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1	->'''Mother Gothel:''' No no, it's all right, listen to me, all of this is as it should be.\
2	'''Rapunzel:''' No. You were wrong about the world, and you were wrong about me, ''and I will never let you use my hair again!''
3	-->-- ''WesternAnimation/{{Tangled}}''
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5	Sheltering [[MyBelovedSmother parents]] and [[ParentalSubstitute guardians]], or [[BigBrotherInstinct overprotective]] siblings [[AlwaysAChildToParent tend to think of their children or younger siblings as babies]] who need protecting, even when ShesAllGrownUp.
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7	But a time will come when the child doesn't ''want'' to be coddled anymore. They'll want to strike out on their own, make their own mistakes and face life head-on. Often this means some rebelling in some way: daddy's little girl is entering a marathon even though she's in a wheelchair, following in her mother's footsteps as a race car driver despite the fact her mother died in a race, or running off on a [[TheHerosJourney Hero's Journey]] and probably saving the world while she's at it.
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9	There may be some overlap with InspirationallyDisadvantaged. This is also sort of the inverse of YouAreBetterThanYouThinkYouAre, in which other people assuring the character they are strong, rather than the character assuring others they are strong. Somewhat related to DontYouDarePityMe. May involve an AntiSmotherLoveTalk or CallingTheOldManOut at some point. Prone to showing up in some ComingOfAgeStories.
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11	Compare ObsoleteMentor, where this applies to a student deciding they no longer need their mentor, preferring to use newer techniques.
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14	!!Examples:
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19	* Yuuri of ''Literature/KyoKaraMaoh'' is the teenaged king of the ''entire demon kingdom'', but his mother still tries to tell him what to wear and how to treat people kindly, and his [[BigBrotherInstinct older brother Shori]] insists he give up the entire kingdom and abandon his people to be safe himself--which Yuuri doesn't take remotely well too, considering Yuuri has to rescue Shori himself more than once.
20	* Vivio from ''Anime/MagicalGirlLyricalNanohaStrikers''. When Nanoha and Fate first adopt her, Nanoha is all about letting her stand on her own - literally, saying that they should let her get to her feet on her own when she trips while running towards them. Fate, on the other hand, instantly runs to her side to help her up. In the finale, [[spoiler: after Nanoha defeats a possessed Vivio by unleashing her most powerful attack directly at her, leaving Vivio in a crater, she's just about to run to help her up... when Vivio stops her, insisting that "I can stand up myself." And she does. And it is awesome.]]
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24	* Many, many times ComicBook/{{Supergirl}} has told her tremendously overprotective [[Franchise/{{Superman}} cousin]] that she can't learn from her mistakes unless he stops babying her, and she needs to stand on her own:
25	** In ''ComicBook/GirlPower'':
26	--->'''Supergirl:''' Thanks. I'm sure there were a few times, particularly out there on the street, when you wanted to fly in-- but you let me handle it. It's the only way I'm going to learn, Kal.
27	** Later, in ''ComicBook/ActionComics'' #850:
28	--->'''Supergirl:''' And next time, let me fight my own battles. I could've taken her, if you hadn't come in all Papa Bear at her. I swear, you treat me like a four-year-old...
29	** In ''ComicBook/Supergirl2005'' issue #22, he's finally gotten the message:
30	--->'''Superman:''' Look, a lot has happened in the last few days, and I need to tell you--\
31	'''Supergirl:''' You know something, Kal? I've been dreading this talk for days.\
32	'''Superman:''' Kara--\
33	'''Supergirl:''' No, listen to me. I have to say: I know you love me, and that's why you feel a need to act like my big brother or my dad-- but you're neither one! I'm capable of recognizing my own mistakes, Kal! I don't need my nose rubbed in them! Maybe I'm not perfect like you--\
34	'''Superman:''' Hey, I'm not--\
35	'''Supergirl:''' Maybe I need to learn things the hard way. But I am learning! I want to be a family with you and uncle Jon and aunt Martha, but I don't need your... validation! I can get by on my own terms, and I'm doing fine, and--\
36	'''Superman:''' I know.
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40	* ''WesternAnimation/FindingNemo'', in which Nemo tries to prove to his overprotective dad Marlin that he doesn't need to baby him, even though Nemo was born with a gimpy fin. He eventually does.
41	* In ''WesternAnimation/TheLittleMermaid1989'', Ariel tells her father that she's 16, not a child anymore, and after a fight, goes to seek legs to adventure on land.
42	* Somewhat the case in ''WesternAnimation/{{Tangled}}'' - [[MyBelovedSmother Mother Gothel]] underestimates Rapunzel's maturity and capability to take on the world ''very'' much - or it seems that way, as she's just trying to put Rapunzel down so that she can have her magic [[FountainOfYouth youth-restoring]] hair to herself.
43	* In ''WesternAnimation/TurningRed'', Meilin Lee declares her independence from her mother's [[MyBelovedSmother stifling helicopter-parenting]] by deciding to [[spoiler:keep her red panda spirit, instead of sealing it away as the other women of the family have done]]. She isn't sure if it's the right thing to do, and openly worries about whether she'll regret it later, but it's ''her'' decision and she sticks to it.
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47	* The 2005 Creator/LindsayLohan movie ''Film/HerbieFullyLoaded'', in which her character demanded that she be allowed to race like the rest of her family.
48	* In ''Film/CoolRunnings,'' Junior finally stands up to his domineering father when he comes to try and take him home to Jamaica.
49	-->'''Junior:''' No, no, no, no you ''don't'' know what's best for me, Father! I am not a lost little boy, Father! I am a ''man,'' and I'm an ''Olympian!'' I'm staying right here.
50	* In ''Film/HighSchoolMusical'', Troy has a fight with his father about being able to sing in a musical and not just being a basketball player, and not living up to his father's dreams and instead following his own desires.
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54	* The Music/DixieChicks song "Wide Open Spaces", and numerous other songs where the young person needs to "stand on their own" for the first time. Subverted in "Johnny Don't Take Your Gun To Town," where it turns out the kid wasn't ready to go out alone after all.
55	* Eddie from Ohio's "Fifth of July" uses the actual Declaration of Independence as a metaphor for several speakers in the same household (a recent college grad and their dog and goldfish) contemplating whether to run away and start their own lives outside of it-- "We're now on our own for the first of our lives, on the Fifth of July... now what?"
56	* Music/MartinaMcBride's "Independence Day" is the story of a battered wife finally having enough and killing her abusive husband, narrated by their daughter. The chorus includes the line, "Let freedom ring, let the white dove sing, let the whole world know that today is the day of reckoning."
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60	* ''Theater/{{Hairspray}}'': "Mama, I'm A Big Girl Now" is an entire musical number dedicated to this trope.
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65	* ''VideoGame/PokemonBlackAndWhite'' has Bianca, a PluckyGirl who is TheDitz. Her father initially wouldn't let her go on a Pokemon Journey, and she ran away from home. In Nimbasa City, you come upon him having found Bianca, and demanding she return home, but finally he relents, after she tells him how much stronger she's grown since battling with her Pokemon.
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69	* In ''VisualNovel/CafeEnchante'', Il, due to his innocent and sheltered lifestyle, tends to be coddled by the rest of the regulars. In his route, he realizes that Kotone doesn't depend on him like she does with the others and tries to be more independent, such as attempting to wash the dishes or organize things for Kotone. At first, he ends up breaking several plates and making things more disorganized. But little by little, he improves and he is utterly delighted when he successfully manages to help with the laundry.
70	* Subverted with Amy in ''VisualNovel/DoubleHomework''. She told her mother that she doesn’t want to do [[spoiler:"princess stuff”]] anymore, and she started a video game channel...which she streams from a studio that her parents pay for. Double subverted in her epilogue, when she resolves to pay her way through college using only the money she makes from her streaming.
71	* Zigzagged with the title character of ''VisualNovel/{{Melody}}''. While staying with the protagonist, she makes a stop at her house, and finds a note from Arnold telling her that he wants her to: a) move out right away; and b) pay for the damage she caused to his car. When Melody stops by to make things right with him, Arnold tells her that he doesn’t expect either of those things from her. However, Melody insists that she wants to do both, because she wants to start taking responsibility for her own life, decisions, and mistakes.
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75	* In ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'', [[QuirkyBard Elan]]'s EvilTwin Nale starts his declaration of independence from his father Tarquin by killing a member of Tarquin's adventuring party. When Nale makes it clear that he's had enough of his father's special treatments, Tarquin decides he's right, he shouldn't show favoritism anymore... [[BeCarefulWhatYouWishFor and promptly kills him for the murder of his best friend.]]
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79	* The blind Toph from ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender'', who also happens to be a badass Earthbending genius who invented metalbending. Her father treats her like she's helpless, even though she's probably one of the strongest people in the world and perfectly capable of taking care of herself. When Aang and the gang show up, asking to teach him earth-bending and join on his journey, she tries to convince her father to let her, but she ends up having to run away when he refuses to believe it, even after seeing her wipe the floor with some mooks. He even sends people after her to get her back. It doesn't work. The series ends without any resolution in regards to whether they made up or not.
80	** The comics do clear this up: [[spoiler: she reconciles with her father when she's holding up a cavern from caving in on the group, and her father genuinely admits that his actions drove her away and that his marriage failed because her mother blamed him for Toph leaving. He believes these to be his LastWords, but Toph states that if he really did believe in her, he wouldn't assume they were going to die, because she's too good an Earthbender to let that happen]].
81	* ''WesternAnimation/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagic:'' In [[Recap/MyLittlePonyFriendshipIsMagicS4E17SomeponyToWatchOverMe "Somepony to Watch Over Me"]], when Applejack [[CompressedVice suddenly develops]] an overwhelming case of BigSisterInstinct, her little sister Apple Bloom rebels against it. She tries to deliver a cart of apple pies, to prove that she's capable of taking care of herself. But the delivery route winds up being more dangerous than Apple Bloom thought, and Applejack has to rescue her from a hungry chimera. At the end the two sisters [[DoubleAesop both learn a lesson]]: AB realizes she isn't quite as independent as she thought, and AJ admits that trying to coddle her sister was doing more harm than good.
82	* ''WesternAnimation/StevenUniverse'': In "Nightmare Hospital", Connie blows up at her mother, Dr. Maheshwaran, after she claims to know everything about Connie and assumes Connie isn't a "sword-fighting hooligan". Connie points out that Dr. Maheshwaran doesn't know everything (she never noticed Connie's glasses had the lenses popped out), that Connie can take care of herself (she proves it by effortlessly dispatching the cluster gem mutants attacking them), and that she doesn't feel like she can tell her mother what's going on because she'll ban anything that poses even the slightest threat, including her relationship with Steven. Fortunately, Dr. Maheshwaran gets the message.
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