I've told this to Loni, but I guess I might want to share this particular segment of this story to the community for further advice.
My parents have been contacting a list of potential suitors for me.
How serious they are in this attempt is entirely up for debate, but from what they tell me, they've got a half-dozen list just waiting for me to come home to check out. Apparently among my parents' friends and colleagues I am such an awesome person that not only am I very welcome into wherever as a son-in-law, they are fearing their daughters do not measure up to me. This particularly confuses the hell out of me.
I am pretty sure I am about one of the most boring people around here to everyone who is (i) not a history person, or (ii) not Polish. I have literally nothing interesting to speak about except history and medieval military. I have next to no knowledge of social life or social skills. Personality-wise I am a stubborn, sheltered, spoiled manchild who's going to be a load to any lady who'd take an interest in me. My only saving throw is that I happen to possess some workplace skills that would all but ensure I'll have a good job for the future.
The fact remains that every single girl in my life I've taken a liking to has got some person more awesome than myself she likes. This, together with my analysis above, means that I cannot for the love of the heavens above understand why I'm looking like a precious Prince Charming in the eyes of my potential in-laws. Which is also the reason why my parents are convinced that I am just underestimating myself, while I know I am not.
This irony strikes rather hard when the latest girl I've got my eyes on has just said something that implies to the effect of "I've already have my dream guy".
So, thoughts? I am not exactly asking for advice, just some comments to ward off this irony.
edited 7th May '11 12:37:42 AM by ArgeusthePaladin
Support Taleworlds!Recipe for a Harem Anime. Be sure to try to identify all the archetypes, and please post a list with all the suitors whom your parents have picked. This is bound to be hilarious.
I know what you said, sugar, but 'platonic' still entails a world of ideas.Does the fact that I don't know five out of six and had only known the last of the lost when I was very young and indeed hadn't seen her for a whole decade count?
I was quite serious with what I said.
Support Taleworlds!If your parents are convinced that you are underestimating yourself, I think that you should at least entertain the possibility that they might be, you know, right about that.
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.Exactly. I am a very boring person in real life. Boring and annoying. On the other hand, I do happen to have a few things * that most parents would find attractive for a potential husband for their kid.
Maybe I'll go ahead and confess that the reason why I am so gung-ho about living alone for my entire life is because I am convinced that as things stand I am extremely unattractive to all kinds of girls * .
edited 7th May '11 1:11:52 AM by ArgeusthePaladin
Support Taleworlds!Well, my problem now is not that, but rather the fact that I am having some present romantic grievance that makes me look at this with no small amount of irony.
Support Taleworlds!1)You feel bad that you don't go out as much as other people, 2)are afraid you're socially awkward because of this, and 3)are ashamed of your hobbies.
1)So what if you don't conform to the party-every-weekend model? Spending quality time together with someone doesn't necessarily involve knowing lots of social events. 2)This part can be winged anyway by anyone with a modicum of intelligence, as long as they get over their feelings of inadequacy. 3)Hobbies are not bad as long as you don't obsess over them and know when to shut up if someone's losing interest in your story.
I know what you said, sugar, but 'platonic' still entails a world of ideas.Yes you can, even if only temporarily. If you can magnify your faults and see them as inherent in your person instead of workable, you can do the reverse. If you constantly doubt yourself, you can also doubt your assumption of yourself over the qualities other people see in you. It's a confidence placebo that easily comes crashing down, but if you get positive feedback, it stays for at least the duration of a social occasion.
I know what you said, sugar, but 'platonic' still entails a world of ideas.That always works out so well.
edited 7th May '11 2:00:50 AM by InsanityAddict
I know what you said, sugar, but 'platonic' still entails a world of ideas.The fact remains that I have failed every single one of my romantic endeavor since elementary school owing in part or wholly from my lack of social skill and my inadequacy as a person. Now after three years of keeping my mind off these things, it is coming back to haunt me.
Support Taleworlds!Even in Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann, you'd end up a dead virgin or a dirty hobo with no friends.
Life was never like a Super Robot Show, more like a Real Robot Show. You have to work hard, but Happy Endings can be earned, and the crux of it is always a mental change in the protagonist.
And if you want to point to Tomino shows, if your problems are that bad, you should just do like he should have done from the start and go see a therapist/get meds.
/simplifying complex problems for the sake of fun analogies
edited 7th May '11 2:09:49 AM by InsanityAddict
I know what you said, sugar, but 'platonic' still entails a world of ideas.

Bah, better to be always working than a slacker.