rationale to explain why Arthur's claim to the throne had to be established by pulling the Sword from teh the Stone (and anvil).



* In ''Literature/{{Dinoverse}}'', the rebellious graffiti artist Janine resents how her mother is often not at home, forcing her to miss school in order to prepare the hotel for guests herself. As it turns out, her mother is keeping Janine from getting in trouble over the graffiti - she never confronted her daughter because she feared Janine would run away.

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* In ''Literature/{{Dinoverse}}'', the rebellious graffiti artist Janine resents how her mother is often not at home, forcing her to miss school in order to prepare the hotel for guests herself. As it turns out, her mother is keeping Janine from getting in trouble over the graffiti - -- she never confronted her daughter because she feared Janine would run away.



* In ''Literature/TheHistorian'' the primary narrator, a young woman in the 1970s, was raised by her diplomat father because her mother died when she was an infant. You find out that [[spoiler: her mother only faked her death to escape getting bitten - and therefore turned into a vampire - by Vlad "The Impaler" Tepes a.k.a. Dracula himself. The mother then spent the entirety of the narrator's childhood researching when and where Vlad would next appear so that she could kill him without endangering her family.]]

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* In ''Literature/TheHistorian'' the primary narrator, a young woman in the 1970s, was raised by her diplomat father because her mother died when she was an infant. You find out that [[spoiler: her mother only faked her death to escape getting bitten - -- and therefore turned into a vampire - -- by Vlad "The Impaler" Tepes a.k.a. Dracula himself. The mother then spent the entirety of the narrator's childhood researching when and where Vlad would next appear so that she could kill him without endangering her family.]]



* There's a variation in ''Literature/ABrothersPrice''. Halley was the natural leader of the surviving princesses, but she wasn't the eldest - and by the traditions of this world, the eldest ''has'' to rule the family; especially this family, which will come to the thrones and has a recent tradition of turning into a CivilWar over this point. Halley disappeared BecauseYouCanCope and to try and force her eldest to step up and take more responsibility.
* In Tolkien's UnfinishedTalesOfNumenorAndMiddleEarth, specifically in the ''Aldarion and Erendis: The Mariner's Wife'' tale, the titular character, prince Aldarion, leaves his native island for several years, many times. The last of this times, his wife (who thought he would have just settled down, by now) spent the years of his absence teaching their 4-to-7-years-old daughter Ancalimë to hate his father, and men in general. Turns out Aldarion was helping the elves and men of Middle Earth prepare against a new, vague, rising threat, which (despite not telling Aldarion) the elf king had correctly identified as Morgoth's former servant: Sauron. Whoops.

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* There's a variation in ''Literature/ABrothersPrice''. Halley was the natural leader of the surviving princesses, but she wasn't the eldest - -- and by the traditions of this world, the eldest ''has'' to rule the family; especially this family, which will come to the thrones and has a recent tradition of turning into a CivilWar over this point. Halley disappeared BecauseYouCanCope and to try and force her eldest to step up and take more responsibility.
* In Tolkien's UnfinishedTalesOfNumenorAndMiddleEarth, ''UnfinishedTalesOfNúumenorAndMiddleEarth'', specifically in the ''Aldarion "Aldarion and Erendis: The Mariner's Wife'' Wife" tale, the titular character, prince Aldarion, leaves his native island for several years, many times. The last of this these times, his wife (who thought he would have just settled down, by now) spent the years of his absence teaching their 4-to-7-years-old 4-to-7-year-old daughter Ancalimë to hate his father, and men in general. Turns out Aldarion was helping the elves and men of Middle Earth prepare against a new, vague, rising threat, which (despite not telling Aldarion) the elf king had correctly identified as Morgoth's former servant: Sauron. Whoops.



* [[Literature/TheOdyssey'' Odysseus]] had to abandon his infant son Telemachus because he was compelled by oath to help Menelaus regain his wife Helen (a cousin of Telemachus' mother Penelope). This kept him busy for ten years in the Trojan War, while on his return journey to Ithaca Odysseus was held up for another ten years by a number of often supernatural factors.

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* [[Literature/TheOdyssey'' [[Literature/TheOdyssey Odysseus]] had to abandon his infant son Telemachus because he was compelled by oath to help Menelaus regain his wife Helen (a cousin of Telemachus' mother Penelope). This kept him busy for ten years in the Trojan War, while on his return journey to Ithaca Odysseus was held up for another ten years by a number of often supernatural factors.
25th Aug '16 2:21:53 PM Willbyr
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* In the anime version of ''AngelicLayer'', Misaki's MissingMom Shuko is revealed to have [[spoiler:been confined [[IllGirl to a wheelchair due to a neurological disease]], and she'd gone to Tokyo to do research on it to help look for a cure]] and hence hasn't seen her daughter for years. This is notably [[PragmaticAdaptation exclusive only to the anime]], while in the manga Shuko's excuse is that ''she's pathologically shy''. The manga explanation [[{{Moe}} is cuter]], but the anime explanation makes more sense [[spoiler:[[ValuesDissonance considering Japan's treatment]] [[DisabledMeansHelpless of the disabled]]: Shuuko mentions that she doesn't want people to look down on Misaki for having "a useless mother"]].
* Played mostly straight in ''CodeGeass'' with Kallen Stadtfeld [[spoiler: and her birth mother, who is actually the incompetent family maid Miss Kouzuki. Kallen assumes her mother stayed on to continue to be her father's mistress, and [[NiceToTheWaiter treats her poorly]] and puts a sticker over her face on a family photo. Cue the [[TearJerker dramatic moment]] when she discovers her mother actually remained out of love for Kallen, but didn't want to give away the fact Kallen is a [[ButNotTooForeign half - "breed"]], and as her mother is jailed, she swears to make Miss Kouzuki her MoralityPet, later taking the sticker out of the photo. Thank God, in the GrandFinale we see Miss Kouzuki free and in her path to recovery, living modestly but happily with a Kallen who's now back to Ashford Academy.]]

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* In the anime version of ''AngelicLayer'', ''Anime/KidouTenshiAngelicLayer'', Misaki's MissingMom Shuko is revealed to have [[spoiler:been confined [[IllGirl to a wheelchair due to a neurological disease]], and she'd gone to Tokyo to do research on it to help look for a cure]] and hence hasn't seen her daughter for years. This is notably [[PragmaticAdaptation exclusive only to the anime]], while in the manga Shuko's excuse is that ''she's pathologically shy''. The manga explanation [[{{Moe}} is cuter]], but the anime explanation makes more sense [[spoiler:[[ValuesDissonance considering Japan's treatment]] [[DisabledMeansHelpless of the disabled]]: Shuuko mentions that she doesn't want people to look down on Misaki for having "a useless mother"]].
* Played mostly straight in ''CodeGeass'' ''Anime/CodeGeass'' with Kallen Stadtfeld [[spoiler: and her birth mother, who is actually the incompetent family maid Miss Kouzuki. Kallen assumes her mother stayed on to continue to be her father's mistress, and [[NiceToTheWaiter treats her poorly]] and puts a sticker over her face on a family photo. Cue the [[TearJerker dramatic moment]] when she discovers her mother actually remained out of love for Kallen, but didn't want to give away the fact Kallen is a [[ButNotTooForeign half - "breed"]], and as her mother is jailed, she swears to make Miss Kouzuki her MoralityPet, later taking the sticker out of the photo. Thank God, in the GrandFinale we see Miss Kouzuki free and in her path to recovery, living modestly but happily with a Kallen who's now back to Ashford Academy.]]
14th Aug '16 9:07:05 AM MsChibi
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* On ''WesternAnimation/HeyArnold'', back in Vietnam, Mr. Hyunh had a daughter, about two years old. During the VietnamWar, some American soldiers were airlifting civilians to safety...but they could only take one more with them. Mr. Hyunh gave up his daughter to the soldiers, so that she could be safe and have a better life. When he was finally able to come to America, he began searching for her in the city where the soldiers said she'd be, but was unsuccessful. Arnold reunites them in the ChristmasEpisode.
7th Aug '16 10:54:27 AM nombretomado
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* In TheDCU, the Persuader's father left her mother because she was abusive towards both him and the young Persuader herself. However, her threats to [[WoundedGazelleGambit rough herself up and say he did it]] if he even thought about taking their daughter convinced him that leaving her with that monster was a better alternative to living on the run with him. They eventually get reunited in a CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming before the Persuader's boss kills her father just for kicks.

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* In TheDCU, Franchise/TheDCU, the Persuader's father left her mother because she was abusive towards both him and the young Persuader herself. However, her threats to [[WoundedGazelleGambit rough herself up and say he did it]] if he even thought about taking their daughter convinced him that leaving her with that monster was a better alternative to living on the run with him. They eventually get reunited in a CrowningMomentOfHeartwarming before the Persuader's boss kills her father just for kicks.
7th Jul '16 8:43:10 AM JoieDeCombat
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* [[Anime/PsychoPass Nobuchika Ginoza]]'s father, [[spoiler: Tomomi Masaoka]], left his family because, according to the system that governs their society, [[spoiler: Tomomi]] was a latent criminal who could have snapped at any moment.

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* [[Anime/PsychoPass Nobuchika In ''Anime/PsychoPass'' [[spoiler:Nobuchika Ginoza]]'s father, father [[spoiler: Tomomi Masaoka]], Masaoka]] left his family because, according to the system that governs their society, [[spoiler: Tomomi]] Masaoka]] was a latent criminal who could have snapped at any moment.moment. His options within the laws of their society were thus either permanent incarceration or [[spoiler:accepting a position as an Enforcer for the Public Safety Bureau, working as a police "hunting dog" with very limited personal freedom. Masaoka chose the latter]].
7th Jul '16 8:26:29 AM Morgenthaler
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* In ''{{Drowtales}}'', Ariel comes to see her mother [[TheWomanWearingTheQueenlyMask Quain'tana]] as this. She is quite aloof towards her children, leaving them for months or even years at a time at boarding schools or under the care of a slave or older sibling. [[TheObiWan Quil'yate]] explains to Ariel that this is not because the drow are evil, but because the clan believes that it is best for young nobles to learn to prove themselves, so that they can be strong leaders. This however [[UnreliableNarrator should be taken with a grain of salt]], since it also turns out that [[spoiler: Quain isn't really Ariel's mother, but rather her grandmother; Ariel is the daughter of her 'crazy sister' Mel'arnach, and Zhor, an elf magically turned into a spider; Quain forced the unlikely couple to give up Ariel (including an apparent attempt to kill Zhor while they were at it), thinking the two could not provide a proper environment for a future clan matriarch and wanting to take the credit for herself. Quain is also unable to have children, and it's strongly implied that the desire to have a [[HeirClubForMen suitable heir]] is part of her motivation as well.]]

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* In ''{{Drowtales}}'', ''Webcomic/{{Drowtales}}'', Ariel comes to see her mother [[TheWomanWearingTheQueenlyMask Quain'tana]] as this. She is quite aloof towards her children, leaving them for months or even years at a time at boarding schools or under the care of a slave or older sibling. [[TheObiWan Quil'yate]] Quil'yate explains to Ariel that this is not because the drow are evil, but because the clan believes that it is best for young nobles to learn to prove themselves, so that they can be strong leaders. This however [[UnreliableNarrator should be taken with a grain of salt]], since it also turns out that [[spoiler: Quain isn't really Ariel's mother, but rather her grandmother; Ariel is the daughter of her 'crazy sister' Mel'arnach, and Zhor, an elf magically turned into a spider; Quain forced the unlikely couple to give up Ariel (including an apparent attempt to kill Zhor while they were at it), thinking the two could not provide a proper environment for a future clan matriarch and wanting to take the credit for herself. Quain is also unable to have children, and it's strongly implied that the desire to have a [[HeirClubForMen suitable heir]] is part of her motivation as well.]]
12th Jun '16 12:06:34 PM StarSword
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* "Fanfic/HeisheRinanovai" has Morgan t'Thavrau discover that her father was [[Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS06E19InThePaleMoonlight Senator Merken tr'Vreenak]]. Of course, [[YourCheatingHeart tr'Vreenak was married at the time]] and Morgan surmises that her mother kept her paternity secret to protect their clans from the blood feud that could've resulted from the affair.
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* In ''ComicBook/{{WITCH}}'', [[spoiler:Taranee]]'s birth parent were financially ruined when [[ItMakesSenseInContext a magical meteor destroyed their house in the process of saving her from evil magical plants]], so they gave her up for adoption as a toddler.
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