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The initial OP posted below covers it well enough: the premise of this thread is that men's issues exist. Don't bother posting if you don't believe there is such a thing.


Here's hoping this isn't considered too redundant. I've noticed that our existing threads about sexism tend to get bogged down in Oppression Olympics or else wildly derailed, so I thought I'd make a thread specifically to talk about discrimination issues that disproportionately affect men.

No Oppression Olympics here, okay? No saying "But that's not important because women suffer X which is worse!" And no discussing these issues purely in terms of how much better women have it. Okay? If the discussion cannot meaningfully proceed without making a comparison to male and female treatment, that's fine, but on the whole I want this thread to be about how men are harmed by society and how we can fix it. Issues like:

  • The male-only draft (in countries that have one)
  • Circumcision
  • Cavalier attitudes toward men's pain and sickness, AKA "Walk it off!"
  • The Success Myth, which defines a man's desirability by his material success. Also The Myth of Men Not Being Hot, which denies that men can be sexually attractive as male beings.
  • Sexual abuse of men.
  • Family law.
  • General attitudes that men are dangerous or untrustworthy.

I could go on making the list, but I think you get the idea.

Despite what you might have heard about feminists not caring about men, it's not true. I care about men. Patriarchy sucks for them as much as it sucks for women, in a lot of ways. So I'm putting my keyboard where my mouth is and making a thread for us to all care about men.

Also? If you're male and think of something as a men's issue, by golly that makes it a men's issue fit for inclusion in this thread. I might disagree with you as to the solution, but as a woman I'm not going to tell you you have no right to be concerned about it. No "womansplaining" here.

Edited by nombretomado on Dec 15th 2019 at 5:19:34 AM

Ninety Absolutely no relation to NLK from Land of Quakes and Hills Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: In Spades with myself
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#14351: May 24th 2015 at 3:31:33 PM

5'10, the average world male height.

That doesn't sound right.

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TotemicHero No longer a forum herald from the next level Since: Dec, 2009
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#14352: May 24th 2015 at 3:44:45 PM

That's the average for the U.S., actually. (Or it was, as the more recent data shows that amount has gone down by half an inch.) The world average is roughly 5' 8.5''. (Sourcy McSource.)

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AngelusNox The law in the night from somewhere around nothing Since: Dec, 2014 Relationship Status: Married to the job
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#14353: May 24th 2015 at 3:52:54 PM

North Korea brought the average down with their midget army

Also the average US height is something like 174cm.

edited 24th May '15 3:53:43 PM by AngelusNox

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#14354: May 24th 2015 at 3:55:25 PM

Dwarf. Pretty sure midget is considered a slur.

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Euodiachloris Since: Oct, 2010
#14355: May 24th 2015 at 4:06:17 PM

Dwarfism generally suggests restricted growth though some a specific congenital, hormonal or environmental issue. "Little person" includes those who just got unlucky with the genetic or economic dice, without having imbalances or medical conditions of any kind that impacted growth directly: they're just short. Really short: 147cm and below — depending on country.

"Midget" has negative connotations. And, calling somebody without medical dwarfism a dwarf is also a major faux pas.

edited 24th May '15 4:08:00 PM by Euodiachloris

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#14356: May 24th 2015 at 4:07:27 PM

Whoops, my bad. Will keep in mind.

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Ninety Absolutely no relation to NLK from Land of Quakes and Hills Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: In Spades with myself
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#14357: May 24th 2015 at 4:09:14 PM

NK soldiers aren't dwarfs, they just short.

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Euodiachloris Since: Oct, 2010
#14359: May 24th 2015 at 4:31:36 PM

[up]That North Korean? Still taller than me. And, at 148cm, I do not count as either dwarf nor little person.

Your point? (Yes, their population mean is shorter than the world's mean: this doesn't make the vast majority of them dwarfs. Pygmies aren't dwarfs, either. Unless they happen to be pygmies with dwarfism.)

[down]Yes. I know this. But, malnutrition alone isn't one of the conditions that are officially recognised for dwarfism. Little people? Sure: if the person in question is below 147cm. And, I'd argue that if a whole population is stunted due to deprivation, that metric should be lowered for that population.

They're just short. And, it's not really funny.

edited 24th May '15 4:46:51 PM by Euodiachloris

AngelusNox The law in the night from somewhere around nothing Since: Dec, 2014 Relationship Status: Married to the job
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#14360: May 24th 2015 at 4:38:33 PM

[up]North's Korea population is severely stunned. They got hit hard with the famine and poor nourishment stick, which stunned their growth and left an entire nation of short people that makes a nice contrast to the South Korea, since South Koreans themselves tend to be relatively tall.

I just find it funny for a country that spends so much on the military and spams propaganda over how intimidating their soldiers are has for defacto soldiers that are the complete opposite of such.

[down]Everything stops being funny when you take it seriously. For one I'll continue mocking North Korea as long as they keep pressing themselves to be the uber duper super power they think they are.

edited 24th May '15 5:16:53 PM by AngelusNox

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#14361: May 24th 2015 at 5:06:03 PM

It's funny right up until the moment you realise you're laughing at people stunted for life because they've been deprived of food by what is possibly the most authoritarian dictatorial regime on the planet.

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#14362: May 24th 2015 at 5:13:44 PM

"Possibly"?

Really from Jupiter, but not an alien.
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#14363: May 24th 2015 at 5:18:32 PM

I don't like to jinx things. I call it defiantly the worst and next week some country somewhere is going to manage to one-up North Korea.

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#14364: May 24th 2015 at 6:19:05 PM

By some measures Eritrea is worse than NK, at least according to most global NG Os.

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Euodiachloris Since: Oct, 2010
#14365: May 24th 2015 at 10:58:48 PM

Taking pot shots at at NK? Sure, no problem.

Using the "short is inherently funny" angle to do it... not so much. Ask any short dude how life treats him for being short and "inherently funny".

thatguythere47 Since: Jul, 2010
#14366: May 25th 2015 at 7:22:24 AM

We're just going to ignore the whole short=woman=weak thing in the sexism thread?

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Ninety Absolutely no relation to NLK from Land of Quakes and Hills Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: In Spades with myself
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#14367: May 25th 2015 at 7:24:11 AM

I'm not sure there is a real connection between short = woman.

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Quag15 Since: Mar, 2012
#14368: May 25th 2015 at 7:26:19 AM

[up][up]Sexism and Men's issues thread. If you wanna talk about that which you wrote, you have the Women's Issues thread at your disposal.

AngelusNox The law in the night from somewhere around nothing Since: Dec, 2014 Relationship Status: Married to the job
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#14369: May 25th 2015 at 7:28:11 AM

[up][up][up]Short = weak, certainly but short = women? Not so much.

Scandinavian women can't relate to the problem.

Even though not everyone can't get bulky bodies filled with muscle, you can still be strong through exercises.

But sure as fuck you can't get any taller, no reason to outright shame someone for being short.

edited 25th May '15 7:28:25 AM by AngelusNox

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Kostya (Unlucky Thirteen)
#14370: May 25th 2015 at 7:37:12 AM

I don't think men hate being short because they consider it a trait of women. Most heterosexual people seem to prefer the male being the taller one in the relationship. This becomes significantly easier if the man is already fairly tall and really difficult if they're short.

thatguythere47 Since: Jul, 2010
#14371: May 25th 2015 at 7:41:20 AM

I didn't think this was a controversial position. Why do we associate being short with being weak? I was under the impression that weakness is associated with shortness because women are shorter then men (on average) and woman are (on average) weaker then men.

Since men need to avoid being seen as feminine they need to avoid feminine traits, even if they have no physical control over them, hence all the issues brought up on the last couple of pages.

edited 25th May '15 7:42:09 AM by thatguythere47

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Ninety Absolutely no relation to NLK from Land of Quakes and Hills Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: In Spades with myself
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#14372: May 25th 2015 at 7:47:28 AM

Not every male body issue is due to being compared to women, you know.

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Kostya (Unlucky Thirteen)
#14373: May 25th 2015 at 7:53:01 AM

I wouldn't dismiss the idea entirely but I've never gotten the impression short men hate being short because it makes them feel feminine. I think shortness being associated with children is more likely. Short men are less likely to be taken seriously because they lack the intimidation factor taller men have.

AngelusNox The law in the night from somewhere around nothing Since: Dec, 2014 Relationship Status: Married to the job
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#14374: May 25th 2015 at 7:56:31 AM

Being tall was a sign of status, usually meant you're wealthy enough to be well fed and avoiding having your growth stunned during childhood.

Also associated with virility, taller muscular men are the archetypes of heroes and mighty warriors. As being tall made men naturally imposing.

Being tall is usually associated with being strong and being strong is deemed as a desirable trait.

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#14375: May 25th 2015 at 7:59:53 AM

Short = weak, certainly but short = women? Not so much.
Also associated with virility
So you do think it is linked to masculinity, or not?


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