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Nothing to say on the pining, but I need to say this: Being aroused by pornography or fanfiction or anything else does not negate asexuality. We all have fantasies, but that doesn\'t mean we all want to act out on them. The pleasure of arousal and masturbation is a purely physical response and saying that someone doesn\'t count as an asexual because they enjoy it is like saying that gay male isn\'t really gay because he can find women beautiful.
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Nothing to say on the pining, but I need to say this: Being aroused by pornography or fanfiction or anything else does not negate asexuality. We all have fantasies, but that doesn\\\'t mean we all want to act out on them. The pleasure of arousal and masturbation is a purely physical response and saying that someone doesn\\\'t count as an asexual because they enjoy it is like saying that gay male isn\\\'t really gay because he can find women beautiful. And if the argument is that it\\\'s the porn that negates the orientation, not the masturbation, then that\\\'s like saying a woman who reads femmeslah has to be a lesbian.
And now that I think of it, I do have something to say on the pining. There\\\'s such a thing as romantic attraction, and unresolved romantic attraction hurts just as much as unresolved sexual attraction.
I can\\\'t speak for everyone on the Troper Tales page. Maybe some of them aren\\\'t asexual. Maybe they\\\'re still struggling to understand what their orientation is. But who are we to tell them what they are or aren\\\'t? If this site had pages for tropers identifying themselves as straight/gay/bi/etc, would you call them into question?
And now that I think of it, I do have something to say on the pining. There\\\'s such a thing as romantic attraction, and unresolved romantic attraction hurts just as much as unresolved sexual attraction.
I can\\\'t speak for everyone on the Troper Tales page. Maybe some of them aren\\\'t asexual. Maybe they\\\'re still struggling to understand what their orientation is. But who are we to tell them what they are or aren\\\'t? If this site had pages for tropers identifying themselves as straight/gay/bi/etc, would you call them into question?
