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Generally, when an example is worded that wonkily ("seriously close to to the border"), it's not an example. It could possibly be Values Dissonance, though that is a stretch, but not Abusive Parents.
I didn't choose the troping life, the troping life chose meDonner has definitely been interpreted as abusive by modern viewers; whether that was intentional or not has never been clear.
Working on: Author Appeal | Sandbox | Troper WallIt's definitely Values Dissonance at most.
Frankly, I always just interpreted Donner as a character with realistic flaws. He does want what's best for Rudolph (and was completely right that letting Rudolph's nose be discovered would be a bad idea), but isn't entirely sure what is best.
To be fair, being well meaning doesn't exclude someone from still being abusive, what matters is the impact on the other party. If their actions are consistently harmful, then it's abuse regardless of what the intention is.
Of course, back when this was made Donner might've just seemed like an average, strict father.
Working on: Author Appeal | Sandbox | Troper WallAbusive Parents isn't a YMMV trope, so the question is, did the work intend to show Donner as abusive?
I didn't choose the troping life, the troping life chose meI guess I'll need to watch it again to see if it's a valid example. But if it is, it shouldn't be worded like that.
Check out my forum game: Rate the above YMMV.

Opinions on this example from Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer (1964)? It seems to be contradicting itself somewhat.
- Abusive Parents: Some of the things Rudolph's father says and does are seriously close to the border of emotional abuse. Although considering the time when the creators were growing up and when the special was released, it probably wasn't intended to come off as abusive and was meant to be a typical father-son relationship. Men being hard on their sons was considered the norm, whether it was fair or not, and could still be considered reasonably well-adjusted. To be fair though, the narrator does state that Donner felt pretty bad about the way he treated Rudolph when Rudolph runs off.
Edited by nw09