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27th Dec '15 8:57:25 PM nombretomado
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* In "The Proteus Saga" from ''The Uncanny ComicBook/XMen'', Proteus' ability to shape reality puts a great deal of fear into Wolverine. So much so, that Cyclops pushes him into a killing rage to prevent him from being permanently gunshy.
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* In "The Proteus Saga" from ''The Uncanny ComicBook/XMen'', ComicBook/UncannyXMen'', Proteus' ability to shape reality puts a great deal of fear into Wolverine. So much so, that Cyclops pushes him into a killing rage to prevent him from being permanently gunshy.
27th Dec '15 8:57:17 PM nombretomado
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* ''{{Sleepwalker}}'' had the ability to detect demonic possession in humans, and could use his [[EyeBeams warp vision]] on those people to break the demons' control over them and free the humans' minds. Unfortunately, a side effect of the beams was that the humans were briefly turned into NoodlePeople, and so other humans who saw Sleepwalker do this typically assumed that he was attacking them. This led to more than one fight between Sleepwalker and Spectra, at least until the NoodlePeople effects wore off and the woman that Sleepwalker zapped explained to Spectra what really happened.
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* ''{{Sleepwalker}}'' ''ComicBook/{{Sleepwalker}}'' had the ability to detect demonic possession in humans, and could use his [[EyeBeams warp vision]] on those people to break the demons' control over them and free the humans' minds. Unfortunately, a side effect of the beams was that the humans were briefly turned into NoodlePeople, and so other humans who saw Sleepwalker do this typically assumed that he was attacking them. This led to more than one fight between Sleepwalker and Spectra, at least until the NoodlePeople effects wore off and the woman that Sleepwalker zapped explained to Spectra what really happened.
25th Dec '15 10:36:01 AM StarTropes
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* ''Literature/AChristmasCarol'' is built on this, with the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Yet To Come being harsh with Scrooge in order to save him from damnation.
24th Nov '15 8:31:39 PM Steven
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* Interventions sometimes invoke the trope, especially with drugs and alcohol; the person being intervened has a serious problem and sometimes it takes a close knit of friends or family to come together and show the person that their actions are affecting not only themselves, but others that are close to them. The cold and harsh truth coming from people they know can break a person emotionally and it's sometimes what is needed to get the person to acknowledge that they have a problem and have to do something about it.
3rd Nov '15 3:17:23 PM Kereea1
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** Donflamingo's brother Corazon is introduced in a flashback as a ChildHater, for example throwing a preteen Trafalgar Law out a window. It turns out he's awful to the kids who join the crew in an attempt to make them ''leave'' since he doesn't want kids working for his evil, manipulative brother.
24th Oct '15 2:47:09 PM zaphod77
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** Some people, after asking and explaining and doing everything they can to tell them, just leave them to crash into the heartbreak. Sometimes, it's TheOnlyWayTheyWillLearn.
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** Some people, after asking and explaining and doing everything they can to tell them, just leave them to crash into the heartbreak. Sometimes, Usually, it's TheOnlyWayTheyWillLearn.TheOnlyWayTheyWillLearn. *** This goes triple for acting. Any actual actor believes the absolute worst thing to do to someone is tell them they have a chance to make it big if you don't think they do. Best case, they get motivated enough to prove you wrong, and develop the chops needed to succeed (rage against the person trying to crush your dream can be a pretty powerful motivator). Second best case is they listen to you, and drop the dream before it puts them on the streets (in that case they wouldn't have made it anyway, and you did them a huge favor) And if they do still try and fail, they will at least usually give up with enough of their life ahead of them and avoid losing everything chasing that dream, as it's a very expensive one to chase.
19th Sep '15 9:53:23 AM triscion
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* ''Fanfic/HigherLearning'': Right before the FinalBattle Asuka is so depressed and mind-broken that she would rather dying instead of fighting for her life. Not knowing what else to do, Shinji threatens with shooting his brains off unless that she reacts and fights back. It works.
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* ''Fanfic/HigherLearning'': Right before the FinalBattle Asuka is so depressed and mind-broken that she would rather dying instead of fighting die than fight for her life. Not knowing what else to do, Shinji threatens with shooting to blow his own brains off unless that she reacts and fights back.out, hoping to provoke a reaction of her. It works.

* ''FanFic/TheSecondTry'': In chapter six Asuka is angry and depressed and she stubbornly refuses eating [[spoiler:due to her pregnancy.]] Shinji does not know what else doing to reason with her so he resorts to hurt her:
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* ''FanFic/TheSecondTry'': In chapter six Asuka is six, an angry and depressed Asuka has been refusing to eat [[spoiler: because she's pregnant and got this misguided belief that if she stubbornly refuses eating [[spoiler:due to her pregnancy.makes herself sick enough it will induce a miscarriage.]] Shinji does not know what else doing After several attempts at trying to reason with her, Shinji decides that the only way he can snap her so he resorts to hurt her:out of it:
19th Sep '15 9:09:36 AM triscion
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* In the second ''VideoGame/DotHackGU'' game, once free of [[spoiler:Sakaki's control]], Atoli blames herself for much of what occurred. Haseo, despite having seen how cripplingly low Atoli's self-esteem is, asks her how she intends to take responsibility rather than assure her it's not her fault. This causes her to snap out of her HeroicBSOD and focus on actually fixing things rather than wallowing in self-pity.
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* In the second ''VideoGame/DotHackGU'' game, once free of [[spoiler:Sakaki's control]], Atoli blames herself for much of what occurred. Haseo, despite falls apart and falls into a "ItsAllMyFault" [[HeroicBSOD spiral]]. Kuhn tries to reassure her that this is not the case, but to little effect. Haseo however, having seen how been around her long enough to know that she's got cripplingly low Atoli's self-esteem is, self-esteem, resorts to another method. He [[GetAHoldOfYourselfMan slaps her in the face to get her attention]] then asks her how she intends to take responsibility rather than assure responsibility. Seems cruel at first, but it works a lot better since it helps her it's not her fault. This causes her to snap out of her HeroicBSOD and focus on actually fixing things ''doing'' something rather than just wallowing in self-pity.
19th Sep '15 4:23:27 AM eroock
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->And when I ask you [[GoodIsNotNice to be nice]], you say\\ "You gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure\\ Cruel to be kind, it's a very good sign\\ Cruel to be kind, it means that I love you\\ Baby, you gotta be cruel to be kind."\\ - Nick Lowe, "Cruel To Be Kind" ->''Good medicine sometimes tastes bitter.'' -->--'''Chinese Proverb'''
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->And when I ask you [[GoodIsNotNice to be nice]], you say\\ "You gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure\\ Cruel to be kind, it's a very good sign\\ Cruel to be kind, it means that I love you\\ Baby, you gotta be cruel to be kind."\\ - Nick Lowe, "Cruel To Be Kind" ->''Good ->''"Good medicine sometimes tastes bitter.'' -->--'''Chinese "'' -->-- '''Chinese Proverb'''
17th Jul '15 9:13:21 AM KingLyger
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* One of the hardest things a parent, coach or teacher sometimes has to do is the opposite of helping a student/child overcome self-doubt. Sometimes, one has to puncture a dream, shatter a hope, because the circumstances are such that it's just not going to happen and pursuing it can even be harmful. It's agonizingly hard to be sure (usually) when such kind cruelty is necessary, and then very painful to inflict it. An example would be an offspring or student who is ''pretty good'' at baseball, say, and dreams of playing Major League Baseball. The trouble is that he's just not ''that'' good, he's not pro material and the parent or coach knows it, and knows his dream could keep him from pursuing a more realistic and achievable goal. How to tell him without being more cruel than need be? (And of course how to be sure you're right that he really doesn't have what it takes!) Similarly, a couple can be head-over-heels in ''love'' (or at least infatuation) and totally wrong and unsuited for each other, and all their relatives and friends know it. How to tell them or at least get them to '''think''' about it before they jump into something?
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* One of the hardest things a parent, coach or teacher sometimes has to do is the opposite of helping a student/child overcome self-doubt. Sometimes, [[TragicDream one has to puncture a dream, shatter a hope, because the circumstances are such that it's just not going to happen and pursuing it can even be harmful. harmful]]. It's agonizingly hard to be sure (usually) when such kind cruelty is necessary, and then very painful to inflict it. An example would be an offspring or student who is ''pretty good'' at baseball, say, and dreams of playing Major League Baseball. The trouble is that he's just not ''that'' good, he's not pro material and the parent or coach knows it, and knows his dream could keep him from pursuing a more realistic and achievable goal. How to tell him without being more cruel than need be? (And of course how to be sure you're right that he really doesn't have what it takes!) Similarly, a couple can be head-over-heels in ''love'' (or at least infatuation) and totally wrong and unsuited for each other, and all their relatives and friends know it. How to tell them or at least get them to '''think''' about it before they jump into something?
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