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MrHollowRabbit Need for Blood: -100,000 from A Speck of Dots Surrounded By Water Since: Feb, 2011 Relationship Status: LET'S HAVE A ZILLION BABIES
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#1: Dec 28th 2011 at 3:06:01 AM

Okay, as crappy as the title may sound, I need help on this. You see, I have a character who's lacking on the love department (no, I'm not talking about sex. That's not the point anyways.) She has trouble feeling love as her neglectful mother, who of course isn't the best parent on earth, didn't show her love when she was young just to make a long story short (since revealing everything would take forever) and hence Hates Everyone Equally because of it.

So, I was wondering if receiving no love since infanthood/toddlerhood affects the way my character behave. I apologize if it doesn't make any sense.

BladeMaverick Since: Mar, 2012
#2: Dec 28th 2011 at 3:52:48 AM

Well of course having no strong human connections in your life would fuck a person up. She'd probably have trust issues which would manifest either as intense distrust or trusting everyone without condition and getting hurt when they betray them in any form. It could also manifest in the person being intensely devoutly religious (Either organised or a personal religion) to the point of being delusional.

The point is that that is not a character point that can be pushed under a rug, it needs to be a major part of the character's motivation and thoughts.

NoirGrimoir Rabid Fujoshi from San Diego, CA Since: Oct, 2010 Relationship Status: Anime is my true love
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#3: Dec 28th 2011 at 4:03:43 AM

Children who are neglected in childhood often become very independent, closed off and distrustful of others and have difficulties forming attachments and showing empathy, and are likely to in turn neglect their own relationships unless they make an active effort not to follow that path. I think any person who had this happen to them might say or pretend they hated others but inside they would long for that belonging and affection they never got. The crappy part is that the lessons they learned as children, that there's nothing you can do to earn affection, it's all on the whim of the other person, who might turn away from you at any time for any reason or none, very much gets in the way of them forming the relationships they long for. They can't trust that that person will stick around, that they won't suddenly leave them for no reason at all, so they turn away and never let anyone get close, so they won't get hurt.

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#4: Dec 28th 2011 at 6:04:30 AM

Children who don't receive ANY love at that young of an age tend to turn a tad...sociopathic. Or at least, extremely socially dysfunctional. That is a crucial developmental stage, and if they don't learn certain things, it's nigh impossible to make up for it. They can easily end up an appearance of having severe mental disorders.

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Iaculus Pronounced YAK-you-luss from England Since: May, 2010
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#5: Dec 28th 2011 at 8:11:55 AM

Bear in mind, though, that there is quite a difference between being genuinely aromantic and being so massively screwed up that you cannot act on the romantic feelings you have.

What's precedent ever done for us?
MrHollowRabbit Need for Blood: -100,000 from A Speck of Dots Surrounded By Water Since: Feb, 2011 Relationship Status: LET'S HAVE A ZILLION BABIES
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#6: Dec 28th 2011 at 5:35:53 PM

[up] When I mean love, I don't only refer to the romantic aspects of it. Like love for friends, family, platonic love and whatnot.

Yeah, my character's pretty screwed considering her upbringing and all.

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