How to deal with a resenter?

In real life, we may or may not know if we have a resenter or someone who despises us for simply breathing but I pretty much realized that they will always be someone better so there is no point in being competitive. At least that is what I tell myself but those feelings of resentment still arise when I see someone better than me. It happens to everyone at one time or another and while we may not be like Cain and kill the Abels in our lifes, how do you deal with the resentment you have with you always somewhere better?

I try to do the best I can, and if someone's better, well, I offer it to the Lord.

Strive to be better?

Easy - realize that no one is 'better' than anyone else. Only better off, and that circumstances change all the time.

Well, of course there's always going to be someone better. I just dont want to be around them, because I want to push them out of a window. As a hypothetical concept Im fine with it, as real people, I want them to die so I can take their position.

So if I think you're better off than me, can I shove you out a window?

That road cuts both ways, man.

Sure you can, you just cant do it. Just like I wont actually do that against someone else. There's a difference between wanting to do something and actually doing it.

True that.

Hwoever, that very mindset is more or less what the OP is wanting to avoid, I think.

Eh, at this point, rage and jealousy are one of the few things I can resort to. It beats constant depression.

...not sure I'd like to be in your shoes, with those options. Find an outlet for the stress?

Oh I have that. It used to be worse before.

Well, progress is progress, I guess.

Its really not that stressfull, you know. If anything, anger and resentment are nice in a way, because it gives you someone to direct your anger at, rather than just being angry in general over your shitty life.

Mixed feelings on that. Anger at self is always self-destructive. Agner at others can lead to conflicts and stuff with others. Lesser of two evils and all that, though.

I agree with pvtnum. Expanding on this, think about stuff you are better at than they - even if they are so much more skilled in many ways, are they happy with their lot, or agressive and miserable? (some succesful people get that way because they're never happy with what they have) Are they older than you and you can be fairly sure you'd have the same skills as they when you reach that age?

And failing that, use the envy for its intended purpose-to spur you into action.

Such people are an opportunity to learn, why the resentment?

~LOVE&PEACE!~

edited 9th Feb '11 11:56:49 PM by TheMightyAnonym