Fun In The Funeral

Someone you knew or loved has died and you have been invited to their funeral. You arrive, but instead of finding people giving condolences, you see them laughing, chatting and telling jokes. And the actual funeral itself seems more like a party then a mourning. Now of course people do talk about the recently departed, but instead of mourning or missing them, they might be celebrating the life they lived, or are celebrating the cycle of life, or if their religion says so, they might be celebrating that the dead have Ascend to a Higher Plane of Existence. Or perhaps the dead wanted their funeral to be like this, and for their friends and family to not be sad.

These funerals can be very confusing to many and can lead to culture shock, and it's not uncommon for the people at the funeral to think that people who prefer funerals to be somber just don't take the time to understand that not all funerals are the same.

Not to be confused with The "Fun" in "Funeral" where the light hearted elements are unintentional in universe.


Examples

Anime and Manga
  • Ginga: Nagareboshi Gin: Riki tells Gin not to feel sad at the end of the final battle where so many died, but to howl in victory for the honor of the dead.

Comic Books
  • Lucky Luke: One story has a funeral that ends in a Bar Brawl and drinks all around, to universal satisfaction. tTe only regret was that the deceased couldn't make it.

Fanfiction
  • in A Growing Affection:
    • Kankuro's funeral is a raucous affair; a feast with music and dancing, and plenty of alcohol for anyone having trouble getting in the mood. Naruto is confused and a bit put off, until it is explained that in the Land of Air a funeral is used to celebrate the deceased's life, and mourning is done in private.
    • Later, Jiraiya's funeral is a similar affair, at the deceased's wishes.

Film
  • Choon-Hwa's funeral in Sunny is celebrated by her reunited high school friends dancing to "Sunny" by Boney M. at her wake.
  • In The Wolf Man a Christian priest finds it utterly alien that gypsies would mourn the passing of Bela, a fellow gypsy with celebrations and even a whole carnival. The movie implies that they were celebrating the fact that Bela is now freed from being a werewolf. But he has passed the curse on to Lawrence Talbot.

Literature
  • A Song of Ice and Fire: Though it's never seen, the people of the Summer Islands have funerals that are not somber occasions mourning the dead but celebrations of the lives they led, with wine and lovemaking.
  • Discworld :
    • Wizards and witches know when they're expected to die of natural causes, and occasionally like to hold "going-away" parties for those who are soon to kick the bucket (like Windle Poons in Reaper Man or Miss Treason in Wintersmith). It's rather like holding the wake a day early, so the deceased get to enjoy themselves before they go.
    • In Men at Arms, members of the City Watch witness the funeral of a clown, which deteriorates into slapstick. Ritualistic, macabre slapstick devoid of any sense of humor or joy.
    • Inverted in Interesting Times, where Rincewind sees people setting off fireworks in a parade and says "Good, eh?" to the old woman standing besides him, who snaps that it's Mr. Wu's funeral.
  • In The Kane Chronicles, Sadie and Anubis at one point witness a funeral in New Orleans. At the time they arrive, the actual burial has already taken place, and the funeral has moved on to the stage where the mourners celebrate the life of the deceased with song, dance and revelry as they head away from the cemetery. This is a practice Anubis himself approves of, calling it "very Egyptian".

Live-Action TV
  • Geordie and Ensign Ro are seemingly killed in the Star Trek: The Next Generation episode "The Next Phase". (They've actually been shifted out of phase.) The Enterprise holds a memorial service which is surprisingly reminiscent of a jazz club. When it's discovered that Geordi and Ro are not actually dead, the celebration of their lives turns into a genuine celebration.
  • The second series of the CBBC sitcom Mud begins with the ever-cheerful Miss Dudderidge returning from her grandmother's funeral, lightheartedly singing and recounting what a wonderful time had been had by all.
  • Mystery Science Theater 3000:
    • After watching an incredibly boring funeral in The Gunslinger, Joel and the 'bots lie in fake coffins of their own and discuss what their ideal funerals would look like. Servo can't decide between something educational that explains his embalming methods, or a circus-like extravaganza. ("I want elephants, Joel, lots of them.") Crow, on the other hand, wants a beach-themed funeral, complete with keggers and "couples sneaking off to neck—prop me up so I can surf!"
    • In At the Earth's Core, Max invents a cannon that fires cremated ashes like confetti, intended to make funerals more interesting.

Real Life
  • Jim Henson's memorial service was called a "celebration", and featured such things as a Dixieland band and prop butterflies for attendees to wave around. Henson even stated in his will that nobody wear black.
  • Some funerals in New Orleans are accompanied by jazz bands that play festive music.
  • John Cleese's eulogy at Graham Chapman's funeral has John Cleese recite an excerpt from the Monty Python "Parrot Sketch", proudly claims to be the first person to say "fuck" in a eulogy and says "good riddance to him, the freeloading bastard! I hope he fries." Later on, everyone sings "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life". Knowing how close they were in life, John Cleese was clearly doing it to honor him as a beloved comedian.
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