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** On the flip side, beware of someone encouraging you to drink because "you're more fun when you're drunk," especially if they keep trying to push you past your known limits. Refuse drinks if you know you've had enough, and explain to them that you know your limits and when you're done, you're done. If this person doesn't desist, ''get away from them'', especially if you find yourself in situations where you know you shouldn't be there (i.e., driving home when you know you aren't sober enough). If the person really does think "you're more fun when you're drunk," you're probably better off with someone who likes "sober you" just as much, or more, than "drunk you." Worst case, they're trying to get and keep you drunk enough to take advantage of you.
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** Added to this, BDSM play while drunk at any point beyond "slightly buzzed" is generally considered ''not'' SafeSaneAndConsensual. This is because, as noted above, alcohol lowers inhibitions and boundaries beyond what someone sober might draw a line at doing, while, as noted below, being highly drunk makes people nearly insensible to pain - meaning they may well not realize they need to stop and use their SafeWord (or forget it entirely) and get badly injured for real as a result - and passing out in some bondage positions or while doing anything related to asphyxiation has killed people. There is a ''reason'' why most professional BDSM events will either ban alcohol and drug use entirely, or will demand people actually participating be not visibly drunk or high. Whether you're a partner or a professional "worker," it's a good idea to never play with someone beyond "slightly tipsy," and to keep an eye on them to protect them from less ethical people and/or themselves. If someone insists anyway (e.g. they've hired you as a dominant and don't want to "waste their money,") ''at least'' try to placate them with activities that don't require them to know their body's condition or how much pain/pressure they are actually feeling to be safe.
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** Added to this, BDSM play while drunk at any point beyond "slightly buzzed" is generally considered ''not'' SafeSaneAndConsensual. This is because, as noted above, alcohol lowers inhibitions and boundaries beyond what someone sober might draw a line at doing, while, as noted below, being highly drunk makes people nearly insensible to pain - meaning they may well not realize they need to stop and use their SafeWord (or forget it entirely) and get badly injured for real as a result - and passing out in some bondage positions or while doing anything related to asphyxiation has killed people. There is a ''reason'' why most professional BDSM events will either ban alcohol and drug use entirely, or will demand people actually participating be not visibly drunk or high. Whether you're a partner or a professional "worker," it's a good idea to never play with someone beyond "slightly tipsy," and to keep an eye on them to protect them from less ethical people and/or themselves. If someone insists anyway (e.g. they've hired you as a dominant and don't want to "waste their money,") ''at least'' try to placate them with activities that don't require them to know their body's condition or how much pain/pressure they are actually feeling to be safe. Also, do not "top" while intoxicated. Judgement, coordination, and awareness of yourself, your partner, your space, and anyone within it are crucial to pretty much every form of BDSM play, and alcohol intoxication inhibits ''all'' of these. Anyone can make a mistake throwing a whip, tying with rope, doing fire or wax or knives or needles; mistakes are almost a certainty if the top is inebriated. A drunk top is a dangerous top, to themselves, their partner, and anyone in the vicinity.
