For some reason, I tend to be more affected by arguments other
people get into than ones I involve myself in.
Also, getting clear, reasonable explanations of a position make me more well inclined to it than arguments about it do. I originally thought that Continental philosophy in general and Speculative Realism *
was a bunch of sophistic garbage, but after running into intelligent interesting people who were willing to explain them in terms I could understand, I became much more well inclined to them.