History Main / DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale

'''Rebecca''' Well yeah true

'''Both:''' But it's probably for the best.

Related to AllAbusersAreMale, AllWomenAreDomsAllMenAreSubs, DomesticAbuse, DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale, MenAreTheExpendableGender, and StalkingIsFunnyIfItIsFemaleAfterMale. BelligerentSexualTension often has elements of this trope. Compare/Contrast WouldHitAGirl. A very similar anime/manga trope that does not always include abuse, but typically often will involve a woman violently beating a man and is played for comedy is {{Tsundere}}. The female half of this trope is very often a JerkSue. SisterhoodEliminatesCreep can have elements of this.

* ''WesternAnimation/WreckItRalph'' plays with this -- Sgt. Calhoun [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan slaps Felix to stop him from freaking]] out when the two are stuck in [[QuicksandSucks NesquikSand,]] causing the sentient vines of Laffy Taffy to giggle and slowly make their way down towards them. Despite her reluctance to do so, Felix, who can instantly heal himself with his magic hammer, demands Calhoun [[AmusingInjuries continue injuring him]] until the vines are close enough for them to pull themselves out. Out of context, it's easy to imagine a gender-swapped version being rejected en masse, but the context in which all of this happens is so...[[ItMakesSenseInContext let's just say "specific"]] that it'd take a lot of second-thinking to come off as abuse. It helps that Calhoun clearly doesn't want to continue slapping him but she has no choice since this is the only way to get out of a deadly situation.

* Specifically averted in this blog [[http://girl-wonder.org/girlsreadcomics/?p=21 post]]. The blogger was asked for advice about how to write a compelling female character, and one of the points she made was:

* In ''ComicStrip/CalvinAndHobbes'', while Calvin is obnoxious and belligerent toward Suzie, whenever it comes to violence more serious than the odd snowball, she ''always'' gets the upper hand. Though he does usually initiate the physical confrontation in relatively harmless areas like snowball or water balloon fights (and ends up getting plastered so severely it looks a lot less harmless), it's also quite common for him to just say something insulting to her and wind up with black eyes, bloody noses, or laying in a bruised heap on the ground.

* Downplayed in''WesternAnimation/ChickenRun''. Mrs. Tweedy's treatment of her husband, while still comical, is clearly treated as terrible, dismissing and insulting him and literally kicking his butt. [[spoiler:However the writers ''still'' had to tone down Mr. Tweedy's retaliation out of fear of making him seem "too mean": by the end of the movie he's had enough and [[TheDogBitesBack shoves the entire barn door over on her]] but they show it at a very zoomed out angle to downplay it, while originally they intended to have him do it up close to stop her from insulting him.]] Ginger does bitch-slap Rocky for deserting her and the other chickens at the end. Whether or not he deserved it is up to the viewer to decide.

* ''WesternAnimation/ChickenRun'' somewhat averts it. Mrs. Tweedy's treatment of her husband, while still comical, is clearly treated as terrible, dismissing and insulting him and literally kicking his butt. [[spoiler:However the writers ''still'' had to tone down Mr. Tweedy's retaliation out of fear of making him seem "too mean": by the end of the movie he's had enough and [[TheDogBitesBack shoves the entire barn door over on her]] but they show it at a very zoomed out angle to downplay it, while originally they intended to have him do it up close to stop her from insulting him.]] Ginger does bitch-slap Rocky for deserting her and the other chickens at the end. Whether or not he deserved it is up to the viewer to decide.

* ''Podcast/BlackJackJustice'': Many of the series' most serious episodes feature a woman in some form of abusive relationship. For example, "Justice Delayed" reveals that the murderer the detectives are trying to find is the man's own wife, who killed him in self-defense, while "Stormy Weather" is about Jack and Trixie laying a beatdown on a cheating husband who won't let one of his mistresses, of which there are at least two, leave him with threats of blackmail and deaths hould she try. On the other hand, Trixie's tendency to chase away lovers who get too close with thrown beer bottles, gunplay, and insults tends to get played for laughs, such as how her chat with hotel detective Alf [=McKinney=] in "Auld Lang Syne" is played for laughs as Alf agrees to a rendevous with Trixie while she asks him for information. The double-standard is notably dropped in "The One That Got Away", in which Button-Down Theo, a longtime admirer of Trixie's who was chased away in much the same fashion, took it seriously and found himself another woman he was set to marry. He outlines exactly why he stopped pursuing Trixie and suggests his reasons for why she does what she does. Trixie ends the episode giving Theo a congratulations and good luck.

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* ''Series/EveryoneLovesRaymond'': The wicked Deborah Barone!
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* Series/EveryoneLovesRaymond: The wicked Deborah Barone!

* {{Discussed|Trope}} and {{Deconstructed|Trope}} on the ''Webvideo/PhilosophyTube'' video [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AeGEv0YVLtw "Men. Abuse. Trauma."]], including several pitfalls of the trope. The host, Oliver, had been abused by a former partner, and reveals that the inability to cope due to the expectation that men can't be abused made things even worse for him.

* DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale/Webcomics

* In ''WesternAnimation/MeetTheRobinsons'', Aunt Petunia is introduced smacking around [[HenpeckedHusband her husband Fritz around]] in a cartoonish way. Of course, it's worth mentioning that Petunia is [[CompanionCube a hand puppet that Fritz controls]], meaning he's clearly [[CloudCuckoolander off his rocker]].

* ''WesternAnimation/WreckItRalph'' plays with this -- Sgt. Calhoun [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan slaps Felix to stop him from freaking]] out when the two are stuck in [[QuicksandSucks NesquikSand]], causing the sentient vines of Laffy Taffy to giggle and slowly make their way down towards them. Despite her reluctance to do so, Felix, who can instantly heal himself with his magic hammer, demands Calhoun [[AmusingInjuries continue injuring him]] until the vines are close enough for them to pull themselves out. Out of context, it's easy to imagine a gender-swapped version being rejected en mass, but the context in which all of this happens is so... [[ItMakesSenseInContext let's just say "specific"]] that it'd take a lot of second-thinking to come off as abuse. It helps that Calhoun clearly doesn't want to continue slapping him but she have no choice since this is the only way to get out of a deadly situation.

* DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale/WebComics

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'''Note''': This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits, social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. Of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease

'''Note''': This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits, social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. Of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease.

''Note: This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits, social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. Of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease''.

%%''Note: This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits, social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. Of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease''.

%%''Note: This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits and no social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. Of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease''.

->'''Chris:''' Barb eventually beats up enough people that one of them calls her “babe,” so she gets to slowly pick up a gun and shoot him six times while he stands there patiently waiting for her to do so.\\
'''Matt:''' And it all ends with a joke about how she broke a nail. This movie.\\
'''Chris:''' It’s very empowering.
-->-- '''Chris Sims and Matt Wilson''' [[http://comicsalliance.com/barb-wire-pamela-anderson-movie-review-part-1/ on]] ''Film/BarbWire''

%%''Note: This trope applies to abuse inflicted on males, not regular slapstick that can be inflicted on either gender. Before adding an example, think about how the audience's reaction would be if the abuse was reversed. Also, due to the very nature of this trope, no TakeThat edits and no social Administrivia/{{natter}} or personal opinions please. And of course, Administrivia/NoRealLifeExamplesPlease''

* ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' has Tenko Chabashira who DoesNotLikeMen frequently makes "degenerate male" comments towards... every single male student in the game including the [[spoiler: protagonist]] Shuichi Saihara. To the point she ''knocks Shuichi out cold'' during their first Free Time Event and throws him too, for the heinous crime of trying to calm her down. And if the player is feeling extra sadistic, they can have Shuichi tell her to shut up, which... [[ButThouMust leads to the exact same instance of her knocking him out]] except add a few Degenerate Males. Ironically, her master is a man who planted those ridiculous ideas in her head and had the genders been reversed, and Shuichi was a ShrinkingViolet Girl while Tenko was a [[StrawMisogynist macho man]], Tenko would have been a Scrappy Bully on par with Hiyoko. As it is, thanks to her comments she's a BaseBreakingCharacter at best due to her being a Love Letter to Rumiko Takahashi, creator of Ranma One half. And this is all played for laughs...

* ''WesternAnimation/ChickenRun'' somewhat averts it. Mrs. Tweedy's treatment of her husband, while still comical, is clearly treated as terrible, dismissing and insulting him and literally kicking his butt. [[spoiler:However they ''still'' had to tone down Mr. Tweedy's retaliation out of fear of making him seem "too mean": by the end of the movie he's had enough and [[TheDogBitesBack shoves the entire barn door over on her]] but they showed it at a very zoomed out angle to downplay it while originally they intended to have him do it up close to stop her from insulting him.]] Ginger does bitch-slap Rocky for deserting her and the other chickens at the end. Whether or not he deserved it is up to the viewer to decide.
* In ''WesternAnimation/MeetTheRobinsons'', Aunt Petunia is introduced smacking around [[HenpeckedHusband her husband Fritz around]] in a cartoonish way. Of corse, it's worth mentioning that Petunia is [[CompanionCube a hand puppet that Fritz controls]], meaning he's clearly [[CloudCuckoolander off his rocker]].

** Lucy is always throwing her weight around and slugging the other kids (not just [[ButtMonkey Charlie Brown]] - probably her most frequent target is her own little brother Linus). The other kids never really call Lucy out on this or try to stand up to her, and she rarely gets in trouble. Charles Schulz also went on record in several interviews as saying that while a boy bullying a girl wouldn't be seen as funny, the gender reversal in a girl bullying a boy would be seen as funny.

* Likewise, in ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'', Elly would sling coffee mugs and similar objects at her husband John from time to time, particularly in its declining years as he faded OutOfFocus by [[{{Flanderization}} spending all his free time playing with his trains]]. With that kind of wife, wouldn't you?

* In ''ComicStrip/CalvinAndHobbes'', while Calvin is obnoxious and belligerent toward Suzie, whenever it comes to violence more serious than the odd snowball, she ''always'' gets the upper hand. Though he does usually initiate the physical confrontation in relatively harmless areas like snowball or water balloon fights (and wind up getting plastered so severely it looks a lot less harmless), it's also quite common for him to just say something insulting to her and wind up with black eyes, bloody noses, or laying in a bruised heap on the ground.

* Creator/ChristopherTitus may be the reigning king of this trope, relating an experience where, after being punched five times in the face, [[WouldHitAGirl he smacked his then-girlfriend]] ''once'' in retaliation ([[TooKinkyToTorture and it didn't have]] the [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan intended effect]]), he was the one arrested for it.

* ''WesternAnimation/ChickenRun'' averts it. Mrs. Tweedy's treatment of her husband, while still comical, is clearly treated as terrible, dismissing and insulting him and literally kicking his butt. [[spoiler:By the end of the movie he's had enough and [[TheDogBitesBack shoves the entire barn door over on her]].]] Ginger does bitch-slap Rocky for deserting her and the other chickens at the end. Whether or not he deserved it is up to the viewer to decide.

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* ''WesternAnimation/WreckItRalph'' plays with this--Sgt. Calhoun [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan slaps Felix to stop him from freaking]] out when the two are stuck in [[QuicksandSucks NesquikSand]], causing the sentient vines of Laffy Taffy to giggle and slowly make their way down towards them. Despite her reluctance to do so, Felix, who can instantly heal himself with his magic hammer, demands Calhoun [[AmusingInjuries continue injuring him]] until the vines are close enough for them to pull themselves out. Out of context, it's easy to imagine a gender-swapped version being rejected en mass, but the context in which all of this happens is so... [[ItMakesSenseInContext let's just say "specific"]] that it'd take a lot of second-thinking to come off as abuse. It helps that Calhoun clearly doesn't want to continue slapping him but she have no choice since this is the only way to get out of a deadly situation.