History YMMV / ToAllTheBoysIveLovedBefore

** Lara Jean. While plenty find her to be a sweet, endearing character, others find her to be an overprivileged brat with less emotional maturity than her much younger sister. Some find her to be intellectually smug and a BitchInSheepsClothing with the way she's scandalized when Peter confesses to cheating on a test in middle school, then actually asks him if he can even read. Despite Lara Jean having him write her personal notes daily and her intelligence being more of an InformedAttribute (such as needing Chris to tell her that the poem Peter gave her was just ''[[Creator/EdgarAllanPoe Annabel Lee]]'') The fact that she still calls her parents "Mommy" and "Daddy" and naively believing Margot (who's college-aged) would have never had sex with Josh during their long-term relationship based on a promise they made ''as children'' (and once again being scandalized when learning Margot is indeed sexually active and becomes upset she broke said promise) has lead many readers to declare her have the mindset of a twelve-year-old as opposed to sixteen. [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking Also she has two first names.]]

** Lara Jean going to the lacrosse field to give Peter a love note of her own.
* UnfortunateImplications:
** The fact that none of Lara Jean's love interests is an Asian male [[https://www.andrewjly.com/blog/2018/8/25/the-problem-with-to-all-the-boys-ive-loved-before has]] [[https://www.asiancrush.com/lana-condor-responds-to-controversy-about-lack-of-asian-male-leads-in-to-all-the-boys-i-loved-before/ generated]] [[https://asamnews.com/2018/08/23/author-jenny-han-addresses-criticism-about-lack-of-asian-boyfriends-in-to-all-the-boys-ive-loved-before/ controversy]]. In fact, there are no Asian males with the exception of the offensive Long Duk Dong who appears while the characters watch ''Film/SixteenCandles''. All of Lara Jean's [[https://proasianvoice.com/2018/08/20/to-all-the-asian-boys-ive-loved-before-asianlove-and-why-representation-matters/ love interests are white males]] and a black male who also [[TwoferTokenMinority turns out to be gay]] so [[IncompatibleOrientation could never be interested in Lara Jean in the first place]]. This has led to certain Asian American activists to claim that the movie is actually problematic rather than progressive with [[https://planamag.com/to-all-the-boys-i-ve-loved-before-has-creepy-racial-things-going-on-ad513e4dd470 many questionable aspects of representation]] and nicknaming the movie ''To All The White Boys I've Loved Before''. There has been much discussion regarding the emasculation and desexualization of Asian males in cinema and how they are almost never a love interest, as well how overdone the [[MightyWhiteyandMellowYellow white male and Asian female pairing]] is - such as how rare the reverse of Asian male and white female is and bringing up how a movie with a female main character of any race other than Asian having only white male love interests would be seen as bizarre or in poor taste. It also contrasts with ''Film/CrazyRichAsians'' which was widely praised for having a male Asian love interest (although it still caught some flak since Golding was half white but portraying a full Asian man). The author Jenny Han has addressed this criticism with [[https://www.indiewire.com/2018/08/to-all-the-boys-ive-loved-before-netflix-jenny-han-no-asian-male-love-interest-1201995975/ "all I can say is this is the story that I wrote."]]
*** It got worse when Lana Condor (who portrayed Lara Jean) received backlash from LGBT activists when she compared the choice as an Asian woman to date white men [[https://www.pride.com/movies/2018/8/28/lana-condor-dont-compare-lgbt-discrimination-interracial-dating to the struggles of LGBT people dating the same sex.]] She also said that her boyfriend was a light-skinned Cuban rather than white even though her boyfriend ''is'' white as Cuban is not a race but a nationality.
*** The sequel [[https://asamnews.com/2019/04/02/asian-american-men-join-cast-of-sequel-of-to-all-the-boys-i-loved-before/ added two Asian-American male actors to its cast]], probably as a way to address this controversy.
** As well as the lack of Asian male characters, the casting of the Vietnamese American Lana Condor as the half Korean and half white Lara Jean has [[https://nextshark.com/people-upset-theres-no-asian-male-netflixs-new-film-lana-condor/ drawn criticism]] for perpetuating the InterchangeableAsianCultures stereotype. Some viewers think the role should have gone to an actress that matched that ethnic description rather than Condor. (Although, Jenny Han revealed that film producers were going to remove Asian culture ''entirely'' from the story and almost cast a White actress to play Lara Jean; dismissing her Korean heritage and the role it plays for her. Jenny Han fought to have Lara Jean played by an Asian actress and demanded the film keep Korean culture as part of the story. She admitted to being happy when Lana was chosen and how her demands were essentially met. Thus, this can be left up for personal debate.)

** Lara Jean's confession to Margot that she "liked Josh first" comes across as silly and a tad conceded because Margot has no way of truly knowing that.

** Lara Jean. While plenty find her a sweet, endearing character, others find her to be an overprivileged girl with less emotional and mental maturity than her much younger sister. The way she's downright scandalized when Peter reveals he cheated on a test in seventh grade is mocked by readers, acting as though Kitty saying 'frig' is on par with dropping the F-bomb, and naively believing Margot (who's college-aged) would have never had sex with Josh during their long-term relationship based on a promise they made ''as children'' (and once again being scandalized when learning Margot is indeed sexually active and becomes upset she broke said promise) has lead many readers to declare her with the mindset of a twelve-year-old as opposed to sixteen. [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking Also she has two first names.]]

** As well as the lack of Asian male characters, the casting of the Vietnamese American Lana Condor as the half Korean and half white Lara Jean has [[https://nextshark.com/people-upset-theres-no-asian-male-netflixs-new-film-lana-condor/ drawn criticism]] for perpetuating the InterchangeableAsianCultures stereotype. Some viewers think the role should have gone to an actress that matched that ethnic description rather than Condor. (Although, Jenny Han revealed that film producers were going to remove Asian culture ''entirely'' from the story and almost cast Lara Jean as a White actress; dismissing her Korean heritage and the role it plays for her. Jenny Han fought to have Lara Jean played by an Asian actress and demanded the film keep Korean culture as part of the story. She admitted to being happy when Lana was chosen and how her demands were essentially met. Thus, this can be left up for personal debate.)

** Genevieve is a [[spoiler:KarmaHoudini for essentially doing revenge-porn of Lara Jean, for the crime of Lara Jean showing interest in Peter (who Genevieve herself dumped) and taking out her frustration of her dad having an affair out on Lara Jean, who had ''nothing'' to do with it. If Lara Jean or Peter had told the teachers about who had recorded the video, that girl would be suspended if not outright expelled. Lara Jean calls out Peter for defending her, rightly so, but she goes EasilyForgiven once Lara Jean sees the evidence of her dad's affair and feeling bad for her. The only consolation of book three is that Genevieve is DemotedToExtra]].

** Lara Jean's confession to Margot that she "liked Josh first" comes across as silly and a tad conceded because Lara Jean has no way of truly knowing that.

** Lara Jean. While plenty find her a sweet, endearing character, others find her to be an overprivileged girl with less emotional and mental maturity than her much younger sister. The way she's downright scandalized when Peter reveals he cheated on a test in seventh grade is mocked by readers, acting as though Kitty saying 'frig' is on par with dropping the F-bomb, and naively believing Margot (who's college-aged) would have never had sex with Josh during their long-term relationship based on a promise they made ''as children'' (and once again being scandalized when learning Margot is indeed sexually active and becomes upset she broke said promise) has lead many readers to declare her with the mindset of a twelve-year-old as opposed to sixteen. [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking And she has two first names.]]

** [[spoiler:Kitty is EasilyForgiven after Lara Jean nearly chases her down for sending the box of Lara's love letters out of simple spite. Not even her mother punishes her for the obvious violation of privacy because of her age. Yes, she admits to feeling [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone instant regret]] about sending them out once her heat-of-the-moment anger had passed. But she still gets off fairly easily. Then she has the gall to get angry at Lara Jean for breaking up with Peter, despite the fact that Lara Jean ''never'' meant for those letters to be sent in the first place as they were basically her diary. They were private for a reason]].

** Lara Jean's TranquilFury when she learns that Kitty sent the letters.

--->'''Lara Jean:''' Her face is going to be in the wrong place.

** Lara Jean. While plenty find her a sweet, endearing character, others find her to be an overprivileged girl with less emotional and mental maturity than her much younger sister. The way she's downright scandalized when Peter reveals he cheated on a test in seventh grade is mocked by readers, acting as though Kitty saying 'frig' is on par with dropping the F-bomb, and naively believing Margot would never have sex with Josh during their long-term relationship based on a promise they made ''as children'' (and once again being scandalized when learning Margot broke said promise) has lead many readers to declare her with the mindset of a twelve-year-old as opposed to sixteen. [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking And she has two first names.]]

** Genevieve is a [[spoiler:KarmaHoudini for essentially doing revenge-porn of Lara Jean, for the crime of Lara Jean showing interest in Peter and taking out her frustration of her dad having an affair. If Lara Jean or Peter had told the teachers about who had recorded the video, that girl would be suspended if not expelled. Lara Jean calls out Peter for defending her, rightly so, but goes EasilyForgiven once seeing the evidence of the affair and feeling bad for her. The only consolation of book three is that Genevieve is DemotedToExtra]].
** [[spoiler:Kitty is EasilyForgiven, after Lara Jean nearly chases her down, for sending the box of Lara's love letters out of spite towards her big sister. Not even her mother punishes her for the obvious violation of privacy because of her age. Yes, she admits to feeling [[MyGodWhatHaveIDone instant regret]] about sending them out once her heat-of-the-moment anger had passed. But she still gets off fairly easily. Then she has the gall to get angry at Lara Jean for breaking up with Peter, despite the fact that Lara Jean ''never'' meant for those letters to be sent. They were private for a reason]].

** As well as the lack of Asian male characters, the casting of the Vietnamese American Lana Condor as the half Korean and half white Lara Jean has [[https://nextshark.com/people-upset-theres-no-asian-male-netflixs-new-film-lana-condor/ drawn criticism]] for perpetuating the InterchangeableAsianCultures stereotype. Some viewers think the role should have gone to an actress that matched that ethnic description rather than Condor. (Although, Jenny Han stated that film producers were going to remove the Korean culture ''entirely'' from the storyline by casting Lara Jean as a White actress. Hence, she fought to have Lara Jean played by an Asian actress and was happy when Lana was chosen. Thus, this can be left up for personal debate.)

** Lara Jean. While plenty find her a sweet, endearing character, others find her to be an overprivileged girl with less emotional and mental maturity than her much younger sister. The way she's downright scandalized when Peter reveals he cheated on a test in seventh grade is mocked by readers, acting as though Kitty saying 'frig' is on par with dropping the F-bomb, and naively believing Margot would never have sex with Josh during their relationship based on a promise they made ''as children'' (and being shocked when learning Margot broke said-promise) has lead many readers to declare her with the mindset of a twelve-year-old as opposed to sixteen. [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking And she has two first names.]]

** Lara Jean being downright ''scandalized'' when she learns that Peter cheated on a test in seventh grade and is further stunned that he doesn't feel guilty about it (and actually judges him for it). And then genuinely asking him if he can read (despite him ''writing her personal notes'', which he points out to her).

** Genevieve is a [[spoiler:KarmaHoudini for essentially doing revenge-porn of Lara Jean, for the crime of Lara Jean showing interest in Peter and taking out her frustration of her dad having an affair. If Lara Jean or Peter had told the teachers about who had recorded the video, that girl would be suspended if not expelled. Lara Jean calls out Peter for defending her, rightly so, but goes EasilyForgiven on seeing the evidence of the affair. The only consolation of book three is that Genevieve is DemotedToExtra]].
** [[spoiler:Kitty is EasilyForgiven, after Lara Jean nearly chases her down, for sending the box of Lara's love letters out of spite towards her big sister. Not even her mother punishes her for the obvious violation of privacy because of her age. Then she has the gall to get angry at Lara Jean for breaking up with Peter, despite the fact that Lara Jean ''never'' meant for those letters to be sent. They were private for a reason]].

*** The sequel [[https://asamnews.com/2019/04/02/asian-american-men-join-cast-of-sequel-of-to-all-the-boys-i-loved-before/ added two Asian-American male actors to its cast]], probably as a way to address this such controversy.

** The fact that none of Lara Jean's love interests is an Asian male has [[https://www.asiancrush.com/lana-condor-responds-to-controversy-about-lack-of-asian-male-leads-in-to-all-the-boys-i-loved-before/ generated]] [[https://asamnews.com/2018/08/23/author-jenny-han-addresses-criticism-about-lack-of-asian-boyfriends-in-to-all-the-boys-ive-loved-before/ controversy]]. In fact, there are no Asian males with the exception of the offensive Long Duk Dong who appears while the characters watch ''Film/SixteenCandles''. All of Lara Jean's [[https://proasianvoice.com/2018/08/20/to-all-the-asian-boys-ive-loved-before-asianlove-and-why-representation-matters/ love interests are white males]] and a black male who also [[TwoferTokenMinority turns out to be gay]] so [[IncompatibleOrientation could never be interested in Lara Jean in the first place]]. This has led to certain Asian American activists to claim that the movie is actually problematic rather than progressive with [[https://planamag.com/to-all-the-boys-i-ve-loved-before-has-creepy-racial-things-going-on-ad513e4dd470 many questionable aspects of representation]] and nicknaming the movie ''To All The White Boys I've Loved Before''. There has been much discussion regarding the emasculation and desexualization of Asian males in cinema and how they are almost never a love interest, as well how overdone the [[MightyWhiteyandMellowYellow white male and Asian female pairing]] is - such as how rare the reverse of Asian male and white female is and bringing up how a movie with a female main character of any race other than Asian having only white male love interests would be seen as bizarre or in poor taste. It also contrasts with ''Film/CrazyRichAsians'' which was widely praised for having a male Asian love interest (although it still caught some flak since Golding was half white but portraying a full Asian man). The author Jenny Han has addressed this criticism with [[https://www.indiewire.com/2018/08/to-all-the-boys-ive-loved-before-netflix-jenny-han-no-asian-male-love-interest-1201995975/ "all I can say is this is the story that I wrote."]]