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*** Agreed - but at the very least, this can be assigned to DisproportionateRetribution.
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** Another example would be how Alan's ex-wife Judith treats him. [[EmotionalAbuse She constantly belittles him,]] blames him for just about everything Jake picks up in the house (from Charlie, not from Alan!), and [[FinancialAbuse demands huge amounts of alimony from him--when he decides to treat himself and buy himself a much-needed car, her response is to demand]] ''[[FinancialAbuse more]]'' [[FinancialAbuse alimony from him--and she doesn't even ''need'' the money, other episodes revealed she was spending it all on material items and expensive trips to Hawaii.]]
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**Supposedly? He lost 2 teeth, was taking to the emergency room, and his wife still got $750 million dollars when she divorced him.
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** Also, in one episode Arnold is so fed up with Helga verbally abusing him in art class, and after she throws glue and feathers on him (and then laughs at him, shouting to the whole class "Arnold's a bird!"), he retaliates by throwing a cup of paint on her. The teacher, who never did ''anything'' when Helga abused him, gets mad at ''Arnold'' and sends him to the principal's office, and his grandparents are notified.
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* In one episode of FreshPrinceOfBelAir, Will goes on a date with a pretty girl who at first seems rather sweet. However, at the restaurant, she completely changes, speaking to him in a rude, snide voice, she tells him where they will go to college, what jobs they will both have, ''how many kids they will have and what genders,'' she tells him what to eat and what ''not'' to eat (saying that if he orders cottage cheese now he'll have a heart attack at middle age and leave her with the kids), and when he looks at the waitress to place his order, she yells at both him ''and'' the waitress. When Will tells his aunt and uncle about this, they shrug it off, saying that the dictating what jobs and how many children they'll have is a sign that she has goals, and her getting angry over him looking at another girl, and telling him what he can and can't eat is just proof that she doesn't want to lose him. Now, if the genders were ''flipped...''
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* Averted ''hard'' in [[spoiler: The "Wicked and Weak" ending of SilentHillShatteredMemories.]]

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* Averted ''hard'' in [[spoiler: The "Wicked and Weak" ending ending]] of SilentHillShatteredMemories.]]
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* Played for laughs in ''according to Jim'' when Jim, Andy and Andy's ex-girlfriends ex-bofriend goes to her cabbin for a weekend of fishing and relaxing to make Andy forget about her, jim goes to a nearby bar (to get booze) where it's "ladies night". He mistakes all the women for men and then they make sexual advances on him, when he says he's married they dismiss it by stating "what did you expect coming here dressed like that on ladies night?" (Jim is as alway in Jeans and a flanell woodcutter type shirt a seemingly very sexually provocative attire in those parts of the woods, the bartender who is male also give him the "sexy attire on ladies night" line) he proceeds to give the ladies lapdances and is later shown being won in poker and having his shirt and belt stuffed with dollar bills when the two other male characters arrive and starts stripping in the middle of the bar and Jim is encouraged to take off his shirt and join in, which he resigningly does.
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* ''HomeMovies'' - Brendon is trying to stop an older kid from beating him up, and gets him to turn placid and mellowed out. Melissa, who was harboring a crush on the guy, angrily beats up Brendon for changing him.

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**Only when he made out with a younger woman while watching their kids during their separation. Still applies though.

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**Only when he made out with a younger woman while watching their kids during their separation. Still applies though. though.
* There is a Swedish political party called "Feministiskt initiativ" ("Feministic Initiative", if you didn't get that) and right before the last election, I received a leaflet from them about things they wanted to accomplish. The whole leaflet was practically a list of [[WallBanger Wall Bangers]], but one thing that really annoyed me was that they wrote a fair bit about stopping men's violent behaviour against women, but not about stopping any other violence in our society. I wasn't even old enough to vote back then, but I still e-mailed them and asked what they were planning to do about women's violence against men and women's violence against women and men's violence against men, as well as a few other things I wondered about. While I did get a response about the other things, my violence related question was quite rudely [[HandWave Hand Waved.]]
*In one of the many pointless late night shows in the UK displaying CCTV recordings from various suburban areas this multiple DoubleStandards were presented one after another during one clip. The scene showed a dispute between a couple which had turned violently, the girlfriend of the pair repeatedly hitting punching and attacking the boyfriend for well over a minute while he blocked her attacks. The only response he gave was repeated requests for her to stop until he finally took action, grabbed one punch and pinned her against a wall. Only to be body slammed and set upon by several people who had been watching while this took place, but did nothing while the girlfriend was attempting to beat him senseless. They then pushed him to the ground and began a literal NoHoldsBarredBeatdown. Eventually after several minutes he was allowed to limp away with the narrator to informing the audience that he was sentenced for several months of his 'assault' and made a snarky comment about treating women better. [[WallBanger RRRRAAAAAAGH!]]
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**Yuuji is far from accepting the idea of being with her. That entire episode dedicated to putting them together had him trying to run away from her. Every time he tried to flee from her and avoid Shoko resulted in his friends putting them together or framing him for stuff he didn't did only to make the situation worse. When the {{jerkass}} couple continued to make a fool of themselves, Yuuji was generally trying to get them to win the contest because his friends rigged it to the point where no matter what he did, they would get the right answer. It wasn't until the end of the episode where he changed his mind about Shoko because the {{jerkass}} couple continued to make fun of them both. Next episode, he's trying to run away from her. Final episode, his best friend sold him out to her and she forced him to sign a marriage contract. {{Stockholm Syndrome}} anyone?
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**Only when he made out with a younger woman while watching their kids during their separation. Still applies though.
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* Recently, the controversy about the infamous alleged rape of Nightwing by Tarantula in ''Nightwing #93''. One element of the controversy, obviously, is that this is a case of alleged rape of a man by a woman.
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** It's to the point that when they drag [[spoiler: Eddy's brother]] away for 'mouth to mouth', it's viewed as his ''comeuppance''. Granted, he's a [[spoiler: CompleteMonster that abuses Eddy]] but ''still''...
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** However, the trope was rather appallingly {{inverted}} in the third season with the arrival of Isabella, Guy's [[LongLostSibling Long Lost Sister]], who was suffering from the psychological effects of a seventeen-year abusive marriage. Guy and Robin are constantly man-handling her (choking her, pushing her, slapping her across the face) in ways that are never treated as that big a deal, but whenever Isabella reciprocates, it's meant to demonstrate how she's turning to the dark side. To be fair, her abusive husband is never seen as anything but a CompleteMonster, but the fact that Robin responds to Isabella committing a self-defensive kill (to prevent herself getting raped/strangled) by calling her a murderer and ''shoving her off her feet'' is more than a little unsettling.

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** However, the trope was rather appallingly {{inverted}} in the third season with the arrival of Isabella, Guy's [[LongLostSibling Long Lost Sister]], who was suffering from the psychological effects of a seventeen-year abusive marriage. Guy and Robin are constantly man-handling her (choking her, pushing her, slapping her across the face) in ways that are never treated as that big a deal, but whenever Isabella reciprocates, it's meant to demonstrate how she's turning to the dark side.JumpingOffTheSlipperySlope. To be fair, her abusive husband is never seen as anything but a CompleteMonster, but the fact that Robin responds to Isabella committing a self-defensive kill (to prevent herself getting raped/strangled) by calling her a murderer and ''shoving her off her feet'' is more than a little unsettling.
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** However, the trope was rather appallingly {{inverted}} in the third season with the arrival of Isabella, Guy's [[LongLostSibling Long Lost Sister]], who was suffering from the psychological effects of a seventeen-year abusive marriage. Guy and Robin are constantly man-handling her (choking her, pushing her, slapping her across the face) in ways that are never treated as that big a deal, but whenever Isabella reciprocates, it's meant to demonstrate how she's turning to the dark side. To be fair, her abusive husband is never seen as anything but a CompleteMonster, but the fact that Robin responds to Isabella committing a self-defensive kill (to prevent herself getting raped/strangled) by calling her a murderer and ''shoving her off her feet'' is more than a little unsettling.
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* Apparently murder is ok if it's female on male in the Dead or Alive world, as an AccidentalPervert is thrown off a fast moving train in [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H73qFYp0jI8 one of the endings.]]

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* Subverted in {{Kingpin}} where the main characters, a man and woman, get into a fist fight. While it's played for laughs when the woman does a few [[GroinAttack groin attacks]] it's viewed as equally hilarious when the man responds by [[BreastAttack using her breasts like punching bags]].
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* Recently, the controversy about the infamous alleged rape of Nightwing by Tarantula in Nightwing #93. One element of the controversy, obviously, is that this is a case of alleged rape of a man by a woman.

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* Recently, the controversy about the infamous alleged rape of Nightwing by Tarantula in Nightwing #93.''Nightwing #93''. One element of the controversy, obviously, is that this is a case of alleged rape of a man by a woman.

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* ''{{Impulse}}'': [[spoiler:{{Averted| Trope}} this in a one-issue story where Impulse noticed one of his male classmates turning up with suspicious injuries. It actually did get remembered for a (little) while, as in a later issue [[spoiler:the boy's mother gets visited in the mental hospital she was put in.]]

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* ''{{Impulse}}'': ''[[TheFlash Impulse]]'': [[spoiler:{{Averted| Trope}} this in a one-issue story where Impulse noticed one of his male classmates turning up with suspicious injuries. It actually did get remembered for a (little) while, as in a later issue [[spoiler:the boy's mother gets visited in the mental hospital she was put in.]]


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** At the same time, no one feels sympathy for Helen Hayer in the final scene where [[spoiler: she will more than likely be gang-raped]].
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* An early episode of ''SouthPark'' revolves around Stan being beaten and everyone being sympathetic toward him over it... until they find out that the one beating him up is his sister. Then they mock him and call him a pussy. This is despite the fact that Stan's sister is older and bigger than he is.

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* An early episode of ''SouthPark'' revolves around Stan being beaten and everyone being sympathetic toward him over it... until they find out that the one beating him up is his sister. Then they mock him and call him a pussy. This is despite the fact that Stan's sister is older and bigger than he is.is, and is also a violent sociopath.
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** As Kevin Hart put it, a man could call the police because his girlfriend/wife is physically attacking him and get arrested if "he grasped at her as he fell."


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* Kate Gosselin. She did some pretty terrible things to John, among them, keeping him from going to his own mother's funeral. It's infuriating that he's [[DoubleStandard demonized for looking elsewhere.]]
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* Averted ''hard'' in [[spoiler: The "Wicked and Weak" ending of SilentHillShatteredMemories.]]
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* In TwoKinds, [[TheChick Flora]] ripping through [[ChivalrousPervert Eric]]'s shirt and leaving bloody gashes on his chest is played for laughs. Eric's brother pulling [[MsFanserivce Katharine]]'s hair makes him a dickhead.

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* In TwoKinds, [[TheChick Flora]] ripping through [[ChivalrousPervert Eric]]'s shirt and leaving bloody gashes on his chest is played for laughs. Eric's brother pulling [[MsFanserivce [[MsFanservice Katharine]]'s hair makes him a dickhead.
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** ''LoveHina'' is the god of this trope. Every second scene ends with Keitaro getting hit by one of the girls, either unfairly or for no reason, sometimes forcing him into seeing flesh just so they can abuse him. And ''he'' blames ''himself'' for it. Naturally, it's PlayedForLaughs. The scene when [[spoiler:Keitaro's sister Kanako punches Naru across the room to defend her brother]] was one of the most satisfying in the series.

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** ''LoveHina'' is the god of this trope. Every second scene ends with Keitaro getting hit by one of the girls, either unfairly or for no reason, sometimes forcing him into seeing flesh just so they can abuse him. And ''he'' blames ''himself'' for it. Naturally, it's PlayedForLaughs. The scene when [[spoiler:Keitaro's sister Kanako punches Naru across the room to defend her brother]] was [[TakeThatScrappy one of the most satisfying in the series.]]

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Snipping the "if the genders were reversed" bit because there are an awful lot of recent examples of such men very much showing their faces in public - this example makes its point more clearly on its own.


** A hypothetical reversal would also likely have been given a sympathetic slant ''by his lawyers'' because that's what defense lawyers are for.



* Tiger Woods was supposedly struck in the face with a golf club by his wife in an argument over his extramarital affairs. The story was treated as fodder for jokes, and many people applauded the abuse as justified revenge for Woods' infidelity. Had the genders been reversed, one would imagine that the abuser would not be allowed to show his face in public again.
*There's a YouTube video of a case of "police brutality" in where a female jaywalker hits a male police officer, and he hits back (and considering that ''is'' assaulting a officer, she's lucky hitting back is ''[[JustShootHim all]]'' he did).
** Hits him several times, in fact. [[SubvertedTrope The "victim" has recently apologized to the cop]], by the way.

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* Tiger Woods was supposedly struck in the face with a golf club by his wife in an argument over his extramarital affairs. The story was treated as fodder for jokes, ''jokes'', and many people applauded the abuse as [[HeHadItComing justified revenge for Woods' infidelity. Had the genders been reversed, one would imagine that the abuser would not be allowed to show his face in public again.
*There's a YouTube video of a case of "police brutality" in where a female jaywalker hits a male police officer, and he hits back (and considering that ''is'' assaulting a officer, she's lucky hitting back is ''[[JustShootHim all]]'' he did).
** Hits him several times, in fact. [[SubvertedTrope The "victim" has recently apologized to the cop]], by the way.
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* {{Everybody Loves Raymond}} plays this trope frustratingly straight. Debra seems to delight in beating up her husband Raymond for the most minor mistakes. In one episode, he actually calls her out for acting this way and she responds by ''shoving him into a bookshelf at full force.'' The most maddening thing about it is that Debra is ''[[{{MarySue}} always portrayed as being right no matter what.]]'' [[{{JerkSue}} [[strike:Even]] ''Especially'' when she acts abusive.]]

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* {{Everybody Loves Raymond}} plays this trope frustratingly straight. Debra seems to delight in beating up her husband Raymond for the most minor mistakes. In one episode, he actually calls her out for acting this way and she responds by ''shoving him into a bookshelf at full force.'' The most maddening thing about it is that Debra is ''[[{{MarySue}} always portrayed as being right no matter what.]]'' [[{{JerkSue}} [[strike:Even]] ''Especially'' Even when she acts abusive.]]

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* {{Everybody Loves Raymond}} plays this trope frustratingly straight. Debra seems to delight in beating up her husband Raymond for the most minor mistakes. In one episode she actually ''shoved him into a bookshelf.'' The most maddening thing about it is that Debra is ''[[{{MarySue}} always portrayed as being right no matter what.]]'' [[{{JerkSue}} Even when she acts abusive.]]

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* {{Everybody Loves Raymond}} plays this trope frustratingly straight. Debra seems to delight in beating up her husband Raymond for the most minor mistakes. In one episode she episode, he actually ''shoved calls her out for acting this way and she responds by ''shoving him into a bookshelf.bookshelf at full force.'' The most maddening thing about it is that Debra is ''[[{{MarySue}} always portrayed as being right no matter what.]]'' [[{{JerkSue}} Even [[strike:Even]] ''Especially'' when she acts abusive.]]]]
** Even worse is that the studio audience grows crazy with cheers for Debra every time she does it.
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* ''{{The Dark Elf Trilogy}}'' ultimately averts this. The society of the drow (dark elves) is built upon the concept of females being blameless and superior, while males are intrinsically worthless; abuse is not only accepted, but ''actively encouraged'' to keep the males in their place. However, drow are one of the setting's [[AlwaysChaoticEvil most notoriously evil races]], and the writing makes it clear that this is one of the chief reasons ''why''.
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* Though the MindRape that occurs in the tail end of the show makes fans consider that her comeuppance.

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* ** Though the MindRape that occurs in the tail end of the show makes fans consider that her comeuppance.

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