Coming Out of the Closet

I've got no advice. When I came out to a group it was at Allies, a LGBT thing, and they went around the table explicitly asking people. :/

So...yeah.

I haven't really came out...except online. Does it count?

Wow, I sound so stupid.

edited 30th Aug '11 2:09:39 PM by dracosketch

I think when I go on vacation, I'm going to come out to my grandfather. I know he'll accept me and that he has nothing against gay people, but I'm still incredibly nervous. I just don't know how to bring up the subject without it feeling forced.

For me, I came out to a close friend first, then decided to come out to my entire group of friends casually (at the same time, if I recall).

edited 30th Aug '11 2:19:22 PM by CompassionateSadist

I honestly cannot help with this issue. When I came out, it was basically just me admitting the elephant in the room. They had spent two years egging me on to do it and dropping hints that they knew (but which all blew over my head) - obvious hints. Like asking me if my (straight) friends were tops or bottoms.

So my past situation isn't exactly helpful - I wasn't coming out to them, I came out to myself.

My coming out to my family was... anticlimactic. I had no trouble with bullying at school either - except for the first few weeks. Then I beat the shit out of someone for calling me a fag. Ironically, violence was what stopped my bullying.

edited 30th Aug '11 3:37:37 PM by Completion

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If I can't work up the courage to say that I think I might be trans out loud...

In our living room, there's a computer that uses our TV as the monitor. I could write something in word that talks about it and leave it open, so whomever uses the computer next will see it... >.>

This necromancing threads stuff makes me nervous, but the rules say that I can do that if I'm not reliving any flame war and that isn't the case here, h-huh?

Um, I am bisexual, I think. I sexually like men better, but emotionally, there's something about a woman that just captivates me to no end. Women like me too, it seems... I've been approached by far more girls than boys in my life.

It's been like that for a while now, but I'm not able to tell anybody for some reason. Well, perhaps a couple of persons on the internet, but IRL I just can't say it, no matter how much I try all that comes up is a stutter. Any suggestions?

Well... do you know how tolerant people around you are?

More recent thread. That said, give yourself time, try and relax.

Oh, thanks, I'll go there later, I think.

And well... My mom seems like she would be cool with it, but I don't know... during all my life I've been pasted to her, going to school where she was a teacher, living alone with her, even sleeping together when we couldn't afford calefaction. I'm affraid this might make her distant to me or even worse... that she would tell my sister.

My brother wouldn't care, probably. My sister, on the other hand... well, she used to be in the military and some rigid values are just too engraved in her head. We've had a love-hate relationship all my life, since I'm her little sister she always consents (even if I'm not so young, she still does it) and scolds fiercely at the tiniest offense. And I'm sure that this would be considered an offense by her.

There's one of my aunts (the only one I care about) that would probably be okay with it... hell, she probably already knows. I don't care about the rest of my family, since they are all uptight hypocrites and they already hate me anyway.

As for my friends, I don't know... I have no problem telling my male friends about it, but it'd be uncomfortable with the female ones. As in, really uncomfortable.

edited 15th Dec '11 6:12:49 AM by HKaneda

When you tell your mom, ask her not to tell your sister until you're ready. She'll understand.

edited 15th Dec '11 6:15:23 AM by inane242

Listen to inane's suggestion.

Seems like everyone's pretty tolerant. I'm sure it'll work out.

May I just say that reading this thread is weird, since it seems like a bun/inane and tendo/poison hadn't happened yet?

Yeah.

Problem is, my mom can't lie or hide anything from my sister. She just... can't. Whenever I ask her to keep a secret, there's at most a two day lapse and then she comes apologizing for telling her. It actually happens quite often.

Hmm. :/

Then better tell it your sister yourself. I hope she'll understand.

Yeah, I'll eventually have the guts to tell her. Maybe when I move out or so. I hope. :I

Hopefully it will not be as bad as you fear. I just came out like 4 months ago maybe? And out of everyone irl or online 1 person stopped talking to me. Everyone else was like, ok. And the person who did cut contact with me was a person I knew a while online, but not like a close friend or anything. I do kinda suspect it is easier if you are Bi though, like me. I am sure some ppl have an easier time accepting that as opposed to straight up homosexuality.

edited 15th Dec '11 11:52:52 AM by RainbowMatt

Yeah, I remember when I came out. Both about my bisexuality and my transgenderedness (I've only partially told my mom that I'm actually gender fluid...I should do that soon), coming out was nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be. I did get really emotional and angry at my mom for misunderstanding what she said at first, but after we talked about it things were much better.

It is so cliche but I actually did feel like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I do not know how it works for some of the rest of you but my bisexuality would just every so often take hold of me for periods of time,but I would always push it back down. In fact my first sexual experience at 14 was with my male best friend but it was not concensual. He pretty much took advantage of me, so I also had that to deal with as well, not making things any easier I suppose.

I'm not sure of my sexuality, but the way my set of parents-or-such have acted about me possibly being gay, I bet it's safer to never come out any which way. At least not to them. My peers are MUCH more accepting of the possibility.

Oh my Chaos, Fush is part bi?

Fush is Bi?

(*Takes Note*) >:3