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6	->'''Ted:''' Seriously, where do you see yourself in five years?\
7	'''Robin:''' Where do you see ''yourself?''\
8	'''Ted:''' Honestly, in five years, I probably want to be married.\
9	'''Robin:''' And I probably want to be in Argentina. [...] Or Tokyo, or Paris. Ted, I don't know where I'm gonna be in five years. And I don't ''want'' to know. I want my life to be an adventure.\
10	'''Ted:''' ...we have an expiration date, don't we?
11	-->-- ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'', "Something Blue"
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13	Alice and Bob are at a crossroads. They've sat down and talked about HappilyEverAfter -- namely, how each of them ''defines'' a "Happily Ever After" -- and discovered that their definitions are mutually exclusive. It's not just that their ideas are different, it's that they're ''contradictory'': Alice's idea of happiness would result in an AwfulWeddedLife for Bob or vice versa. So now they have a decision to make: they can either stay together a few more years and then break up, or they can break up now and avoid wasting their time. And... they choose the latter. These types of breakups tend to be especially tragic since neither partner actually wants to part right now, but they both know that LoveCannotOvercome such glaring differences.
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15	A Differing Priorities Breakup comes when the two people in the couple cannot agree on something that is important to both of them. Easy examples include:
16	# Opinions on marriage -- one of them has OutgrownSuchSillySuperstitions whereas the other likes the old ways. Or maybe one of them wants to practice {{polyamory}} while the other prefers perfect monogamy.
17	# Having Children -- they can't agree on how many they want. They can't agree on how they plan to raise them: one wants to provide HandsOffParenting, the other HelicopterParenting.
18	# Religion -- one of them has specific ideas about religious beliefs, ones which they want (themselves and their children) to live out, but which the other doesn't share.
19	# Finances -- one of them is MoneyDumb or RichInDollarsPoorInSense; or there's a PennyAmongDiamonds situation that can't be resolved.
20	# Politics -- maybe one of them is ANaziByAnyOtherName. Stranger things have happened.
21	# OppositesAttract just doesn't work out as advertised. UptightLovesWild, sure, but that doesn't mean they Bob wants to live with a WalkingDisasterArea for the rest of their lives, nor that Alice is ready to put up with unrelenting BritishStuffiness forever either.
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23	SisterTrope to the WetBlanketWife, who has priorities her husband doesn't. Compare LoveCannotOvercome, CreativeDifferences, MarriedToTheJob, ItsNotYouItsMe, and ItsNotYouItsMyEnemies. Contrast ProxyBreakup, MinorFlawMajorBreakup and ToiletSeatDivorce.
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26	!!Examples:
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31	* ''Anime/{{Aggretsuko}}'': Retsuko and Tadano have a happy relationship until Tadano casually mentions that he doesn't believe in marriage, nor does he want kids. Those are things Retsuko wants very much and she tries adopting Tadano's worldview to convince herself to make the relationship work, but ultimately she can't lie to herself and they break up.
32	* ''Manga/HidokuShinaide'': While they aren't really dating at the time--Maya likes to think they are but Nemugasa has basically said they're JustFriends who [[FriendsWithBenefits happen to sleep with each other]] only because Maya keeps insisting--Maya letting his jealousy get the better of him and making Nemugasa be late for the mock college entrance exam is a bridge too far for ScholarshipStudent Nemugasa, who snaps at him. Maya [[ItsAllAboutMe can't understand why Nemugasa cares more about school than him]]. Nemugasa tells him to stop interfering with his life and Maya takes the message to heart, leaving Nemugasa alone long enough for Nemugasa to have a BelatedLoveEpiphany when he realizes how lonely he is without Maya.
33	* In ''Manga/ICantBelieveISleptWithYou'', Setouchi makes games from home while her husband was "a company man." She notes that their lifestyles were incompatible, and they decided to divorce and go their separate ways after talking things out.
34	* ''Anime/PenguinMemories'': Mike refuses to accompany Jill to Central City because he wants to a [[IJustWantToBeNormal normal, quiet life]], while Jill wishes to become a famous musician.
35	* In ''Manga/MrRightTurnedOutToBeAYoungerWoman'', Haruki Shiina, [[OldMaid as a woman in her thirties, is desperate to settle down with the right person]], whereas her younger partners (including Risa Takagai, a woman [[AgeGapRomance ten years Haruki's junior]]) are more patient. [[spoiler:It's implied this caused her breakup with Ryoji, and it briefly causes a rift between her and Risa]].
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39	* In ''Fanfic/AmazingFantasy'', MJ divorces Peter not because he wouldn't have a child with her (they have one Mayday Parker), but because she grew tired of worrying about him not dying on every superhero adventure and his inability to ignore his ChronicHeroSyndrome long enough to be a father and a husband. He's deeply regretful because of this and almost feels cursed with his insistence on ComesGreatResponsibility.
40	* In ''[[Fanfic/AngelOfTheBat Angel of the Bat: Times of Heresy]]'', Cassandra and her girlfriend, Sadie, have a fallout over their differing opinions on sex and marriage. Cassandra, a recent but (mostly) dedicated practitioner of Catholicism, doesn’t want to have sex outside of marriage. Sadie ends up feeling like this puts too much pressure on a relationship as a teenager she was just taking one day at a time and she decides to break things off. They ultimately reconcile by agreeing they can want different things but still enjoy the time they have together and see what happens. By the third story, several years later, Sadie admits she thinks her love for Cassandra has made her warm up to marriage.
41	* In the fourth and final story of ''The Anguis Series'', ''Beyond This Place'', it is revealed that [[spoiler:Cal and Nat]] had [[OffscreenBreakup broken up]] due to the vastly different demands of their careers and lifestyle. Quite an anticlimatic end for a couple who had spent almost the entirety of their relationship proving their love and even sacrificing their freedom, friendships, and safety for the sake of the other.
42	* ''Fanfic/BoltFromTheBlue'': As much as Xanna and Pantera love each other, their conflicting loyalties and aspirations ultimately made it impossible for them to get married.
43	* ''Fanfic/DariaInMorrowind'': When Jane takes a new job in another city in order to help launch her career, Daria doesn't take it well, and the two break up.
44	* ''Fanfic/{{Dermabrasion}}'': During the epilogue, Natsuo's girlfriend decides to permanently move to London, pursuing her Masters and a career there. Natsuo isn't willing to move away from Japan, or to commit to such a LongDistanceRelationship, so the two break up, much to his unhappiness.
45	* ''Fanfic/{{Dominoes}}'': Ran didn't just choose to prioritize being the superheroine "Angel" over her relationship with Shinichi; she also bought into his [[AbusiveParents abusive father's]] claims that Shinichi needed to be LockedOutOfTheLoop. So she helped the ControlFreak micromanage Shinichi's life, convincing herself that Shinichi was too powerless and weak to deal with the sort of dangers she dealt with as a superheroine. When Shinichi learns the truth, he breaks up with her.
46	* ''Fanfic/FromBajorToTheBlack'': Eleya dumps her high school boyfriend because she decided to enlist in the Bajoran Militia and then go to university on a veteran's scholarship, rather than follow him to seminary as he had apparently assumed she would. She in turn later has her boyfriend at Starfleet Academy leave in the middle of the night because he was offered a spot on a science mission into the Gamma Quadrant. When they meet back up in ''Fanfic/TwoSidesOfACoin'', Jerrod explains that even though she says after the fact that she would have been fine waiting for him, he was afraid he wouldn't have had the courage to take the job even if she ''had'' said yes.
47	* ''Fanfic/HungerSunalso'': Spike keeps killing his victims in order to feed. Buffy feels that she can't rightly pressure him to change that about himself, so they break out... and he decides to make an effort to change anyway so that they can get back together.
48	* ''Fanfic/TheHurricane'': Sara and Alex break up after the latter's father dies and she's forced to move back to Midvale to help support her mother, as Alex believes that they can't make a LongDistanceRelationship work while Sara believes they can.
49	* ''Fanfic/IzukuTheReincarnatedChef'': Nejire grows tired of Mirio constantly neglecting her in favor of focusing upon his training to become All Might's successor, realizing that he took her presence entirely for granted and expected that she'd always be waiting for him. So she breaks up with him.
50	* ''Fanfic/OriginOfANonHero'': Despite Toshinori warning him that he couldn't balance having a family with serving as the Symbol of Peace, Izuku still tried to make things work with Ochaco. Just as his mentor feared, however, the two eventually wind up getting divorced because Izuku simply can't make the time to be with his wife and son. To make matters worse, despite the two being AmicableExes, the [[ConvictedByPublicOpinion public blames]] ''Ochaco'' for "breaking his heart".
51	* ''Fanfic/RunningOnAir'': One of the main reasons that Harry and Ginny's relationship fell apart is because of the latter's career in Quidditch taking so much of her time and focus.
52	* In ''Fanfic/TheStalkingZukoSeries'', differing outlooks on life help make Zuko and Mai's relationship, although Azula revealing that Mai had spied on Zuko is the final nail in the coffin. Zuko is a passionate and honest person trying his best on a number of serious causes and responsibilities, while Mai is a seemingly disinterested noblewoman who keeps tight control on her emoting. While Mai does care about Zuko, she isn't very understanding of his priorities and concerns and frequently tells him that he's boring and she doesn't care what he thinks or how he feels. On Zuko's side, he often asks more of her than she feels comfortable giving, such as his request that she visit Azula, which blows up in Mai's face. They inevitably break up because there really wasn't much keeping them together other than the perception of being convenient for each other, and even that falls apart pretty quickly due to how dysfunctional they are as a couple.
53	* ''Fanfic/TheUmbrellaOfAlmightiness'': Hagrid breaks up with Madame Maxime after learning that she would rather conform to the status quo than attempt to change the world.
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57	* ''WesternAnimation/PocahontasIIJourneyToANewWorld:'' Pocahontas realizes that she just wants to return to Virginia, while John Smith wants to continue exploring the world. Which is kind of convenient, since she's also [[AccidentalAdultery fallen for John Rolfe while she thought John Smith was dead]].
58	* In ''WesternAnimation/SpiderManIntoTheSpiderVerse'', Peter B. Parker of Earth-616 got divorced from [[ComicBook/MaryJaneWatson Mary Jane]] because she wanted kids and he had commitment issues. However, the ending implies that babysitting a bunch of spider-powered teenagers (and Noir) has helped him overcome that enough that they can rekindle their relationship.
59	-->'''Peter:''' She wanted kids, and it scared me. I think I broke her heart.
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63	* In ''Film/ThePrincessDiaries'', Mia's parents, despite sincerely loving each other, divorced when she was a baby because her mother didn't want to be a princess and raise Mia in the spotlight, and her father couldn't bring himself to step down as crown prince. This dynamic is absent in [[Literature/ThePrincessDiaries the book]], where Mia's mother was just a casual mistress of the prince.
64	* Reversed in the Sam Raimi ''Film/SpiderManTrilogy''. Though Peter and MJ do eventually get together, differing priorities -- particularly in the flavor of "ComesGreatResponsibility" -- are part of what keeps them apart for the first two films; and, indeed, MJ can only begin serious romantic overtures with Peter ''after'' she becomes his SecretKeeper. Then {{downplayed}} in ''Film/SpiderMan3'', when their relationship hits a rocky patch because of his absences to fight crime interfering with their life together--though the actual breakup happens because of Harry "New Goblin" Osborn threatening her to get at Peter.
65	* {{Implied}} in ''Film/ThorLoveAndThunder'' to be part of the reason Jane and Thor broke up. During the montage of their relationship, Thor is shown looking at a baby in a stroller while Jane is completely dedicated to her job.
66	* {{Implied}} in the backstory of ''Film/{{Tron}}'' as far as Flynn and Lora go. Flynn was in no hurry to grow up and take responsibility. Lora had completed her doctorate and was looking for stability while she focused on her career. Flynn is clearly not over her in the film, but Lora moved on with her eventual husband, Alan Bradley.
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70	* According to [[https://www.theoi.com/Pontios/Nerites.html Aelian]], in one account, Aphrodite was once lovers with the minor sea god Nerites, but their relationship ended after the former became an Olympian. She wanted Nerites to join her on Mount Olympus, while he refused to leave his sisters and parents behind in the ocean, even after Aphrodite gave him a pair of wings. This being Aphrodite, she [[NotGoodWithRejection responded]] by [[ForcedTransformation turning him into a shellfish]], taking back the wings, and giving them to her son Eros.
71	* ''Literature/AscendanceOfABookworm'': A potential UptownGirl couple breaks up before even officially becoming a thing because of this. The male half of the pairing secretly can't leave his job in the duchy's capital without risking a HeKnowsTooMuch death, but thinks the job is good enough that the female half would happily move in with him. The female half wants to go back to her home province after getting married and is technically the better off one, so what she wants to do takes precedence as far as society as a whole is concerned.
72	* ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'': Harry Dresden spends twelve books playing WillTheyOrWontThey with Karrin Murphy. Both of them are attracted to each other, they're close allies, and Harry at least erupts with jealousy whenever he sees Murphy with anyone else. But Harry wants someone to settle down with, while Murphy's not in a place in her life for anything beyond casual encounters. They finally come to a decision, and [[spoiler:barely two minutes before someone [[ShootTheShaggyDog puts a bullet in Harry's chest]].]]
73	* ''Literature/EarthsChildren'': One of the reasons Serenio and Jondalar don't work out as a couple is because deep down he wants to return to the Zelandonii, while she's never had any desire to travel so far.
74	* In ''Literature/{{The Hike\|2023}}'', Helena thought her last serious boyfriend, Robert, was 'the one' as they seemed to have everything in common... until he told her he'd changed his mind about not wanting kids. Helena was adamant she still didn't want kids, so they broke up despite loving each other. A few years later, Helena learned that Robert had met someone else, they were engaged and expecting a child. Helena tried to be happy for him, but the news made her realise the idea of having children with Robert wasn't so unappealing after all.
75	* In ''Literature/LittleWomen'', their different ideas about their life is one reason why Jo refuses Laurie:
76	-->'''Jo:''' You'll get over this after a while, and find some lovely accomplished girl, who will adore you, and make a fine mistress for your fine house. I shouldn't. I'm homely and awkward and odd and old, and you'd be ashamed of me, and we should quarrel -- we can't help it even now, you see -- and I shouldn't like elegant society and you would, and you'd hate my scribbling, and I couldn't get on without it, and we should be unhappy, and wish we hadn't done it, and everything would be horrid!
77	* In ''Literature/WhileMyPrettyOneSleeps'', Neeve explains to Jack that the reason many of her past relationships didn't work out was this; she and her college boyfriend drifted apart when he decided to go to Harvard to study for a Master of Business Administration and she decided to open a fashion boutique in New York, while her next boyfriend got a job in Wisconsin but she didn't want to leave the Big Apple. She says that for various reasons, none of her exes have been "right for [her]". Seeing as Jack has no intention of leaving New York given it's been his dream to live there and their careers (hers in fashion, his in publishing) occasionally overlap, it's indicated he would be an ideal partner for Neeve.
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81	* ''Series/CriminalMinds'':
82	** Garcia and Kevin break up because they move at different speeds in the relationship. Kevin is always ready to move on to the next step--spending more time together, fighting the FBI protocols to be allowed to publicly acknowledge their relationship, moving in together to pursue a new career, etc.--whereas Garcia struggles with change and likes things the way they are--she likes having her own space and having things her own way. Ultimately, when she learns he plans to propose, they have a conversation and realize they can't reconcile their different ideals.
83	** JJ gives this as a reason to break up with Will. He wants to tell their friends and she doesn't, he lives in New Orleans while she lives in Virginia, the LongDistanceRelationship is getting difficult, neither one is willing to give up their own career for the sake of the other... He stops her cold on the last point because they've never actually ''discussed'' that. It turns out she's just having cold feet about telling others because "when things get more real, they get more messy" and she would rather end the relationship early than deal with a nasty fallout later. Once she confronts those feelings, she realizes she's willing to make it work. They later have issues over whether or not to get married (he wants to, she doesn't), but they decide they can reconcile that too, and they stay together.
84	** In the backstory, this is why Rossi divorced his second wife, Hayden. Hayden was a diplomat stationed in Paris at the time, with an established successful career. Meanwhile, Rossi was in the FBI but drifting on his ultimate goal. Ultimately, he felt that he wasn't in the same place as Hayden and was ashamed for it, and being in her world made it impossible for him to focus on finding his own way.
85	* ''Series/{{Friends}}'':
86	** Richard, Monica's last serious boyfriend before marrying Chandler, broke up with her because she wanted children. Richard is twenty years older than her and already has two adult children and says he doesn't want to be in his seventies when his and Monica's kids go off to college and their life can finally begin. He eventually tells Monica he's willing to have kids with her if that's what it takes to keep her, but she says she doesn't want to have kids with someone who doesn't also want kids.
87	** In season nine, Phoebe and her boyfriend Mike decide to move in together, but then she learns he never wants to get married again after his messy divorce. She initially decides she is okay with it but breaks up with him after realizing she really does want to get married. (They later get back together and eventually do get married.)
88	--->'''Phoebe:''' But I don't think I can! It was okay to move in when I didn't know what was gonna happen, but I can't move in knowing nothing is ''ever'' gonna happen.\
89	'''Mike:''' Can't you at least ''try'' living together? I mean, you might change your mind about marriage.\
90	'''Phoebe:''' Are you gonna change yours?\
91	'''Mike:''' ...no.\
92	'''Phoebe:''' Me neither. I...I think I need to be with someone who wants what I want.
93	** Ross breaks up with Elizabeth, his former student. While she's fun to be with, Ross realizes that the two of them are at very different stages in their lives and there just isn't a future there.
94	** In season seven, Rachel breaks up with her 24-year-old assistant Tag. On Rachel's thirtieth birthday, she realizes it's time for her to start looking for her future husband, who certainly isn't Tag.
95	--->'''Rachel:''' I just think I'm past the point where I can just have fun.\
96	'''Tag:''' Rachel, don't do this. This is just because you're turning thirty.\
97	'''Rachel:''' Yeah, it is.
98	* ''Series/FullHouse'': Danny and Vicky break up because Vicky lands her dream job in New York City while Danny can't bring himself to uproot his entire family from San Francisco.
99	* ''Series/GilmoreGirls'':
100	** This happened with Rachel, Luke's FalseSoulmate from before the pilot episode. Despite being truly in love, Rachel's flighty and impulsive nature left her unable to commit to Luke. As a result, Luke doesn't have another serious girlfriend for years until he starts dating his SecondLove Lorelai.
101	** This is also why Rory and Logan break up in the final season. After graduation, she's ready to pursue her career and explore and likes the feeling of having so many options available. Logan, meanwhile, is ready to get married and buy a house and settle down[[note]]He's okay with her having a successful career, but he wants her to pick it ''now''.[[/note]]. Rory tells him that isn't what she wants and tries to continue their relationship as is, but he tells her he doesn't want to "take a step backward" and breaks up with her.
102	* ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'':
103	** Ted and Robin break up because they both want different things from life. Ted actually knows Robin doesn't want to get married, but on their anniversary Robin freaks out when she thinks Ted is proposing to her, forcing them to reevaluate their relationship and ultimately admit they can't keep postponing confronting the fact they can never be happy together in the long term.
104	** In season seven, Robin briefly becomes engaged to her boyfriend Kevin who wants kids. Kevin is initially willing to give up potential fatherhood for Robin, but she forces him to admit he won't be happy if he can't have kids, leading to their breakup.
105	** This is apparently a recurring theme for Robin as, in season nine, [[spoiler:this ultimately causes her and Barney's marriage to end. While Robin had achieved her life's dream of becoming a famous, globe-trotting reporter, Barney was content simply living in New York (and working on his lifestyle blog). Unfortunately, they couldn't find a decent compromise, finding that they were both miserable whether Barney stayed in New York while Robin travelled or Barney joined Robin on her travels. As such, they amiably decide to divorce]].
106	* ''Series/{{JAG}}'': Harm’s girlfriend Navy psychologist LCDR Jordan Parker breaks up with him when he gets his night vision fixed and regains full flight status. She says she “fell in love with the lawyer, not a fighter pilot who goes to sea and leaves her for six months”.
107	* ''Series/TheOfficeUS'': Towards to beginning of the series, Jan Levinson goes through a messy divorce from her husband who refuses to have children with her. According to her, they both get married knowing they had different ideas about family but figured the other would change their mind.
108	* In ''Series/Supergirl2015'', Alex and Maggie are on the verge of getting married when they realize that while Maggie doesn't want kids and Alex does. Alex decides to give up on having kids for the relationship, but then when she and Kara [[HonoraryUncle go to Samantha's daughter's recital]] she realizes she can't make that sacrifice.
109	-->'''Alex:''' I convinced myself that... that living a life with her, it was enough. But watching Ruby... I want all the experiences that mom had with us. You know? I... I want to take my kid camping, and I want to show her the constellations. I want to teach her how to read, and how to throw a punch. And how to make cheesy valentines. And I want to hold her when she has a bad dream, and I want to tell her that the world is a better place because she's in it. [starting to cry] I want all of it. I want to be a mom. What am I gonna do?
110	* ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration'': Riker and Troi in the backstory. They had a happy love affair when he was stationed on her homeworld, but he took a posting elsewhere that advanced his career while she felt she had to stay on the homeworld at the time. She later left the homeworld, enlisted, and became a ship's counselor. Cue one very awkward moment when the ''Enterprise's'' new XO walks in and sees his ex-girlfriend as the ship's counselor.
111	* ''Series/ThisIsUs'': Kevin wants kids, Zoe doesn't. Kevin tries to choose Zoe over having kids but is clearly struggling with the decision, and Zoe decides she's asking too much of a guy who she believes would make a great father so she ends it for him.
112	* ''Series/TheUnit'': In the Season 1 episode “Eating the Young”, Hector Williams’s girlfriend breaks up with him when he reveals to her that he is in Spec Ops, and not a Logistics Clerk as implied by his official Army cover. She wants someone who can have a viable career outside the Army, so she doesn’t see a future with someone whose only skill is “gunfighter”.
113	* In ''Series/WhatILikeAboutYou,'' Val breaks up with her first on-screen boyfriend because she wants to get married and he doesn't (though there are also other personality conflicts in play, this is the final straw). Interestingly enough, when she winds up in an AccidentalMarriage a few seasons later, she wants to divorce but her husband insists on making things work. When they start to conflict over how many children to have (she only wants one or two, he wants several), he also insists on working that out, and they agree to compromise.
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117	* The song "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9qsDgA1q8Y Different Drum]]" is about two lovers, one of whom wants to settle down while the singer doesn't want to be tied down.
118	-->''Yes, and I ain't sayin' you ain't pretty.\
119	All I'm sayin's I'm not ready for any person,\
120	Place or thing to try and pull the reins in on me.''
121	* Music/TimMcGraw's "Everywhere" is about a man who sees his ex everywhere he goes, after they broke up because he wanted to travel the world, and she wanted to make a life in their hometown.
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125	* {{Inverted\|Trope{{ in the non-Katherine endings of ''VideoGame/{{Catherine}}''. Vincent's girlfriend Katherine breaks up with him for non-priority reasons (Vincent cheated on her with the titular Catherine while drunk[[spoiler:, or so they think]]), but he can choose not to win her back because of his life goals. In the non-Katherine endings, he decides that her ideal route of settling down to a stable life isn't what he wanted, and runs off to [[spoiler:space as a tourist, or marry Catherine and usurp Nergal as Lord of the Netherworld]], depending on the ending.
126	* In ''VideoGame/DragonAgeInquisition'', no matter what, a romanced Solas [[spoiler:will dump Lavellan shortly before the final battle, partly due to his desire to restore ancient Elvhenan and his belief that she (as the Herald of Andraste and figurehead of the modern world) would never support his goals]]. In ''Trespasser'' [=DLC=], after she [[spoiler:learns of his true nature and goals, she can confirm that she cannot allow him to destroy the current world to restore the old one, and vow to either destroy him or change his mind.]]
127	* In ''VideoGame/LoveAndPies'', Amelia and Joe broke up in high school because the former wanted to study while the latter wanted to travel the world. They didn't consider a LongDistanceRelationship, even if Joe sent Amelia a postcard.
128	* A cited reason for the ugly break-up between [[TheLancer Bentley]] and [[RomanticFalseLead Penelope]] in ''VideoGame/SlyCooperThievesInTime'' is because they don't have the same desires in life. [[GadgeteerGenius Bentley]] is happy enough to be a part of the Cooper Gang, and designs gadgets as a hobby. [[AmbitionIsEvil Penelope]] has no [[TheyWereHoldingYouBack regards]] or [[LackOfEmpathy empathy]] for a simple family life, and wants to make a huge fortune in weapon designs and [[TakeOverTheWorld rule the world with an iron fist]].
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132	* ''VisualNovel/DaughterForDessert'':
133	** Some of the "bad" and "neutral" epilogues involve some form of this.
134	** Defied in the [[spoiler:"good" Lily]] epilogue. The protagonist realizes that his LoveInterest is leaving the diner for good, and he realizes that he doesn't want to stay at the diner for the rest of his life, so he leaves everything to Amanda and leaves to travel with them.
135	* Discussed in ''VisualNovel/{{Melody}}'' with the movie that the protagonist and the title character watch together in the theater. As Melody realizes, the main characters’ dream lifestyles just wouldn’t mesh together well.
136	* ''VisualNovel/VA11HALLA'': This is part of Alma's backstory. She had a boyfriend named Robert with whom she was with for 4 years, but Robert was not a family person: not only did he not want kids, but he also was distant from his own family and didn't like Alma's family either. Alma, being a very family-oriented person, couldn't fix that divide and the two eventually broke up.
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140	* In ''WesternAnimation/DuckTales2017'', Scrooge and Goldie have [[SlapSlapKiss great chemistry]], all the same interests, and the same obsession with treasure. As with so many relationships, theirs is ruined by the details. Goldie only cares about [[AffablyEvil achieving her ends]], while Scrooge is [[MrViceGuy concerned with the means]].
141	* In ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'', this is seemingly the cause of Leela's LeavingYouToFindMyself moment in Season 6 finale "Overclockwise". She has ambitions beyond her dead-end job at Planet Express and wants to understand where her [[RelationshipRevolvingDoor on-and-off relationship with Fry]] is heading, while Fry likes the job and is content to take life as it comes, although he's clear that he wants to be with Leela forever. [[spoiler:The problem is solved by the end of the episode when Bender, [[ItMakesSenseInContext who's received some insight into their future]], gives them a written trajectory of how their life together will play out; we don't get to see it, but their reactions make it clear that they're both very much on board with his prediction.]]
142	* PlayedForLaughs in ''WesternAnimation/PhineasAndFerb'' with Dr. Heinz Doofenshmirtz and his ex-wife Charlene, whose divorce had nothing to do with his CardCarryingVillain status, to which she's totally oblivious:
143	-->'''Charlene:''' Vanessa Doofenshmirtz, your father is not ''evil''. We just didn't get along. We wanted different things!\
144	'''Vanessa:''' Was one of those things "to be evil"? [[NotHyperbole Because he's evil.]]
145	* In ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'', this was the fate of Marge and Stefane August, a college professor she briefly dated when she and Homer were broken up in the WholeEpisodeFlashback "That '90s Show". She left him after discovering that he didn't believe in marriage, while she intended to be married one day.
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